I am rich and have no idea what to do

https://vinay.sh/i-am-rich-and-have-no-idea-what-to-do-with-my-life/

by vhiremath4 • 2 years ago

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spl7572• 2 years ago

Philanthropy is an option

talldayo• 2 years ago

Absolutely not - that would deprive them of the financial support required to work an uncompensated job at DOGE.

spl7572• 2 years ago

Good point. I had not considered that angle.

j4coh7• 2 years ago

Same situation, I truly empathise because it really does seem to take a lot of purpose out of everything. What I’ve found is that you need to replace money/salary/financial success optimisation (assuming you spent a lot of your life and energy to this point focused on these, much like I did) with something else totally unconnected with being measured in that way. For me, I am focused on proving myself as a guitarist in the local jazz and blues scene. These people have no idea how much money I have and wouldn’t give a shit if they did (I didn’t really change my lifestyle after getting lucky so it’s not obvious). So it’s an area I can be creative, grow, and still feel like I’m doing something. At the same time I’m doing part time consulting, mainly for people I worked with in the past who have started companies, just to scratch the tech itch. So far so good but I can’t say yet if it will stick. Maybe for you it’s art, music, going and getting another unrelated degree, or something along those lines? If you have more money than you know what to do with, fundraising and supporting good causes can be really rewarding. Both in terms of giving back something to your local community, and having really nice social elements to it.

One big piece of advice I have is to try to avoid letting others in your social network know exactly how successful you’ve been. Everyone starts wanting to pitch you their investment idea and it can burn down friendships when their ideas are bad. Being a VC to your friends is a path to sadness for everyone.

coldtea4• 2 years ago

Same situation, I truly empathise because it really does seem to take a lot of purpose out of everything.

Mainly though if all the purpose-giving focus was on just getting money and the related grinding to begin with.

Getting mega-rich didn't take the purpose out of Steve Jobs, for example, which was focused on building stuff with some specific twist (his idea of good design). Or Steve Wozniak for that matter, he found hobbies aplenty. Or take the Rolling Stones. Filthy rich, but did they ever give the impression they got bored? Or Dylan, equally rich, which doesn't even have the extravagant lifestyle of models and exotic vacations and high life the Stones had, but is still content to record, jam, play concerts etc. into his 80s.

If the person has other interests, from programming to mountaineering, and from politics to art, they can still be there with or without money. Like the "guitarist in the local jazz and blues scene" thing.

paulpauper9• 2 years ago

Paul Allen comes to mind. makes a hobby buying the most expensive artifacts known, as well as a bunch of other stuff like starting a band.

benatkin• 2 years ago

but did they ever give the impression they got bored

It often gets described as washed up rather than bored, but yes.

Dylan is a good contrast.

1010083• 2 years ago

This is my dream. Having enough money to be able to dedicate to things I like, trying to be good at something without worrying about money, or time, or being tired after work.

Open a bookshop, being a rare book dealer, open a small museum about an author, research on a particular topic and write books...

That would be the ultimate dream, though I am sure I won't ever be near to fulfill it.

david38• 2 years ago

Problem then when you get bored, your bookstore still requires work.

At a certain level of wealth, any job you can do can be done by someone else better and cheaper

steveBK1234• 2 years ago

That sounds great.

Many people overly focus on what they want to retire FROM - work, but not what they want to retire TO - hobbies/volunteer work/etc.

Basic eating healthier, exercising more and consumption-based things like travel are not going to fill the gap left by a full-time job. One can quickly get bored and/or run out of money with that kind of mindset.

Given enough money, or whenever I do retire .. I'd spend my time making music, photographs, do even more reading, etc. Anything that occupies your time and exercises both your body & mind are important.

econ3• 2 years ago

God, we use to have a street full of people running unprofitable stores. Some were deep in debt making the dream a reality.

Why not a functional bookshop? You don't need money, you need to work on the plan(s). How do museums work? Where is the crude draft for the book?

I had a chat with a guy once who had a laundry list of things he wanted to accomplish but had convinced himself non of it was possible without money. About 1/3 of the list were things one could just go do right now.I think a hundred life times worth of stuff It was mostly helping people in need. One could definitely not help anyone and convince the self it is because it always costs money????

Some non profit here was selling unwanted books for 1-2 euro. I spend an hour or so typing titles on my phone mostly stuff published long ago and bought a whole stack of 200+ euro books. I haven't looked at them and didn't try to sell any but I'm sure it was money well spend for an hour of fun.

You don't need a machine gun, fight with your bare hands.

skeeter20203• 2 years ago

Why would you think any of those things are not a lot of tiring work, emotional drain and expensive? I don't understand why you can't do any of these as a hobby now, and need to wait until you're "rich" and won't have any real skin in the game.

lylo2• 2 years ago

Running a bookshop is entirely possible without FU money, but it will be hard work and probably not make you much money. Read Welcome to the Hyunam-dong Bookshop for inspiration :)

https://app.thestorygraph.com/books/c9fb361a-30ef-45d5-b777-...

wing-_-nuts3• 2 years ago

I once saw an article about apartments that NYC libraries used to have in the library for caretakers. My skipped a beat and I realized I'd never wanted anything more in the world than to just be able to 'pop down to the stacks' at 10pm to select my next read.

What amazes me is that between audible, kindle, libby, and a few other places, we live in a world where books are that available from the comfort of a cozy recliner. Truly the greatest wonder of the modern age.

JumpinJack_Cash3• 2 years ago

> Having enough money to be able to dedicate to things I like

Money doesn't buy time, whatever you like you'd be better off starting now then at some point in the future when you think you have enough money because you make the fallacious equation "enough money = enough time" but that is wrong because mental and physical acuity diminishes with time so a minute in your 20s is worth more than a minute in your 30s and much more than a minute in your 60s etc...also odds of mental/physical illnesses increase, life gets in the way in modalities that you don't expect yet, inflation, collapse of society...in one word entropy.

Money cannot beat entropy or slow it down

user3939382• 2 years ago

For me, I am focused on proving myself as a guitarist in the local jazz and blues scene.

So you’re Dickey from The Talented Mr. Ripely?

ilrwbwrkhv2• 2 years ago

That last point is salient. I grew very rich in the last 3 - 4 years and I funded a bunch of my friend's startup ideas. Now I cannot bear myself to reply to their happy new year wishes because how the relationships have soured.

whatshisface• 2 years ago

If you're never getting that money back, you might as well forgive them and forget it. Then at least you'd keep the friends.

justinclift5• 2 years ago

Are any of your friends the type that is blunt/honest regardless of how things are going?

Personally I've found the problematic ones to be those who feel like they're obliged to act deferrentially once money is involved.

The blunt/honest ones that don't change their personality like that still seem ok.

asdfman123• 2 years ago

People need work to be happy. That doesn't have to be, say, office work necessarily: it can be making music full time, or volunteering at a hospital, or any number of other things.

But you have to have something keeping you busy that makes you feel like you have a purpose.

j4coh7• 2 years ago

Totally agree. But it can be surprisingly hard to find what this is for yourself when you are used to climbing the school / corporate / startup ladder your whole life.

voisin3• 2 years ago

You’re on the right track, but I think it’s a bit deeper than just needing something to work on or stay busy with. I effectively retired a few years ago and have spent the time since engaging in various “work” across the kinds of categories you mention. Yet, all of these efforts have carried a sense of purposelessness—a lingering question of whether any of it truly matters, especially knowing I could stop tomorrow without significantly impacting my wellbeing.

This contrasts sharply with the purpose I felt when I had less money and was struggling to build my business. Back then, everything felt deeply do-or-die meaningful. Now, no amount of exercise, goodwill, or intellectual pursuits compares in terms of providing that same sense of purpose.

I don’t think humans need the pursuit of money itself to be happy, but once the foundational needs in Maslow’s hierarchy are met, the higher levels often feel less urgent—and, paradoxically, less fulfilling. There seems to be diminishing returns from “work” as a source of purpose.

throwaway67342• 2 years ago

Do you have children? If not, it's a great use of time, especially without financial pressure

tanvach• 2 years ago

Children are giver of immense sense of satisfaction that’s totally disconnected to wealth (though being wealthy certainly helps). Just remember - no short cuts.

j4coh7• 2 years ago

I do, and I love being available for them. I have time to teach my kids music and things I know, which is awesome.

jerojero3• 2 years ago

Seems weird that you have to advice people that they should hide their success from people they're befriending.

Living a double life like that doesn't seem right to me. It has something to do, perhaps, with the type of people you're surrounding yourself with. If someone can't be friends with you without asking you for money why are you keeping such people around in the first place.

HKH2• 2 years ago

Using discretion or being modest isn't necessarily living a double life. I'm sure there are plenty of things you're not open about; that doesn't necessarily make you fake, does it?

j4coh7• 2 years ago

It’s not about living a double life. I don’t secretly blow cash on hookers and blow, I just live a pretty modest normal life and don’t talk about the details of my investments or means. Mainly I don’t have to worry about anything really.

codetrotter2• 2 years ago

I’m doing part time consulting, mainly for people I worked with in the past who have started companies, just to scratch the tech itch

How do you pick you hourly rate? If a friend of yours of the past came to you and asked you to consult for him, and your friend offered you say $80 USD per hour, would you find it offensively low? For someone who doesn’t have a lot and wants to hire consultants for their small projects, I think offering $80 USD per hour is not bad. But I’m curious to know how that amount feels to a potential consultant if the consultant already had a lot. Or do you prefer taking a percentage of shares in your friend’s company as pay? Or something else?

j4coh7• 2 years ago

I am happy to take whatever they offer (including helping for free) depending on where they are at. I don’t need it really and I’m happy to help. But most people at least that I’ve worked with are happy to do what’s fair. I haven’t ended up in a hostile negotiation or anything close to it.

ska3• 2 years ago

FWIW I’ve done similar for friends who are on a tight budget , consulting for 1/2, 1/3 1/5 “regular” rate. Sometimes with equity but not always.

I’m nowhere near rich, but when I was consulting full time of I had enough hours to hit my “ok” target for the year, it felt right to be flexible with some of the rest of my time …

rramadass3• 2 years ago

How do you pick you hourly rate?

A fair formula that i was given years ago is;

Take the annual salary you would be paid if you were an employee, add 30% to it for overhead/profit and divide by 48 (working weeks in a year) to get your weekly rate. Divide by 40hrs to get the hourly rate.

Another one is to take your annual salary, divide by 250 (working days in a year) to get your daily rate and increase that by 30%, billing in daily units.

The above formula can and should be tweaked based on the project, client, your needs etc.

elevatedastalt7• 2 years ago

One big piece of advice I have is to try to avoid letting others in your social network know exactly how successful you’ve been.

The time to do that was _before_ writing a blog post titled "I am rich" and submitting it to HN

Aeolun17• 2 years ago

Well, you can make new friends. I have no idea what actual name is behind vinay.sh :?

satvikpendem• 2 years ago

They already know who he is, he was a public figure executive that sold his company, everyone in his social circle would know what Loom was and would read in the news how much it sold for.

i_am_a_peasant• 2 years ago

One thing you could do is give me 20k no strings attached so I can stop paying for my parents screw ups from when I was 20 :)) that will make me a lot less resentful towards life's stupid dice.

justinclift5• 2 years ago

you need to replace money/salary/financial success optimisation

Kind of ironic, but that kind of sounds like the people who've been saying those things aren't the most important in life might have been right all along?

fakedang• 2 years ago

To access the others, you need to have good money/salary/financial success, oftentimes.

Heck even for good therapy, you need to have those.

homefree• 2 years ago

There's something off about the post that I'm not sure I can pin point, but it's there.

What are these oft referenced insecurities? It's hard to get a read on this without details, but dumping your girlfriend to do random selfish shit (climb mountain, go to Hawaii, etc.) - it's not a surprise he's unfulfilled (though working on doge would be exciting).

This trap of 'working on yourself' that leads to endless mindfulness and narcissism leads you to become aloof. People tend to derive purpose from community, friends, and family. This is what religion used to give people independent of the pseudoscience.

Being financially independent is great, but it doesn't bring fulfillment.

A long way to say spend time with friends, work on a relationship, get married, have kids. People can do what they want, but most people will likely be the most content doing this. If you can find something to work on you're also excited about great, can do that too.

You can only dick around traveling and 'finding yourself' for so long, it gets old and repetitive.

Tepix4• 2 years ago

How long have you travelled the world?

mrandish• 2 years ago

One big piece of advice I have is to try to avoid letting others in your social network know exactly how successful you’ve been.

Having lived through this arc myself, this is excellent advice. While the most enlightened/mature people have no problem just being happy for you, this still leaves a lot people for who a significant disparity in wealth/success becomes a problem. It ends up impacting the nature of your relationship with them in subtle but significant ways and it can be very hard to get past. I've found it's just better to avoid the issue by being as stealth as possible about wealth (while still being honest and true to yourself).

tasuki5• 2 years ago

Or, stop being friends with those people?

I'm good friends with some very rich people. Everyone knows they have money. They learned how to say no, and how to let go of people who just want to milk them for cash.

JumpinJack_Cash3• 2 years ago

Or alternatively it can be the start of a feud/rivalry with the "envious" , and I mean not at the political level but at the human to human level.

Might seem counterproductive or even "toxic" but it's sure better than the nihlism that the author is expressing.

survirtual2• 2 years ago

Anyone who has "more money than they know what to do with" is a fool. There is an unlimited set of things to do with large resource allocation. Depending on the magnitude of that resource allocation, the set increases exponentially.

It shows a total lack of introspection as well as connections with the people, the Earth, and the universe as a whole.

Go eat some psychedelics and travel inside yourself for a while. Listen to what a tree far in a forest has to say. You'll know what to do with your dragon hoard in no time, I guarantee it.

cwalv4• 2 years ago

It's true that there are infinite ways to waste a fortune, but that doesn't mean you're a fool for not having decided how to spend your money. I'd actually argue that it'd be more foolish to go figure out what to spend it on "in no time"

lithocarpus• 2 years ago

Music has been a huge discovery and joy for me too.

I left the tech world seven years ago after a "career" of five years, not super wealthy but having enough saved/invested that I could live frugally and it would grow slowly on its own. I've been doing a wide variety of things mostly outdoors, but these last three years I've been learning to play the fiddle and it's took over my life in a good way.

It's been a rich seven years and aside from occasional brief moments of doubt, I'm very glad I did what I did. I have had time to focus on:

- health (most awesomely, my eyesight has improved dramatically)

- family and community and relationships

- simply being in the real world (nature)

- learning about and changing my behaviors/habits to be more who I want to be

- passions - particularly trying to protect habitats from being destroyed, which is very rewarding even if they might still get destroyed someday, they've gotten to exist for years longer than they would have.

- each thing that's caught my curiosity: gardening, forest conservation, foraging and cooking, building and carpentry, learning various skills and now most of all, the fiddle.

I won't say it's all been easy. I've wrestled with a lot of questioning of what matters and what to give myself to - because I have the choice and there is no obvious default path anymore. But I always feel my way into an answer - even if it has shifted around over time.

I don't have kids, I want to, and I think about how I'll find someone to do that with. I bet it will happen, I live in a rural area though so I pretty much have to travel to meet someone. Meanwhile, I have a sweet nephew and I get to spend a lot of time actively being his uncle.

The world is far more interesting and wild and beautiful than I think most of us have been led to believe.

kirso2• 2 years ago

Isn't it basically separating your identity from your work and finding meaning in different parts of life (relationships, interests)?

krosaen• 2 years ago

I am focused on proving myself as a guitarist in the local jazz and blues scene

That sounds awesome - tell us more.

smokedetector13• 2 years ago

Therapy. Wealth and success is one of the most massive crutches there is. It can make it almost impossible to be truly in touch with your insecurities and pain because its simply too easy to hide in your victory. Your toughest challenge now is to, despite your wealth, find a way to contact the pain that drove you to your hunger for success. As the bible said, it's easier for a camel to get through the head of a needle than for a rich man to go to heaven. I interpret that metaphorically.

ipaddr3• 2 years ago

"eye of the needle" refers to a small gate or passage in ancient city walls, used after the main gates were closed at night. A camel could only pass through this narrow opening if it was unloaded of its baggage and possibly crawled through on its knees.

Not as hard or impossible as it first appears but still harder.

smokedetector13• 2 years ago

Even better, thanks for that explanation

krainboltgreene11• 2 years ago

This is categorically false: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTYveLPTC/

Also it just doesn’t make sense.

WarOnPrivacy• 2 years ago

"eye of the needle" refers to a small gate or passage in ancient city walls,

There's a lot of discussion on this verse. Apparently, the gate interpretation didn't exist until the 11 century.

It was rethought to be Rope for a while but this blog post discredits that. https://kiwihellenist.blogspot.com/2023/11/camel.html

Trasmatta6• 2 years ago

From what I understand, this is actually highly debated among biblical scholars.

This idea that he meant "it's hard but not impossible" seems to generally be pushed by wealthy religions and "prosperity gospel" types.

Reading everything else Jesus said, I find it more likely that he literally meant the "eye of an actual needle". He did not seem to be a fan of the rich or powerful in any way.

relaxing2• 2 years ago

Jesus literally told his followers to give up their worldly possessions, but… sure. He intended to give a free pass to those who came after, that hinged on a quirk of city planning that would not exist until centuries later.

cushychicken2• 2 years ago

I never knew that. Makes the metaphor a lot more applicable.

bccdee7• 2 years ago

A common myth! No, no gate or passage was ever referred to as "the eye of the needle" in antiquity. [1] That verse is intended to be taken literally. Jesus Christ was quite outspoken on his feelings about the wealthy, but of course, wealthy Christians need a way for him to have meant something figurative when he told them to surrender their worldly riches.

[1] https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/new-testament-studie...

aitchnyu• 2 years ago

There is a hypothesis the Greek word means rope instead of camel, that the parable means we cant thread a rope through a needle.

Arabic word for camel and rope are same in a similar verse.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_of_a_needle

fuzztester5• 2 years ago

Angels dancing on the head of a pin is another related one.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_many_angels_can_dance_on...

martinpw• 2 years ago

This one was originally used to mock scholars who debated such seemingly obscure minutae at the expense of more pressing issues, the canonical example being theological debate during the fall of Constantinople. But I remember reading somewhere that this debate was actually for a good reason since Constantinople were looking for help from fellow Christians against the Ottomans but needed to convince the potential helpers that their beliefs were closely enough aligned enough to warrant them giving aid. Hoping someone here might know more (and apologies for derailing the thread even further...)

BalinKing2• 2 years ago

it's easier for a camel to get through the head of a needle than for a rich man to go to heaven. I interpret that metaphorically.

I agree that there's a parallel between what Jesus meant and your comment—in both cases, wealth is dangerous because it distracts from what's important. To my understanding, Jesus meant that one's heart will be focused on money rather than wanting to follow God. And, like you said, it's really easy to be distracted by material success (money, degrees, fame, etc.). But, none of these things will follow us to the grave. IMO this sort of tunnel vision is really pernicious, because it's so, so easy to fall into.

If you'll allow a personal rant: I recently heard someone say that failure is—somewhat paradoxically—a crucial part of finding happiness, because it loosens our grip on things that are ultimately unimportant. I've been thinking about all this a lot recently myself. Last year I hit a bump in the road w.r.t. my career, due to factors outside of my control. So, for the first time, I was suddenly failing my subconscious goal to climb the ladder of achievement. I started feeling adrift and demotivated, and the obvious solutions (therapy, medication, more regular exercise) didn't help.

It eventually forced me to really sit down and take a hard look at my priorities in life. Speaking concretely, this meant 1) accepting that I might not get what I had wanted out of my career, and because I'm a Christian, 2) focusing instead on how I can serve God every day (love others more, be much more open about my faith, volunteer at church and elsewhere, etc.). That's much easier said than done, of course, but I've just gotta take the baby steps that I can and trust God with the rest.

It's only been a few months since I came to this conclusion, but I feel like it's changed my life. I've become much less stressed, and I feel much more fulfilled. Honestly, it's like I have hope again in my future.

Naïvely I want to say something like "therefore, everyone should try to find whatever brings them this fulfillment." But this might be too weak of a statement, because I really think there's only one true answer to this question.

P.S. As for the verse you quoted (Matthew 19:24), I'd be remiss not to point out what Jesus says a few verses later: "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible." :-)

smokedetector13• 2 years ago

I'm not Christian but I definitely resonate with what you're saying about failure sometimes being a gift, if you can make use of it.

I wish I could be more religious, in a sense, but I just can't get my head around the concept of "serving" or "fearing" god. It's not how I relate to "the divine" at all. Power to you, though.

akomtu2• 2 years ago

A rich man won't be attracted to heaven in the first place, for it's a place for people who enjoy giving something to others and rarely think about themselves. Hell, on the other hand, would mesmerize a typical man of ambition for it's a world of selfish might and power.

giraffe_lady2• 2 years ago

This is pretty close to ancient eastern christian views on heaven and hell. In that view heaven and hell are the same situation: full exposure to the unattenuated light of god. A righteous & repentant person will experience that as love and mercy, and an unjust person will experience it as fear, shame & torture. But all get the same "treatment" so to speak.

hnmullany• 2 years ago

Therapy = Exactly. He thinks he has freedom and agency but he's just being puppeteered by conflicting subconscious forces he doesn't understand and seems to have no insight into. This is a man who's in a self-driving car turning a steering wheel that's connected to nothing.

marnett3• 2 years ago

Volunteer in your community. You need to find a way to evaluate your self worth by serving someone other than yourself.

chromakode• 2 years ago

Sounds like a good time to engage a professional coach or therapist, if you haven't already. Particularly to deep dive on the questions asked at the end of the post. In my experience, I often stalemate these kinds of internal debates on my own, but having a second player in the mix got me out of the gridlock.

vnl• 2 years ago

I think you should start investing in companies and then possibly get some drive there helping others make it. Sometimes it is nice to give back to the community I think

If you do think that can be given a try then hey.. we (my wife and me, my wife more than me) are looking to build something and could do with some investment to take that risk.

smnrg2• 2 years ago

Opposite problem. I am tied to a corporate job, and I'd absolutely know how to use every second. No, really. Every second.

linotype• 2 years ago

Seems like you two should help each other out!

Reubend• 2 years ago

Something that would be fulfilling to one man might seem useless or boring to another.

smnrg2• 2 years ago

The reality is that only he can help himself. He's just facing the search he delayed up to now. It's good he's facing it. Most never will.

mesmertech• 2 years ago

I mean if you're looking for a todo list, travelling to third world countries and tipping just like $5 for normal service and seeing people's eyes light up is fun.

gosub1006• 2 years ago

I did this once in a restaurant in a small town in Mexico. I called one of the service people (not even a waiter, this was a casual joint where you order at the counter), slipped them $100, and watched their face light up. it was cool.

yakshaving_jgt• 2 years ago

You don’t need $60m to do that.

I’ll bet literally every person here in the comments can do that.

panarky• 2 years ago

Wealth makes it even more difficult to figure out what to do with your life.

It's almost as if you can either have wealth/comfort or purpose/fulfillment, but it's vanishingly rare to have both at the same time.

uoaei• 2 years ago

For the record, the implication here is, put pithily, you have to sell your soul to get rich.

ipaddr3• 2 years ago

They are unrelated. You can have purpose and fulfillment regardless of your wealth. A life of pain and misery are not required.

jongjong• 2 years ago

Yes, feels like the invisible hand selects people to get rich based on how unfulfillable they are and thus how likely they are to keep working after they get rich.

I understand this serves an inflation control mechanism in our highly unequal system. The wealthy have comparatively so much money that the system cannot afford them to spend like normal people would. It would put too much currency in circulation and cause massive inflation. The system needs the wealthy to keep investing in ventures to create more busy-work, filled with NPCs and insatiable people who will also create more busy-work if they get rich.

The system needs to keep the money circulating in a very tight loop. Its journey from the money printer back to government hands needs to be very short in order to allow the government and corporations to retain the increasing degree of control that they need to maintain the status quo.

stavros2• 2 years ago

This is such an American thing that I find it hard to respond to, because these cultural things feel universal when you're swimming in them.

Wealth doesn't make it difficult to figure out what to do with your life if you never thought wealth is the goal. The problem is that the sole life goal for this person was to get rich, and now that's the endgame, and he doesn't know what to do.

If the goal, instead, was to have fun, to foster a strong social circle, good relationships, to do things for and with them, to have hobbies, to learn new things, to challenge yourself, etc, he'd just think "oh cool, now I can do more of those without having to spend X hours a day working".

s5300• 2 years ago

> This is such an American thing that I find it hard to respond to,

It is actually a thinly veiled sociopath/psychopath/narcissist that has fully bought into hyper-capitalism being the endgame of humanity thing.

vishalontheline• 2 years ago

It's okay. Keep learning, searching, asking questions, trying to find answers. Some questions are answered by starting a new company. Others are answered by going on a vacation to Hawaii and learning Physics in the jungle. Sometimes both. Sometimes neither. The idle mind is the devil's playground. So, stay busy, stay hungry, and keep searching.

OutOfHere2• 2 years ago

This now is your moment to improve the lives of other people in scalable cost-efficient ways, in improving the human condition. It may not be obvious how, but it will come to you if you try.

JansjoFromIkea5• 2 years ago

I am pretty sure he thought volunteering for the Department of Government Efficiency was an attempt to do this

OutOfHere2• 2 years ago

And the point exactly is that one can often accomplish more when one has more freedom in a lead capacity, as opposed to being a random worker bee in a larger group. Things don't have to be this way, but they often are.

wizzwizz44• 2 years ago

You've won the competition, and you've found it meaningless. Maybe you could work on helping others do meaningful things with their lives, rather than being forced to grind and grind and grind their lives away.

I don't suggest mere philanthropy, but structural change. (The nature of which I will not attempt to dictate; after all, identifying the problem doesn't mean I know a solution.)

oulipo• 2 years ago

Understanding than being rich was never the answer, community and sense of purpose is.

You can be a rich asshole.

And you can "just get by" but be the most loved grand-father the earth has borne.

fuzztester5• 2 years ago

asshole

https://www.cse.cuhk.edu.hk/~cslui/JOKE/leader.html

Frummy• 2 years ago

Idk read ”the monk who sold his ferrari” or something not that i have (read book, or ferrari) Also youtube.com/watch?v=GmJI6qIqURA&t=15m14s but for millionaire equivalent instead of billionaire

e: advice comes in all shapes and forms. you want me to lie to him? what would buddha do

xt00• 2 years ago

His attention span won't be enough to stick with physics for longer than 4 weeks.. he should just apply his skills in building companies to hire a couple of people to work on cool stuff that he is excited about. A good approach is to find some smart grad students at a local university who are in electrical engineering probably since you have to know lots of physics to get there and say "hey i have some money, want to build some cool prototypes?" and the best part is you can just ask those grad students how all this physics stuff works and they will happily tell you whatever you want to know.

selimthegrim• 2 years ago

What if the local university killed its electrical engineering program after a hurricane?

stavros2• 2 years ago

Wealth only makes it hard to figure out what to do with your life if you believe wealth is a goal.

Wealth is something that removes obstacles to figuring out what to do with your life. If you had "being wealthy" as the goal itself, no wonder you're now feeling aimless. Instead, you should have been living your life, and now you'd think "great, now I can continue doing what I've been doing, except I don't need to worry about money".

Work shouldn't be your life. At most, work should be an interesting thing you do for the challenge, and which you'd do even if you weren't getting paid to.

desireco422• 2 years ago

Excellent! Find 5 people who need your help, advice and funds and give them both, but slowly. You will enjoy it.

I almost wrote young people, but any will do, if they are stuggling and are confused where you have clarity, you can be of immense help.

Maybe getting back with that amazing girlfriend wouldn't be bad idea, but that is beyond :) this post.

desireco422• 2 years ago

I hear that Coach Jake also can help a lot ;)

https://completionistacademy.com/meet_coach_jake

for real though

wizzwizz44• 2 years ago

You could make art, perhaps? Some people find that helps with developing purpose beyond the immediate.

Trasmatta6• 2 years ago

NPC coworkers

I very much dislike the trend of calling other people NPCs.

When you feel tempted to see someone else as an NPC, it might be helpful to remember the concept of "sonder":

the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk.

https://www.dictionaryofobscuresorrows.com/post/23536922667/...

gigatexal2• 2 years ago

Yeah. Red flag for sure. Therapy is this arm-chair doctor’s recommendation.

dang5• 2 years ago

I agree it's an unpleasant trend but please let's not cross into personal attack ourselves.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

Trasmatta6• 2 years ago

Fair enough, I'll edit my comment to just call out my dislike of the term without making it personal about the author.

(for anyone seeing this later, my comment above was originally more of an attack on the author, which is what dang was rightly calling out.)

drawkward5• 2 years ago

Then maybe take the whole post itself down?

cuku0078• 2 years ago

Perhaps you should consider exploring the path of religion or spirituality. Faith has a way of providing inner peace and grounding. As humans, we are inherently designed to seek meaning through connection, building a family, and raising children. Watching them grow can bring a profound sense of purpose and fulfillment that no material success can replace. This might be the key to rediscovering what truly matters in life.

angoragoats12• 2 years ago

Faith has a way of providing inner peace and grounding.

The fact that people can believe things via “faith” that have no empirical basis in reality scares me. It certainly doesn’t provide any inner peace or grounding to me.

marnett3• 2 years ago

Humans are animals. Spiritual animals.

As for faith, why do we all toil when, in godless philosophy, everything we do is fundamentally meaningless? Why do you persist? What is that reason, if not illogical faith in some purpose. Read Camus.

pixelatedindex• 2 years ago

I don’t get it… you can do whatever the hell you want now. What’s the problem? Surely you like do _something_?

And if you only want to do something for 4 weeks at a time then do that. Where’s the despair coming from?

Also, this person loves capitalism so much because it worked for them. But then the way they say like it’s the greatest gift ever seems so out of touch.

bluGill3• 2 years ago

The problem is too many options and so he is stuck in analisys parallaisys. He could spend all is time trolling my posts to correct my spelling or start a company or ... so many options.

SoftTalker• 2 years ago

Give your money away and force yourself to have to do some real work again.

hyperific2• 2 years ago

New Game + Mode Unlocked!

Gualdrapo• 2 years ago

If there's some rich person willing to give this idea a shot: I can help by taking one of your many millions from you.

collingreen• 2 years ago

I hope that works out for you lol

mouse_2• 2 years ago

Seconded. Give this guy all your money!

acdw• 2 years ago

seriously, study after study shows that just giving people money is the most effective form of altruism. just give it away. go to your city's homeless shelter and give money away. write a check for your local school board. keep everything anonymous. give it all away.

fargle• 2 years ago

exactly. if too much money was a problem, there's a trivial solution.

so i'm guessing the problem isn't really that bad, eh?

gigatexal2• 2 years ago

Seems like the author could do well to spend some of their millions on a therapist?

reilly3000• 2 years ago

Work on affordable housing tech. There is a huge need for housing at all levels, and I really believe the lower end could be revolutionized by new materials and techniques, along with novel approaches to land use. You could make a real meaningful contribution and choose to make money or not along the way.

Or whatever you want really. I recently contemplated what I would do if I won the lottery and arrived at that conclusion. Hopefully you arrive at yours.

dvnguyen• 2 years ago

I am interested in affordable housing. Is inefficient tech the biggest contributor to housing cost?

daedrdev2• 2 years ago

Its definitely local regulations.

In SF for example, even after a housing project is approved, it can be challenged at any point for any reason by the community or politicians. Even projects that meet all regulations can be rejected for any reason, usually that vibes are bad. I think over half of SF is some kind of historical district. Way too much is zoned for SFHs in the city limits. etc.

It's little wonder why housing projects are so expensive in cities that have such strong NIMBYs. Like is it so unreasonable to ask for a bunch of 4 story single stair apartment buildings to be allowed to even be legal?

shermantanktop• 2 years ago

Of course not! Take the top N problems ordered by “impacted due to inefficient tech” and the top N ordered by social benefit. N has to be pretty large before anything interesting starts showing up on both lists.

The problem is that making tech more efficient is rarely anything more than a simple capital problem. So the real question is - where is there social benefit but no money?

lbrito• 2 years ago

Peak, peak HN.

"I am rich and yet find it to be unfulfilling and not the ultimate goal of human existence"

and yet,

"I am a big fan of capitalism" and repeat wholesale its most puerile, naive ideological propaganda mantras (see his about page) which are meant to justify _exactly_ that.

Bud, seems like you have some more thinking to do if you think those two positions are perfectly congruent.

ben_w2• 2 years ago

Given that this forum is the news/blog discussion forum attached to a startup accelerator and VC fund, what I find pleasantly remarkable — and I mean this sincerely — is how open people here are to the idea that capitalism might possibly not be perfect.

If I had not seen this forum for myself, and only read about it second-hand, I would have assumed that most here would indeed think they are "perfectly congruent" (which itself is a much starker position than simply "being a fan").

riku_iki• 2 years ago

how open people here are to the idea that capitalism might possibly not be perfect.

is this something very unique? I think it is popular sentiment that capitalists corrupt society in many ways.

defrost2• 2 years ago

'Capitalism' is a broad umbrella - the G20 countries are capitalist to varying degrees with a variety of emphasis and regulation.

'American Capitalism' isn't a peak form for delivering life expectancy, broad health outcomes, general happiness, and other measures on global indexes.

missedthecue• 2 years ago

I am a fan of capitalism because, as a former poor person, I think it's the best system for poor people. Not because I think it will eliminate the existential woes of the affluent.

trane_project2• 2 years ago

The company got nearly 2B of dollars in investment, was acquired for half the price, and the founders somehow managed to make a profit. No wonder he's a fan. Which other system would allocate resources so effectively?

VirusNewbie• 2 years ago

I'm far from rich, but my life is good and I love capitalism. So, I'm feeling pretty congruent.

physicsgraph• 2 years ago

Find something that other people would see as infeasible or inaccessible and work on that. You are in a position of privilege that can be used to advance well-being and knowledge.

Deciding whether to explore challenges solo versus as part of a team is a crucial differentiator.

tiffanyh2• 2 years ago

The author co-founded Loom [0], which was acquired by Atlassian a year ago ~$1B.

If the insights are correct, each cofounder netted ~$56M [1]

[0] https://vinay.sh

[1] https://www.cbinsights.com/research/loom-valuation-investor-...

brcmthrowaway3• 2 years ago

60M, enough to start another startup and do it all again

jgilias• 2 years ago

And potentially lose it all and actually regain the purpose, as you now need to grind again!

trane_project2• 2 years ago

Serious question, but how exactly does Atlassian hope to recoup that billion dollars?

Loom is useful, but given that Atlassian's investors are expecting a large return, do they really hope a screen recorder to eventually add 2B+ dollars to their value? The AI features will eventually be commoditized, so that can't act as a moat.

paulpauper9• 2 years ago

it's not just the screen recorder: it's also the large userbase, the corporate connections, and the IP. if the stock goes up a few percent that alone covers the purchase

mvdtnz4• 2 years ago

It will integrate with their other products and add value through lock in. Same as all of their other acquisitions. Atlassian is all about building an ecosystem so valuable you don't even want to escape.

paulpauper9• 2 years ago

So after taxes, around $35 million? Still a lot

fragmede9• 2 years ago

California, so slightly less than half, so ~28ish.

setheron• 2 years ago

They had this as an internal product within Google. I liked it as part of their lab 120 division. They ended up killing it :(

tiffanyh2• 2 years ago

Who is "they" in your comment?

Do you mean the Loom cofounders are ex-Googlers?

imgabe• 2 years ago

See this is why people need to get married. If I have no idea what to do, my wife will surely think of something.

vhiremath4• 2 years ago

This gave me a good laugh. Thanks for that :)

throwway1203852• 2 years ago

Children are pretty good at providing you with purpose too if you lose yours.

codegeek• 2 years ago

SO true. I am having a midlife sort of crisis myself (lost as a founder a bit) but my kids keep me going with a purpose. When you have kids, you don't have the luxury of not doing anything.

tayo423• 2 years ago

pyramid scheme of having a purpose

khazhoux12• 2 years ago

It was only when I had kids that I understood what this means.

My children are not "my purpose." I mean, that would be a lovely sentiment, but it's not the actual truth.

But having kids (and being a hopefully-good father), means that no matter what else sucks at work, all the projects that didn't land, my boss's daily kicks to the crotch, and every multi-million job opportunity I stupidly turned down... I did right with those kids. If I had made any different choice in life --no matter how tiny-- those wonderful kids would not exist. And that satisfies my sense of Purpose.

aidenn03• 2 years ago

YMMV; this is not universally true.

mattlondon• 2 years ago

There is "Purpose" and "purpose".

One is some grandiose ill-defined thing. The other is housework.

I am certainly in the housework side right now with two kids under 5.

I am a dad, but I still derive quite a lot of identity from what I do for work. If anything, now that I am meeting more parents from nursery & school etc it feels it is almost more important for me now to be able to implicitly assert status through my work/wealth/house-in-desireable-location/car/etc than it was before kids.

I assumed those sort of feelings would dissolve with kids ("Purpose") but if anything the kids have magnified them. Potentially I am just a shallow prick, but I wonder if it is a "provider instinct" thing or perhaps just mini dopamine hits from feeling like I've got something desirable and meeting these other parents just reasserts that over and over.

blitzar• 2 years ago

You can start by taking out the trash, and if you are going to sit on your arse all day tomorrow then here is a list of stuff that needs doing around the house.

aprdm• 2 years ago

Lol isn’t that the truth, or my son !

timfsu• 2 years ago

I appreciate the author’s openness in sharing their experience - it’s really worthwhile to share experiences where money isn’t everything, and that it can be a poor generator of meaning.

Speaking of meaning, I think it’s a task for everyone to find their life’s calling - something you’re uniquely suited to do. Sometimes that pays the bills and sometimes it doesn’t. I’m a bit surprised that “start another saas company” wasn’t really on the list for Vinay, but there’s probably a good reason for that. For me, I found that starting a family completely changed my life, as well as helping me appreciate more the family I already had - but I suppose that’s not something that lasts forever either. Good luck to the author.

vimgrinder• 2 years ago

"Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood, carry water"

You do what you were enjoying before, just now you don't need to get paid in money for it. May be you will get paid in fame, noble prize, smiles of people whose life you impact etc. The money you have can't buy those directly but only when you put effort.

iterance• 2 years ago

A bit funny to quote "chop wood, carry water." In this context "enlightenment" must be taken to mean "earning a shitload of money."

attentionmech3• 2 years ago

The author got "enburdened with a shitload of money"

relaxing2• 2 years ago

The enlightenment is that money doesn’t buy happiness.

keybored4• 2 years ago

“Before becoming rich, do the corporate grind. After becoming rich, do the corporate grind.”

I don’t know man.

Arete3141592• 2 years ago

Thank you, you just said what I was trying to say in 2% of the words.

eightysixfour2• 2 years ago

I honestly cannot imagine living with these thought patterns, it truly sounds like hell to me. You don’t need to do hard things or overcome adversity every day to have purpose and find life fulfilling, it is an Infinite Game (read the book), not a Finite one.

If you are reading the comments, IMO these giant grand gestures to find some spark of insight (climbing mountains, moving to Hawaii, etc.) aren’t going to accomplish what you want. Ground yourself - go volunteer at a homeless shelter. Get a hobby that is social that you have no innate skill for, don’t tell anyone about your money, make some friends while learning a low-pressure skill. Don’t do anything until after the first day you didn’t worry about what you were going to do. Recover from your burnout.

papaver2• 2 years ago

this.

cocothem• 2 years ago

same experience will give different teachings to different people. for you going to a homeless shelter may help you appreciate life more, see that you can make a change in others by helping them etc. for someone wired differently - it may be a yucky experience with smelly people. so ymmv

eightysixfour2• 2 years ago

It is a yucky experience with smelly people. It isn’t supposed to make you feel all warm and fuzzy.

ben_w2• 2 years ago

To push myself to be completely (and awkwardly) vulnerable to a blob of nameless strangers over the internet.

This tone speaks to me, even if I have no desire to present myself in such a way. :)

The immediate 2 weeks after leaving an intense 10-year journey, I did what any healthy person does and met with over 70 investors and founders in robotics. I had been learning about robotics for quite some time and was positive I wanted to throw myself into giving computers arms and legs.

FWIW, I see this a lot from normal-money people when they leave companies, even with shorter journeys. I've been that person, in more ways than one.

I also don't know what I should do with myself, but have considered doing an extra physics degree. Unlike you, my financial situation is currently only on the border of FIRE (and I've always been a low spender) and therefore not secure enough to actually drop off the labour market and into the second degree on a whim.

Not being American, the combination of you cringing about Musk and also finding the DOGE mission to be important is… surprising.

Regardless, good luck figuring yourself out.

fuzztester5• 2 years ago

Was there an occult(ation)-like timeshift that I missed hearing about, which somehow made today April 1st?

Or is this a test ChatGPT or other LLM post to see if HGI exists, considering the comments that seem to be taking the OP seriously?

H for Human. As in Human General Intelligence, as opposed to AGI.

Or is the OP just an Elon-level narcissist and/or a huge startup koolaid alcoholic?

Genuinely can't tell.

Emperor mumble clothes.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Emperor's_New_Clothes

throw59592• 2 years ago

It's a real guy and the story is real too. Good programmers aren't always great philosophers...

fuzztester5• 2 years ago

yes I knew that, because I took the trouble to read his about page and some part of the article before I commented. and i have some judgement and radar, you know.

the article has nothing to do with philosophy. it is just about common sense, which as voltaire said, is not very common.

lisper2• 2 years ago

The hardest part of getting what you want is figuring out what it is.

gosub1006• 2 years ago

Be careful what you wish for, because you just might get it.

haunter2• 2 years ago

I wish!

MrMcCall2• 2 years ago

Denzel Washington's movie (he's the EP) The Equalizer says:

  The two most important days are
   the day you're born, and
   the day you find out why.

We're here to be happy because of the happiness we've created for others.

Most people have other far less important yet far more deleterious desires.

As with all things human, the choice of path is ours alone, and we alone bear the fruits of our chosen journey while we tread it still.

davidw• 2 years ago

"Buy more bicycles", duh.

That, and find some ways to leave the world better than you found it.

RonaldDump5• 2 years ago

I find it a little unsatisfying when people write these things without telling me roughly what they're worth. "Rich" can vary wildly depending who you ask.

edit: according to another's comment referencing a $56m payout, it now occurs to me that his confusing mention of a $60m figure may have been exactly that

coldtea4• 2 years ago

I find it a little unsatisfying when people write these things without telling me roughly what they're worth. "Rich" can vary wildly depending who you ask.

As long as they don't need to work for a living ever again, and they'd still have a house, health coverage, food on the table, vacations at will, new clothes, new cars every few years, money for their kids and their kid's college, and diversified enough for covering whatever market issue, that's rich enough - doesn't matter if it's $20 million or $1 billion for the purposes of "I'm bored with no purpose" the author is getting at.

alistairSH• 2 years ago

Yeah, to most of the world, I’m rich. To a significant portion of other Americans, I’m rich. Yet, my lifestyle is wholly dependent on working for somebody else. No work, no house, no car, no medical care, no fun.

“I’m so rich I’m lost” - worst humblebrag ever. Get a therapist. Or go for a long walk in the woods. Sheesh.

UndefinedRef• 2 years ago

Thats some top 1% shit

chgs2• 2 years ago

Yet his heroes make more per hour than this insanely rich person made in his entire career.

suzzer992• 2 years ago

From my limited experience, this is the standard Silicon Valley mindset.

defrost2• 2 years ago

Mike Cannon-Brookes is pursuing Suncable and other energy projects for the future, he's partnered for periods with non software billionaires from the hard resources world (eg: Andrew Forrest) ... there's no shortage of big projects that take big commitments .. even while ensuring you still "never need to work again" (ie. don't push all the chips in).

bitwize• 2 years ago

I think your problem is shared by a lot of rich people. I think a lot of them have no idea what to do with their lives.

Wealth is like a clicker game. As you work you earn money, like clicking the cookie to earn more cookies. Once you have enough surplus cookies, you can put them to work earning more cookies, and then put THOSE to work earning even more cookies, and so on. Eventually you're well beyond the point where clicking the cookie makes any damn sense, but you're still in the game, seeing how fast you can accumulate cookies and seeing how far you can go, just for the sake of seeing it.

Welcome to the life of the super rich. That's what investors do -- spend their time looking for ways to spend their money that will make them even more money, just to see how rich they can get and how fast they can get there.

If that doesn't sound like a fulfilling life, think of something challenging and beneficial you can do. Start a biotech startup. Look for ways to clean up oil spills. Invent a new battery. Build a toy for your kids with Arduino. You're smart, and in a position to do things many smart people can only dream of. Take advantage of it.

confidantlake• 2 years ago

This has to be parody.

dmvdoug5• 2 years ago

Push past this thought. Take the final step you know awaits your reaction. It’s not parody. There are, honest-to-God, people like this aplenty in our world. Behold, we, as they, are borne back:

”Gatsby believed in the green light, the orgastic future that year by year recedes before us. It eluded us then, but that's no matter—-tomorrow we will run faster, stretch out our arms farther ... And one fine morning—- So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past."

dmvdoug5• 2 years ago

I am really, really eager and excited to see the result when these DOGE-istas cook up whatever insanely “rational” schemes they imagine will make government not completely “dysfunctional” roll them out to the people they actually need to implement them (i.e., Congress).

Surprise! Politicians only claim to care about budget and spending matters when the opposite party is in control.

But I think most of us aren’t so naive as not to realize DOGE is just and only another way to troll Democrats, not actually a serious way to tackle our fiscal and budgetary problems. The past n Comptrollers of the United States have been banging away on that policy drum for as long as I’ve been paying attention to politics (beginning ca. 2000). Nobody cares. They write nice reports though.

throwaway3141553• 2 years ago

[ignoreme]

dmvdoug5• 2 years ago

Just curious: did you actually read the whole post?

When I got back home and regaled my friends with my mountain stories, one of my friends joked that I should work for Elon and Vivek at DOGE and help America get off its current crash to defaulting on its own debt. So I reached out to some people and got in. After 8 calls with people who all talked fast and sounded very autistic smart, I was added to a number of Signal groups and immediately put to work.

Working for DOGE for 4 weeks, remembering the power of urgency

Within 2 minutes of talking to the final interviewer for DOGE, he asked me if I wanted to join. I said “yes”. Then he said “cool” and I was in multiple Signal groups. I was immediately acquainted with the software, HR, and legal teams and went from 0 to 100 taking meetings and getting shit done. This was the day before Thanksgiving.

The next 4 weeks of my life consisted of 100s of calls recruiting the smartest people I’ve ever talked to, working on various projects I’m definitely not able to talk about, and learning how completely dysfunctional the government was. It was a blast.

I learned about the power of urgency and having an undeniable mission. Not by reading it somewhere. By experiencing it. I came to realize how laughable my robotics stint had been in comparison. And I started to realize that, although the mission of DOGE is extremely important, it wasn’t the most important thing I needed to focus on with urgency for myself. I needed to get back to ambiguity, focus on my insecurities, and be ok with that for a while. DOGE wasn’t going to fix that.

suzzer992• 2 years ago

But they're all super duper smart! Surely it can't take more than a month or two to solve govt waste with that kind of brainpower.

VectorLock4• 2 years ago

"We cut cancer research and will replace all government vehicles with Teslas. Ez!"

tokioyoyo3• 2 years ago

Agreed, but you have to look at this from “government and elites realized that we’re screwed, and need to just do whatever possible to see what sticks” perspective. This time banging the drums actually might matter because a competitor (China) has caught up in most of industries and playing the “win at all costs” mode. I have no idea how US is going dig itself out of this situation as there’s no cultural, economical, nor political alignment.

There is a genuine belief in some people that if you just put a few thousand smart people into work, they’ll have a solution. But what is lacking, I think, is boots on the ground employees for numerous amount of industries. They’re thinking of a financially engineered solution, but there’s no appetite to pay or maintain an industrial workforce.

dmvdoug5• 2 years ago

There is also no financially engineered solution possible when one of the groups has final say on whether anything changes and if it does, what exactly—at least when that group gains from the status quo. Cut x number of federal programs? You’ve now also directly reduced the amount of money flowing into y number of Congresspeople, and the number of districts in which that reduction doesn’t also make reelection more (marginally) troublesome is asymptomatic to 0.

kayewiggin• 2 years ago

a competitor (China) has caught up in most of industries

stop spreading misinformation. go look at largest companies by market cap in the world https://companiesmarketcap.com/ and you'll see US domination while China has a few handful of companies, mostly banks.

government and elites realized that we’re screwed

That's more like China. That's why 15k rich chinese are fleeing the country in 2024 https://www.forbes.com/sites/miltonezrati/2024/07/03/high-ne..., the most of any country in the world. US isn't the one where the stock market and real estate has collapsed.

Niksko• 2 years ago

My guess at what it will look like:

* Ruthless budget cutting. Import social programs that (purely by coincidence) don't alight with the far right's ideology will be cut because e.g. only 1% of the population uses them, ignoring that 1% of the population is still 3 million odd people.

* Lots of brain drain. There are good people in government. I suspect the good ones won't much enjoy being told that they're morons who are wasting everyone's money. The actual morons won't care much, and the people doling out the firings won't be around long enough to figure who is who.

* Some low hanging fruit that requires a dictatorship and wide-ranging mandate to achieve. There's definitely inefficiency in government that can be solved by pointing everyone in the same direction and telling them their jobs are on the line. But not that much. I'm sure much fanfare will be made of what is solved though.

* Lots of corruption, cronyism and people under-qualified for their roles but over-estimating their abilities. This is a playbook we've seen from Trump and from Elon "I looked at Twitter's code for 5 seconds and instantly made 100x improvements' Musk. Thankfully, government projects span years or decades, so the effects of these terrible contracts and inexperienced leaders will be felt for years to come.

cj2• 2 years ago

I don’t think his problem is money.

I think his problem is his identity (founder of Loom) suddenly disappeared.

Now he needs to develop a new identity.

This is especially difficult for single founders without kids (in the sense that people with spouse/kids already derive much of their identity from those 2 things).

Selling a company isn’t all that different from going through a divorce (in the sense that your identity needs to be completely rebuilt from scratch)

bumby5• 2 years ago

William Storr writes about this. His stance is humans are hard wired for status within their social group. The problem is when all your status eggs in one basket and it disappears, it’s not good for your mental health. He advocates for having your identity spread across many different pursuits and disparate social groups, although he admits he’s not very good at doing that himself.

philosopher12346• 2 years ago

Hard to take such general advice seriously from someone who apparently doesn’t practice it. In fact, it seems mistaken to do so.

cal85• 2 years ago

In what book? Searched but can’t find anything that sounds like this.

heresie-dabord3• 2 years ago

humans hard wired for status within their social group.

Not always "status". Humans benefit from cooperative behaviour but may have many reasons for joining and adhering or leaving.

Having varied interests means different networks. The important point is to see meaning and value. This is where ostracism and rejection can be most painful.

purplethinking5• 2 years ago

I took 1.5 years off to work on an open source project (also because I was struggling with health issues), and the hardest thing was describing what you're doing to other people. I thought I was "above" social status, that it wouldn't affect me, but it did. I was essentially unemployed, that's how it felt at least. It's so much easier just saying "I do X for a living, I work at company Y". It means some company thinks you're good enough to pay good money for.

iknownthing• 2 years ago

Is this not the same problem everyone faces when they retire?

driverdan• 2 years ago

No, only people who define their lives by their job. Most people have a life outside of work.

paulpauper9• 2 years ago

It says on wiki:

In 2022, according to Forbes, the firm was valued at $1.5 billion, having secured $200 million in funding from venture funds such as Sequoia Capital, Andreessen Horowitz, ICONIQ, Coatue, and Kleiner Perkins.[1][2] It is remote, but is headquartered in San Francisco, California, with an office in New York.

Why would such a seemingly simple product need so much money? It seems like the business was already done. Web video recording or facetime has been around a long time, but somehow this company carved a niche in a crowded market.

voidhorse4• 2 years ago

They slapped the word AI on it and took advantage of temporary market conditions (wfh due to covid and AI hype), nothing more, nothing less. Unless I'm missing something, there is nothing special about this product and probably no one will remember it in ~15 years time.

Meanwhile OP seems to think he should have expected the same sense of fulfillment one might get from an actually meaningful contribution to human society, for some reason.

fragmede9• 2 years ago

It catered to the specific niche of screencasts and thus needed a lot of custom software written that doesn't already exist in Zoom/Teams. After development costs there's marketing/CAC costs to be considered. For those that don't "get it" upon seeing the product, you need to spend money on salespeople to convince them they do. After those expenses, their AWS bill surely wasn't cheap.

Finally though, you hope not to raise too many times, so that $200 million needs to last years. Let's say they planned for a round 10 years. that's 20 million a year. say half on developers, that's 10-40 software developers all-in (meaning after HR and health care for them and everything). 10-40 people isn't all that many, though clearly enough to build the product.

Since the author of the blog post walked away with $60 million, it's possible they could have developed the product for less, but it's hard to argue with the results he got. Spending less money would have been penny-wise, pound foolish.

nooneevencares2• 2 years ago

Probably needs to develop a soul first.

NPCs don’t actually exist outside of video games, those are real human beings.

Not sure what to do with all that wealth? Try asking one of those NPCs… spend a day with each one of them, learn what being human actually is

voidhorse4• 2 years ago

Yep. I don't understand why the technological community accepts essentially sociopathic tendencies as long as your idea (regardless of what that idea is) is rewarded by the capital system. It's pathetic.

nateburke• 2 years ago

Yes. Thinking of others as NPCs has its own way of turning ones self into an NPC.

cf. Mean Girls

mcmcmc5• 2 years ago

Calling people NPCs is one of my biggest pet peeves and a dead giveaway that someone is a soulless narcissist. It is dehumanizing in the extreme, the same way Nazis characterized Jews as rats in propaganda. When people say eat the rich… this is who they mean

khazhoux12• 2 years ago

You are misinterpreting. He’s talking about how at big companies, you always have people who don’t seem to bring any actual value. They're in every meeting, but don't say anything, don't set any direction, don't produce any documents or any code, don't exhibit any sense of urgency or even involvement, and don't contribute in any noticeable way. "NPCs." They are completely passive as far as you can tell -- or worse, they actively slow others down when they happen to be on some critical approval path.

I'm sure they are lovely people outside work, and loving parents and good citizens. But when the rest of us are busting our butts to get work done, they're unfortunately useless.

taway18743• 2 years ago

100% this! Calling one's colleague an NPC is not only demeaning but also shows a lack of awareness and empathy. Does the author even understand that by his logic, he is a NPC in his colleague's world?

visarga• 2 years ago

Probably needs to develop a soul first.

More generally, if you cultivate yourself you will get more pleasure from your activities. If you take time to learn an instrument, or listen to classical, or gardening (you can grow exotic plants for example), learn a new language, or anything else. The more you put into refining your appreciation and knowledge, the more value you can get back from your activities. It's a self cultivation problem.

mywittyname2• 2 years ago

The dude also dumped his long time girlfriend right after coming into a large chunk of money (and thinks she cares enough to read his blog!), and truly thinks he was going to "save our government". Also, the mountain climbing (IYKYK).

He sounds pretty full of himself and seems to struggle making personal connections with people. Being the founder of a startup gave people a reason to care about him, and now that he's lost that along everyone around him. He beat the game and now the characters in the story have nothing left to say to him.

The guy should put down the physics book and go learn to be a person that others enjoy being around. Go get a job waiting tables and hang out with coworkers after work, learn to surf, etc.

Krei-se• 2 years ago

True, i would still argue that your identity might be fogged by these things and come out clearer after lifting roles you may stumbled into more than you chose them.

So sure hope for him and others they survive their 7 years of catharsis!

nico2• 2 years ago

I think his problem is his identity (founder of Loom) suddenly disappeared.

This is spot on. And I think it’s probably the biggest thing he’s going through

However, the money is definitely a big factor as well. Not because of the amount of money, but because of the suddenness that it happened with

In a very short amount of time, he found himself not needing (and realizing also not wanting), to maintain his identity at the time

The money and the suddenness also put him in a situation that is pretty hard to relate to for the vast majority of people

So not only he lost his identity, he also found himself alone (and made it even worse, by pushing people away or ending some relationships)

lazyasciiart7• 2 years ago

He doesn't think his problem is money either, because that would have a trivial and obvious solution that doesn't seem to be under consideration.

Fomite2• 2 years ago

I don't think his problem is money.

I think his problem is he might not be a very good person.

simonswords822• 2 years ago

If true, he probably knows this already and now just needs to work out how to fix it.

mupuff1234• 2 years ago

Reminds me of this Jim Carrey speech

https://youtu.be/YHIZ0Rb7lv0?si=TG_SIi-XUuP1iHYf

EGreg2• 2 years ago

You know what I got from this story?

DOGE already processed a lot of applications and set up the signal chats etc.

This guy applied and right away heard back, because he has millions of dollars, good reputation for having a large exit, and he "reached out to some people and got in".

I simply applied in the way they asked -- DMming them on Twitter -- the very next day, submitting a link to my resume, background and cover letter that fully spells out how exactly I could help them in their mission. And they didn't even bother to visit the link, let alone respond. (I know because I put in logging.)

Until now, I didn't know that DOGE was even hiring people yet. Now thanks to his story, I believe they've already hired the main people back in November.

I am going to take a different approach in life. Thanks guy :)

Capital matters. Connections matter. Timing matters. Substance doesn't matter as much, sadly. Don't simply follow instructions. Get unfair advantages.

For what it's worth, here was my DOGE application link: https://magarshak.com/resume-cover-letter.php

claytongulick3• 2 years ago

I ran into the same thing with DOGE.

I console myself by thinking about how many hundreds of thousands of resume links they must have received.

I struggle with hiring when I have a few tens of resumes to sort through.

I can't imagine how they'll filter the signal from the noise and trolls with X DMs being the submission process.

IG_Semmelweiss2• 2 years ago

I hear you. I actually use an AI tool that i found in HN that's quite helpful.

Now i don't dread getting 400 resumes because i know which 8 candidates know their stuff. This enabled whiteboarding for non-tech jobs.

https://www.greetai.co/

(Granted, i'm not hiring for Tech eng, but for the screening i need to do, its great)

Full disclosure - I don't work or have any stake. Just spreading good karma for software i actually use, and the founder's great with feedback

chgs2• 2 years ago

Amazes me how naive people are about this whole billionaire worship stuff.

EGreg2• 2 years ago

I am definitely naive about the good faith of a lot of market participants.

But my motivations for applying have never been about "worshipping billionaires". If you have read anything I've ever written, I criticize concentrations of power, especially in the hands of billionaires, including Elon.

I am not even a fan of MAGA Republicans. However, I do think it would be great to make government more efficient. And my whole pitch was: we need to start using public blockchains for transparency, extending the legacy of Obama's data.gov which helped with transparency. By gradually moving budgets and payouts to blockchains and smart contracts, it would be much harder to sustain off-the-books excess and ineffiencies.

In fact, anyone who is for blockchain is for decentralization, not so much in favor of billionaire owners of centralized platforms. But anyway I digress, I don't think "blockchain" will find many fans on HN as it is...

robocat3• 2 years ago

Capital matters. Connections matter. Timing matters. Substance doesn't matter as much, sadly

Your conclusions are based on your own stereotypes - I'm not surprised that you feel your application experience validates your own stereotype.

You seem to not know anything about their selection criteria, so you can't jump to conclusions on their criteria based on your sample of one.

I would guess: (1) the DOGE guys want business people, and (2) the guy knows how to talk the right language and how to sell himself.

I am of course presuming you are not running your own business and that you perhaps don't have the same level of skill in marketing yourself.

1970-01-01• 2 years ago

Earning gray hairs with blood, sweat, and tears is the natural way of marking satisfaction milestones. Most of us will not get a chance at steering just 1M in wealth without major struggles and juggles. But having 60M without any major struggle? Well now you have to struggle with an existential crisis. Here's the solution: Watch your children grow to adults, sail some seas, and fix anything that bothers you. Life always finds a way of keeping you active. Now it doesn't actually matter what you're doing, as long as you are happy to be doing it.

block_dagger• 2 years ago

I recommend focusing on (1) health and fitness (2) community / volunteering (3) charitable foundation (4) art - create it or support it.

ljhsiung• 2 years ago

Recent research from Killingsworth and Kahenman in 2023 [1] highlights that those most already happy have their happiness accelerated by money, while those most unhappy have their happiness plateau.

This makes some intuitive sense to me. Money provides freedom, but freedom is not happiness. It's freedom to explore, which is quite scary in and of itself. But if your mindset is proper, your creativity and appetite for exploration will be unbounded.

[1] https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.2208661120

ImPostingOnHN• 2 years ago

This also makes intuitive sense to me, and the old theory some decades back that extrinsic happiness tops out at $150k or so sounded silly to me.

There are so many reasons for someone to be miserable, and money is just one of them, and many can't be easily ridden by money.

claytongulick3• 2 years ago

I have a tentative plan for if I ever reach that level of success.

Basically, take all the money, set it to the side in parked long-term investments, pay myself a basic low-middle class paycheck, and live on it.

Then start again. Swing the bat. Rinse, repeat until I'm ready to just relax and be happy staring at the clouds all day.

I know myself well enough that I understand that a huge part of my character is the struggle. Without it, I'd feel ungrounded - purposeless.

If I'm too comfortable, I'll just get lazy and may end up in a downward spiral.

If I have just enough to pay my bills, I'll keep working hard, but it'll be on things that interest me instead of working on someone else's idea.

bluGill3• 2 years ago

I'd start again buy volenteer work. Fixing things at the local youth camp could fill several lifetimes. or the food shelf needs help. Or admin work for united way if I decide a desk job is for me.

claytongulick3• 2 years ago

I've thought about going back to school to get my RN and doing volunteer work at public clinics.

I started my career in patient care, but ended up switching to technology in the late 90s.

I'd love to do something like that as a retirement job.

coldcode• 2 years ago

Read recently in Smithsonian about a founder in a similar situation (although I think he was still involved) who started an organization to find missing soldiers and return their bodies to relatives. Spent a lot of time and money finding MIAs lost in the Eastern theatre of war from WWII. (Dr. Patrick Scannon, Project Recover).

mtmorrow• 2 years ago

I could use 50k ;)

davesque2• 2 years ago

I feel like there's a weird psychology to these kinds of boo hoo posts that I see from rich people lamenting their good fortune. What's the actual sub-conscious impulse to flaunt your wealth in such a way that devalues it to the 99% of all humanity who weren't so lucky? I can only possibly conclude that the individual who does this is looking for ever more subtle and excusable ways of bragging while appearing to do the opposite. Really sad. If life is so hard when you don't have to work, please, oh virtuous one, do the selfish thing and offload the burden onto some other poor soul like myself. I'm sure I can find a way to bear it.

Ancalagon• 2 years ago

A couple other commenters mentioned seeking enlightenment. I cannot claim to have anywhere near OP’s amount of wealth, but something that weightlifting and yoga (and more particularly power lifting) have taught me is mindfulness, and contentment. That might seem strange but coming to terms with the limits of one’s own strength and then learning the limits of their body and pushing both of them requires lots of thoughtfulness and patience - especially if you want to do it for the long term (I’ve been doing it for ~10 years). In my mind there is no cheating either (steroids are not an option).

Whether it’s weightlifting, yoga, meditation, or chopping wood, I hope you can find your path to contentment OP!

daedrdev2• 2 years ago

This reminds me of the saying "one must imagine sisyphus happy".

Humans can be very happy working towards something. Not having a goal is an existential problem because we have no true purpose.

23B1• 2 years ago

The cringiest humblebrag of a blog post in some time.

The only proper emotion in success is gratitude to the many people who helped you along the way.

Have some bloody decorum.

rvz• 2 years ago

Well said.

superasn• 2 years ago

While I can't totally relate to this scenario I feel something like this playing video games. I'm happiest when I'm working towards the goal and once you defeat the big boss / get the best gems, etc you're just standing there wondering what now.

I think the most exhilarating part is before you are about to beat the big boss (which in this case would be the offer for acquisition i suppose).

VogonPoetry• 2 years ago

Three suggestions

- pick anything you don't know the answer to, try to find the answer (can also be personal, like how you behave in certain ways)

- pick something physical you do not have, instead of buying it, make it yourself

- pick some skill you don't have or would like to have, get proficient in it

johngossman2• 2 years ago

Excellent advice. I'd add, read a bunch of books. Not physics: history and biography. Learn about how other people live rather thsn how electrons behave. Nothing wrong with physics but unlikely to provide life guidance

dateSISC• 2 years ago

stopped reading at "NPC coworkers"

chaps• 2 years ago

Same. Maybe the guy should start thinking of people as people before contemplating what to do about himself.

madrox5• 2 years ago

I don't think you have to have Fuck You Money to get to this point. Most people eventually become disillusioned with work enough that they reevaluate what matters to them. Getting a very profitable exit is just one way to trigger that experience.

In my experience, a lot of people who get into this state start self-sabotaging hard as a way of rejecting what feels, ironically, like losing control. Sudden freedom can feel foreign and lot like your world got forcibly taken away from you. I'm not surprised the author is turning down opportunities and breaking off with his girlfriend. It's a way of taking back control.

When this happened to me, I pivoted hard from getting satisfaction out of what I built to getting satisfaction out of developing people. Now I take great pride out of the careers I've nurtured...a lot more than what I've built, in most ways. I've heard others express similar ideas in different ways, like "I now enjoy making other people rich."

No matter what, I encourage the author to use this time to build connections instead of destroying them (real connections...not work or SF acquaintances). Something I did not read in this essay is how he grew closer to anyone (in fact, I read the opposite). No path out of this valley involves traveling alone.

lisper2• 2 years ago

In a way having money makes it harder because it makes it harder to blame your unhappiness on your circumstances.

david-gpu11• 2 years ago

Yeah. When you have to work in order to live, it is easy to make the mistake of thinking that you would be happy if only you had money to quit your job and time do the things you want to do.

Once you get there, you have to face reality: while being poor leads to unhappiness, being financially independent does not lead to happiness either. Don't believe me? Look at billionaires out there; do all of them look like happy and well-adjusted people to you? Not naming names.

And that's why wealthy celebrities repeat again and again that "Money doesn't buy happiness". It's because they know from experience that it really doesn't help all that much.

mcmcmc5• 2 years ago

What a load. Only someone who has always had money would say this

Rodeoclash2• 2 years ago

100% - it takes away your hope. In this case, that by "making it" in the world of startups will fill the void in your life.

nextlevelwizard4• 2 years ago

Yep. I am not even rich. In fact compared to US software engineers I am making pennies, but I am hitting above average for where I live. And at times it is hard to find meaning in every day life. I like my job, but realistically I could quit now and just about coast with my savings for the rest of my life. On other hand I could increase my spending and live more luxurious life style, but that isn't for me. I just like to code, play video games, and be alone in peace and quiet.

kamaal• 2 years ago

Unhappy for different reasons is not the same.

Being unhappy because you are homeless is not the same being unhappy because some woman doesn't treat you like she would do a man who looks better than you are just two different things.

morpheos137• 2 years ago

As someone who has not been successful in life but who is relatively intelligent do you have any recommendations as to how I can get my life on track?

I am asking because you said you like developing people. My persistent experience in life for almost 20 years post college has been nobody wants to develop me.

I am not in tech but I am generally interested in the area if it can lead me to greater independence and more interesting work.

I like jobs that are intellectually engaging and ideally somewhat physically active.

Right now I am working in a mechanical role.

Sometimes I like the work but more often than not I find that good problem solving ability is not valued and the pay is dismal vs. what people earn in tech.

I have a BA in economics but unfortunately have never used it. 37 years old.

wsintra2022• 2 years ago

Learn a musical instrument. Stick at it and over time you will find you can create music , which will make you feel successful.

philosopher12346• 2 years ago

It’s unlikely you’ll find someone who takes an interest in developing you, who isn’t a personal connection or someone you pay, in my experience. You will probably have to take the first step yourself, either to develop yourself or to find and develop a nurturing relationship.

madrox5• 2 years ago

I can't speak to your specific circumstances, but perhaps this will help.

I find that people I talk to with chronic job dissatisfaction have a difficult time taking risks, because despite not liking their current circumstances, the unknown can be scary.

There are known pathways to work in tech or other fields, such as coding camps or community college. It becomes a question of what you're willing to sacrifice to make that happen. Would you move to a new city? Go back to school? Give up your evenings and weekends? Usually, some kind of risk needs to be taken, and there's always a path forward if you look.

I didn't graduate college until I was 29, and now that I'm in my mid-40s I can say that while every risk I took didn't pay off, it was in the taking of risks that has left me feeling satisfied with where I am.

AdieuToLogic• 2 years ago

As someone who has not been successful in life but who is relatively intelligent do you have any recommendations as to how I can get my life on track?

I'm not the OP, but instead just a person who thinks they might be of help. Caveat emptor and all that :-).

Success is what we define both in and of ourselves. Some use material measurements (money, titles, assets, etc.), which are intrinsically relative and thus ephemeral.

Another definition is establishing a sustained environment of happiness. This includes addressing immediate physical needs, such as a place to live, sustenance, and the like. More than that is finding happiness in how we live each day.

My persistent experience in life for almost 20 years post college has been nobody wants to develop me.

While some may give tips and/or pointers as to how to develop oneself, IMHO, much like happiness, development comes from within. Seeking wise counsel is always a good call, but no one can develop another. All anyone else can do is give perspective from their own journey as it relates to you - mine is you have identified options above which are appealing, so pursue them as if no one else is going to anything to make it happen.

I have a BA in economics but unfortunately have never used it.

You still have it and one never knows when the education we have helps out until it does. ;)

geraldwhen• 2 years ago

If you figure it out, pass it on to others. I haven’t been allowed to hire Americans in quite some time, and Covid destroyed any company support of an apprenticeship type setup.

The last time I was able to hire an American with a will to learn and an adjacent degree was over a decade ago.

cheema33• 2 years ago

life for almost 20 years post college has been nobody wants to develop me.

Is that really possible? I have often thought that the only person that can develop you, is you.

Sure you might get some good advice from some people, maybe a helping hand, a business loan or grant etc. but I don't view that as development.

Your biggest asset is you. Don't be reluctant to use it.

tonyedgecombe• 2 years ago

Sometimes I like the work but more often than not I find that good problem solving ability is not valued and the pay is dismal vs. what people earn in tech.

I'm not sure the high wages in tech are going to last, universities having been minting new CS graduates like there is no tomorrow. Alongside that demand appears to be flagging. I'm sure you remember enough from your BA to know what the result of that is.

ghostpepper2• 2 years ago

Choose companies to work for based on who you will be working with and what they can teach you, not by how much they pay. You never want to be the smartest person in the room.

scotty795• 2 years ago

No path out of this valley involves traveling alone.

Unless you have a schizoid personality.

zusammen2• 2 years ago

I’ve seen a lot of people have random outlier success they didn’t earn and it seems to have the same effect as what most people get out of their careers: crushing failure they didn’t earn. By 50 or so, everyone figures out:

* it was almost all random. * the things that seemed so important were not. * working for money is a waste of time for almost everyone. * you can count your real friends on two hands, whether you’re broke or a billionaire.

It’s surprising how the paths converge. There are differences, and the rich version of alienation is better than the poor one, but the mindset this society leaves people with is remarkably stable. No one feels like they won, which is why Musk and Trump are so full of rage at everyone. Either the gods shut you out or you are forced to find out that the gods never existed.

KolmogorovComp• 2 years ago

Thank you for this post, remarkably articulated, I concur.

eastbound2• 2 years ago

working for money is a waste of time for almost everyone

No. Chance doesn’t fall evenly. It falls more often on those who work.

Thinking that Trump is full of rage is missing the forest for the tree. It’s a forest of journalists who are full of rage that this race and gender unapologetically exists, who try to depaint Trump as full of rage. It’s a forest of selfish crowd who wants the fruit of the labor of the second half of people, who complain that Trump is selfish.

Looked at the tree. Missed the entire forest. Not surprising that you think people are struck by a lightening to become billionaire.

Chop chop chop, back to work, quit being jealous.

dasil003• 2 years ago

There's a lot of truth in what you are saying, but I also think this framing can lead to unnecessary nihilism and depression.

I think the simple reason that no one feels like they've won is because we're not biologically wired for that. Like all living things, we've evolved to struggle for survival in a harsh environment. Of course modern civilization has separated us from that harsh reality by layers upon layers of human systems and supply chains, so we apply the same instincts to games of our own devising. There's nothing actually wrong with this though. The problem comes from the belief that "winning" will make one happy. The reality is ones drive leads to engagement and perhaps accomplishment, but it can't answer the why. That is something every person with leisure time needs to work out for themselves.

workflowsauce• 2 years ago

Something I did not read in this essay is how he grew closer to anyone (in fact, I read the opposite). No path out of this valley involves traveling alone.

I think he needs to get closer to himself. I think he's on the right track.

madrox5• 2 years ago

I've found that you don't see yourself without people around you to hold up a mirror

justinclift5• 2 years ago

Something I did not read in this essay is how he grew closer to anyone (in fact, I read the opposite).

Yeah. The entire blog post (to me) gives the strong impression that the author is an extremely self centred, selfish... er... prick.

Maybe they'll learn to be less that way over time, and hopefully their ex-girlfriend learns to avoid ungrateful people.

entropicdrifter5• 2 years ago

It also gives a strong impression of somebody who is afraid of asking for help. The entire post could be summarized as "I feel like an important self-made man and I'm scared of starting therapy that I clearly need to help me sort out my enormous insecurities"

nico2• 2 years ago

No path out of this valley involves traveling alone

In my opinion, this is the big take here

When you have enough money to not work, it becomes very lonely fast

All of a sudden you have tons of time, but no one to share it with. Everyone is busy, mostly with work (also, most people probably can’t afford the same things you can)

If you could coordinate to stop working at the same time as your significant other, and a few friends, then you at least would have a group to plan and do stuff with

One of the biggest meanings we can find in life, is the feeling of belonging

OP seems to be going through a belonging crisis. Trying to figure out what group he wants to belong to

gopalv• 2 years ago

When you have enough money to not work, it becomes very lonely fast

I haven't made enough to not work but once my US immigration was sorted out (H1B isn't very leisure compatible), I took a year off to rediscover what all passed me by when I was working.

This was a lot of alone time, but not true loneliness.

For example, I would set up lunch with a friend, they would bail due to work emergencies or something but I would go eat there anyway.

Quickly learned to go to a place where multiple people were scheduled anyway, like heading to Berkley for a tech talk on Byzantine block chains or vector search algorithms, hoping something would interest me.

OP seems to be going through a belonging crisis. Trying to figure out what group he wants to belong to

The first three months were a strange struggle with my Ego, because a large part of my "Get up and do things" was the belief that what I had to do was very important to others and the whole world stops if I stop moving. To get through the waves in life without feeling self pity about it, I honestly felt my work was what made the sun rise and the rain fall.

Suddenly, my self importance was shot to pieces immediately.

I wasn't important anymore, what I did wasn't important to others but only to me. All the years of sacrificing my own wants (not needs) suddenly felt dissonant.

Plus a lot of activities aren't cumulative in the way work is - cooking dinner today does nothing for dinner tomorrow, there's no way to add up that to something.

Work is particularly rewarding because it checks those two boxes for me - it adds up to something, slowly every day, plus what I do is important to others in way where they want you to succeed (unlike say training for the SF marathon, where it's all "I could never" from people who could, but don't want to).

Eventually, I went back to work, but now I drink that workahol in moderation.

ozim• 2 years ago

I read somewhere there are old money people in Europe faking that they are “working class” - not really to hide the fact that they are rich - to have people to hang out with in general.

ranger_danger• 2 years ago

Everyone is busy, mostly with work (also, most people probably can’t afford the same things you can)

I would think if one were rich, and you knew who you wanted to spend time with, you could simply buy their time through various means. Pay some bills, get them a more relaxed job with more time, pay for vacations for them to go with you etc.

xdfgh1112• 2 years ago

I did the same as OP. Quit my job then started distancing from everyone and removing responsibility in the pursuit of freedom to do what I want. But all I did was wallow and stay alone. Not sure what the answer is but your insights were very powerful to read.

potatoman222• 2 years ago

I've found myself in a similar position. I'm trying to figure out how to not be self-destructive, but I feel the urge to distance myself from people.

cwalv4• 2 years ago

The book of Ecclesiastes is about this. It makes more sense if you s/meaningless/vapor/g, i.e. we're all chasing after something like smoke that we can see but can't 'catch'.

random42• 2 years ago

I am currently at the same place, with no reasonable place out. How did you solve it?

benjam472• 2 years ago

I find this to be very familiar. I worked endlessly to be able to have no responsibility and endless freedom. My partner passed away several years ago now, and I still haven't filled that void. I'm not unhappy by any means, but money and freedom are a poor substitute for companionship.

purplethinking5• 2 years ago

But why did you need to distance yourself from others? Or was that just a consequence from your other lifestyle choices?

kirso2• 2 years ago

Having a spouse helps, but overall I think this is a road to depression. People are social creatures and you need to be proactive with friends especially in the adulthood and also participate in communities if time allows (sports, interests etc.)

shortrounddev22• 2 years ago

How do you get to a point of developing people? What is that Job title? At work I'm the goto guy for junior engineers to ask questions to and I've been told I'm a naturally good teacher

ghostpepper2• 2 years ago

It's called management and the entry point is usually called tech lead / team lead or just manager. Mentoring juniors is a good way to start.

simonswords822• 2 years ago

Contact your local university, most have mentorship programmes you can apply to be a part of for under and post grads.

freediver• 2 years ago

I don't think you have to have Fuck You Money to get to this point.

To add to this, the 'modern' use of the word 'millionare' started in 1850 (discounting first use in 1719 in France which was not in the context of 'rich' we know).

When you adjust for inflation, a comperable purchase power today would be an equivalent of having net worth of $250M. Anything below that and you aren't even a 'true' millionare. ($1 USD in 1850 is roughly ~$250 USD in 2024, taking 3.2% average historic inflation rate).

So, author, you are not even rich, still work to do ;)

canucker2016• 2 years ago

from https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/americanexperience/features/1900-id...:

    In 1850, the US was home to 19 millionaires. But the years following the Civil War had seen a considerable increase in membership of that exclusive club. By the end of the 1890's the number of millionaires in the US had swelled to more than 4,000.

drdude• 2 years ago

I am drowning in debt since I graduated from my PhD, all I get is rejections for my job applications... I want to learn how to be rich because that is the only way I can get back to the US and live with my kids and provide for them (US born, living with their mom).

Thanks in anticipation.

theonething• 2 years ago

I have rich and satisfying family and community life. Not having to work would mean that I can enjoy more of that. I'm confident it would be nothing short of fantastic in my case.

jessyco• 2 years ago

No path out of this valley involves traveling alone.

Just wanted to let you know, for unknown reasons this statement really resonated with me, thank you.

TedHerman• 2 years ago

Do nothing until you realize there's something to be done but it's too late.

optimiz3• 2 years ago

Take up trading, it will give you something to do, and afterwards you won't need to worry about being rich!

dagurp• 2 years ago

I became debt free about a year ago and thought I should get into investing. It turned out that it's incredibly boring to me and because of that I haven't been able to learn it properly. I also thought that if I became really good at it, I would just have more money that I don't know how to spend.

chrisstu4• 2 years ago

Or more likely lose it all and have to work again.

Kye• 2 years ago

You did a speed run of what people discover when they work their entire life for retirement, get there, and realize they don't know what they were working for.

Retirement

F-U money ("FIRE" in modern parlance I guess)

Save n dollars

It's all the same: too abstract. That you were able to discover it now with plenty of life left and plenty of resources to figure it out is worth more than the money.

Personally, I always try to keep enough saved to replace my computer all at once if it dies on me. If I lose that, it's hard to pursue my hobbies and interests while trying to figure out which parts of them I can sell without losing what made them interesting in the first place.

For what to do with it, I found it helpful to pick a hobby, any hobby, and pursue it for a year. You probably have a lot of these left. For me: One for music. One for photography. One for writing (fiction). One for writing (nonfiction). All the skills complement each other. I'm about to pull the trigger on buying a set of tools for recording podcasts and audiobooks to help deal with my significant speaking anxiety. The skills from the writing and music eras are especially helpful here!

This process started back in 2017 when I found myself with no steering or engine power on my way into a turn lane in the rain and fog. I'm glad your existential crisis didn't start with a near death experience!

dataviz10002• 2 years ago

Sounds a lot like the guy who said I have 23 gold medals and have no idea what to do (Michael Phelps). Although it isn't a DSM recognized condition, psychologists often refer to the depression of people who obtain the pinnacle of success as “post-gold medal depression.” Here is an article about it. [0]

"What shall we ever do?" -- T.S. Eliot - The Wasteland

"What SHOULD we do?" -- Dr. Seuss - The Cat in the Hat

"What should we do?" -- Shakespeare - Hamlet

When I'm bored I like to read poetry.

[0] https://www.npr.org/sections/thetorch/2016/09/08/493111873/a...

skirmish• 2 years ago

"What Is To Be Done?" -- V. Lenin

dataviz10002• 2 years ago

Pretty sure Lenin wasn't writing about ennui.

partomniscient• 2 years ago

"My hovercraft is full of eels." -- John Cleese - Monty Python's Flying Circus, Episode 25.

brcmthrowaway3• 2 years ago

I feel sorry for the girlfriend, invested months or years into the relationship and left with nothing after the dude got rich

jay_kyburz• 2 years ago

If she was his de-facto partner during the creation and sale of his company, she will have done alright.

brcmthrowaway3• 2 years ago

Defacto? Doesn't exist in USA

willseth4• 2 years ago

He wouldn’t have said “girlfriend” if they were married.

taway18743• 2 years ago

I'd say she dodged a bullet. Hope this psycho never has any offspring. The world has enough of them already.

luke-stanley3• 2 years ago

Why not map out suffering and ways people optimally can learn to solve it, using our collective intelligence? I mean, if you're looking for ideas. Hopefully someone gets around to that one.

willseth4• 2 years ago

Yeah altruism, but more...effective. Wonder if anyone has looked into that idea and if so how it worked out.

luke-stanley3• 2 years ago

Do you mean has anyone looked into making suffering models like people do weather models for regional / global maps to predict likely suffering and remediation? Or are you just pointing to touchy EA issues?

uncomplexity_• 2 years ago

sucks to get what you want, no? haha

always amazed how life is like that

we get more high from chasing something than achieving something

cwiz• 2 years ago

You're about to discover political foundations on which this world runs. That leaving working class is a bad idea.

amelius• 2 years ago

Just realize that compared to Elon Musk you are a poor bastard.

ocius• 2 years ago

Just as a side note because you mentioned it in relation to DOGE: the US government cannot go bankrupt in its own currency. As long as prices are kept in check, there is no reason not to create more money. The fact that the US has to pay interest on it doesn't change that. If the government decides to spend more money than it takes in, the money is simply created by the central bank (through the detour of bonds). If you are interested, read up on Keynesian economics and Modern Monetary Theory.

tunesmith• 2 years ago

push it too far and inflation goes up though. It's "the dosage makes the poison". Then, printing even more money leads to hyperinflation, etc, etc

IG_Semmelweiss2• 2 years ago

Ill fill in the blank - pushing it to far_________ inflation goes up

You meant to add " and in particular if other countries start refusing it because it has the same value as toilet paper, except the dollar will leave your butt stained of black in, when used for bathroom purposes,"

cladopa• 2 years ago

And if you are more interested, you can go and life in a country in which this non sense has been applied, like Zimbabue, Venezuela or Argentina.

You take the richest and most prosperous countries on Earth and you make it miserable beyond recognition.

Bloating• 2 years ago

"As long as prices are kept in check" Hello?

MMT'ers act like they've discovered some new concept. MMT is not economics; its political spin, propaganda, down playing the harsh realities of economics (not just "late stage capitalism" or whatever the kids call resource constraints nowadays.)

bccdee7• 2 years ago

Odd that you think "late stage capitalism" describes resource constraints. It's really more a term to describe the bizarre economic consequences of increasing degrees of financialization turning every sector of the economy into speculative theatre.

MMT is an elaborate way of describing the process of taxing investment capital away from existing capitalists such that the state can invest it itself. You may complain that the state would invest that capital poorly (others would counter that private VCs already do it poorly), but the essential economics of it is dead simple.

UK-AL2• 2 years ago

MMT isn't a set policies. It's a description of how money works, when you have fiat currency.

Government is a source of money. Taxation is a sink. Too much money in the system you get inflation, not enough deflation.

When you can print money taxation is just a way of controlling the amount of money in the economy almost by definition because you don't need tax to fund yourself when you can create money. Bonds just provide a stable financial instrument rather than a source of funding because you can literally just print money if you wanted to.

The constraint on money is mainly inflation, and government debt and tax is used to control the money supply.

That's it.

paulpauper9• 2 years ago

The Us is an outlier in this regard. Other countries have had major inflation and currency collapse. It's why predictions of 'US debt collapse' never come true although it is a real risk elsewhere.

rtpg3• 2 years ago

If the US is an outlier.... then it's fine for the US to continue down this path?

Like in this supposed age of a US government spending crisis the dollar is extremely strong compared to other currencies. Where is the hyperinflation? How many decades will we need to wait?

rat873• 2 years ago

I'm far from understanding economics but my understanding is that Modern monetary theory is a somewhat fringe theory that gained some advocates especially before post pandemic inflation while Keynesian economics is although maybe a bit modified from the original largely accepted as part of the base of mainstream economics. They are very different. Also vast majority of countries have central banks and spend more then then save, it's hardly specific to the US (although the US gets cheaper rates because of its position)or a major concern (at least if the debt to GDP percentage doesn't grow too high, or if you're Japan).

mouse_2• 2 years ago

Points for realizing ego and musk complex is a problem.

Points deducted for still following through with musk complex

Big points deducted for

NPC coworkers

I have no doubt that this guy is very intelligent and capable, but he's also a totally emotionally immature sucker. Guy's got a classic case of (Minecraft) Notch Syndrome.

He may yet find tranquility!

eximius• 2 years ago

You sound like someone who has been in constant mania from a panic attack for, like, months.

Stop. Breathe. Do something to relax.

You very clearly need it, even if only to center yourself long enough to not throw yourself into the very next thing you see.

robocat3• 2 years ago

constant mania

"internet psychology diagnosis" is strongly discouraged on HN: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=38589525

ipaddr3• 2 years ago

To me it sounds like he is rich but still hasn't earned enough to be extremely wealthy. The price of an nba team is about 5 billion. Price of a twitter is 25 billion. It's going to take a lifetime of 60 million a year salary to even get in that range. He can keep going if he wants to or retire. There is always bigger things to buy.

I would have taken the 60 million salary and changed the lives of many every year. That would give me purpose.. but that's not for everyone.

bigmattystyles2• 2 years ago

The hedonic treadmill runs both ways. I'd venture many people successful on paper are driven by the need to escape something, for me, it's financial insecurity even though I was never poor nor am I close to it right now. If I were to be as financially successful as this fellow, I think I would soon find myself back to having the same fear\ or finding something to substitute it, regardless, the feeling or mood would be the same

thn-gap• 2 years ago

What's the general recommendation for when this is the case?

bigmattystyles2• 2 years ago

Radical acceptance with savoring the moment itself works for me but it's definitely a Sisyphean (to stick with the ancient Greeks) endeavor to keep up.

TrainedMonkey• 2 years ago

It seems plausible, but I’m learning to just accept that I am happy learning physics. That’s the goal in and of itself. If it leads to nothing, that’s ok.

This is it, the happy ending. Do things for the sake of doing them.

dustingetz• 2 years ago

help more people. Use your skills and resources to accelerate progress in the areas in which you are sufficiently competent. If my startup exits i have zero doubt that I will continue in this way.

layer84• 2 years ago

At the start of the article, I was thinking “well, I would go deep on learning physics”. Had a good chuckle at the end of the article.

akamaka6• 2 years ago

I should work for Elon and Vivek at DOGE and help America get off its current crash to defaulting on its own debt

I’ve got an idea: take some good economics courses so that you learn how government spending actually works.

slumpt_2• 2 years ago

This stood out to me as well.

A pitfall for experts in one field to assume their skills are transferable.

snitty• 2 years ago

experts in one field [assuming] their skills are transferable

That appears to be the premise of DOGE.

This sentence also killed me:

working on various projects I’m definitely not able to talk about

It's not because they're classified. It's because a bunch of unaccountable private citizens are plotting behind closed doors to tear down the government.

bko• 2 years ago

Wouldn't this be the equivalent of telling someone "before you try and build a business, try to take some business courses and learn how business works. Perhaps even an MBA".

akamaka6• 2 years ago

Not quite, because a successful business could be as simple as a lemonade stand. Government finance, on the other hand, is an exceptionally delicate game of safely maximizing spending to stimulate economic growth (and therefore future tax revenue).

Qwertious• 2 years ago

Most of the business is in the not-numbers stuff. If DOGE is specifically trying to fix the numbers, then it's far more important that they specifically are experts in numbers.

Palomides• 2 years ago

don't worry, he's starting with physics and will invent economics from first principles on his own because he's a genius

bogwog2• 2 years ago

You gotta admit, building a desktop recording app is only a few short hops away from building our civilization.

lowmagnet• 2 years ago

when this went from calling coworkers "NPCs" to "working" for DOGE, to "studying physics" and I'm just going to leave this here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GmJI6qIqURA

lazyasciiart7• 2 years ago

Shouldn't he start with math for the most valuable results? https://xkcd.com/435/

Arn_Thor5• 2 years ago

Those people are so exhausting. I work with one.

postsantum• 2 years ago

No, he is about to invest in longevity research, like all other cool non-NPC billionaires do

Mountain_Skies2• 2 years ago

Is this about the impossibility of a government defaulting on its debt if that debt is payable in currency that same government can print? Or is it some stimulus thing?

VectorLock4• 2 years ago

There is no upper bound on how much debt the US gov can carry as long as they're paying their interest and people still have trust that they will. Its the TRUST part that is at most risk right now.

tayo423• 2 years ago

this part was disturbing. this guy cant run his own life but wants to dictate how others will live and get involved in government. the US is going to have to deal with real consequences from idiots like this.

I think running successful companies and making lots of money like this is just random luck sometimes. how did a person with no ability to introspect, surrounds him self with people that like and cant critically think manage to make so much money.

louwrentius2• 2 years ago

It either favors or breeds sociopaths

whateveracct• 2 years ago

most of the startup CEOs I've met / worked for are actually comically inept as people lol. often their business success is clearly more luck than they want to admit, and they love to give lectures/post tweets [1] about things they know nothing about (e.g. ever notice how every CEO is also an enthusiastic authority on the future of population growth and space travel and the like? they're all Elon wannabes nowadays)

[1] often ghostwritten

paulpauper9• 2 years ago

You would not learn this in an economics course. Source: someone who has taken economics courses. Maybe a civics course.

4fterd4rk2• 2 years ago

Didn't make it to grad school?

s1artibartfast7• 2 years ago

You don't have to have a PhD in macroeconomics to have useful policy insights.

For example, I wish someone could convince my city to stop planting a specific high maintenance tree on my street that constantly clog sewers and crushes cars.

Policy is far from perfect and there is plenty of room for improvement.

PaulDavisThe1st9• 2 years ago

Assuming that you are correct, you have observed (a) one or more problems (b) a proximal cause of the problem(s) (c) a potential solution. Congratulations!

None of that can be said for making a facile observation about US government spending.

charlieyu1• 2 years ago

On the other hand, you need empathy and common sense. And a good understanding of humanity.

Which I doubt many politicians have it.

kortilla4• 2 years ago

This is a facile dunk. Economics literature is filled with examples of debt destroying countries’ economies either through hyper inflation or default. Since the US controls its currency, it is very likely to take the inflation route, but if you get enough hawks they might choose to default.

rtpg3• 2 years ago

But perhaps people supposedly becoming in charge of material results should in fact at least have a sketch of an actual nuanced understanding of things.

People who watched Europe through the Great Recession and walk away thinking "I guess austerity works" are not people seriously consuming information, they are ideologues.

akamaka6• 2 years ago

A good economics education would let someone be specific about what they think the problem is. What year will the US default on its debt? How much money needs to be cut from the budget to avoid that? To what extent will those cuts slow down the economy and be self-defeating?

If he arms himself with the right mathematical tools, he might just discover that the default he’s expecting is actually not imminent.

rat873• 2 years ago

This is insane. Most countries are in debt and there's nothing wrong with that unless it becomes too high. Choosing to default is a choice with no benifits that would crash the world economy for no reason and permanently hobble the country

ikrenji• 2 years ago

a country debt is not like household or business debt. the only way US can default on its debt is if a bunch of idiots in washington DC decide to do so.

goalieca• 2 years ago

I think you missed the point of DOGE. This isn't a problem about navigating and optimizing a complex bureaucracy, it's to call out that massive bureaucracy exactly where it comes at a high cost and little, perhaps even negative, value. This is a managerial problem and a political problem at its core. We should all be rooting for them to succeed and table their findings, in plain speak for all the public to see. Then it will be up to the elected officials to act on it.

giraffe_lady2• 2 years ago

That is transparently not the point of it at all. Musk in particular is a proven self-interested liar and there's no reason to believe his stated intentions here. It's another right wing campaign to dismantle the parts of the state that benefit anyone other than investors.

rgmerk6• 2 years ago

DOGE is BS.

Civilian bureaucrats - in fact pretty much all discretionary spending - are line noise in the federal budget.

By far the largest components of spending are Medicare, Medicaid, Social Security, and defence.

Cutting social security means that old people get less money in their retirement, no ifs, ands or buts. Good luck with that one.

By American standards, Medicaid and Medicare are pretty efficient. So any cuts are going to mean that either doctors get paid less or fewer health services are provided. Yes, politically, Republicans can get away with cutting Medicaid, but it’s the much smaller piece of the pie compared to Medicare. Good luck with either one of the options above with Medicare.

As for defence, procurement is a giant money tree for defence contractors, but a large part of the reason why it remains a giant money tree for contractors is that they build plants in every single congressional district there is, so trying to apply some sanity to the defence procurement process is politically untenable. Beyond that, are you going to be the one to tell the Marines they don’t need their own aircraft carriers?

Of course, tanking the American economy by removing a significant chunk of its labor force (undocumented immigrants) and increasing costs (by putting tariffs on things) is just going to make the problem harder by crunching revenue.

The right of politics has forever claimed that they can painlessly cut taxes, and it’s always nonsense.

aidenn03• 2 years ago

Cutting funding to the IRS will increase waste; nobody outside of DOGE seems to think that spending more on enforcement will fail to pay for itself by finding more tax fraud. It's not a large leap to infer that at least some of those behind DOGE are doing this to enrich themselves.

paxys4• 2 years ago

I don't fault this guy for wanting to join DOGE and make a difference. The fact that he was able to make a few phone calls and actually get hired into an influential position despite having zero background in government, civics, economics, finance etc. should, however, tell you everything you need to know about the department and its brain trust.

I wonder what will happen to all these Signal conversations when the inevitable scandals/lawsuits/inquiries happen. Surely the public will be able to scrutinize them right?

khazhoux12• 2 years ago

The fact that he was able to make a few phone calls and actually get hired into an influential position despite having zero background in government, civics, economics, finance etc. should, however, tell you everything you need to know about the department and its brain trust

I have no interest in defending Elon, but this assessment is unfair. Recall how during the Obama transition, a bunch of Silicon Valley'ers got hired in to help modernize government tech (and doubly so after the disastrous obamacare website rollout). Very few of those people had experience in govt, civics, etc.

bccdee7• 2 years ago

Yeah I find that anecdote incredibly revealing as to the way wealthy people move through political spaces. No offence to the author of the blog post, but he was the CTO of a company that sold video conferencing software—what on Earth would he know about public governance? Pick a random student with a BA in public policy & administration off the graduating class of 2024's honour roll, and I bet they'd do a better job at doing whatever "DOGE" is supposed to do than this guy would.

stepupmakeup• 2 years ago

Maybe we'll get some funny "Elon Musk: please set the self destruction timer to 30 seconds" in court documents just like Google.

purplethinking5• 2 years ago

You mean, what will happen when we get to Episode 5: The Deep State Strikes Back?

thrance3• 2 years ago

He pulled millions from the economy and now wants to work with the oligarchs towards having even less redistribution. He is a small part of the reason why his country is going to s***.

maccaw• 2 years ago

How did he pull millions out of the economy? How is his money not in the economy?

wodderam• 2 years ago

Defaulting on the debt is not going to happen but the consequences of avoiding default will not be good.

Of course, DOGE isn't really going to do anything to fix this either. Complete theater that the fixes will low and behold happen to work in the financial interest of those running DOGE.

The young who don't think the debt matters are almost guaranteed at this point to have to deal with US fiscal dominance in their lifetime. That is going to be a brutal lesson in youthful ignorance and stupidity.

verall• 2 years ago

How will it be a brutal lesson in youthful ignorance and stupidity when the youth have nearly no political power? We have a full-on gerontocracy and the problem is youthful naivete?

torginus3• 2 years ago

I don't fucking understand these people. They built a startup of questionable value which can be replicated with open source software, which is debatable if it even solves real world problem, somehow got a huge payday from freely printed VC money, and now they made it their life's calling to fire a bunch of people who don't make that money even it they worked for 10k years, but their livelihoods depend on getting paid.

Not just him, but the other 'smart people' who he mentions in the post who also work at DOGE (for like the 4 weeks he can dedicate his brilliance to solving the worlds burning issues, sorry world, if it takes longer than that).

1832• 2 years ago

Not just "smart people." The smartest people on the planet, the smartest people he met in his life, maybe ever!

BriggyDwiggs424• 2 years ago

Isn’t it convenient how the last people to be hurt by austerity are the ones arguing for it? Crazy how that works, not predictable in any way.

gota• 2 years ago

This is so blatantly obvious it hurts. This person lucked out (of course most likely due to talent, opportunity and effort inclusive) in exactly 1 (one) thing and now believes he "can".

He states he learned that hiking without training was dumb and acknowledges it was dangerous. Good. Lesson learned?

No. Still has no clue GOVERNMENT - y'know, the most complicated thing in the world to do right - may be, bear with me here, just a tad bit more complicated than elementary hiking safety training (recall: the very basics of the thing he just learned he should have learned, and risked dying for not learning)

I'm sorry if I'm a bit harsh but god damned if this doesn't sound like a completely clueless person.

quinto_quarto• 2 years ago

relatable.

pavlov2• 2 years ago

I didn’t have DOGE on this bingo card (though Mt Everest certainly was).

It now sounds even more like a hobby club for Silicon Valley ultra-rich who have no interest to learn anything about how government works. Once they finish their beautiful “reinvented from first principles” decks of PDFs and Keynotes, they won’t get a second look from the elected politicians whose support they absolutely need to deliver any of this.

Or, as the meme would say, “men will literally pretend to singlehandedly save America from decades of deficits rather than go to therapy.”

mauvehaus• 2 years ago

Mount Everest is 2km higher than 6800m. Go walk for 25-40 minutes, and then imagine going that distance straight up instead.

Trying to climb it without any training and getting anywhere close to succeeding is probably at best suicidal and at worst endangers/kills a rescue team or some portion thereof.

Not a mountaineer, but relatively well read on the subject.

bluGill3• 2 years ago

There are enough abuses, litter and other bad things you would contribute to if you climb it. I've concluded that a photo is all I need. I'll try to climb mt fuji which I understand is isn't abused - though I would double check that if I ever have opportunity (i'd have to live 2500 years for that to make it to the top of my todo list)

moominpapa• 2 years ago

Come on,this post is a wind up, right?

gonzo41• 2 years ago

This person is focusing too much on themselves. Help other people, actually help them, and you'll feel amazing and find real driving purpose.

However productive or enlightened you make yourself doesn't really matter, you eventually die. Network effects matter, help other people.

thunkingdeep2• 2 years ago

I stopped working over twenty years ago and it was the best thing to ever happen to me. I spent thousands of days with my children, paid off my house, we drove brand new cars for the first time ever.

Over time, I’ve just found things to do with my time. I try project Euler problems and I’m pretty interested in meteorology. The rest of the time, I just participate in things my kids are interested in or involved in, though it’s not as easy as when I was young.

Routine is key, and being honestly and wholeheartedly engaged is key. You gotta do the time, don’t let the time do you.

This worked for me anyways.

insane_dreamer7• 2 years ago

Having kids gives your life purpose in a way almost nothing else can.

thunkingdeep2• 2 years ago

You’re absolutely right.

If it weren’t for my kids and my wife, I would’ve blown the money and ended up in poverty or something.

My heart goes out to people raising young ones in today’s world. Seems like things have only gotten harder and more confusing for young parents compared when my babies were young. We didn’t even HAVE smartphones when they were small.

GaylordTuring7• 2 years ago

Did you feel like this before having kids as well?

I am vehemently against the concept of getting kids (that is, when it comes to myself; you do you) and sometimes hear people say that they reasoned the same way until they actually had kids. My only question then is how they ended up having kids? Sure, mistakes can happen, but for someone like me to have kids would be like someone who said they really, really never wanted to go to India to somehow end up there.

What I’m trying to say is that there probably is a self-selection bias going on here: People who says that getting children gives you purpose are probably people who were quite positive towards the idea of getting them in the first place. But does that mean it is good advice for people in general, including people who are very skeptical? What other activity/life goal works this way? Lifting weights at the gym? Going on a trip around the world? Trying BDSM?

martinsnow• 2 years ago

That's the dream man. You're living it.

naming_the_user8• 2 years ago

As a young(ish) man with retirement level wealth personally I don't understand this primarily I suppose because my main passions in life are not profitable.

Great, so now I don't have to profitmax every single thing and can rely on my investments. That means I can study pottery, languages, learn about cars, guns, travel, spend time with my old mum, family, start a small business, whatever it is, without care for whether it contributes to the bottom line.

It kind of seems to me as if the poster here has some sort of savior complex - like they can't just be well off and enjoy it, they have to somehow change the world. That's not necessarily a bad thing, but at some point why not take time for you and yours?

I do however identify with the "it's not relatable" thing. If you live off of investments then suddenly you are, well, seperate, from people who can't, in a way that you can try to hide but it leaks out, you can't explain away being able to travel wherever whenever you want, etc.

wepple2• 2 years ago

This is how interpreted the post. Listing “throwing parties” as one of your hobbies shows they don’t really have deep passion curiosities like the things you listed can be.

fragmede9• 2 years ago

Your parties must not be any good. People have entire careers just organizing events like weddings and corporate conferences. You can or as little or as much effort into throwing parties as you can pottery or any of the other things listed.

peterldowns• 2 years ago

Congratulations on having a level head on your shoulders. Sincerely, I hope you have a nice life :)

naming_the_user8• 2 years ago

Thank you! I try! You too!

RonaldDump5• 2 years ago

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naming_the_user8• 2 years ago

Do you also look at charts? I look at charts. Charts fun charts not fun. Line go up down.

teaearlgraycold2• 2 years ago

Get friends?

FreePalestine13• 2 years ago

Find a spouse

bobsmooth• 2 years ago

Be Gatsby and host extravagant parties to hide your loneliness. At least that's what I'd do.

JansjoFromIkea5• 2 years ago

tbh it sounds much more like he wants to be viewed as a saviour than actually improve anything significant to me.

"what I actually wanted was to look like Elon" feels like he's getting very close to grasping something fundamental about himself in a way that many similar dudes are incapable of doing.

fragmede9• 2 years ago

you can't explain away being able to travel wherever whenever you want

Just lie and say you work for an AI startup that's in stealth mode and that they're sending you there for a work retreat to bond with your coworkers. Few people in your life care that much about your job to dig deeper.

naming_the_user8• 2 years ago

Sure, you can do that. That's what I mean by being unable to relate.

It's not like it's a one off "I took a couple of days off to build a table" or "I used my X weeks holiday to go to Thailand", all of your hobbies, interests, travel, museum visits, etc etc happen all of the time when most people around you are doing a 9 to 5.

"How was work today?" It wasn't, I don't work, I haven't worked for years, I can tell you about my entrepreneurship or my studying or whatever but then again, now you know I don't work.

That's at a lower level. If you have 50 million like the author then you may well have multiple homes or just live out of hotels if you choose to, it's constant.

Are you hiding all of that?

the_cat_kittles2• 2 years ago

stop lying about being rich. its cowardly and self defeating

heresie-dabord3• 2 years ago

the poster here has some sort of savior complex

It seems to be a problem with motivation and meaningfulness, not necessarily that he wants to save anyone. Or anything.

Apreche• 2 years ago

Give it all away to people in abject poverty and start again. You’ll honestly be happier.

throw7• 2 years ago

You said it best. Your own words: you're a phony.

t43562• 2 years ago

Self absorbed.

ks20482• 2 years ago

What does it even mean to "work for DOGE" at this point? Is it a company? I don't think it's a part of government (yet).

slumpt_2• 2 years ago

Plan for the evisceration of public services in the interest of privatizing them to enrich a select group of capital owners.

heavyset_go• 2 years ago

Dickens was right, some people truly need to be visited by the ghost of Christmas present.

ecuaflo• 2 years ago

I have the opposite problem: I’m dependent on my job’s salary but know exactly what I want to do instead. Unfortunately the job makes my life so drained I can’t pursue my true callings.

intelVISA• 2 years ago

This is true pain. To think a rounding error could free grinders like us to solve Actual Problems like disrupting Chrome hegemony, building user-respecting OSes and relighting the now nearly dimmed torch dropped so many years ago by Mozilla.

Hopefully one day we can..

mvdtnz4• 2 years ago

Actual problems are things like extreme poverty, access to drinking water, deforestation and habitat destruction, climate change etc. Not internet browsers. Good grief.

kcsaba2• 2 years ago

Thank you for sharing, educative. Will pray for your journey.

makeitshine• 2 years ago

As someone who isn't rich, but has taken extensive time off work, I love not working. The last 18 month break I took may have been the happiest I've ever been. I'll never be rich, because I'm not motivated by money, but I've never been bored or rudderless.

Mountain_Skies2• 2 years ago

I've done this and it's great, especially for travel, but I've notice that each time I do it, employers are more and more uncomfortable with the employment gap regardless of skills.

raghavankl• 2 years ago

That is a good problem to have

akomtu2• 2 years ago

"Ambition is the first curse: the great tempter of the man who is rising above his fellows. It is the simplest form of looking for reward. Men of intelligence and power are led away from their higher possibilities by it continually. Yet it is a necessary teacher. Its results turn to dust and ashes in the mouth; like death and estrangement it shows the man at last that to work for self is to work for disappointment."

verifex• 2 years ago

I'm living a pretty okay life, I need money for certain things and helping my friends and family takes a lot of money. I think the guy in this article and some of the people in this thread have their perspective warped by the amount of money they have. (This has been proven time and time again: https://caldaclinic.com/the-psychology-of-wealth-and-how-it-... )

Try making some friends with people who aren't as wealthy as you and try to help them out, maybe they need something that is out of their reach, maybe their family needs expensive medicine or something. Anyways, my TL;DR is make friends, spend your money on others and stop hoarding it because it won't make you happy.

bfeynman• 2 years ago

shows you just how much luck really is involved versus having insatiable grit, determination, skill, etc to be successful.

Guy seems amazed that based on whatever probably incorrect information he gets about the government being inefficiently run left him aghast.

Dude got super lucky on a bet about remote work that is not even panning out for the purchaser.

SCUSKU• 2 years ago

Congratulations to the author! They basically "won" and did something that most people on HN can only dream of.

My 2 cents: I would devote the remainder of my life to solving problems that the current system is unoptimized for. Things that seem intractable like the housing crisis, homelessness, climate change, food insecurity. Like this guy who is trying to re-green a part of the Sonoran Desert after getting a windfall from helping the El Salvadoran government switch to Bitcoin [1].

I think ultimately the author is going to have to find a very difficult task/goal that will require similar if not greater effort compared to starting Loom.

[1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D6fl8dap5nk

ks20482• 2 years ago

"Working at DOGE" for 4 weeks reminds be of "Teach for America"... maybe it's fairly smart people with decent intentions [1] but not what's needed - not people taking a break from getting rich to do some charity work - rather what's needed is dedicated professionals devoting their careers to teaching / governance.

[1] for the record, I don't think that DOGE has good intentions. A lot of the tweets are nonsensical and I think just a rebranding for typical Republican cuts to health and retirement spending in exchange for more tax breaks at the top.

pianoben• 2 years ago

If they had good intentions, they wouldn't be conducting all of their business on FOIA-proof Signal (or so I like to imagine).

ryukoposting3• 2 years ago

Signal is widely used among high-ranking and/or appointed officials in the bureaucracy. From what I have observed, this is true on both sides of the aisle.

timlarshanson• 2 years ago

Yes, this bothered be as well - the department of government efficiency is, as with all government agencies, is working for the public good in the public interest. This means everything must default to being open, unless there is a good reason not to be (military, CIA etc).

I don't trust Elon, and don't see why DOGE should (or could) be secret - unless it's a cover to acquire more power, which seems to be his true objective. (recently, at least)

sangnoir7• 2 years ago

Not just rebranding, but it's going to provides useful decision-laundering political cover, similar to what McKinsey and other consultants offer management. They were going to do it anyway, but the public reason becomes "It's not our idea, but DOGE (or the consultants) recommended it."

insane_dreamer7• 2 years ago

also we already know what Elon efficiency looks like: firing a bunch of people

I'd honestly prefer my tax dollars be spent creating jobs than going into the pockets of the billionnaires providing the "efficiency" (i.e., large corps offering AI/automation).

cushychicken2• 2 years ago

I’m pretty sure that’s the last point in Naval’s infamous tweet thread about getting wealthy.

It won’t fix you - but it will give you the time and resources to figure out something that might.

The author needs to find himself a good counselor and get to work on himself.

Narciss• 2 years ago

One of the most honest and thought provoking pieces I’ve read in a while.

Thank you so much for sharing. It really makes me think what I’d do if I were in your shoes.

For me a big portion would be family, and helping it thrive. And putting my time and energy into some of the crazier ideas I have about how to help improve the world for the greatest number of people.

I wish you serendipity in trying to find yourself, deeply, and in discovering what you truly enjoy.

I’d also say don’t give up on love. The most important part of it all are the people you share your life with. So once you are in a good place, fill your life with them. Keep channels open with those that you know check that box, as you go through this journey of self-discovery that may require more time for yourself.

loxodrome• 2 years ago

Are we supposed to feel sorry for him? Poor people have the same existential thoughts too. At least he has the freedom to choose what he wants to do and not to be beholden to anyone, which is the whole damn point of being rich. No one ever claimed wealth solves all of life’s problems. Anyway, his lack of grounding is most likely from lack of a family.

Aeolun17• 2 years ago

The start of the post literally begins with him saying he doesn't expect anyone to feel sorry for him, or at least, that it's a really silly problem to have.

bendsawyer• 2 years ago

Maybe you’ve got it right.

I lost it all. I spent some time grieving, did some crazy things, decided to build wealth all over again, but then didn’t. I instead picked a topic and started learning. Three degrees later I’m pushing the boundaries of a field I had never heard of in that past life.

I’m not rich, but I’m comfortable.

I’m happy.

Enjoy Physics. It’s awesome.

kopirgan• 2 years ago

I'll be downing tools this year. Haven't seen 8" floppy disks but 5 1/4" sure. That's where we started.

I think even with a lot less one can simply let go and retire. But lots of ducks need to get in row.

Personal health Family situation Where you are Where you came from Hobbies & interests Good spouse

throwaway431234• 2 years ago

Im sorta where this guy is but not wealthy much and my money train could run out and I'd have to find a new one.

With that said I have lots of time on my hands, some work projects to focus on from time to time and currently single as of this summer. I live alone and a ton of my time is spent on apps connecting with people to meet up offline for adventure and adult fun in the hopes I will find my new person or new friend(s). It's a full time job but for me really worth finding my new person (or friends) to enjoy life with!

I definitely wouldnt be lost if I was completely set I'd have more resources to have many homes in different parts of the world, immerse myself in different cultures and enjoy my outdoor activities (skiing, hiking, kayaking, surfing, etc) with locals in different parts of the world (Iceland, Colorado, Miami, Hawaii, Australia) . As well turn my hobbies like songwriting and creating tech into more then a hobby and most importantly help people succeed!

paulpauper9• 2 years ago

Some sources say each founder made $100 million. I am guessing after taxes he maybe only made $60 million? Still a lot

kylehotchkiss2• 2 years ago

Hey Vinay, this part struck me:

with all the mounting insecurities I had stuffed down over the past several years. I didn’t feel like I could work on them with her. So I broke things off after almost 2 years of unconditional love. It was extremely painful, but it was the right call. I needed to fully face myself.

You had something really special. You obviously miss her. I am not saying that anything will come from it, but why not try some therapy and see if you guys can work things out? What you had was harder to find than the dollar amounts in your blog post. A lot of people just don't find that at all.

All the best on whatever's next.

adamtaylor_132• 2 years ago

Yeah it’s always interesting to me when people get rid of stabilizing social forces in their life to “work on themselves”. Changing doesn’t happen in a vacuum, in fact, it’s usually DUE TO those social forces that we learn, grow, and improve.

Gutting an otherwise healthy relationship to navel-gaze seems like a bad choice.

Source: My wife has absolutely pushed me to address hard things in my life and I’m better for it.

kylehotchkiss2• 2 years ago

That's such a thoughtful thing to say! thank you for sharing that Adam. I hope you've told her this too, it would mean a lot for her to hear you say so. I find that a good encouragement as I seek to one day be married again :)

nooneevencares2• 2 years ago

I read the blog post and many of the comments and can’t help but think… how is it you guys are so smart you can create enormous amounts of wealth with no idea what to use it on?

There are millions of people struggling to survive and you have amassed a pile of resources you’ve determined the best thing to do with is bury?

cactusplant7374• 2 years ago

There is a lot of luck involved in striking it rich and naiveté helps pave the way. Look at the section of the blog post on DOGE.

Doesn't it seem pretty childish and immature to think one is going to change the US with an organization that 1) isn't an official government agency and 2) has no political power. If Elon drops dead or falls out of favor with Trump the project is basically dead.

underseacables• 2 years ago

Start nonprofit businesses that hire, train, and support people with physical and developmental disabilities. For example, the Adelante of New Mexico. They create companies to provide jobs to people with disabilities. They also provide health insurance, a living wage, and housing assistance.

Make more companies like that. Put money to doing good, not just being good.

omgJustTest• 2 years ago

I have a special project, would love to tell you about our progress!

epolanski• 2 years ago

He's describing what many of people FIREing experience, lack of purpose and direction.

This also scares me as someone who's been saving and investing for that purpose and I would not want to go through it. I have few ideas (similar to his with robotics) or different ventures, but it still scares me.

Thrymr• 2 years ago

Well, at least he got over his "mission of DOGE is extremely important" phase quickly enough. May he go off and learn something about himself and the universe studying physics.

deadbabe• 2 years ago

When you become rich you need to switch from a goal oriented mindset to a value based one.

There are no more goals for you to achieve. Instead, focus on values you believe in and try to live those values every day. It will be an endless journey that will last the rest of your life. Values don’t need a reason or purpose, they just exist.

For example, if I became rich my values would simply be traveling the world and dressing fancy. Easy.

ruined• 2 years ago

i'm not rich but i know what i want to do

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Jach• 2 years ago

If you don't want to live your own life, you can live it for others.

If you get tired of living for others, you can live your life for yourself.

There are a lot of philanthropic pursuits that could really use an extra million or two per year (LEVF would be my top pick), which is less than you'd expect to make from index funds returns.

zwilderrr• 2 years ago

I recommend reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**

catonmat• 2 years ago

However, there are some questions left unanswered.
Why did I need to do the absolute most to reach this point?
Why couldn’t I just leave Loom and say “I don’t know what I want to do next”?
Why do I feel the need to only be on a journey if it’s grand?
What is wrong with being insignificant?
Why is letting people down so hard?

For these questions, I would suggest, you please read blogposts on https://os.me

Om Swami is an entrepreneur extraordinaire and has discovered his own truth. I am sure you will find it helpful.

Spoiler: He was(is?) also ultra rich and has figured out this stuff.

adfm• 2 years ago

Be kind.

jeffreyrogers• 2 years ago

This is very common among people who sell their companies. AJ Wasserstein[0] at Yale's school of management has written a few things about it. He built up and sold a (non-tech) business for a substantial amount of money, so he's not just theorizing. Here's one of the things he's written: https://yale.app.box.com/s/ye0naovus7anbz875vcrcpzrdskjskgf

[0] https://som.yale.edu/faculty-research/faculty-directory/aj-w...

iddan• 2 years ago

Probably not gonna get upvoted but I’m pretty surprised none of the the top comments mentions volunteering or philanthropy. I believe people who get lucky should land a hand in making the world a better place. We are facing huge crises (climate change to name one) and as a wealthy individual you have both the time to spend helping to fix that and the fortune to donate. Being a smart wealthy individual just makes everything more valuable

JansjoFromIkea5• 2 years ago

I'm amazed he didn't even seem to entertain it as an option. It's quite unusual because even a total narcissist would eventually land on philanthropy as an ego-trip

FreePalestine13• 2 years ago

Greed

hindsightbias• 2 years ago

The lesson from FTX was to burn it all down.

benkaiser• 2 years ago

Absolutely.

I recently read "The Life You Can Save" by Peter Singer, and it really does a great job of making the case for generosity even amongst middle class 1st world individuals.

ebook/audiobook are free from their website: https://www.thelifeyoucansave.org.au/the-book/

kalkin4• 2 years ago

Right. There's no rule that if you get a hold of $XX million that you need to keep it. I'd argue, in fact, that there's a pretty good case you're obligated to give most of it away; you can keep single-digit millions and have total financial security for all practical purposes while sacrificing only a few luxuries that, as the author of this essay appears to have noticed, won't actually give your life meaning. Meanwhile, each $1M donated to insecticide-treated bednets (for one well-quantified example) could save hundreds of lives: https://www.givewell.org/charities/amf#What_do_you_get_for_y...

If there's a moral case for keeping the cash, it's the leverage it could provide to do something that (at least has a chance of being) even bigger. But few are the people who have legitimate reason to believe the expected value calculation comes out positively. People who feel directionless or jump on the latest Elon thing on a whim seem especially unlikely to be among those few.

(I'm not going to provide documentation, so take this for what little it's worth, but I myself gave away the majority of the several million I received for being a sufficiently early employee at the right startup. And I do not regret it.)

iosnoob• 2 years ago

Thank you for doing that. We're all better off with people who use their good fortune to help others in need.

zestyping2• 2 years ago

Thank you for giving away your wealth to help other people. Let's normalize this practice.

nick34432• 2 years ago

Nice job giving away the majority of your wealth. That's a brave and noble move. I'm up to 7% given away but plan to keep doing it over time.

awb2• 2 years ago

Good point. The about page does mention this. But perhaps broadening the volunteer perspective to other causes might give them greater purpose.

i invest in companies and am willing to offer help to founders i vibe with for free and for no allocation

valgor• 2 years ago

Came here to say this. Money is a tool to make the world a better place. He could be funding schools, scholarships, research projects, new start ups, and so much more. This is what I have been doing, and it has given my life so much more meaning than anything else I have done. I work to donate because that is how I have the biggest impact.

MrMcCall2• 2 years ago

If you want to see the picture of success in spending one's money, find the pictures of Lebron James surprising the kids in the school he built in his home town of Akron, Ohio. His smile is the verifiable truth of "you reap what you sow".

Find other people to make happy, by first reducing their misery, and you ensure your own luck and happiness. It's the most important magic there is, along with repeating a Holy Name of God, like Nyame in Ghanaian (I learned that today on a walk).

Lebron reaps the joy of those hundreds of kids that he makes happy every single day. It comes back into our inner peace and happiness. And power.

Succeed for others and your success will only grow. Because compassion. Always compassion.

mordymoop• 2 years ago

It’s always climbing mountains. Why does nobody ever go money-mad and excavate an exact replica of the dwarven city of Khazad-dûm in the Black Hills of South Dakota?

Trasmatta6• 2 years ago

The "10,000 Year Clock" that Bezos is funding is kinda like that: https://www.10000yearclock.net/learnmore.html

montefischer• 2 years ago

I have wondered this too. I think there are regulatory constraints.

ip263• 2 years ago

The mountains are loaded with metaphor, seem nearly insurmountable, filled with danger and excitement…

Turns out, of course, that they are less dangerous than in the past, money goes a long way, and the human body is pretty good at walking even without training.

Notice it’s never free climbing the nose in a day, which would require 5-7 years of dedicated training.

wetmore• 2 years ago

Notice it’s never free climbing the nose in a day, which would require 5-7 years of dedicated training.

Would take way more than that for the average person. You can count the number of people who have done that as of now on one hand.

dustincoates• 2 years ago

A guy in Texas did that with the Forbidden City: https://www.atlasobscura.com/places/forbidden-gardens

Avlin67• 2 years ago

discipline is all you need

ArlenBales• 2 years ago

Hey Vanay, go do a thru-hike like the Pacific Crest Trail. You won't regret it. (I hiked it last year, and will again this year)

dqh• 2 years ago

You could have some kids, and let them lead you :)

ropable• 2 years ago

I'm pretty sure that you don't need to come into excessive wealth to go through this kind of identity crisis, but it does probably afford you a lot more free time to dwell on it (which probably makes it feel "bigger"). Here's hoping the author can settle on a new goal on which to anchor his identity, and here's also hoping that it's some kind of philanthropic/common good (helping move society towards low-carbon energy abundance would be my pick).

stuckkeys• 2 years ago

I have a solution. You can spend some money on me haha. I am the opposite. You know what they say “opposite attracts” and I am attracted to you being rich haha jk.

Jokes aside, it is wild to read comments like these. I guess I do not know that feeling. I come from a working class, I did good for myself but then got affected by the entire layoff wave which kind of sent me back to stone ages.

You could travel and you could invest in new ideas something that has potential to make a real life changes in our future. You could become Batman!

But dm me if you really want to help someone out.

newobj• 2 years ago

Just go to therapy dude instead of trauma dumping on HN

haunter2• 2 years ago

I'll never be rich but if I were I'd just travel. That's it. So many places to explore. Completing the 88 temples Shikoku Pilgrimage is one my lifegoal https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shikoku_Pilgrimage

wepple2• 2 years ago

What might start as “wow! A whole new place” ends up being “ok, just another new place” for many people.

motohagiography• 2 years ago

It's not really a lot of money, but it is a non-trivial management problem you'd have to spend more time than you think responding to- and at an opportunity cost against things that provide belonging, satisfaction, hope, and joy. With these new obligations, you need to manage them so that you can focus on those other good things.

Get it managed, out of cash, and get it planned for and pay yourself your old salary with a small raise for a bit. Be sober for a while. Avoid sex workers. Rent a supercar before buying one. Use a personal trainer to get fit. your job is "managing investments" to anyone who asks. Luxury is mostly symbolic. Family and friends are both free and irreplacable. Privacy and mobility are usually worth it.

It's not something you are, it's just something you manage now. There's a great quote from the BlueBottle coffee guys, "money in hand, not in heart" or somesuch. How to extract value from a big pile of cash is a challenging question that really smart wealth managers get paid stupidly well to solve, and there's zero reason why you should think you can do it without investing in some education. Take some time to grieve the attachments it has evaporated.

You're just you with a new and peculiar set of problems. Good luck.

(I don't have that money, but I've known it most of my life, and within my means I've just learned to do the things that people who can have anything in the world choose to do. they're pretty good.)

paulpauper9• 2 years ago

how is tens of millions not a lot?

41599799• 2 years ago

What things do people choose to do when they can have anything in the world ?

droideqa• 2 years ago

I think it is important to support what I call 'amplifiers' in the tech sphere.

I think the FSF is the number one for me[0]. They invented the GPL, got the ball rolling, and were very innovative with the creation of the AGPL.

If anyone has extra money and reads this, please do your own research into the FSF and figure out if it makes sense. They take extreme positions when it comes to tech software, but they define a point on the tech spectrum that in turn defines the whole spectrum. I hope that last sentence makes sense.

[0] https://www.library.hbs.edu/working-knowledge/open-source-so...

calebm• 2 years ago

“I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it's not the answer.” ― Jim Carrey

neilk2• 2 years ago

I know that people like me do not belong on HN anymore, but:

Calling people "NPCs" is vile.

And, the entire ideology that makes it okay to say that one's fellow earthling is just an NPC? That is probably a major component of this person's problems.

drawkward5• 2 years ago

That kind of callow, callous indifference towards the lives of others is the kind of thing that could get a healthcare ceo assassinated while the country cheers on the assassin.

fifticon• 2 years ago

It's probably impossible to counter-act the aggressive reactions here on the "NPC" term. But the way people interpret his phrase, and how I read it, seem very different? People seem to read it as him saying "colleagues are NPCs". I read it as 'in your life, you will come across co-workers who appear to approach their jobs as though they were NPCs'. IE, you will experience some colleagues who act as if they were controlled by bad game AI. The point then is: If you are one of those who care about "the ball/the game", it can be very aggravating to "play the game", when some of your coworkers act with an "NPC attitude" ("I can't go into that other room, there is an obstacle blocking my path").

So I read it as him saying "staying at the company where I am no longer in control, would drive me nuts having to tolerate groups of colleagues who insist on behaving like NPC's / show up to work on auto-pilot".

As an example, the company where I work recently had an AI hackathon event, where we could work together on AI prototypes on company time. Some of us were thrilled to be given these tools and opportunities. And then there were some other colleagues, whose enthusiasm could be summed up as "Whatever, I'm out the door at 15:30 afternoon, I'm not paid after that".

In short, being annoyed at NPC coworkers is not the same as believing "coworkers are only NPCs".

neilk2• 2 years ago

That is a more optimistic read of what he might mean by NPC. I cannot possibly know for sure, but I don't think so.

NPC is a meme with shifting meaning, but I have never seen NPC used as an adjective for an activity or aspect of someone's life. It is invariably used to condemn an entire person as unworthy of consideration, and maybe even subhuman.

It is frequently used by tech leaders that Vinay apparently admires, as a term of disdain for large groups of people. The analogy is that the person appears to be human, and go through the motions of being human, but they don't actually have thoughts of their own. Graphically they are represented by a primitively drawn grey figure who has limited capability for expression, just varying the eyebrows. The NPC is often presented in a group of identical figures.

Musk uses "NPC" loosely, often to refer to the media. His critics are always NPCs, as is anyone to his left. He implies they merely act in lockstep with whatever is trending on social media. For Musk, people who believe there is a genocide in Gaza are NPCs. Amazingly, even when a person who formerly idolized Musk begins criticizing him, it is because they are an NPC.

Sam Altman does not seem to have as open a problem with narcissism. But he also seems to be suggesting that many humans are more machine-like than AI:

in a few years, the important distinction won't be bot vs. human, but NPC (human or AI) vs. not"
we won't be able to be sure if text is human-generated or not, but it also won't be the most important question. 'independence' will be a very important metric."

https://x.com/sama/status/1574196546039517184

It seems to me that the tech-right, rationalist, EAs, TESCREALists, whatever we're calling it now, value agency above all. They often describe themselves as "high agency" people. And so the NPC, someone incapable of agency and maybe even lacking a soul, is the worst possible fate.

Musk claims to love humanity, but I would be curious to find out how much of humanity he thinks are NPCs. Are NPCs just a particular species that have taken over academia, the media, and government? Or are the majority of people NPCs and only a few high-IQ and high achievement individuals are really fully human?

ziofill• 2 years ago

Here’s an idea, donate most of it to a reputable charity organization and go back to work.

bdangubic4• 2 years ago

hookers and cocaine of course … https://youtu.be/0yrIvEgqAuo?feature=shared

fragmede9• 2 years ago

Step one is to take down the post saying you have $60 million. Step one in every. single. guide. on what to do is to not to do when you make it big is advertise how much money you have. Holy hell, just ask for "what to do if I win the lottery"

Step two is to find new friends. No, not to ditch your old ones; for being relative to you, poor, but to find other millionaires you can bitch about "zeroth world problems" with. If I told my friends that my Ferrari is going to take 2 years because there's a list, they're not going to have the remotest bit of sympathy, OR be able to help in any way. But if you make friend ym who are in that scene, they'll at least remember what it was like for them to get their first one, and maybe let you borrow theirs. (obviously Ferrari's aren't everyone's thing. The point is not the specifc brand, or even cars in general, but that, rich or poor, find community that you share interest with. You don't have to, but you can develop new, previously too expensive hobbies and will need new people who like those hobbies.

Form a foundation through which to give money that doesn't have your name on it. It'll come in handy for GoFundMe's for people you liked before you got rich. The anonymous button still gives your name to the organizer.

Take some time off to get utterly bored of not working. It's fun for a bit, but it gets old. After that, go find a job. Doesn't have to be a full time job, doesn't have to be paid, doesn't have to have anything to do with your. previous career, but trust me, you'll get bored having nothing to do eventually and need something.

One thing sticks out in that article though, and that's not doing something because Elon's cringe. If someone had said how cringe it is to record a video yourself reading slides, would he be where he is today?

Don't be Elon if you don't want to, but if you want to work on robotics, go work on robotics. Who gives a shit what that egomaniac does?

The bigger advice there is find a therapist and talk it through with them. find one through your new wealthy friends for someone that's experience in your new problems. Just like there are therapists rush specialize in bullying or sexual abuse or divorce, there are those who specialize in other areas.

r2gross2• 2 years ago

brother, the answer is kids

purple-leafy• 2 years ago

Man, this thread is a bit silly. Not having to worry about finances is a fucking miracle for most people.

I'd happily trade places with the OP, because there is so much I already do and would do even more with the free time.

Completely un-relatable. I have come across a sum of money once before, it was stressful initially but it gave us free time.

People saying money makes things harder, what a fucking stupid thing to say. Money makes EVERYTHING easier.

Learning for 1, I love learning. Being with family, and letting them have more free time. Starting an animal rescue shelter. Tinkering with retro-electronics. Hiking and walking entire countries and writing about it.

r2gross2• 2 years ago

brother, just have kids

A_D_E_P_T• 2 years ago

Okay, I have a wild idea for you.

You need adventure.

As others have said, you also need a hobby.

Consider how rapamycin was discovered, by scientists traveling to distant Rapa Nui and sampling soil. There are lots of truly wild places left on Earth -- most of Papua New Guinea, the northwestern Bolivian Amazon, the deep interior of the DRC, to name but few -- places where civilization has yet to touch. Go out there, discover new plant and insect species, and fingerprint plant and soil samples. You might find some very interesting and commercially-useful small molecules. But, more importantly, it would be a lot of fun.

You'd need a team, but that shouldn't be too difficult to assemble.

It's what I would do if I had absolute freedom.

more_corn• 2 years ago

If having a bunch of money is a problem, there’s a solution. Give it away and start again. It sounds stupid but a lot of people do it.

I’ve traveled a lot and opportunity is definitely not evenly distributed. There are millions of people who have potential and can’t afford silly things like books, school, tools necessary to succeed. If I wanted to give away a bunch or money I’d found work training programs for blue collar jobs in some major cities of developing nations. Provide training and tools for capable youngsters who might not otherwise have opportunities.

Although… this is not a tale about having too much money. It’s a tale about not knowing what to do next.

You need to recapture the satisfaction of work. Your professional identity was a big part of who you were and you’re falling apart without it. Unfortunately the old one is dead so you have to create a new one. The good news is there’s a foundation to build in.

Track down half a dozen people you’ve enjoyed working with before and start a business with them. I also recommend working mentorship into the mix.

neilv2• 2 years ago

Regarding the part of breaking up with girlfriend shortly after a winning startup exit, I'm reminded of a friend. (Different situation, but something to think about.)

She saw her bf through the difficult process of a developing a creative work, and eventually he completed it, won a prestigious reward... and he broke up with her.

He got invited to the White House because of the award, and I think missing out on that recognition and experience, where she could've attended as the partner, was symbolic for her.

It wasn't that he was upgrading, since she was an all-around catch, including probably being fabulous at whatever kind of cocktail party circles he entered.

It did seem like awkward timing, to decide that a relationship wasn't going to work out, after all.

(Don't worry, she's OK now: highly accomplished in her own career and creative side, and is also raising a family with a better match.)

cj2• 2 years ago

Sure, awkward timing.

But the alternative would be to change the timing for… optics?

elevatedastalt7• 2 years ago

No, the alternative would be to not drop your gf merely to "find yourself".

elevatedastalt7• 2 years ago

Yeah, I found that quite shitty. Some vague Bollywood BS about finding oneself and no meaningful reasons for ending a 2yr long relationship.

sangnoir7• 2 years ago

Not surprising for someone who describes post-acquisition colleagues as NPCs. They do have a modicum of self-awareness around wanting to be Elon, so perhaps there's hope. I'm only realizing now how empathy goes a long way in giving a sense of purpose.

It reads like the first act for a movie that can go in one of many directions: a drama about a middle-aged, coke-fiend Miami "baller"; a tragedy about a bad Ayahuasca trip that leads to a psychotic break; or a heartwarming romantic comedy about an asshole with a heart of gold who finds themself (and true love) in Hawaii, with a quirky, doe-eyed British tourist as the love interest.

Edit: curious to know that the DOGE has ramped up and staffed with SV geniuses to be set loose on complex systems with long feedback loops. The next four^w few years will be interesting.

globular-toast2• 2 years ago

When a relationship fails you can be certain about one thing: something wasn't working. Many bad relationships continue, but no good relationships end. There are many factors that can make a relationship bad that people will not talk about, like sex. You just have to give people the benefit of the doubt really.

karolist• 2 years ago

You don't know enough to know the full picture, easy to draw conclusions sure, but they are most likely incorrect.

Lionga6• 2 years ago

I assume she was just an NPC so it does not matter

jonnycoder• 2 years ago

I have the opposite problem. I know exactly what I would do if I had enough money in the bank to live off the interest. I remind myself how lucky I am and to be grateful, which is probably the most helpful thing I do.

As someone who has developed software for almost 20 years, and who is also staying on top of LLMs because I genuinely enjoy it, I really feel like I will make some good money soon.

JansjoFromIkea5• 2 years ago

Perhaps I missed something, but from what I saw none of his attempts to do something new seemed to involve any kind of genuine efforts to improve the lives of others...

Bit amazing that wasn't even something he would consider.

maroonblazer• 2 years ago

Yeah, I was going to comment that doing volunteer work in some form could go a long way towards curing what ills him. Surprised that that wasn't even mentioned in TFA.

JansjoFromIkea5• 2 years ago

I get the impression his past ideology looked down on that kind of volunteering, this is someone who thinks working for DOGE (department of government efficiency) is a humanitarian action.

sangnoir7• 2 years ago

You mean the lives of NPCs - as he'd call them? I doubt the thought even crossed his mind

insane_dreamer7• 2 years ago

sounds more like he would to fire everyone (DOGE "efficiency") and let the robots do the work (transfer of wealth from workers to corporations); not sure where that leaves humans ...

astura2• 2 years ago

Not "amazing", this guy clearly doesn't see normal people as humans - he even called them NPCs and dumped his long term girlfriend to "fund himself."

Guy's a sociopath.

LeoPanthera• 2 years ago

I have no idea who this guy is but anyone willing to go work for Elon/Trump seriously needs to reevaluate their ethics in life. How disgusting.

tippytippytango• 2 years ago

If you are rich you have the ability to become a scientist without worrying about money. That is an absurd privilege that I am personally working towards. To contribute to science is one of the most enduring things you can do for humanity. The money will come and go. Even if you pass it down, it will be diluted away within 2-3 generations. But, if you contribute knowledge, it will forever be a brick in the edifice of humanity's collective knowledge. Please don't waste the opportunity.

nibab• 2 years ago

despite the title..i read this post as an exhaustion with SV culture. everything starting with the personality types that are elevated (ie some flavor of antisocial personality disorder) and ending with the activities that earn you social capital (ie identifying the next anti-consensus big industry).

i've seen this happen with people that have had much much smaller financial success in the industry..or even ones that haven't had any at all. you are either naturally inclined to identify with the culture or you trick yourselves into it so that you may belong.

the culture of SV today is an amalgamation of Taylorist ideas, Randian objectivism, Utilitarianism etc etc. there is a lot of social capital to be earned by embodying the values of these currents. DOGE is a quintessential representation of this. it is not surprising at all that author had such a visceral reaction to it.

its important to emphasize that there have been very successful companies that have gone against the current (ie Apple), with an emphasis on craftsmanship, obsession with the process, taste-driven vs data-driven decisions and appreciation for things that are outside of profit maximization.

chrisstu4• 2 years ago

My take is the opposite of yours. The guy loves SV culture. Most of the article is a humble-brag about it.

His problem is that $60m is not enough to be an important player in that world. He was just a cog in the DOGE machine which wasn't enough after being number 1 at Loom.

He has now decided to study physics to try and be like the tech bro messiah Elon.

movedx5• 2 years ago

Just a thought I’d like to share: the finish line to “Fuck you money” (FUM) isn’t even remotely close to the $60m mark. It’s not even beyond $100,000. Once you have no debts nor a mortgage, and you have $100k in savings, you have FUM, because suddenly you need $25k a year to live well.

I say this as a member of this community, who are (generally speaking) relatively well paid folk in IT.

If you have a partner in life then you’re even better off again.

I don’t believe it’s actually that hard to reach FUM if you’ve got your fair share of luck, discipline, a partner, and the stable environment. For those who don’t have those things, I respect your position and wish you the best of luck — I’m sorry life is harder for you.

Edit: I’m aware you need insurance too, for health, life/death, accidental, etc. Again, you need a stable environment to make this work and be easier to achieve — the USA is not a safe nor stable environment.

fragmede9• 2 years ago

You need healthcare, you need an emergency fund, you need elder care, retirement. College fund for your kids. if you get hit by a freak meteor and become mentally/physically disabled, you're not going to be able to make $25k/yr.

For it to be FUM is enough to live off the interest at 4% withdrawal for the rest of your life. At an estimate, it takes between $250k and million dollars to get through a case of cancer. You're not getting through it on $25k/yr after you get fired because you can't work because you have cancer, and you won't be able to afford lawers to fight getting fired either.

$25k might be enough for a twenty year old with no responsibilities who can still eat dollar store ramen, but it's not enough for someone with responsibilities past subsistence eating.

Also don't forget inflation.

movedx5• 2 years ago

You’re describing insurance. And you’re assuming I said you STOP working, when I did not say or imply that.

AI_beffr2• 2 years ago

i think that would be more accurately labeled as financial independence rather than FU money. im not sure FU money really exists

movedx5• 2 years ago

FUM is simply the ability to talk away from an employer and seek another one in your own sweet time.

NKosmatos• 2 years ago

Sorry but I’m not going to upvote this, instead I’m going to act like the rest of the normal people and say WTF? You have so many millions and don’t know what to do? You’ve attained financial and work freedom and yet you complain? What is wrong with you rich people? If I had 400k I would live a trouble free and happy life and we have rich people coming here on HN to rub in our faces their zeroth world problems… I don’t care if I get down voted or my comment gets deleted, but I feel sorry for the OP :-(

iwontberude• 2 years ago

Haven’t you seen the price of homes in Los Altos or Stanford with acreage? It’s like $20-30m, have some sympathy for your common man.

prashp2• 2 years ago

Have you tried doing things for others instead of yourself?

einrealist• 2 years ago

There must be something like a "sudden wealth-life crisis", comparable to a midlife crisis. My only advise is to refrain from impulsive decisions in such a situation. But that advise is late here. I hope he has an environment that can ground him. Find productive work, but nothing that puts on too much of a burden (like this ultra-political "DOGE"). Always remember: your wealth is a result of luck and/or decent leadership and OTHER PEOPLE'S WORK. Be decent, be kind and BE REALISTIC. Please don't become Elon.

Barrin92• 2 years ago

There must be something like a "sudden wealth-life crisis", comparable to a midlife crisis.

I don't think that's the same thing. Unlike a midlife crisis a too-much-money crisis is eminently solvable, just give it all away. Traditionally the entire problem with being cursed with something is that it's really difficult to get rid of. Money? Very easy, I'm taking checks if anyone is plagued by this condition.

Spinoza thought money would disconnect him from the life of the philosopher so he just gave all of his possessions away and went couch hopping. If you're so serious about lacking meaning due to simply having too much money (these founders are not, they just like to brag) a good accountant and charity of your choice can help you out

bogwog2• 2 years ago

It's wild how a random tech millionaire can just walk into our government and start deciding how the rest of us get to live as part of a therapeutic exercise for his mid-life crisis (or whatever you call this).

The way this is written suggests there's still a little bit of self awareness left in him, but that's definitely on its way out the door. I wonder if there's a name for that phenomenon? If not, my suggestion is "Elon's Disease"

I hope if I ever reach that point that I have enough wisdom left to take my money and fuck off to an island somewhere.

insane_dreamer7• 2 years ago

DOGE

Was saddened to read this section in the post. You'd think that smart people would be able to see through Elon-ego-filled-bullshit; but I'm afraid many have been in that circle so long they've drunk the Kool-Aid. I'm not steeped in the wealthy SV community, but I can tell you that the few I've personally met or am acquainted with, make me want to run the other way.

On DOGE, I'm quite sure every Gov department could benefit from greater efficiency, no argument there. I'm also quite sure that it won't actually reduce the Gov budget all that much (just take a look at where most discretionary spending goes). And more importantly, would it make the lives of ordinary Americans (not rich Americans) better? Or would it just be some "achievement unlocked" type of thing. It's clear to me that Elon mostly cares about the latter.

Now if Elon were to cut our military budget in half, now __that__ could have a significant impact. Except that even if he wanted to, Congress (both parties) wouldn't let him: one does not kill sacred cows.

But you know what worries me more a lot more than government waste? The fact that the richest man in the world was able to pay $250M to sway an election. I'm not saying Elon bought the election, because maybe Trump would have won without Elon spending a dime -- but we'll never know, will we? If this were in some other country we'd be talking about "banana republic government corruption" and our "model" constitutional democracy, etc.

graycat• 2 years ago

What to do? Apparently long so overqualified that unemployable so am doing a startup. If it is successful, I'll pay off some old bills and loans. Then, sure, pursue mathematical physics, maybe get a modest house with a lake, woods, and fields, hope foxes, beavers, swans, etc. have a good home there. Did too well with education and technology but still wasted nearly all my life with nonsense from in too many respects being poorly informed (about people, academics, business) and would like to help some children in the family tree avoid the waste of the nonsense and get on with a good life, at least love, home, marriage, family, and some accomplishments in business, science, etc. Made enough progress with violin (easier to carry than a piano) to play the D major part of the Bach Chaconne but would like to return to music, on a piano and play through some Richard Wagner scores and try to learn what he did.

voidhorse4• 2 years ago

Surprise, surprise, money and "success" are not the keys to happiness.

Sorry to be a bit harsh, but it's both hilarious and sad to me that people like this exist (people, who, no less, have the gall to call other human beings "NPC"s yet would be helpless and have no idea what to do in life were it not for the world telling them to follow the facile pursuit of extreme wealth—hah!) It's no wonder software is infested with technology that is, at best a hyper niche, lucky market fit that really doesn't need to exist and will not be remembered in a decade and at worst of products that are outright societal ills.

Well, such is life when we encourage people to be narcissistic, mindless, money-seeking drones instead of socially aware, emotionally intelligent, and caring human beings.

I'm happy you are finally on the way to reflection OP, but it really does depress me that there are so many "intelligent" people that seemingly don't bother to think about or question the motives of the socioeconomic system at large and whether or not the life the system is suggesting they pursue is really a meaningful one. Apparently for some it takes getting incredibly lucky (and hard work, let's not ignore that, but luck is a key component here too) and incredibly rich to even begin to start engaging in the level of self-reflection that scores of nameless barflies, poets, and yokels were capable of hundreds of years ago.

mvdtnz4• 2 years ago

Oh fuck off. Just fuck off.

scoofy• 2 years ago

I studied philosophy in college and grad school, mainly because I was raised extremely religious and couldn't figure out what was real and what was bullshit.

Every time I read something like this I think to myself 'just please go get a degree in academic philosophy.' It teaches you how to think.

The type of folks who were incredulous about the idea that someone would study something so useless and naval-gazing, I see many of them unsatisfied with life because they have taken the world as it comes, and haven't taken the time to read the existentialists, specifically the ones who wrote about success. I would recommend Tennessee Williams "The Catastrophe of Success": https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Catastrophe_of_Success

Understanding existentialism, understanding absurdism, these are really useful things to being able to live a satisfying life but in abundance and in a lack of abundance. My partner is really into yoga and meditation and stuff, and much of what I've read about buddism is basically just religious existentialism and absurdism.

All the best to the author, I hope you are able to do well. Life is hard, and success isn't always what we wanted.

voidhorse4• 2 years ago

I have a similar background. I think the fact that philosophy is not required learning in all schools is part of the reason the US, at least, is currently in such a pitiful state. The OP is a perfect example of the kind of mindless, soulless drone servicing the machine you become without philosophical tutelage. I would feel sorry for these people if they weren't in a position to cause so much damage. We don't need fools like this to have so many resources at their disposal.

egypturnash• 2 years ago

Hi, Vinlay. I'm a broke artist. You should give me a lot of your money.

maxerickson• 2 years ago

Yes, this burden can be shared.

a_t48• 2 years ago

Vinay - would love to chat about what you learned about robotics. I am in the process of starting a robotics company (focused on software), and could use any advice you might have. Talked with plenty of investors, but talking to founders is much harder with this being my first startup. Is it alright if I email you?

largbae• 2 years ago

Two words: make babies.

They will change your whole program, and for the better.

user629• 2 years ago

Would you consider donating to me so that I could take some time to work on some similar internal struggles?

globalnode• 2 years ago

Hope mr self centred provided financially for his ex girlfriend who by his own description gave him unconditional love and support.

Aeolun17• 2 years ago

People always say that just making something open source doesn't entitle other people to something like support, but it seems like the consensus is that this doesn't extend to girlfriends?

Not being married implies the ability of either to leave whenever it suits them without any financial obligations to the other. She had nothing to fear if the startup failed and left him in debt, and conversely, she doesn't necessarily gain anything if the reverse is true.

I dunno, everyone dunking on him for this feels like a kinda shitty thing to do. It seems like he's self aware enough that he already knows this, and he'll undoubtedly find out later he regrets it when it's too late to fix it.

Lerc• 2 years ago

In 1997 Kurt Vonnegut did not write

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t.

I'm not sure if Mary Schmich (who did write it) takes pride in her words being frequently credited to an esteemed writer, or if it rankles. Later Baz Luhrmann made the words into a #1.

Anyway, I agree. You don't need to know where to go next, just be curious and find things as you investigate. Sometimes a project will call to you. Don't be concerned if it hasn't yet.

Your project does not have to be a business. If you wanted to embark on a Dwarf Fortress kind of project you could happily work at it for the rest of your life without needing it to be a money making venture. Your Dwarf Fortress might be A database of the world's cheese or a castle built entirely from synthetic diamonds you produce one at a time from your own machine. It doesn't have to be easy or even possible to complete. I don't think you can decide on something and go do it. I think your thing will tell you when it is ready.

nurple2• 2 years ago

Thanks for writing this. It reminds me of Steve Job's commencement speech at Stanford.

Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

redlock2• 2 years ago

Until it killed him (ignoring doctors advice on cancer)

Lionga6• 2 years ago

You can connect the dots easy when winning the lottery or being Steve Jobs. But for the majority will not magically connect.

In short this is called survivorship bias.

bentt• 2 years ago

So, while I do not agree with everything Jordan Peterson says (or even most), his writing/speaking about “take responsibility for something meaningful” is good advice.

You want freedom, but that is a freedom to choose. It is not an end goal to never choose anything.

anonshadow• 2 years ago

Bro sold a screen recorder plug-in for large amount of money. Now sad he is not Elon Musk. Existential crisis ensues.

VectorLock4• 2 years ago

Then feels qualified to tackle government waste via Signal channels.

dannykwells• 2 years ago

Time to find a long term partner and have / adopt / take care of kids.

No joke. I’ve seen it work wonders for providing meaning to many, including multiple rich-beyond-belief founders.

rgmerk6• 2 years ago

FFS.

Write Wikipedia articles. Volunteer at a charity. Go and do a PhD in whatever field takes your fancy. Take up auto racing. Learn an instrument. Have children.

The writer is in the incredibly fortunate position of being able to do whatever he damn well pleases, at an age where he is still physically able to do whatever he damn well pleases.

I find it very difficult to sympathise.

AI_beffr2• 2 years ago

having a lot of money is crazy because there is literally nothing to do. there is no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. if you sit around all day then people who work at local restaurants will start to know you and people here and there will start to recognize you from wandering around between your haunts every day. its such a weird feeling when you realize that the world isnt as big as you thought it was. before having total freedom, you image that even a single metro like sf bay area is enough to swallow you up. its not. the reason it feels so big is because your are busy all the time. and the same goes for the entire world. theres nothing to do here unless you are busy with something. traveling and gawking at stuff is not going to get you very far. that is the terrible and insane reality of life. that life is an illusion. this is part of the reason why so many people buckle under the apparently feather-weight pressure of having lots of money. the other reason is that your sense of identity and self-worth becomes tied to your money. you find yourself completely unable to ask for a lower price, balk at a price or decide to not buy something if there are other people around. because after all you have the money. except nobody has enough money to behave like that. 60M would evaporate very quickly under someone who did not recognize and correct this effect. this is why so many rich people are so comically cheap. they have to be because you lose the ability to think rationally, to thread the needle. you have to just shamelessly be cheap.

elon musk said "vacation kills." hes one hundred percent correct. when you feel totally free you stop thinking in terms of how to protect yourself and begin to explore all possibilities in an unconstrained way. i dont have to be at work on monday so why not climb a mountain? why not go on safari? why not try this designer drug? logic could save you but without the impulse to protect your fragile life, not everyone is logical enough to sail those waters. i almost killed myself twice before i learned it.

the strange and absolutely unambiguous truth about life is that there is no such thing as not working. you must always be working. it doesnt matter how much money you have. the only way to live a good and satisfying life is to work and have enough at stake that you are afraid of failing. it is better to risk losing your money or even your life rather than stop working.

dominicrose• 2 years ago

Society doesn't put money into some people's hands so that they use it to buy big shiny boats. Society trusts some people with money because they use it well. I also think that not using it is OK because it's a virtual thing anyway, so focusing on other aspects of life - like running a farm for example - is an option.

randomopining2• 2 years ago

I mean if you develop good hobbies or sports that are never ending like running, you can run yourself physically tired everyday which will help a lot.

tehjoker• 2 years ago

what about just buying houses for homeless people

insane_dreamer7• 2 years ago

One option not mentioned is to find fulfillment in helping others -- not "helping people making $200K be even more efficient" or "fixing the US government by making it more efficient (mostly by firing a bunch of people, which helps who exactly?)" but people who __actually__ need help -- and there is a very very wide spectrum to work with there of all types of needs. The freedom to deeply engage with that from some angle -- without having the burden of having to also make or earn money while doing so -- is a huge privilege.

ookblah3• 2 years ago

I don't know anything about his situation, but I will say one of the lamest things ever when breaking up is to say it's not you, it's me heh. I mean that's probably something everyone hears face to face and I get it, nobody wants to hurt someones feelings to give their "real" reason when what's done is done, but to see it articulated on a blog post as some kind transparent confession is a little surprising.

Like unless maybe you were going thru some massive event that was very clearly damaging to your relationship (drugs, abuse, etc), the optics of finding yourself to end a seemingly great relationship after selling a company for mega millions isn't going to jive with a lot of people. But the again I guess that's the point of the post, there is no point or purpose. Alright, taking off my judgement hat now.

Aeolun17• 2 years ago

Isn't that true though? It's not like she wanted to break up, so it's him, not her, whatever the actual reasons he had.

ookblah3• 2 years ago

it's more about the reasons, not who is initiating it or wants it. in any case, i find more often it's just a generic line that people use when breaking up to spare the other party some grief. otherwise it ends up with the other person thinking about what they could have done differently to "keep" the other person.

drawkward5• 2 years ago

The insufferable derision of "NPC Coworkers."

How about you use some of that fuck you money and go buy a soul, asshole?

I will never have $60M, but I will also never not have a soul.

vcryan• 2 years ago

Wow.Poor baby!

louwrentius2• 2 years ago

Ok so this is what strikes me: he dumps his girlfriend and runs away to a mountain he humblebrags about climbing without training.

He talks about people as NPCs.

Maybe the only real thing in life is good relationships with other people, odly enough.

Now you have all this money and nobody to share it with? Where are your friends and family?

Now that the whole world knows you’re rich you’ll never know if they really like ‘you’ or just your money.

matthest• 2 years ago

The purpose of life is ultimately to acquire internal resources.

First, hunter-gatherer internal resources (we are all still hunter gatherers after all, biologically speaking). The kind that makes you a capable hunter, i.e. the ability to acquire food/goods:

- Self-confidence - Self-belief - Patience - Ability to acquire new skills - Charisma/EQ - Ability to succeed in society and on earth

Then, the qualities preached in religion:

- Peace - Love - Kindness - A teaching and empathetic heart towards others - Compassion, etc.

Once you've acquired these things, you will no longer be afraid of death. Because you will have accomplished what you were born to do.

TLDR: Study the qualities that martial arts masters have. Because they are the people most at peace with death, which likely means they have accomplished what they were born to do. Then, acquire those qualities. Finally, teach others those qualiites.

ChrisMarshallNY• 2 years ago

I'm not rich, but I have enough to live out my days [humbly], and leave something to my daughter.

But I get to write code, Every. Single. Day. Code that I want to write, the way that I want to work, at the Quality level that I want to deliver.

That's heaven.

I would not be here, if I had been able to find work, after leaving my last company at 55. So, I guess being frozen out of the tech industry is maybe the best thing that has happened to me. It was the kind of thing I wouldn't have known was possible, until I was forced into it.

But I wouldn't turn down a few extra mil. It's just that I don't think the fox is worth the chase.

sccomps• 2 years ago

Instead of engaging with others, you should’ve just stayed bold (or in your own words - foolish) and started the robotics company, pouring in whatever money you could. Sometimes other people are unintentionally demoralizing. Who cares if you’re burning through your own cash? In a few years, it might just turn into something big.

snapplebobapple• 2 years ago

nobody realizes it but this is an ad for having kids. if he had kids they would have helped him not be such a little bitch and continue doing productive things. when you are an evolutionary dead end you have the curse of excess productivity rather than the joy of investing in the future.

binarymax2• 2 years ago

Not to judge or sound condescending, but it seems like you’re lacking empathy and a community.

I know exactly what I’d do in your situation: help others. I live in a small city, and it has some problems and some opportunities. Even lacking funds I still do what I can to help the community around me. Spend some time with people who aren’t all in tech or on the beach and go find some reality. People like elon preaching doge are too far removed. Work on the ground. It’s hard and it’s real.

Best of luck!

paxys4• 2 years ago

This guy perfectly represents Silicon Valley as a whole. I have no doubt that 70%+ of techies here would follow a similar path (call coworkers NPCs, break up with GF, live out Elon fantasy, pretend to do important/smart things but give up and move on to the next every few weeks) if given unlimited money.

Aeolun17• 2 years ago

If you have limited contact with coworkers outside of work, aren't they NPCs? For all intents and purposes they might be. You might still like them, but they don't really affect your life aside from giving you quests.

rokhayakebe• 2 years ago

From his bio:

i invest in companies and am willing to offer help to founders i vibe with for free and for no allocation

insane_dreamer7• 2 years ago

that doesn't have much to do with either empathy or community

it reflects more something like "I will share my pearls of wisdom with those I deem worthy" (ego trip)

titanomachy3• 2 years ago

Absolutely. Humans need real connection with other humans. Ending your one good relationship to join forces with a bunch of autistic internet trolls who think they’re smarter than everyone else is not a recipe for happiness.

colanderman• 2 years ago

Please don't use the word "autistic" as a slur.

bdangubic4• 2 years ago

what colanderman said…

davesque2• 2 years ago

Thank you for saying what I didn't have the patience to say. Although I sincerely worry that empathizing with people like this is a trap. I hate that I have to think this way, but nothing is worse than feeling like a sucker. I only hope I'm elevated above all of this in the afterlife.

taberiand• 2 years ago

Empathy is about understanding people from their perspective. I would think that highly empathic people would be harder to scam, as they would recognise the con artists for what they are.

khazhoux12• 2 years ago

Although I sincerely worry that empathizing with people like this is a trap

What exactly is "people like this"? I thought this was a very genuine account from a regular person who worked hard, made a ton of money from it, and now finds that the money didn't give him the satisfaction he expected. It's honest and, frankly, extremely unsurprising and straightforward.

actuallyalys• 2 years ago

Although I sincerely worry that empathizing with people like this is a trap.

I have a similar sense. However, I’m not sure empathizing with them is itself the trap. You don’t want your empathy to make you overly credulous. For example, while you might empathize with him feeling directionless at the acquiring company, I don’t think you should therefore conclude that he is right about the new coworkers being “NPCs.”

fsckboy5• 2 years ago

to reference/recommend this book, I swiped a blurb from a ddg search:

Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion is a 2016 book written by psychologist Paul Bloom. The book draws on the distinctions between empathy, compassion, and moral decision making. Bloom argues that empathy is not the solution to problems that divide people and is a poor guide for decision making.

toastercat• 2 years ago

This person is in a completely different class than 99% of HN readers. It is impossible for him to ever relate to others who are not like him because he is not like them, and not like us, the non-millionaire non-entrepeneurs. Unfortunately, this goes both ways, and is probably why I am not rich. Learning to bridge that human gap is far harder than becoming a multi-millionaire or climbing mountains in the Himalayas or working for DOGE for 4 weeks.

mmoustafa2• 2 years ago

I am hearing you say “why can’t I be normal and do insignificant things” while calling the people who do “NPC coworkers”

And that is your internal struggle my friend

titanomachy3• 2 years ago

Yeah this is the part that makes him sound like an out-of-touch asshole. I think it’s impossible to be happy if you hate ordinary people this much.

Maybe go meditate or hike and disconnect from twitter for a couple months, then take a volunteer position at a local food bank.

mmoustafa2• 2 years ago

learn to love your insignificant self

adamredwoods• 2 years ago

I've always had philanthropic ideas that I will never be able to do, because I do not have the funds or the time. Metastatic cancer and alzheimers, on a cellular level, is an obvious pursuit. I would educate myself and get involved. I want to make a difference in the world, and not by monetary measures.

alfor• 2 years ago

What you are chasing is your god or a spiritual quest.

As you don't have a conception of a global god on top of all the other you swing from one to another: finding myself, doing hard, things, robotics, climate change, girlfriend, pleasure, etc.

Those can all be good things, but they are not the top thing.

"You will have no other god beside me"

The central God is you idea of good, the things beyond your reach.

You keep your girlfriend, she become your wife and you have kids. You can climb montains but it doesn't need to be himalaya, etc. Maybe your big thing will still end up around physics Everything in it's place. In the proper amount.

Now if you loose one thing it's not the end of your world.

This keep you centered and avoid the crazy swings.

As we can see in this tale, his god was the startup or money. Once he had more than enought no motivation was left, he killed his god and had to find another one. This happen to a lot of people that reach their goal, instead of being happy they are emotionaly destroyed.

I hope this is clear and can help others.

raincom• 2 years ago

Go and meditate in order to find out 'I' and 'mine'.

rc_kas• 2 years ago

if this dude needs a hard task, can you please solve a way to fix whatever is broken in america. counter the republican propaganda machine somehow.

mayneack• 2 years ago

I was added to a number of Signal groups and immediately put to work.

Not a ringing endorsement for DOGE's accountability and record keeping practices.

mrshadowgoose• 2 years ago

Although I've done quite well for myself, I'm not remotely near this level of wealth, so my insight and advice is likely just plain wrong.

Building on an analogy you used, you've let society dictate your "unattainable main quest", but then actually managed to attain it, losing your core sense of purpose in the process.

So pick a new unattainable main quest and internalize it, before proceeding with your life.

Easier said than done of course. You're fighting to replace a goal that was repeatedly forced into you from the early days of your conscious existence. How hard this will be comes down to your individual mental composition. It might be impossible. It might be easy and just require willful thought on your part. There are probably therapists that specialize in exactly this kind of situation.

Good luck!

esharte• 2 years ago

Buy some empathy

matrix872• 2 years ago

A few million is workable, but 60 million is a scarlet letter. Good luck finding someone who doesn't want their cut of it

aabhay• 2 years ago

Makes a bunch of money
tries to be Elon Musk
Breaks up with girlfriend
joins DOGE (to not be like Elon…?)
Mentions repeatedly the desire to not be cringe

Sounds like a cringey Elon fantasy despite the self awareness

bschwindHN• 2 years ago

Goddamn, this is peak tech bro performance art.

pdimitar• 2 years ago

Help and support others who actually have a vision.

If I didn't have to think about money I'd work on inventing Skynet. No, this is not a joke. I'm dead-serious.

tgtweak• 2 years ago

It's kind of like using an infinite money cheat in a game - it's a guaranteed way to get bored of it quickly.

thrance3• 2 years ago

My advice would be to touch grass maybe? Learn pottery or something, there's more to life than hoarding wealth. Read Camus. And if that money really is a burden, you can always donate most of it away.

Sorry for the vitriol, but I honestly lost all respect for OP after he mentioned joining DOGE. Working with oligarchs towards enacting austerity when you won't suffer from it makes me not care that much about how vacuous you feel your existence is.

mihaic5• 2 years ago

I think that a lot of people with money need to be reminded that having wealth is a social responsibility in itself. If you can live just from passive income maybe you should just gift interesting people the excess money and have them accomplish their goals.

Talk to a bunch of people and realize what you want to support. If some of them need 10k to start a business just give it to them. Or, if you want some equity, put it in a non-profit that reinvest its earnings. Go to a film school, organize a contest and fund the movie of the most promising students.

I was never rich like the author, yet I once gave a bookbinder that I had hired to make a cool leather-bound book the starting capital he needed to make his own shop just because it turned out so well and he was so passionate about it. Looking back, it still feels great to have helped someone like this.

Humans need activities that produce meaningful outcomes, they don't need careers or work.

holmesworcester5• 2 years ago

To me, the above paragraph reads like:

"Having wealth makes you responsible to others, therefore you should do arson."

If you manage to help make a powerful machine and then convert some piece of it into liquid value, you are probably good at stuff and whatever responsibility you have to others includes using that alongside the liquid value.

And worse, it's not just on you to do what people say they want. You're also actually responsible for trying to figure out what they would find most valuable. ("If I had asked people what they wanted, they would have said faster horses.”)

lukev2• 2 years ago

This is pure capitalist brainworms.

And I say this as someone who's not even particularly anti-capitalist.

mihaic5• 2 years ago

You're making a strong implication that the companies that make money are the things that people need. The correlation seems to be growing weaker every year as far as I've seen.

bccdee7• 2 years ago

If you manage to help make a powerful machine and then convert some piece of it into liquid value, you are probably good at stuff

Not at all. Nobody is "good at stuff" in general. People have particular areas of competence at best. Disasters arise when someone who has achieved success off the back of one particular skill set assumes they have general competence at everything and then makes leadership decisions from a position of blind arrogance.

If you manage to help make a powerful machine, you are probably a good machinist. This does not mean you should become a CEO or a venture capitalist or some other sort of "value decider." Your skill is in making powerful machines. If you want to move into a new field, you have to do so as a beginner.

gehwartzen• 2 years ago

Really beautifully said. Wealth does indeed carry the responsibility of giving back to your community the same way the community gave to you to gain the wealth to begin with.

Bettering your community not only benefits the receiver but also, I strongly believe, one’s own conscious and sense of belonging to said community.

teleforce• 2 years ago

Humans need activities that produce meaningful outcomes, they don't need careers or work.

Human needs purpose in life, does not matter whether it activities for meaningful outcomes, careers, work, family or God, it's in our very nature.

The blog post appeared to me of someone who have achieved mostly what they have aspired to become (rich and freedom from jobs) and at their top apex from their own perspective, however the main dilemma is that after achieving the goals still something important is missing i.e. purpose.

mihaic5• 2 years ago

Human needs purpose in life

Not sure if I agree with it in this form, as I think people can get by quite well without an explicit purpose. My grandparents were farmers, and I've never pictured them to feel any specific purpose. They were still content with their lives, as they simply didn't even considered the question of what their purpose was.

Modern success is all about fixating on a single measurable goal, and grinding that out. What if there is no single purpose but rather a diffuse set of meanings? Even worse, half the battle is you figuring out what this set of meaningful goals is, where before the goal was given to you (make lots of money).

LocalH• 2 years ago

Why do we need purpose beyond existence? We're here to experience a unique life that nobody else will experience, no matter how many commonalities are shared. Yet people are never content with that, and feel they must have a "greater" purpose, when reality is that there is no greater purpose than mere existence.

giancarlostoro2• 2 years ago

Honestly for some people, just getting debt paid off might be enough of a life changer, in some cases the debt isn't substantial but the income / debt ratio is just not in the best spot. Heck having one or more less bills to worry about could be a tide changer with immense impact.

I know if I could worry less about my mortgage even for a few months, it would have major impacts on my family's life. I cannot imagine others on similar situations, or with way more debt but the income isn't enough.

RogerL• 2 years ago

having wealth is a social responsibility in itself

Warren Buffet has said that every dollar he owns is an IOU that he owes to society - somebody worked hard, produced value, he is in custody of it for the time being, but it has to be paid back by him.

robocat3• 2 years ago

Can your find the quote?

Are you sure he wasn't talking about money invested with his company or shareholders?

sho• 2 years ago

having wealth is a social responsibility in itself

We even have a word for this, noblesse oblige. It used to refer to the aristocracy, but I don't see much difference between the aristocracy of old and the moneyed classes of today.

holmesworcester5• 2 years ago

What about being smart?

If you're smart you regularly walk through life seeing people hurt each other by letting screwed-up systems fester.

Even if you're really callous and rational about opportunity cost, you can only walk by so many systemic-equivalents of burning buildings before you're eventually like, "damn it, okay I'm going to save this kid but just this once".

Being smart and systems-aware in today's world is like walking by a burning building every day with very long, fireproof arms. "Noblesse" is the wrong word but something like this is a thing. Mathiness oblige?

fsckboy5• 2 years ago

need to be reminded that having wealth is a social responsibility in itself

read up on the "is-ought problem": from whatever is, you cannot get an ought nor a should. You simply have to adopt them as beliefs, just like belief in a diety (though some might argue that's an "is" :) and others may not share your beliefs, nor... should... they

mihaic5• 2 years ago

I'm not sure what you mean. I do believe this is essentially a value judgement, but one which I think is essential for any well functioning society, at least based on my personal interpretation.

keybored4• 2 years ago

No. He wanted to help DOGE dismantle the US government. People like that should just blow their money on themselves and the people they like and leave the rest of us alone.

miguelspizza3• 2 years ago

Man if tech bros could pull their head out of their asses for one second and value an opinion of someone who was not themselves (or Elon). They would find that this feeling is perhaps the best documented feeling in philosophy.

A man’s search for meaning is perhaps the best book on a cure for this affliction. I have a hard time taking seriously people who believe their problems are unique

the_cat_kittles2• 2 years ago

you have a lack of purpose, sorry buddy but finding one is a life's work. you'll never fully admit it even if you write blog posts like this, but you basically got fooled. happens to lots of people

mmustapic• 2 years ago

Wait, so the Department Of Government Efficiency spent time and money recruiting a millionaire who left after just 4 weeks? Talk about inefficiency…

monroeclinton• 2 years ago

You should chill for a few years and really consider the meaning of your money.

thret• 2 years ago

All the rich kids these days seem to be in to a healthy diet, exercise, and stable relationships. Whatever happened to harems, drugs and gambling?

djaouen• 2 years ago

Give your money to me. I'll put it to good use! Lol

jsfunfun• 2 years ago

Ordinary things can be stolen, real ones cannot - Oscar Wilde…

money is not being rich.

pech0rin• 2 years ago

This is the most childish thing I’ve read. And shows a lot about he doesn’t have any people relying on him or community to support. He takes one hike and throws away 60m. Doesn’t try to find anything interesting to do at Atlassian just calls his coworkers NPCs. This is zero-empathy Peter Pan syndrome at its worse.

Sad how he just goes adventure hopping to try and find meaning. The problem is no matter where you are you are also there. Time to look inward and not outward.

ip263• 2 years ago

As a founder, the people relying on him would have been the employees at Loom. But now that’s done. Far from the first story about a founder feeling unmoored after a buyout.

Pxtl4• 2 years ago

calls his coworkers NPCs.

Seriously, that's kind of a "fuck you" moment to all the people who helped him earn those millions isn't it?

Between this and hanging around with the head-cases at DOGE, I think the first thing he should spend his money on is a shrink.

elevatedastalt7• 2 years ago

To be fair, he was not calling people at Loom NPCs. He was saying that he didn't feel like joining a big company Atlassian coz he feels he would be surrounded by "NPC coworkers" there.

dorfsmay• 2 years ago

You forgot:

So I broke things off after almost 2 years of unconditional love.

bawolff3• 2 years ago

I don't know i agree. I think its brave to be honest about it. Being able to acknowledge you don't have it together is the first stage of growth.

Most people struggle with meaning, most people don't have it figured out.

So what, dude who suddenly fell into massive wealth tried a bunch of cliched things to find meaning. Did they work? No, these types of cliched things usually don't. However you don't find meaning without trying things. You have to fail before you suceed.

m463• 2 years ago

It would be interesting to learn what a bunch of people actually do with found wealth.

I've read that lottery winners frequently become seriously unhappy.

Maybe some of us aren't ultra-rich like this guy, but we might deal with some of the same existential issues either planning or encountering retirement.

vasco2• 2 years ago

Yeah that comment just reads like someone who is pointing down at how unenlightened someone is, when that someone just finished telling you that they don't know what they are doing and being honest about it.

Would it be so much better for the author to hide this phase of personal growth, and then later on comment on other people's struggles to mock how far they are from them?

neuronic• 2 years ago

But both of you can be right. I would not judge the author for their attempt to find meaning but it is hard to read something like "all coworkers are NPCs" and dehumanizing expressions like that.

No, your coworkers are complex human beings with complex lives of their own seeking stability and a content life for themselves and their families. Blaming people for not always maximum pushing and risk taking is very simple minded. It is fine to enjoy a content, stable life without aiming for the stars all the time. It doesn't block you from being a star seeker yourself.

Responsibly raising a family is a massive and tiring task on its own but of course you can take the easy way out like Elon and delegate "family" to others starting at insemination because you burned your brain with drugs and had too many conversations with Peter Thiel. Most people don't want that.

And when he mentioned DOGE it was an immediate red flag. These people do not care why or for what purpose governments exist. They only see the inefficiencies and blockers and fail to understand that governments are not profit oriented companies. This is pretty much like failing pre-school. These folks belong in emotional special needs schools.

awb2• 2 years ago

Abstracting out the details, it’s the same theme as the general who wins the war and now there’s no war to fight and thinks to himself, “Now what?”

There are many people struggling with far greater challenges in life and with far less support, but feeling directionless and without a purpose is a common struggle that many people go through.

necovek• 2 years ago

Many "generals" turn to crime because it's largely compatible in the way things are achieved, types of rules in place, and the rewards (at least here in the Balkans).

Possibly speaks more of the culture I am surrounded with than "generals", but maybe not.

shinycode• 2 years ago

I agree. He could give the money to greater causes and start over. That’s a challenge worth a post and a read and good use of time instead of what he just did.

SuperHeavy256• 2 years ago

it's so easy to point fingers. why don't you do what you're telling him to do instead?

wukerplank• 2 years ago

Fully agree, and my first association was the "Men Will Do Everything But Go to Therapy" meme.

darthrupert• 2 years ago

Going to therapy when all your problems are this mundane would be like going to open heart surgegy because you heartrate got slightly elevated.

People need meaning, not therapy. Meaning used to be provided by religion and philosophy. Religion is diminishing and philosophy is too difficult.

dbtablesorrows• 2 years ago

What's with this therapy industrial complex?

Men need purpose not some consoling words.

FooBarBizBazz• 2 years ago

Many people, myself included, are skeptical of "therapy" and do not automatically consider its practicioners to be legitimate authorities. These are people who need a job just the same as you, and this is the one they landed in. Whether they do anybody any good is hard to say.

One source of skepticism is that they are not really invested in you. If you succeed or if you fail, if you're happy or if you're sad, what's it really to them? Will they have to live with the consequences? At least in a relationship the "therapist" maybe "has some shares" in the other person. (Granted, you can also reverse the logic, e.g., "my parents didn't pay attention to my happiness and just pushed me to become a doctor" / "my wife just wanted me to have money because she wanted to spend it".) This is also why I am skeptical of startup advisors: I'm sure they mean well, but, if you really don't know what you're doing, it's probably better to be an employee for a while, under a boss who succeeds only when you succeed.

Another is that, when I hear therapistic language, a lot seems to embed assumptions of omnipresent psychic violence, and this disturbs me. Perhaps there are people who truly are trapped in situations of "psychological abuse", "gaslighting", and so-on, but my sense is that these words usually become weapons that people wave around, as they adopt darker and darker interpretations of their own, imperfect but basically good, relationships. Then the cynic in me says: Wouldn't causing people to reject their "organic" relationships, create dependence on the relationship with the therapist?

That "therapy" grew out of psychology also is grounds for caution, to me. There is an underlying manipulativeness in the field. Many of the famous experiments, stories of which attract students into the field, were quite manipulative. Some of the core theories of psychology that you learn in school, like operant conditioning, are fairly inhumane. If this is the ground that you build on, what kind of structure do you get? Who is attracted to the field to begin with?

Also, the very fact that the meme is gendered tells you something. Sure, men don't trust therapists, any more than college-educated women trust bearded imams. If a whole school of thought seems somehow not to be on your side, you're not going to trust it. (And I do not mean to imply that to be "college-educated" is ideology-neutral, or that the hypothetical imam is not actually on the hypothetical woman's side.)

...

In the context of this blog post, though, I kind of get it. The guy literally climbed, if not Everest, then some similar peak in the Himalayas. So when you focus on that it's kind of funny.

I'm not sure how what he's doing is "wrong" and what other thing he could be doing would be "right" though. What is the therapist going to tell him to do, and why would that thing be superior to climbing mountains at random? Does existential angst even have a solution?

...

Some of the religions have their own answers, which would encourage different behavior, I suppose. E.g.:

a.)

36 Master, which is the great commandment in the law?
37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.
38 This is the first and great commandment.
39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
40 On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.

If the author of the blog repeated the second half of verse 39 to himself over and over, he might do something different. You do pushups, you develop muscles. You repeat mantras, and, if those mantras are really meaningful, you can shape your own mind.

Or, the works of mercy:

feed the hungry, give drink to the thirsty, clothe the naked, shelter the homeless, care for the sick, visit the imprisoned, bury the dead
admonish the sinner, instruct the ignorant, counsel the doubtful, bear wrongs patiently, forgive offenses willingly, comfort the afflicted, pray for the living and the dead

Add in Galatians 3:28 and you've got the high points of Christianity. If you take the words seriously they can affect how you think and what you do: "Right thought, right speech, right action".

b.)

I recall also once reading a Jain text and seeing the Ten Virtues, and reflecting on them altered my behavior at the time, in a positive way. These can be found e.g. here: https://jainworld.jainworld.com/pdf/Ten%20Universal%20Virtue...

One virtue that it emphasized, which is not emphasized to the same degree in Christianity, is honesty. Yes, Christianity inherits the Ten Commandments (which are actually good), but "thou shalt not bear false witness" seems like a somewhat more narrow thing. In much the same way that "though shalt not kill" is really, debatably, the more limited "though shalt not murder". Indeed, Jainism seems to go further than Christianity in many respects. Those virtues, by the way, are (per the previously-linked text):

1. Uttama Kshama - Supreme Forgiveness (To observe tolerance whole-heartedly, shunning anger.)
2. Mardava - Tenderness or Humility (To observe the virtue of humility subduing vanity and passions.)
3. Arjaya - Straight-forwardness or Honesty (To practice a deceit free conduct in life by vanquishing the passion of deception.)
4. Shaucha - Contentment or Purity (To keep the body, mind and speech pure by discarding greed.
5. Satya - Truthfulness (To speak affectionate and just words with a holy intention causing no injury to any living being.)
6. Sanyam - Self-restraint (To defend all living beings with utmost power in a cosmopolitan spirit abstaining from all the pleasures provided by the five senses - touch, taste, smell, sight, and hearing; and the sixth - mind.)
7. Tapa - Penance or Austerities (To practice austerities putting a check on all worldly allurements.)
8. Tyaga - Renunciation (To give four fold charities - Ahara (food), Abhaya (fearlessness), Aushadha (medicine), and Shastra Dana (distribution of Holy Scriptures), and to patronize social and religious institutions for self and other uplifts.)
9. Akinchanya - Non-attachment (To enhance faith in the real self as against non-self i.e., material objects; and to discard internal Parigraha viz. anger and pride; and external Parigraha viz. accumulation of gold, diamonds, and royal treasures.)
10. Brahmacarya - Chastity or celibacy (To observe the great vow of celibacy; to have devotion for the inner soul and the omniscient Lord; to discard the carnal desires, vulgar fashions, child and old-age marriages, dowry dominated marriages, polygamy, criminal assault on ladies, use of foul and vulgar language)

In particular, I note both Arjaya and Satya.

(A new thing to me, that I notice now, is the inclusion of abhaya (fearlessness) as a kind of tyaga -- a kind of renunciation, a giving-away, a charity. This is food for thought.)

(And personally I would moderate Sanyam.)

My point is, if one needs direction, perhaps these are where one should be looking?

Just miscellaneous thoughts.

nextlevelwizard4• 2 years ago

OK, but what is the solution? To get a (or multiple) child(ren)? Make a "family" that you don't actually want just so you can have people who rely on your support? And what then when you use your millions to support and nourish your kids? Then you get to read on HN about how they are "nepo-babies who did nothing on their own and are worthless human beings".

How do you know what he did at the company? When you get acqui-hired for large sums you are dropped somewhere in the management block where lets be real most people have no idea what they are doing and they dont even care they are there just for the money.

rw_panic0_0• 2 years ago

to start going to therapy bro, it's like on the surface

saagarjha5• 2 years ago

There are lot of things you can do in your life other than being in a relationship you are unhappy about.

richiricho7• 2 years ago

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ikigai

Familiy is an option. But being curios and having hobbies also. Or helping people around you. Or starting to think about the people around you and enjoying the support you can provide.

I had my nihilistic depression phase for a decade. There is not much to it.

numpad02• 2 years ago

Buy a RocketLab Electron launch and insert a literal hunk of lead or a beam reflector cube into geostationary graveyard orbit. They never had GTO launches before, let alone direct GEO, and I think no one had ever done an intentionally passive object into GEO let alone commissioned by an individual, it'll be an all around achievement. It's going to stay there for a geological timescale with negligible risk of space junk and gets its own Gunter's Space Page and Wikipedia article with legitimate interest from public.

There are countless stupid fun in the world that money can do that isn't about buying out a human or legally punching an NPC in face. As well as legit meaningful businesses that may or may not make money but kinda fun and useful. The fact that this person is being unable to come up with such a task suggests existence of a problem, though I wouldn't know if it's mental or developmental or physical or circumstantial.

bumby5• 2 years ago

David Brooks has a good book called “The Second Mountain” where he details the shift of priorities later in one’s life. The “first mountain” is what this guy achieved, monumental material success and freedom in pursuit of the “aesthetic life” that is overly portrayed in social media as the ultimate goal. But Brooks’ position is there is a “second mountain” to climb focused on commitment to a purpose beyond ourselves. Somewhat paradoxically, the second mountain is defined by a constraining of the freedom we pursue originally because it requires dogged commitment.

antics2• 2 years ago

You are catching a lot of flak for this, but there is one thing you are right about. If you make tens of millions of dollars, and can't figure out what to do with those resources, you shouldn't be calling your coworkers NPCs. You're the NPC.

I truly mean this in an entirely non-judgemental way. I wish the author luck in achieving his dream of becoming high agency rather than simply high freedom. I wish it for everyone who wants it.

dangus4• 2 years ago

I’m not afraid to be judgmental…

The article author hasn’t figured out that he got to where he is because he was lucky, not because he was special in some way.

The cringe comes in with the way he does it. He seems to realize he is an Elon bro but still thinks DOGE is an important national priority and not a problematic oligarchic downsizing of our important federal services and regulatory bodies.

It’s amazing how even millionaires and billionaires don’t understand that national debt doesn’t work like personal debt.

But anyway, that’s a tangent. The guy dumped his girlfriend so he has no family to spend time with, and he’s wondering why he’s bored. His only attempts at stimulation involve self-service: how can I be smart and successful especially in a way that everyone will know it?

I can only imagine how being financially set for life would positively impact a typical fiscally responsible family (people with the restraint to hire a financial advisor). Imagine being able to cancel daycare and spend your days with your family instead of burning your life away in the office.

I even know a person who has no children but thanks to a windfall just does his hobbies and hangs out with friends. Still works a day job for health insurance but now work doesn’t define their life. They’ve done things like learn how to DJ and travel to see their international friends on longer visits and not just little two week vacations that corporate zombies get to take.

But the author is struggling to find a way to make work define their life, to get their life to return to capitalism that they have been blessed to escape.

Hey author if you are reading this, try doing something positive like help people. Volunteer. Everything you have tried so far has been self-centered.

orochimaaru• 2 years ago

I have a different take. Most people in corporate jobs are NPCs, me included. I don’t mind it. My meaning and purpose is the family I’m trying to support. If that means things at work are on autopilot so be it. It’s just a matter of priorities.

So yeah - it’s fine to call me an NPC. I just have my priorities figured out better than the author.

rat873• 2 years ago

That sounds like the opposite of an npc. Someone with a personal life. One of the reasons its a stupid insult. If you want to rag on people for being shitty or minimumn effort workers then do so. NPC implies you cant tell the difference if they were replaced by a shitty program that repeats the same lines over and over.

danielbarla2• 2 years ago

While the tone of the post might come off as childish, I don't think it should be dismissed quite so off hand, because I think there's a lot more behind it than one might think.

I cannot but help think that there's a fair bit of truth behind Terror Management Theory [1], which paraphrased states that a lot of human activity is centered around the need to get our minds off the topic of our mortality, or to find something meaningful in it. I can totally see that someone who spends much of their life working towards a goal of essentially getting rich now finds that he is somewhat rudderless after that point. Is finding something interesting to do meaningful? I mean, it's completely subjective.

[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Terror_management_theory

lazide7• 2 years ago

Nihilism when understanding/dealing with the problem is also a common trap in Buddhism, and a big reason why Monks will often discourage unguided meditation practice. The Void is a powerful thing to grasp, and can very much be ‘held wrong’ [https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/%C5%9A%C5%ABnyat%C4%81]

Ultimately, that nothing ultimately matters, also does not really ultimately matter.

All we really have is now, and the conditions which have led to now, and our ability to do things within our power now. And that does matter, as much as anything ever can. Which is something. Getting through to that point is not a given.

IMO, part of what made the Buddha, well, the Buddha, is he tried to make it better. Despite knowing all this. And despite it being much, much harder, messier, and more painful than the path he could of taken - which is opting out.

Will you make it better (in your judgement)? Make it worse (in your judgement)? Rely on someone else’s judgement? How accurate is your judgement?

Or opt out (and what does that mean)?

Buddha (depending on the tradition) taught a path to reduce pain, and in some cases opt out (for Monks, at least, to some extent) by hopefully seeing the truth as best as one can.

That form of Buddhism is not very popular.

Religions that give a narrative involving conquering (Islam, Christianity in the recent past), surrendering (Modern Christianity, Jainism), or being chosen/made (Judaism/Hinduism) for/by a deity to achieve heaven or have one’s fate decided are much more popular.

I expect for much the same reason that action movies, dramas, and epics are more popular than quiet walks in the woods.

richiricho7• 2 years ago

I think it shows a complete lack of curiosity.

I watch a youtube video about anything like creating my own door fixtures through 3d print and metal casting.

I would immediadlty buy a nice old house, start working on it.

I have so so many things i don't have time due to money and work, he is so so far away from being intersting, it hurts to read that

gamblor9562• 2 years ago

Fully agree. Clients like this are why I left firm life and went in-house doing corporate tax work.

rideontime2• 2 years ago

BTW, Honey was, in fact, stealing affiliate commissions.

oliwarner• 2 years ago

I agree, but rather than just laying into them, perhaps it's a symptom of too much money. Perhaps that's the cause, not something that has happened upon an already vapid simpleton.

It follows that completely removing any potential scarcity might separate you from other people. And how long would you last stewing in your own mental urine before you started thinking of others as less?

Honestly I read this as something to pity; a situation to avoid. Megalomania robs otherwise interesting people of all their humanity and having read a few more comments here , the best thing he could do would be to throw as much money as possible into therapy. You don't have to spare any sympathy for him but Vinay desperately needs help.

cwalv4• 2 years ago

To me it reads like the author wants you to think this way. There's more than a little self loathing in there, starting with the title.

But IMO it's not surprising. When I left my first "real job" after ~4 years, it took months before I stopped dreaming about that job. I was amazed how wrapped-up I was in it.

What is surprising is that they put this out there so plainly. Unless they're just trolling .. but I'm going to go with "not trolling", because cynicism just leads to sorrow.

jcgrillo• 2 years ago

Seems like the ex dodged a bullet

zozbot234• 2 years ago

OP has enough money to live like an actual Doge [0]. (And get a pet Shiba Inu K-9 while he's at it.)

[0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doge_(title)

martins_irbe• 2 years ago

The post title should read, "I am poor and have no idea what to do". :D

antony_pond2• 2 years ago

You are so full of judgmental behavior, envy is probably driving your ego.

mparnisari• 2 years ago

If I became rich, I would create a company of metal detectors that would uncover long lost treasures. They would also find lost items for ppl.

I can dream, right?

benlivengood• 2 years ago

I remember the feeling of being 12 or so and lamenting that I no longer enjoyed the same kind of play in the (literal) sandbox any more; a bit of sorrow at the loss of a source of joy in my life that I had grown out of. It was an interesting realization that growing up means changing desires and priorities and that I should expect to reach plateaus where I would need to pick a new direction to go in. I've always followed my personal interests and hobbies since then; there seems to be a fairly broad line between nonproductive hedonism and goal-driven productivity where there's plenty of room for personal satisfaction without risking an identity/purpose loss when big goals significantly drop in priority.

Working on a particular goal to exclusion of all else sounds like quite a shock when that's no longer a driving priority.

nice_byte3• 2 years ago

you went to work for "doge"? Man don't take it the wrong way but you really are cringe.

moneycantbuy• 2 years ago

insufferable and now our tax dollars are paying for him to cut government services via DOGE.

codingbot3000• 2 years ago

I think people working for DOGE are unpaid so far, don't they?

nineteen999• 2 years ago

Boo hoo.

Mystery-Machine• 2 years ago

If your problem is that you're rich and have no idea what to do, why not just spice it up and give away _all_ of your money, with no way back? That's too difficult? Well, try it. If you're lost and can't figure out any other option...increase difficulty level in this game and start again. Good luck!

Animats5• 2 years ago

Been there, done that.

General comments:

- Most people who make a lot of money all at once blow it within seven years. Check out what happens to lottery winners, jocks, and rappers. As a rule of thumb, you can safely spend 4% of your net worth per year. Pay yourself some fixed amount each quarter.

- You don't have to get into complex investments. Half in some bond funds, half in some diversified stock funds will work out OK.

- Any investment where they call you is probably not very good.

Useful reading, although dated: "The Challenges of Wealth", by Domini et. al.

What to do with your life? No idea. What are you good at?

- I was a visiting scholar at Stanford for a while. But it was the "AI Winter" and not much was happening. Did robotics in the 1990s. Held patents on legged running on rough terrain, ragdoll physics. Ran a DARPA Grand Challenge team. Didn't really lead anywhere. Too early. Still programming. A metaverse client I'm writing in Rust is running on another screen.

- Horses have been good for me. Every day, I go out and spend time with a pushy alpha mare who keeps me in shape. "Riding is the only art which princes learn truly". Horses are not impressed by money. Neither are most riders.

- I've known a few ex-CEOs. One did a lot of reasonable little stuff but never did anything with much impact again. One founded a charity. Another was really into sailboats, and he just kept on with sailboats, crossing the Atlantic and such. He's lucky in having a wife who is also very into sailboats. One guy bought a nightclub, but it loses money year after year.

ip263• 2 years ago

One did a lot of reasonable little stuff but never did anything with much impact again

This always stymies me. If I were to make it big, I’d want to go on to do other very useful things. But so commonly that doesn’t happen. Is it because they lost the fire? Because they were really lucky exactly once? Or perhaps their talents were suited only to that one thing?

azinman2• 2 years ago

Skill, luck, timing.

Few people achieve something big. Even fewer can achieve another big thing. Even less can continue achieving.

Animats5• 2 years ago

That's always a good question. Were you smart, or were you lucky?

This is most often a problem with traders and investors who made a good bet. Less so with something that took a lot of effort to make work.

I know a married couple who blew through an amount in eight figures and had to get low level jobs. Lost their house.

rollo• 2 years ago

Personally I get immense enjoyment out of not doing anything useful, especially not on a big scale. So if I were to accidentally "make it big", I'd most likely not do it again and keep enjoying the small inconsequential things.

psanford• 2 years ago

Most people who make a lot of money all at once blow it within seven years

This is a commonly recited myth about lottery winners[1].

[1] https://www.forbes.com/sites/johnjennings/2023/08/29/debunki...

teractiveodular2• 2 years ago

There's a legendary Reddit comment that lays out the many, many other ways winning the lottery (or, more importantly, letting people know you won the lottery) is bad for you. Can you debunk its claims as well?

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/24vo34/comment/c...

lucianbr• 2 years ago

I am a little bit suspicious of Forbes saying "in fact, money does buy happiness". I fear they might have a little bias.

I expected something like a Snopes link. Ah well.

callmeal2• 2 years ago

Haha I read the article - not surprisingly they pick lottery winners in countries that provide anonymity to winners (unlike the US where you will have a target painted on your back).

2019 by researchers at the University of Warwick and the University of Zurich, used a considerable dataset — fifteen years of the “German Socio-Economic Panel” (or SOEP). The SOEP has been surveying 15,000 German households since 1984.
The second study, from 2020 by researchers from Stockholm University, Stockholm School of Economics, and New York University, surveyed 3,000 Swedish lottery winners

See this comprehensive list:

https://old.reddit.com/r/LotteryLaws/comments/v78hhy/anonymi...

EuroJackpot Countries (Croatia, Czechia, Denmark, Estonia, Finland, Germany, Hungary, Iceland, Italy, Latvia, Lithuania, Netherlands*, Norway, Poland, Slovakia, Slovenia, Spain, and Sweden): 100% Anonymous if requested by the winner.

Compare it to:

California: Not Anonymous/Only individuals can claim. “ The name and location of the retailer who sold you the winning ticket, the date you won and the amount of your winnings are also matters of public record and are subject to disclosure. You can form a trust prior to claiming your prize, but our regulations do not allow a trust to claim a prize. Understand that your name is still public and reportable”.

teractiveodular2• 2 years ago

Assuming the "one guy [who] bought a nightclub" in question is jwz of Netscape fame, his blog is a trip:

https://refhide.com/?https://www.jwz.org/blog/

(routing through refhide because otherwise you'll get a testicle in an egg cup; jwz is a principled man of strong opinions and one of many things he loathes is HN)

__alexander• 2 years ago

“The Simple Path to Wealth”might be another book recommendation on the wealth and investment topic.

dcrazy• 2 years ago

One guy bought a nightclub, but it loses money year after year.

As far as I know, jwz was never a CEO, but he did the same thing.

jandrese2• 2 years ago

If you were rich enough then having the new business lose money isn't that big of a problem, so long as it's not driving you to ruin.

"Sure it costs me a few hundred every month to keep the lights on, but it makes me happy."

Honestly, I wish more rich people did stuff like this instead of obsessing over making more money on the stock market or speculating on homes or whatnot. Learn to say enough is enough and switch to adding back to the world instead of leeching off of it.

Tepix4• 2 years ago

Blue water sailing is pretty great (for some), give it a try.

dahart2• 2 years ago

Check out what happens to lottery winners

I have looked into this and found out that lottery winners are fine, that the viral meme about two thirds of them going bankrupt is not true.

https://www.nefe.org/news/2018/01/research-statistic-on-fina...

Most of the claims about lottery winners going bankrupt are uncited and unsourced. A few claims I was able to find pointed at this paper: https://eml.berkeley.edu/~cle/laborlunch/hoekstra.pdf

This paper shows people winning less than $150k having bankruptcy rates drop for the first 2 years, and then return to normal 3-5 years later. Like, duh, a small amount of money will run out. This paper has been widely and wildly mis-quoted as bankruptcy rates going up after a few years, but everyone seems to leave out the part where bankruptcy rates went down first.

The percent of people in this study who had declared bankruptcy after 5 years was slightly over 5%, which is the same bankruptcy rate as the study cohort had 2 years before winning money. 95% of lottery winners did not go bankrupt, and no multi-million dollar jackpot winners are involved in this study.

HeartStrings2• 2 years ago

Why aren’t you suggesting angel investing?

Animats5• 2 years ago

Because most startups fail. Venture capital is a bulk business. Look at how YC works.

toast02• 2 years ago

As a way to rid yourself of excess funds, it probably works? Likely more effective than a sailing habit, unless you get into racing.

But there's no need for it in your investment portfolio. Pick a mixture between 20/80 and 80/20 stocks/bonds, buy index funds and you're good. Easy and scalable... This works for normal money too, but you probably want a meaningful amount of cash and you may want to more carefully choose your stock/bond ratio. Maybe if you've got tens of billions you might need something else, but it'll probably work for that too.

moffkalast• 2 years ago

They say a sailboat is a hole in the water you throw money into, so having too much of it and not knowing what to do with it does indeed sound like a match made in heaven.

ivraatiems• 2 years ago

Here's what I don't understand: Vinay, if what you loved so much was the journey, why would you sell the company?

Loom was your life, clearly. It meant a huge amount to you. You cared about it and the work you did there, so you... sold it to a giant multibillion dollar corporation and let them absorb everything special about it so they could make another buck.

Was there just no way to continue on without being acquired? If there wasn't, then what was the value in what you were building? Did you just luck into a fortune?

I am one of those people who thinks capitalism is largely worthless as a personal ideology (though not as an economic system). I think that because, as the author of this post has discovered, money is inherently worthless. Success means something, but money doesn't. Loom could have been a going concern. So many companies could have been. They didn't need infinite growth. They needed to do a good job to help their customers and make the world better by doing so.

Nobody seems to understand or care about that anymore.

If I were in your position, Vinay, I would quit my own retirement. I would give away as much of my money as I could, leaving only just enough to act as a safety net if I failed or had a true emergency. I'd put that money into some form of trust where it was difficult enough for me to access that I had to live within some limited means. Then I'd start another company, and, if it succeeded, keep it. No more acquisitions.

There's no point in money except what it buys you, but you already had what you wanted. You made a mistake and lost it. You'll have to start over to get it back.

(I also personally don't love AI and don't want more companies doing AI, but I am trying to focus on the point of this post, not an ex post facto discussion of Loom itself.)

Aeolun17• 2 years ago

Well, if you are going to study physics somewhere, Hawaii seems like a great place to do it. It seems like a great place to do many things really. Hope new year's eve was just as fun for you as for me :)

upghost2• 2 years ago

Buy a boat. Preferably a sailboat. Your money problems and depression will quickly solve themselves. Ask Ishmael[1] about it.

[1] https://www.gutenberg.org/files/2701/2701-h/2701-h.htm#link2...

intull• 2 years ago

I think OP's title itself answers the question — they're wealthy, and most if not all things that he could really want in the world is a transaction away. "Constraints" are key to finding purpose and direction. There can be a right/optimal set of constraints, but when there seems to be none, any is better. Constraints forbid us from being able to have something in life (things or experiences) that we also want. When we can satisfy any want, it doesn't feel like the wants matter anymore. The very reason the want existed in the first place was because it was not something that was possible at the time.

I'd advise OP to strategize smartly, given they have enough money to last a simple and full life, save, invest, donate, and keep the transactions small; ie. not investing or donating all or a majority of wealth into one thing, instead of a little bit here and a little bit there, every now and then, gradually and slowly.

Taking it slower itself is a form of constraint. And together with keeping relationships and connections, minimizing the noise in life, and making it simpler towards enjoying the truer pleasures of their life, they can grow richer and live more luxuriously, not just in terms of wealth, but also in a safer, more secure and a cozier human experience.

rramadass3• 2 years ago

Well said.

"Constraints" are key to finding purpose and direction.

I would modify this as "externally imposed constraints w.r.t. socially validated goals". I had come to this conclusion long ago based on my study of philosophy and my own life situation. I had to give up a software career to become a caregiver; my needs and wants being few and frugal with no dependents i found myself in a situation where i had a place stay, clothes to wear and enough food to eat and no "goal" in life i.e. freedom. That was when i realized that every goal had been imposed from outside and i had simply followed a socially validated path taking it as my own. Breaking out of this cycle means you are suddenly in a situation where you have to define your own goal from a large options menu with no constraints pushing you one way or another. This is when a feeling of "emptiness" dawns on you i.e. everything feels unnecessary/empty/worthless without social validation. Note that it has nothing to do with the amount of wealth you have but having enough for oneself based on how you choose to live.

The Financial Independence, Retire Early (FIRE) movement is very relevant here - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/FIRE_movement

dehrmann• 2 years ago

I'm confused. He discovered robotics is hard/boring/silly/whatever--that makes sense. Now he moved to Hawaii to study physics (over mechanical engineering) so he can build physical things. It seems like he's relearning the robotics mistake.

He also had a moment where he realized how he wanted to look (or be seen) like Elon, and how that's so cringe. Then he goes and works for Elon on the "extremely important" mission of DOGE.

It sounds like what he really wants is a mission where he's learning.

taway18743• 2 years ago

The author has two choices: 1. Learn to enjoy the freedom gained from his wealth and not work another day. 2. Give away ALL of it to charity and start over again so he can prove to himself and the world that it wasn't luck that made him wealthy.

Rest is all noise.

randomcatuser• 2 years ago

So I put this into my (WIP) AI writing app, and these were its thoughts on seeing the first paragraph:

{ "reflections": [ { "text_snippet": "Life has been a haze this last year. After selling my company...", "response": "This reminds me of Joseph Campbell's concept of 'hitting the wasteland' - that disorienting period after achieving what society told you was the ultimate goal. Campbell wrote about this in 'The Hero with a Thousand Faces,' describing how many mythological heroes face their greatest crisis not in battle, but in the emptiness that follows victory. There's a beautiful quote from his lectures: 'If you can see your path laid out in front of you step by step, you know it's not your path. Your own path you make with every step you take.'" }, { "text_snippet": "Everything feels like a side quest, but not in an inspiring way", "response": "This evokes Viktor Frankl's concept of the 'existential vacuum' - the state of emptiness that comes when our primary drive is satisfied but we haven't yet found what he calls our 'will to meaning.' You might find resonance in his lesser-known work 'The Unheard Cry for Meaning' where he writes: 'What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for a worthwhile goal.'" }, { "text_snippet": "I have infinite freedom, yet I don't know what to do with it", "response": "This reminds me of Kierkegaard's meditation on anxiety and freedom. He saw anxiety not as fear of external threats, but as the dizzying awareness of infinite possibility. In 'The Concept of Anxiety,' he describes it as 'the dizziness of freedom, which emerges when the spirit wants to posit the synthesis and freedom looks down into its own possibility.'" } ], "questions": [ { "personal": "What did you imagine freedom would feel like before you achieved this level of it?", "philosophical": "When you say things feel like 'side quests,' I'm curious - what would a 'main quest' feel like to you now?" } ], "closing_thought": "Your situation reminds me of Hermann Hesse's Siddhartha after he became a wealthy merchant. He had everything, yet felt a profound emptiness that eventually led him to his true path. Sometimes the void itself becomes the doorway to something deeper." }

---

Really cool to read the comments in this thread & see the real-life advice of people who have been in these situations too!

oglop• 2 years ago

If you want to see how shallow and utterly stupid anyone in tech is that has money, read this post. It is golden. I was doubled over laughing at the DOGE part. What a chud. And they say the rich know how to use capital. No, they don’t. They’re just like you and me and it’s mostly just to get their rocks off. Typical HN trash.

fishcakes• 2 years ago

Strongly recommend tiger21 - which is an amazing community of people dealing with the positives and negatives of wealth. I have found it immensely helpful.

Message me if you are interested.

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giancarlostoro2• 2 years ago

Personally if I were in those shoes, I would focus on contributing directly to open source projects, both directly by volunteering, and financially. Its worthwhile work that has major impact, and you don't need to work 24/7 if you don't want to.

VyseofArcadia• 2 years ago

I'll take the money. I've got a bajillion things I want to work on and not enough time because I have to spend 40 hours a week at my day job. Give me enough money to live on passive income, and I will just work on self-directed interesting things.

I mean I will also probably spend about the first three months just catching up on video games, but after that I have a couple of mpd plugins I've been meaning to write, and that's just for starters.

SavageBeast• 2 years ago

If you're feeling too rich you don't need to cure it by donating all your money etc. Simply buy a jet and make fancy friends. Soon you wont be rich anymore, your existential dilemma will vanish and you can get back to working.

whamlastxmas• 2 years ago

I don’t believe in giving advice, I don’t assume to know what’s best for you. I’m not rich and have had a mediocre developer career but I have found contentment and fulfillment in personal development. I have learned to be an unconditionally kind and loving person to everyone, even the most difficult of people, and to me this is a forever challenging and fulfilling role to play that also provides me a sense of identity. I value developing relationships with humans. I like hearing their stories and getting to know them and learning to be mutually vulnerable in loving, kind ways. I think all we really have is each other, and I think a lot of people would find this to be a really fulfilling way to live their lives.

wruza2• 2 years ago

Of course it’s therapy. He should find a good non-rich CBT therapist (just for the sake of not falling prey of rich-man-wive’s leeches type) and start asking questions on why he’s not at ease with the success. Something sabotages it, and that something may be some a random (now obsolete) belief/mode he picked growing up. Uproot obsolete beliefs, these are drivers, not goals. This is absolutely manageable, especially with so much time on your hands and relatively limitless possibilities.

I don’t think that community/society advices itt are on point, because the author doesn’t express particular interest in socio things. Giving something up to feel good is not a bad thing, but it’s not a complete-able thing either. It’s still symptomatic despite being generally positive.

throwaway3141553• 2 years ago

just for the sake of not falling prey of rich-man-wive’s leeches type

pardon?

wruza2• 2 years ago

Some therapists work as a cry napkin without even trying to solve or detect any underlying problem.

KPGv22• 2 years ago

NPC coworkers

I suppose "the author can go fuck himself" is a frowned-upon response on Hacker News

Like what an incredibly egocentric, condescending, deplorable way to talk about other human beings with their own rich inner lives, desires, needs, relationships, etc.

"No, they're just pre-programmed, unthinking bots following basic algorithms."

sixstringtheory• 2 years ago

I’ve long been of the opinion that you can’t love others until you love yourself. Between the NPC comment and breaking up with his girlfriend, I’d say he has a long way to go, if he ever gets there at all. Hope he does.

crnkofe• 2 years ago

Hard to stomach but you can't deny honesty. I wouldn't be surprised that more business high brass people think that way about the workers but are smart enough not to be open about it.

Otherwise the guy doesn't seem to be having a crisis at all. The problem is he's been doing business for the past 10 years. Likely put in a lot more hours than needed. Now business is all he knows and catching up to doing something more meaningful is hard.

kk6mrp• 2 years ago

How about, "through loving others, you find a reason to love yourself?"

arkensaw3• 2 years ago

It reminds me of the Sheeple comic from xkcd. It's common for people to fall into the mental pattern of thinking everyone else is a mindless drone.

Our brains are not evolved for the scale of human civilisation. The mind rebels trying to accept that 8 billion people have as much going on (or more) than you do.

"NPC coworkers" is a provocative way of phrasing it, but yesterday I saw another HN commenter say "We all know that society is propped up by people going to work and doing nothing much of value". This is mostly the same mindset.

KPGv22• 2 years ago

I disagree completely with the implication of last paragraph. For one thing, if an employee has only busywork to do, that is the fault of the elites running the company, not the employee.

To jump from "managers don't know how to allocate tasks" to "the employee being managed is an unthinking, fungible automaton" is enormous.

The disdain of this shithead toward coworkers is misplaced. He accuses his coworkers who are being mismanaged of being NPCs when it's more apt to accuse the managers of being bad "game designers," to carry the analogy further.

It's also a weird analogy to make in 2025, when co-op games exist. What mental deficiency, what arrogance must you suffer from to analogize coworkers to pre-programmed non-humans when actual humans play the games with you these days?

Edit: His entire line of thinking reminds me so much of the stupid geeks in high school who looked at athletically-gifted classmates and said "they aren't deep like I am." Give me a break. The shallow ones are the ones incapable of identifying the spark of the divine in people different from themselves.

Biganon• 2 years ago

Thank you for writing this. Not gonna cry for this guy, he clearly appears to be a POS who happened to sell a screen recording software company at an obscene price.

Same with Musk, same with Zuckerberg, these entitled twats then use their money to try and convince the world that they are enlightened prophets, all while contributing nothing to the happiness and beauty of the world.

GaylordTuring7• 2 years ago

Musk has contributed towards a more sustainable future with electric cars, fueled the dream of being an interplanetary species with reusable rockets, and defended free speech in the western world via Twitter.

averageRoyalty2• 2 years ago

There's a lot of anger at this choice in wording here, but it seems very clear to me his mindset. He lacks empathy. There's a scale from sociopath to "I need to sit on all the cushions in my house an equal amount of time so they don't get sad", and it's clear he's further to one end.

If you can't empathise with someone and understand (to some extent) their world view, it would be very easy to see them as alien, programmed NPCs. Not everyone can easily train their empathy muscle.

chrisstu4• 2 years ago

Thankyou. It's a relief to know that other people share my opinion after reading this appalling article.

The author is too dumb to even effectively disguise the extent to which he is just showing off throughout the article.

I suppose the fact that Musk is his idol sums it up.

yowayb• 2 years ago

I'm not rich but after my first exit I went crazy investing in friends' ideas (including over-decorating my tiny SF apartment) and I actually came out a little ahead but I never bothered the failures because I was never expecting a return. It was super fun and I highly recommend it especially if you're rich.

paxys4• 2 years ago

The author knows exactly what he wants to do. He wants to be Elon Musk. Sadly despite his successful exit he is still many orders of magnitude away from that level of wealth and power. I hope he can find satisfaction in lesser causes, otherwise he is going to live an unhappy life.

psyclobe• 2 years ago

You can pay off all my debts if you’re bored ;)

semireg• 2 years ago

I spent my 30s in a VLCOL (very low cost of living) city. I’m now in my 40s and each year my sentimental feelings somehow keep growing. The small things in life: a local art museum, the local YMCA and its pickleball playing seniors, sauna, inline skating around lake paths, road cycling, local coffee roasters, a small upstart Italian restaurant, and of course my young kids. I’m absolutely in love with these things in a way that isn’t directly coming from them or a product or service… it’s coming from within me. Deep satisfaction. Not necessarily happiness. Somehow, these things define me in ways my business never can/could. I’m a participant in my community and it feels SO GOOD. I could optimize for something else … something “out there” but then what?

https://bemorewithless.com/the-story-of-the-mexican-fisherma...

iandanforth• 2 years ago

Good lord. I don't care if Silicon Valley was wrapped up in 2019. They need to make another episode which is nothing but a reenactment of this blog post.

teucris• 2 years ago

There are so many incredible ideas, projects, inventions, songs, books, movies, video games, etc. that will never see the light of day because the brilliant person or team who could make it can’t afford to stop working for long enough to create them. Find things that excite you and help them become a reality.

stego-tech• 2 years ago

The unspoken and oft-forgotten part of the "immense wealth" agreement is that, unshackled from the need to work to survive in perpetuity, you are also free to give yourself and your time to causes who otherwise would never afford to pay for your skills. My plan - should I ever reach that level of unfathomable wealth, as statistically unlikely as it is even for my privileged upbringing - is to eventually divide my time between IT work for the local school system/town government and running a small, tech-focused community center (think LAN center + board game tables + maker lab) out of my own pocket; the former for the benefits more than the salary (healthcare is expensive), the latter to give the local youth a place to hang out that doesn't require continuous outflows of money or a credit card.

So my advice to anyone, really, is to always consider what you'd do with your life if money were no longer the chief concern of it, and to find more ways of incorporating that into your life until and unless such a time arises. Whatever you do, though, should be in the interest of uplifting others rather than yourself (you won Capitalism by reaching this point, after all). That provides a fulfillment every human ultimately needs in some form.

lutusp• 2 years ago

We're all players in a game called evolution. This means we're biologically designed to cope with adversity, not success. The real contest in life is between closely matched organisms, each having only a small chance to survive.

Being a creature that's 1% more or less appropriate to its environment (not too smart or dull, not too strong or weak) is the actual game. Everything else is random noise. This means becoming spectacularly successful makes you irrelevant -- a spectator.

This can lead to artificial contests, between organisms that have already won the primary contest. So, after saying, "Wait, what now?", people invent make-believe goals -- climb mountains, make even more money, learn to cook a perfect omelette -- hoping to restore a sense of purpose.

In this non-contest, the least successful burn out, maybe even die prematurely. The most successful invent an imaginary, artificial goal that turns into a real advance. Transistors. Lasers. Antibiotics. Things that weren't really necessary until they appeared and, by existing, became their own reason to exist.

So ... done climbing mountains? Choose an important, unsolved problem and work on it. The problem list is long and deserving:

  Batteries.
  Cancer.
  Population.
  Late-stage capitalism.
  People who want to kill everyone who doesn't share their beliefs.

Not necessarily in that order.

tennisflyi3• 2 years ago

Shit. At the very least. Just travel. Via hostels or a PJ. Take pretty pictures. Make people smile or spark their imagination. Easy.

Can get rich but can suss this out. More common than not

50208• 2 years ago

Great example of tech bros getting way to much compensation for not much ... and also not knowing how to live a basic human life. I would like to see their wealth taxed to the hilt so they can go back to work and stfu.

arthurofbabylon• 2 years ago

The author thinks this is a novel or rare position (†) to be in, however it's actually fairly common and most people resolve it relatively easily by being with other people. The point is integration, not separation.

Those chasing prestige, and programmed to chase prestige from childhood, often do not know that prestige is a form of separation. They think that once their respect with their peers rises they will feel more connected, or more connected with better people. This is all wrong – connection is fostered by humility. (Hiking large, easy mountains might look impressive yet it is not an antidote to loneliness and isolation.) Prestige is like a drug: attaining it often makes a person hungrier for more. Prestige, at its best, is a tool to accomplish good things, and nothing more.

I suggest the author find hyper-local challenges with direct and obvious impact... maybe volunteering with the mentally ill, or cooking for large groups, or tutoring in math/physics. Of course these aren't prestigious, and I sadly doubt the author will be interested (and hope to be proven wrong).

A note regarding "purpose": I believe purpose is a misleading solution. Most of us can conjure purpose – the key is to close the feedback loop by acting on it in a way that draws one closer to community.

(† Footnote: The author may think their wealth is a distinctive quirk of their predicament; it is not. The defining characteristic is freedom and space, and a lot of people are in this position, regardless of net-worth. I hope the author looks beyond other rich people to find solutions.)

jasonhong• 2 years ago

I was in a somewhat similar position as the OP, having had a successful exit many years ago and trying to figure things out. I was lucky that I still had a faculty position at a top university, young kids, and a good family to help ground me and guide me.

My general take on things is this: money is one of the closest things we have to a superpower in this world. With enough money, you can build new things, make steps toward solving hard problems, and influence people and organizations to do things you want.

Given all this, what kind of world would you want to live in? And with your newfound superpower, what kind of steps can you take that might get us closer to that world?

Now, of course, this path is fraught with many challenges and dangers (especially as evidenced by so many superpowered billionaires around the world that want us to live in an oligarchy, but that's a rant for another day). Instead, I'll end by sharing a few things that have helped shape my thinking about how I spend my time and what kind of positive impact I want to make on the world:

- https://whorulesamerica.ucsc.edu/power/wealth.html

- John Rawls on the Veil of Ignorance and the original position https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Original_position

- Prof. Michael Sandel (Harvard) on Justice: What's the Right Thing to do? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kBdfcR-8hEY&list=PL30C13C91C...

- Prof. Robert Reich's course on Wealth and Poverty (former US Sec of Labor) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1f2blKai7HA&list=PLOLArO56vj...

There's also an interview with a sci-fi author (Ted Chiang I believe, but I can't find it to confirm), that also posed an interesting question: what is your ideal world, and what steps are you taking to help us get closer to that world? For me, it's Star Trek, not the space exploration part (though that's cool), but the idea that Earth has become a planet where things like war, poverty, hunger, racism, and xenophobia are things in the far past, and every person can achieve their full potential. I know cynics will scoff, but that's a world I'd like to live in, and one I'm trying to use my superpowers to get to.

aor215• 2 years ago

I don’t think anything will help the author as much as giving a bunch of money away. I grew up in a community where I met good number of very rich people with inherited wealth and every one of them is depressed or has some other issue—hypochondria, feelings of inadequacy, or some strange striving for significance through conspicuous consumption which is, of course, ultimately unfulfilling, etc. The root cause in all these cases, in my view, is the money. Just give it away and face the fear of engaging with the world again.

crakhamster01• 2 years ago

I can definitely sympathize with this guy. I imagine selling your company, coming into immense wealth, and losing your identity of ~10 years can really mess up an individual.

But at the same time... this seems rich coming from the dude who co-founded Loom. Calling his ex-coworkers NPCs and believing he's qualified to streamline the US government - all because he built a glorified screen recorder? Have some humility LOL.

not_a_bot_4sho• 2 years ago

After repeatedly mentioning talking/recruiting the "smartest people" around DOGE, that was enough to know this person's opinion isn't very important. Or more to the point, it's not an honest objective take.

Sort of like a TV or movie award show, with everyone praising everyone else's "genius".

Reads more like in-group flattery to establish position within the group.

But what do I know, I'm not tres commas rich.

sangnoir7• 2 years ago

Despite his best channeling of Russ Hanneman, he is one comma short of the tres comma club. Maybe his new passion in life will be getting his net worth to a billion dollars.

maxehmookau• 2 years ago

Calling his ex-coworkers NPCs and believing he's qualified to streamline the US government - all because he built a glorified screen recorder? Have some humility LOL.

This is basically Elon Musk's MO. Except it was shiny cars and not a screen recorder.

fblp• 2 years ago

There are 739 comments in this thread and only one of them mentions emotion. That comment is suggesting the appropiate emotion is gratitude.

I'd go further and suggest you take your time and resources to learn about your emotional state and regulate your emotions so you can help others do the same. Find what you want to be a student of from that calm, content emotional state and with less attachment on how to live your life you will likely find more clarity.

holoduke• 2 years ago

Same situation but 10 years ago. My advice would be to put all your money in stocks and live just like you always did. Find a normal job. Buy a normal house and car. Its great to never ever think about money. Live moderate. Don't show off. You stocks income will be roughly 2.5m a year btw.

aptsurdist• 2 years ago

Just one idea for making a positive impact while meeting amazing communities of folks: Invest in early stage climate startups (and not just software ones). They’re struggling and they’re building stuff that we’ll desperately need to survive.

mgh2• 2 years ago

Reference: his cofounder https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2FbCdBFnZbM

seunosewa• 2 years ago

He should spend more time with his family since he already left his partner.

SubiculumCode• 2 years ago

The best thing that ever could happen to Elon Musk is for him to start over with just 200k in the bank, and no assets other than a modest house.

Stay hungry my friend.

foobarbecue• 2 years ago

It's "rappel," not "repel."

lxe• 2 years ago

This reads like a bit from Silicon Valley the TV series... is this parody?

RGamma2• 2 years ago

This past decade I repeatedly found reality to be its own parody. Even the South Park authors admitted to it in 2017 (!).

The Donald Trump administration is too difficult to satirise because it is funny enough on its own, say Trey Parker and Matt Stone, the creators of South Park.
While the most recent series of their animated sitcom featured a character that clearly resembles Mr Trump, the pair made the decision to "back off" making fun of the latest US political events.
"It's tricky now because satire has become reality," Parker told 7.30.

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2017-02-02/donald-trump-too-hard...

Now this DOGE (hue hue) crap is yet again on a whole other level, but you get unnervingly used to madness. Only bona fide dadaism could still top it.

So yes, this is probably real.

noisy_boy• 2 years ago

I think if you are doing things just to keep yourself busy or self-focused stuff like learning a language or playing an instrument, you will eventually hit the wall of motivation created by lack of necessity when your financial needs are already met forever. Definitely do them to keep life interesting but don't expect that much from these activities (unless you are like crazy passionate about any of them, in which case, congratulations, you found your true purpose).

I believe you'll need to have goals that involve improving lives of those that most need it. Of course it is more complicated than just that - there will be disappointments, betrayal and all other stuff that comes with getting other people involved but the key is to do it based on purpose, with a calm head, clear goal and less on fumes of emotion to manage such pitfalls better. You can let that emotion out when you see the unprivileged child you mentored succeed - I would wager that that moment will outweigh practically any joy you could feel from solely self focused achievements.

RainyDayTmrw• 2 years ago

More than anything else, this just strikes me as tone-deaf. Doubly so given where we are with the economy and everything.

lawgimenez• 2 years ago

I'm not in the US or San Francisco, I totally don't get the purpose of this post. It's like dude's living in a bubble after all this time. Dude should travel to poorer countries (like where I'm from right now) and get some inspiration.

amrocha• 2 years ago

It’s very interesting to me that the author realizes he knows nothing about physics and robotics, but feels justified in talking about “saving the government” even though he also doesn’t understand economics.

This entire post is about having more money than you know what to do with. Very strange.

Pxtl4• 2 years ago

Do none of these people have any creativity at all? No artistic spark that wants to be brought out but never could because art isn't really a profitable career?

Like it's the same thing that boggles my mind with Elon. All that success and he seems to destroy it by making himself miserable begging for approval on Twitter.

joshcsimmons• 2 years ago

Absolutely childish.

I felt similar when I finished my PhD. It was the singular “thing” in my life to the exclusion of all others. Luckily I was 150k in debt so I didn’t have the luxury of acting like a buffoon for months.

Man if I was rich I’d donate half, invest half, and go back to stocking a small family owned grocery store like when I was in high school. I really enjoyed that job.

hnarayanan• 2 years ago

I didn’t have any debt and I attempted suicide. What an idiot move.

nevertoolate• 2 years ago

Hey,

You are talking about money. You are talking about girlfriend. You always think about possessing.

If you are fishing for some suggestions I’d first find a good personal trainer and fix the body. At the same time join a career change counseling group workshop.

Don’t let others do things for you. Walk everywhere, use a bicycle. Also cooking kills some time.

Good luck

reducesuffering• 2 years ago

There was a founder in a similar situation who sold their company (Tsheets to Intuit) for $300m as part of an acquisition and checked out after. Employees say he lost his purpose and became unmoored, with no grounded next steps for years. He ended up attempting to kill his wife and killed himself.

https://www.idahostatesman.com/news/local/crime/article27507...

aatd86• 2 years ago

Bro has all the spare time to try and build AGI. That's software with datq acquisition and stored procedures. I would do that.

whatever1• 2 years ago

Buy a social media outlet and waste your day and night there

lancewiggs• 2 years ago

If you want a challenge, there is one that exceeds and trumps all others - the climate crisis.

tills13• 2 years ago

guy sounds like he's the type of person to "not believe" in that

gloosx• 2 years ago

What's loom? This app for screen recording?? A terrible product, I personally hated every second of using it, yet my bosses were pissing rainbows and insisted on everyone using it. Congratz on taking a shitload of corporate money in your pocket for this. Truly impressive job! And I'm in a good way envy you.

There is an impression that money made you unhappy, or at least it made you realise something. But you must always remember that loosing everything is just as easy as hard it was to get. Feels like you're really chill and sophisticated guy, but you need to spend more time alone and eventually you'll think these things through

antman• 2 years ago

Using the correct words such as "gratitude" but pretty much missing the point. I no place do you mention you took help or how it affected your pre startup personal life.

If one doesn't have principles based on life meaning, optimizing metrics is a good way of calming down your urges but it the end it does not work. How can you tell it doesn't work? Simply because your feedback loop stops giving you the dopamine response you expect and you need to escalate just to calm down. Far away travels, dangerous actions, more expensive stuff even tried to get into an DOGE without even knowing what the problem with DOGE -smart- thinkers is because philosophy, political science or history apparently hasn't been your life's focus. You still consider it important, that it was a very intelligent group they allowed you in, without figuring out what was wrong with their whole premise. It would be apparent to a first year social sciences student, someone who has visited a Tesla factory o to someone from a country with a sizeable functioning government that has not been a victim of corporate capture for decades.

Money is important, but if I were I would beg my girlfriend back if it was a relationship of feelings, try to reconnect with some friends and family that were probably lost during this multi year grind, people you will be considering as boring because no dopamine. Ask then how they are doing, play with their kids see why they are not boring. Read some Gabor Mate and Irvin Yalom and have just one main goal: Being able after 2-3 years to lie down in the grass for a couple of hours,doing nothing, just looking at the stars, being calm without your nervous system randomly spiking and pushing you towards chaos. Talk to people who don't know you are rich, try to learn from them. Avoid extreme environments.

Currently you describe a nervous system that seems to be taking important decisions for meaningless actions which you then rationalize. Not admitting any mistakes, not failing since there were no goals in the first place other than grinding.

I know that, been there, done that, I am still there, I am not getting out anytime soon either. There are many people in that status, that is not special either.

fsckboy5• 2 years ago

I really want to hear the ex gf's side of the story

mylasttour• 2 years ago

It's unfortunate that this is a good cautionary tale for women who choose to play the "unconditionally loving wife" role for boyfriends.

evilotto• 2 years ago

Boo fucking hoo. Oh, pity me, I'm rich and sad. What ever will I do with all my money that will make me happy?

You don't need purpose, you need perspective.

Instead of benefiting the billionaire class by working with DOGE to tear down what little safety nets we do have, go volunteer to pack meals or drive a truck at your local food bank. https://www.sfmfoodbank.org/volunteer/

They'll be a lot less judgemental than I am.

richthrowaway• 2 years ago

So, I managed to get in the same situation last year too. Not as much $$$, but still in the 'no longer have to work' and 'my family will never be poor again' camp here.

Honestly, yeah, I feel you man. I'm a bit adrift. I had a bad childhood too. I largely defined myself through my work and effort. I saw other people (mostly older co-workers in my career) as NPCs. I majored in Physics, PHD in neuro. I might get it, I dunno.

But I have a family, and that changes things a lot for me. I have built in 'purpose' in my life that is orthogonal to my 'work life'. So, caveats there. Now, work life comes after kid-time, in terms of priority.

The things that I can say that are different is that I'm finding purpose through others. The way I see it: We're all just naked beach apes on a soggy rock flung through the void, telling stories to each other around the fire.

So, tell the stories that matter.

I.E. get to work trying to help other people. You have the fuck you money now, like me, it would be a shame to not say 'fuck you' a few times. To the people that really need it said to them. This is gonna sound really strange for HN, but, maybe start going to religious services. Generally, religion is there to comfort the afflicted and afflict the comfortable. That's maybe something you sound like you need. Shop around for churches/mosques/etc. Unitarian Universalist is the 'church' for atheists, pretty old too, not a 'new' thing. It's good to get into a community that does a lot of volunteer work, FYI.

You said you found an iota of purpose with the DOGE thingy. Maybe try breaking that down a bit for yourself, explore why those feeling came up. You're a go-getter, ready and willing to work hard. It does sound like some sort of public service (define that as broadly as you can) would be good for you, and for all of us.

Still, we're both 'babies' at being rich. It's gonna take some time, maybe longer than we have left, to figure that out for ourselves.

One real thing though: Get your GF back, fast. Grovel. You'll find nothing but gold-diggers now, it's just a fact, I'm so sorry about it. She was there before you were rich (I think I read that right?), you know she's in it for you, not the cash. From what you said, she doesn't mind the hours you work. Or just you in general. That's a tremendous gift. If you want the kids, she's the best path you got for a family you're not paranoid about. Really. Marriage is a market, and you're hot property now, be very careful. Honestly, if you can get her back, fuck that pre-nup shit too. Jump in with both feet, never leave, tie yourself up, make it really hard to go. Your future self will hate you, but that guy's future self will love you.

Best of luck man. Take the time, forgive yourself for dumb shit as you get used to it. Get back to work and say fuck you a bit more for the right reasons. You sound like a chill dude who is trying hard. Keep that vibe.

etc-hosts3• 2 years ago

have you tried deep sea exploration in an experimental vessel?

diimdeep• 2 years ago

That is how famous mythical genius from the woods with a background in physics was born, with the swiftness of a single blog post.

billionaires want you to know they could have done physics https://youtu.be/GmJI6qIqURA?t=1271

cynicalsecurity• 2 years ago

He looks like a perfect victim for a cult. I can't help him though.

godelmachine2• 2 years ago

Just an essay in ego-bashing and showing off. While I don’t deny the author is self-made, highly successful for his age and ultra-rich, this essay is just an attempt to stroke his ego.

It’s evident in the paragraph below where he said he’s leaving DOGE to “save our government”. The writer lacks clarity and coherence of thought. How exactly is he saving the government after his DOGE stint?

>So, after 4 intense and intoxicating weeks, I called off my plans to move to DC and embark on a journey to save our government with some of the smartest people I’ve ever met. And I booked a 1-way ticket to Hawaii.

Studying physics in the jungle, focusing on my insecurities

So now I’m in Hawaii. I’m learning physics. Why? The reason I tell myself is to build up my first principles foundation so I can start a company that manufactures real world things. It seems plausible, but I’m learning to just accept that I am happy learning physics. That’s the goal in and of itself.

HaZeust3• 2 years ago

Have you ever written anything as introspective as this post, particularly about your own personal shortcomings in a public forum? He seems to still have ego in some sectors of life - as don't we all - but most of the blog was incredibly reflective and self-critical. Can you say you've endeavored to do the same?

godelmachine2• 2 years ago

Yes, many a times.

psb2173• 2 years ago

How is any of this introspective, reflective, or self-critical? The author was a caricature of silicon valley tech bro-ness throughout, followed by a final return to form by deciding to "study physics" in order to start another company and sound smart at VC parties. He ended where he started, and managed to produce a carbon copy blog post about how great fortune doesn't solve all problems somewhere along the way. The only thing missing was spiritual enlightenment and self-discovery through some combination of drugs or a trip to burning man.

brap5• 2 years ago

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lnsru• 2 years ago

I am curious how it was to work under his rule. I don’t feel any harmony. No harmony combined with wealth does not guarantee bright happy future.

bazmattaz2• 2 years ago

I honestly don’t understand how Loom sold for so much. It was just screen recording. What was different about it?

dang5• 2 years ago

Please don't post personal attacks to HN. That's not allowed here.

Also, please note that this is in the site guidelines:

"Please don't post shallow dismissals, especially of other people's work. A good critical comment teaches us something."

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

vortegne• 2 years ago

I think you misread it, he called off his plans to save the government.

(not defending him, guy is delusional and a douche)

romanobro56• 2 years ago

Here’s a take I haven’t read yet: I have no sympathy to offer you.

Living organisms probably started as some self replicating RNA. Already a beautiful, complex creation of our Mother Earth. After eons of constant struggle for survival and resources, miraculously the consciousness emerged. Our kind, of millions of distinct species is the sole avatar able to perceive just about every aspect our planet has to offer AND reflect on them and our own existence. Tens of thousands of years of more struggle, each generation of our kin building on the teachings of generations past; from existing as specks roaming the face of the earth at the mercy of Mother Nature, to organizing as civilizations, and finally building robust systems that supply billions of people with necessities, give a voice to the people and escape serfdom and slavery (a process that’s still ongoing). A quirk of our capitalist system is that it __allows for__ and __benefits from__ individuals like yourself who can work extraordinarily hard to create lots of value. And naturally, you are rewarded with the profound ability to DO ANYTHING YOU WANT, HAVE ANYTHING YOU WANT, GO ANYWHERE YOU WANT (of the external aspects of your life). You have conquered all of existence.

You like climbing mountains. Imagine Everest but 1000 times higher. Imagine every living thing ever blindly climbing up with all their might, and their offspring spawns from their corpse when they die. Some fall. What you did was make it to the very PEAK of this impossibly, unimaginably large mountain of existence. You look out and you see nothing (because it’s so large, of course). Please, it’s okay to be confused. Don’t be scared. Take your time. You earned it. Don’t be upset that there’s nothing above for you to keep climbing. You have some options. Lay at the top forever (boring, lonely). Or, try to bring a few people up with you. Or, make it your mission to help as many people scale higher as possible. But what I think you might need, is to come back down - give up what you have or detach your self from the idea of being at the top. Much love brother, I think you are pretty cool. I would love to chat if you are down, I’ll send you an email.

dyncheng3109• 2 years ago

Here's an idea!

The biggest challenge I see - the economy is about to be transformed dramatically. AI systems may replace much or all of cognitive labor, and soon afterwards manual labor via robotics. Labor displacement, inequality, hupercapitalism, you name it.

We have no good theses on how to handle this transition, or the role of governments in making sure this goes well for people. We need economic policies and strategies to improve human outcomes post-transition.

If you don't care about money, I can't think of anything more impactful than this work. Ping me @ Convergence Analysis if it's of interest

brap5• 2 years ago

NPC coworkers

Imagine being a whole ass person living a whole ass life and getting called an NPC by someone who barely took the time to get to know you

nprateem• 2 years ago

Unfortunately can't retire yet but have had enough time off to know how boring having no purpose is.

But I'm working on it anyway.

The only thing I want is to know my future is secure, have enough passive income/savings to be able to meditate.

I've seen for myself that thoughts just throw you off balance, and it's possible to be deeply contented just with the present moment. But the last thing I wanted to do was run a business or do work in that state.

I want to get loaded so I can just slip back into that state of contentment, then teach it. That's all.

But pursing experiences isn't the way to get there. I can see why someone would write a post like this.

hyperific2• 2 years ago

Do something positive for the environment, like supporting the development of cheap sustainable plant-based packaging.

skirge• 2 years ago

My grandma has same problem when her only cow died. Now I understand why elderly women meditate.

mproud• 2 years ago

It sounds like the author is just trying to aimlessly find something to lose themself in, as if what they need to do has to be the most important thing ever done.

Maybe satisfaction comes to those who can make a difference with others more directly. Author should consider volunteer work, or working for a non-profit. Maybe just be a regular worker, and not the boss for a change. Learn to listen and be OK with following orders for once.

papaver2• 2 years ago

"Most ambitions are either achieved or abandoned; either way, they belong to the past. The future, instead of the ladder toward the goals of life, flattens out into a perpetual present. Money, status, all the vanities the preacher of Ecclesiastes described, hold so little interest: a chasing after wind, indeed." - Paul Kalanithi

thefz• 2 years ago

clears throat

fuck you.

light_triad2• 2 years ago

This is an interesting read. After years of conversations with folks in SV all over the socioeconomic ladder I've concluded they're 2 types of thinking:

- type 1 "employee thinking": focused on status, TC, consumption, vacation time, free time for hobbies

- type 2 "founder thinking": it's about how much value you create for other people

We (almost) all grow up and are formatted in type 1 - we look for a good "role" that brings wealth and status. The problem is when you have access to type 2 but are trapped in type 1, which seems to be the case here (the frame is about gaining money and status).

The funny thing is you can be incredibly rich, and a founder, and still think like an "employee" without ever being able to get out of it. Conversely you can be poor but think like a "founder" it's not so much about the money. In type 2, as you get richer, the scale of your impact grows and the value you can create gets bigger beyond your personal circumstances. Type 1 is not necessarily negative at all, but also can be a trap.

marhee2• 2 years ago

I believe one of the founders of Booking.com has had some similar experience (source: "De Machine", the book about Booking.com) and after 4 years of travelings & yoga etc. he sneaked back in into the company. Most of his coworkers do not know he's a founder. He's been fixing Perl bugs, writing scripts and coding some features at least for some years (maybe he's moved on already, don't know, the book is a couple of years old).

raybb• 2 years ago

Sounds like a great book. Did you happen to read it in English? Ask because my brief search for it shows at least one review saying it's a bad translation.

Link to more info for those interested:

https://openlibrary.org/books/OL57401616M/The_Machine

https://www.lebowskipublishers.nl/boek/2257/stijn-bronzwaer-...

marhee2• 2 years ago

I read it in Dutch.

rgovostes• 2 years ago

Maybe he’s just a sadist who wanted to return to implementing dark patterns to abuse his customer base into panic-booking hotels.

https://ro-che.info/articles/2017-09-17-booking-com-manipula...

brap5• 2 years ago

Sergey Brin, co-founder of Google, has recently rejoined the company as IC. 1:1s with his manager must be awkward.

ctenb• 2 years ago

What is IC?

Lionga6• 2 years ago

Did he pass the leetcode interview?

iancmceachern• 2 years ago

I can't imagine a world where I wouldn't know what to do.

There is diarrhea on my building, trash in the street, people needing medical help in the alley, and potholes in the street.

Just walk out your front door and start doing things.

My recent triumph was getting a building owner on my street to finally repair the hole in front of their building. Imagine what I could do with a backhoe.

Start small, think big. Help people who deserve it in real, honest (typically not through the computer) ways.

I'd much rather be less wealthy in that way to be rich in this way.

ediatedia• 2 years ago

The author seems to wear their support of capitalism "on their sleeve", so acting in their self-interest is endemic. At the risk of sounding bitter, I imagine these problems aren't trendy enough to solve yet, or maybe they just had something akin to blinkers on en route to their hike.

cjrp• 2 years ago

I always think if I won the lottery, I'd love to just make my local town awesome. Fund the schools, pay for parks, buy empty retail units and make them community spaces for artists. That sort of thing.

blipss2• 2 years ago

Author doesn't look like he cares much about other people. Dude left a job making 60 mil because of "NPCs and politics"... You could fund a school with that kind of many and still have enough to brag about your gaming setup

ryukoposting3• 2 years ago

Ah, but you don't understand! Those are NPC activities! You must join DOGE to have in impact!

I hope I'm never such a loser that I actually believe what I just wrote.

arolihas• 2 years ago

That would require him to care about his local community. Not a single one of these dudes give a shit about SF beyond how it can make them money.

dyauspitr• 2 years ago

I took about a year and a half off because I could afford it and I did so much and had such a good time I could do it forever. Freedom is wasted on this guy.

elliotto• 2 years ago

The classic rich guy to Himalayas pipeline. He went to the poorest country in Asia and was dragged up island peak and lobuche east by people making $1000/yr while he has $60m in his pocket and can't come up with anything worthwhile to do with his time or money beyond aspiring to be Elon. He can't even spell rappel correctly. What a coward

conradfr• 2 years ago

He actually did the "it's not you it's me" routine, I hear George Costanza invented it.

DiscourseFan3• 2 years ago

My dearest memories are with friends and lovers, I miss the former and can’t always have the latter; if I had all the money in the world I would use it to spend more time with the people I love and care about.

fomocosch• 2 years ago

I guess im not rich as you so you can give me some of your money, because then I'll be able to think what rich people do so I'll give you some ideas what you can do m8.

theyinwhy• 2 years ago

So he hired the best and brightest to advance Musk's fascist agenda. What could possibly go wrong?

999900000999• 2 years ago

What a great problem to have.

I missed my chance like an idiot, but I originally was going to take a long vacation with a modest 50k saved up. I figured that's at least 6 months in less expensive countries with 20k remaining when I come back.

Then I basically had the worst year ever.

How I wish I took that vacation.

But here's a startup comp idea. Pay a 25% sign on bonus, with the expectation that your not allowed to do any paid work for 6 months.

Travel , spend time with family, work on that play.

Then when you get back to Soul Crush Inc you can present new ideas.

But I'd also pay below market overall.

pluc• 2 years ago

"There's nothing at the top but a bucket and a mop and an illustrated book about birds."

marsten• 2 years ago

When I was at Google during the IPO I saw people with similar challenges. I can empathize with what he's going through, it can be hard to find a sense of purpose when "the need to provide" is suddenly gone and you realize that many of your life choices were made based on that goal.

I can also empathize with those who consider him a whiny brat. It's hard to get someone to care about your plight when in their eyes you've achieved success. It's just different levels on Maslow's hierarchy.

anon-3988• 2 years ago

The happiness state is not an absolute value, it is the derivative. It explains why even people in the most shittiest situation can be "happy". Otherwise, once you have your 5 basic needs you would become perfectly content.

We are not evolved to become happy, we evolve to strive to become happy. But this is a trick, there is not destination to this journey.

chasing• 2 years ago

This does add some validity to my belief that DOGE is full of wealthy mid-brains trying to convince one another they’re smart boys.

If you had tens of millions of dollars and wanted to help the world, there are a million legitimate paths. They might not be glamorous. You might not get to hang out with Elon. But you would actually make a huge difference.

unsigner• 2 years ago

Dude, you’re a bigwig at atlassian. Fix JIRA.

phtrivier• 2 years ago

How about "sharing your money back" ? Or "helping" other in any kind of way ? Focusing on something else than yourself ? You have immense freedom, but also incredible power given your wealth. Lots of things that would be hard choices for most people will be about pocket changes for you.

In the end, your life expectancy is finite. Add a couple of philosophy book to the physics regimen, find a cause where you money can be put to good use. And "live hapilly in the meantime".

Good luck !

wiseowise• 2 years ago

Why the hell does this crap have 940 comments, lmao? Why would anyone seriously spend any amount of time discussing this nonsensical crap of man-child?

jamieplex7• 2 years ago

Because you've just learned that THESE are the real people that are HN readers, and THIS is what is important to them. (sadly, IMO)

dxuh• 2 years ago

I may sound very arrogant and I am, but I am shocked how clueless one can be about themselves and what they want, while still being clearly very competent and intelligent.

When you have no job and "infinite" money (for most purposes) and you don't even know what you like doing, you should really spend some time just thinking. It's telling how the next arbitrary opportunity presents itself and the author is immediately 100% on it, possibly changing their entire life immediately after it. As someone that likely thought too much and did too little (I don't have millions), I think this is a case of someone that does too much and thinks too little.

Sitting on a beach and studying physics is probably good start, but it might be better to study nothing and just think about what you like and why you do things. And when you figured it out, keep sitting there a while more (weeks, months, I don't know).

It's a bit disappointing that we live in a system that rewards behavior like this so much and unfortunate for everyone that they often end up with power.

tgraf_80• 2 years ago

If the last sentence had been: Probably I will never figure that out. Then I would have said that you are on the right track.

submeta• 2 years ago

It’s sort of like the parent whose kids have finally left home or the person who hits retirement after decades of routine. You spend so long in a role that demands all your energy—raising children, clocking into work, scaling a startup—that once it’s gone, it feels disorienting. It’s not really about the money he made; it’s about losing the sense of urgency and purpose that kept him going. Now he’s stuck figuring out how to fill that void, which is something parents and retirees often deal with, too.

Professional athletes who retire face a similar void after years of training for a single goal; military personnel returning from deployment often grapple with the loss of a clear mission; newly graduated students or PhD candidates who’ve just defended their thesis can feel a void, too. It’s the same pattern: once your main structure or purpose vanishes, you have to figure out how to fill the space it leaves behind.

His story is not about money. Although many see that as the main info here, it’s not. It’s about losing identity, the main goal in life.

modeless• 2 years ago

I think it's strange that he rejected the idea of humanoid robots because it was "cringe" to copy Elon so instead he... studies physics with a goal of applying first principles thinking to manufacturing businesses? That's kind of Elon's whole thing.

To be clear I don't think any of it is cringeworthy at all. I just don't understand the reasoning there. Why not do humanoids, they're awesome, and Elon is hardly the only one who thinks so!

verzali• 2 years ago

...is this satire?

I honestly have a hard time believing anyone could survive doing what he says he did in the Himalayas without learning to spell "rappel" if it isn't.

roughly• 2 years ago

THERAPY.

THE THING YOU ARE LOOKING FOR IS THERAPY.

SAY IT WITH ME:

THER A PY.

Everything in this post is about how you keep tripping over your own bullshit and don’t know what you want. The only difference between you and everyone else having an existential crisis is you won the lottery before you ran out of ways to lie to yourself. The good news is you’ve apparently got enough money to pay for the help so many other people need but can’t get. Go find a therapist and figure out why you’re so goddamn miserable (emotionally, not as a person) and what stupid stories you’ve been telling yourself to make you that way so you can use all the wealth you’ve accumulated to do something fulfilling, instead of trying to cosplay as the most visibly miserable person on the planet.

numbasys• 2 years ago

For the author: Getting all that money without the life experience to build some values or ambitions for your impact on the world is proof enough that your fortune is just random luck. There are millions who have put more thought into life and had no financial reward for it. Give it to them, or get a life for yourself. Then you'll know what to do.

cmckn• 2 years ago

It’s a weird post. Part cry for help, part not-so-humble brag, and 100% not something any close friend, significant other, or therapist would recommend you hit send on. Feels a little strung-out, to be honest.

“Rich guy is bored, you’ll never believe what happens next”

sceptical2• 2 years ago

I retired four years ago just before hitting 50 years of age. There is no real purpose and never was. I got my degree, worked in a field I loved. I was good at it, learned and was successful. But there never was any real purpose except personal growth and being challenged in my field of expertise. I've seen CEOs come and go, engineers much smarter than me leave and poor replacements being hired. Nothing ever really changed. In the work setting nobody is truly important.

I don't know what Loom is and I don't really care. It was not spectacular. It doesn't matter. You succeeded. Now you can start on a new part of life. One where you do not have to prove your ability, you already did. So enjoy, you've earned it.

I am sitting in the cold, snowy Scandinavia. In a few days time I will be travelling to Spain. I cannot wait. When I leave the airport and walk into the sun and the heat, I will be grinning like a madman. After a week of hiking / running, exploring and drinking cold beers in sun I will return home and once I leave the airport I will sigh with relief, home sweet home. After a few days of chores at home I will start looking forward to the trip that is already booked for the next week.

Life is great.

lylo2• 2 years ago

This is living the dream. Congrats.

contrast• 2 years ago

Sounds like you have had purpose for your entire adult life? What am I missing when you say "there is no real purpose"? Does the word "purpose" have some great significance that you feel a life lived well does not deliver?

sceptical2• 2 years ago

What is a life lived well? It is very personal isn't it. There is no intended result or end goal. No greater meaning. I like my life but others may find it meaningless.

The poster asks "Why do I feel the need to only be on a journey if it’s grand?". Makes no sense to me. It is only grand in his head.

Sohcahtoa82• 2 years ago

There is no real purpose and never was.

Some people find this utterly depressing and nihilistic, but personally, I find it freeing.

The universe does not expect anything from you. That means you should do the most to simply enjoy life. Have fun and experience wonder. If you have the money to do whatever the hell you want, then do whatever the hell you want.

I already know what I'd do. I'd spend an entire summer on a massive road trip around the USA, visiting every major theme park. When winter hits, I'd go somewhere tropical and sip Mai Tais on the beach. Or travel to the north and drink a beer under the Northern Lights every night.

When free time becomes unlimited, I'd no longer feel like I need to min/max the usage of it.

Shit, just being able to go without an alarm clock for nearly every day of the year would bring immense happiness.

tennisflyi3• 2 years ago

I’m with you

randomopining2• 2 years ago

It's not that warm in Spain right now though. Maybe canary islands?

pcdoodle4• 2 years ago

Hell yeah dude. Have fun!

bariswheel• 2 years ago

Post-scarcity world will likely make these scenarios more common.

prettyblocks• 2 years ago

Post-scarcity world means that a large chunk of society has this kind of freedom, so there wouldn't be the same kind of isolation that goes along with currently being one of the few rich people.

sd9• 2 years ago

I find the tone jarring. The author is all over the place. It feels like the author is trying to brag with every quasi-unconventional activity they've taken. Hiking in the redwoods, climbing a 6800m mountain and joining DOGE are a trifecta of cliches.

It's sad that the author broke up with their girlfriend, who was likely the only source of reason in their situation.

Genuine, selfless, introspection might help find a path. Hiking in the redwoods doesn't automatically produce introspection.

satisfice• 2 years ago

I found myself burned out and with enough money from video game development at the age of 17 to “retire.”

I thought that having lots of time and quiet to read and write code and not worry about money would be wonderful. Instead, I fell into depression and isolation.

I need to feel that I’m helping people. I need to be part of a project. I need people who rely on me. That’s what I learned. That’s where life’s meaning comes from.

I met a girl and married her. She spent my money so I went back to work with new vigor and purpose. All that happened about 40 years ago. My first marriage ended amicably a few years later— and while briefly single again I once more felt depressed. I spun into more wild things. Eventually sold everything and was about to go trekking around the world when I met and married my current wife. That was 34 years ago.

I settle down again. No one is going to make a biopic of my life of not drinking, not doing drugs, and not having fights with my family. But I tell you, it looks boring from the outside— yet from the inside every day is full of contentment. Life is a struggle, because I am NOT rich, but it’s not an emotional struggle. I feel lucky.

Nothing beats reasonable health and a family that loves each other.

kvgr• 2 years ago

Dude is burned out, he needs to relax a bit and stop drinking coffee if he does, cause it is probably giving him overdrive to the tired mind. Stop and smell the roses for a bit is true in this case.

magic_smoke_ee• 2 years ago

First step. Get some therapy.

imaginationra• 2 years ago

If you get "fuck you money" before you've discovered true joy and happiness while being poor, you're fucked forever.

richiricho7• 2 years ago

Unsuccesful and rich, depressing to read this garbage tbh.

I have thousand of projects i would do yesterday with proper money.

Buying and renovating or buying my own house. Creating a park with different influences (japan, china, asia etc.). Doing a lot of arts and crafts and experimenting with things. Building my own workspace etc.

And when everything is settled, having space for friends and family to visit and use this too.

And after that, helping people around me.

I'm also lost why this person thinks being rich is boosting. I'm very happy with my relationship with my wife and it doesn't sound like he has anything to really boost about.

imetatroll• 2 years ago

It sounds like the primary issue is being rich. I'm pretty sure I can help you with that.

keeptrying• 2 years ago

Having money is as hard as not having it.

Having money is actually harder because there are no constraints to guide you.

Arnold is right - be useful

jbc1• 2 years ago

Humans are social animals.

Your tribe were the people you worked with at Loom. When you left your tribe became only your girlfriend. What are you going to do? Have perfect harmony with 100% of your tribe forever? Of course not. Of course you fought. Because on top of lover she now fulfils all sorts of roles including rival, competitor, and nemesis.

You need to pick a group, any group, and stick with it.

Jumping around both physically and vocationally is not only not going to help you, it's going to make integrating yourself in to a group way harder.

globular-toast2• 2 years ago

The author is a self-proclaimed "big fan of capitalism". Turns out capitalism doesn't provide a meaning in life. The author should put down the physics books and pick up some books on Stoicism instead. Learn what a good life really is. There are so many problems that people have that they need help with and of course you won't see any of that while studying physics in the jungle.

samhsmith• 2 years ago

THE FABLE OF THE LOOMER

Create context for understanding what this bible passage you all have heard before is actually about. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%2019%3A...

darkstar_16• 2 years ago

He needs therapy is what I'm hearing. And he doesn't know it.

nobrains• 2 years ago

I would recommend for him to visit a poor country and see how the people live and survive. He will find (I am assuming) find purpose. Maybe he will make his life mission to build and install water wells, or sponsor underprivileged kids education or something along those lines.

CrzyLngPwd• 2 years ago

Man sets goal to be rich Man achieves riches Man is lost

When your identity is defined by something external, you are sure to feel empty when it's taken away.

He'll no doubt soon be on a $10,000-a-day ayahuasca retreat to "find himself," and I sincerely hope he does.

anal_reactor• 2 years ago

I too want to have a say in a thread about wealth.

figassis• 2 years ago

Fund something not necessarily tech related and be part of it, not some remote benefactor. That is the point of capital. It could be a problem that needs solving, or just some community/culture/industry. Earth is immense and spherical. Look beyond the concept of borders.

khafra• 2 years ago

I had my doubts about Wentsworth's thesis that money cannot buy expertise; but this is certainly some evidence in favor: https://www.lesswrong.com/s/xEFeCwk3pdYdeG2rL/p/YABJKJ3v97k9...

fennecbutt• 2 years ago

Lmao nobody truly earns that much money, it's theft from the people, plain and simple.

Sure, DV me tech bros. You all create the foundation for all the MBAs and C levels to make 10x more than even you do, people who don't even understand the tech behind the product. Yet y'all think it's a great deal bc you're still richer than the "poors". Wealth inequality is going to eat the world very soon.

keybored4• 2 years ago

One thing he does is “trying to be Elon” in robotics. (But what impressive things has Elon or his underlings done in in robotics? Or just outside of Spacex?) Because the “world is going through a labor shortage”. So the save the world shtick here is to solve propaganda-problem (fake) of there being a labor shortage, in other words get rid of needing workers. I bet that will change the world for the better in this time of massive inequality.

Then he wants to work for the upcoming US government spearheaded by two billionaire robber barons, one of which made his fortunes by pump and dumping a worthless Alzheimer drug. The other one has a very suspect track record and is a very big government contractor (but for some reason we don’t call people like him oligarchs). “Government is dysfunctional”. So let’s, as billionaires (and financially independent multi-millionaires) take a sledgehammer to government and remake it how we want it to be. Oh boy. And attract all the “smartest” people to this project.[1]

I’m not afraid that some small number of financially independent, Scrooge McDuck ideologue techbros have the power to make the world significantly worse (although it is a bit concerning). I’m also not upset that they don’t plan to do something “philantphtropic” (i.e. main dish of ego-stroking and PR with a side-dish of actual good work). And I’m not upset that they don’t go into something hands-on with a direct positive impact on people’s lives (c.f. “solving the labor shortage”) by volunteering themselves.

I’m just upset that these ideologues just don’t spend their money on one or five yachts, a private plane, their friends/family/entourage, and leave the rest of the world the fuck alone.

[1] “All the brightest minds of my generation who venerate Musk and billionaire-world problems like “labor shortage” are going to work for robber barons in order to dismantle the US goverment...” wait maybe these people are not the brightest lightbulbs after all.

Maro• 2 years ago

Clearly this is a joke, and you're all missing the point! He decided to fill in the void left after HBO's Silicon Valley and take up startup stand-up comedy, and this essay is his entry into the space :)

bsenftner• 2 years ago

Pathetic. This is a failed education, producing classic "dumb money" that in a planet in dire straights with dire problems left and right, this clueless dope can't figure out how to keep himself satisfied. Boo hoo. If I were physically in the presence of this individual, verbal if not physical slaps to the face as I explain what their education failed: empathy and a sense of duty to others.

Down vote away!

jamieplex7• 2 years ago

I can't! I don't have enough 'cred'!! lol

antony_pond2• 2 years ago

Have you read the subtle art of not giving a fuck? - you are a perfect example of what happens when someone achieve their goal. They feel empty, with nothing to do. Sad And alone. https://markmanson.net/not-giving-a-fuck

Now you need to find yourself a new purpose. Only you can find it, maybe that can help: figure out that plants are the top of the food chain, and the more we treat them well... the most fun we have around them! Explore the spiritual world, help others who haven't been as lucky as you, be hurt, and heal again, that's life man.

*You could join me in a suicide/impossible mission to save the world, but i doubt you will - nobody is mad enough to follow me in this endeavour.

prmoustache3• 2 years ago

What this guy definitely needs is a bicycle.

jamieplex7• 2 years ago

lol!

blipss2• 2 years ago

This is why you have kids lmao

gadders• 2 years ago

I was getting ready to pile on, but then saw the dude boxes. Anyone who voluntarily risks getting punched in the face gets my respect.

Sadly I'm not of independent means like him, so I can't really relate but good luck to him. He's managed what most of us here dream of.

TBH, I'd say to him to reach out to other ex-founders and chat to them. They'll probably have the best perspective. Or become a partner at YC or something.

sebastianconcpt• 2 years ago

Very poor spiritual or philosophical foundation. Why not dedicate a year or two studying meaning itself from many diverse sources? Reminded me of a friend who told me once: Mount Everest is full of dead bodies of bored millionaires. But this case is totally innocent, continuing with DOGE would have been great tho. The dangers come when they start using networking and political power to play god and plan on eugenics or eco-communist kind of ideas/projects hallucinating they are "saving the world" as ants hallucinating the jungle needs them.

georgeplusplus• 2 years ago

Great post this helps me reflect with my own insecurities about freedom vs agency. I think what you’re experiencing is very human. Finding meaning in life is in fact the most human thing I can think of. The answer is not clear but the beauty in the answer is it’s very open ended.

Thank you to the author. I hope you find what you’re looking for.

geminews• 2 years ago

Read through most of these comments unsatisfied myself. Sad to see people be mean.

In my humble opinion, some spirituality gives one true purpose beyond this limited and at times unfulfilling material realm. It will provide compassion and gratitude for all beings. Buddha too was a Prince with unimaginable wealth. Wealth is not necessarily by itself a path to happiness.

I’d go find a spiritual space that appeals to you. It’s not easy as people with riches like the Beatles and people without like the hippies of the 60s too spent their life finding it. Read about George Harrison, for e.g.

FWIW I found my spiritual space at this tiny piece of heaven called Bhakti SF.

sergioisidoro• 2 years ago

It has become a meme at this point, but it seems men will do anything but go to therapy. Especially here, when the author can clearly afford it, and is going through a existential crisis.

Also, if this is the cohort of people joining the DOGE initiative, I'm even more afraid that I was before.

sureglymop• 2 years ago

To me, it seems that the author previously focused on "making as much money possible". That is understandable as a driving force, as most people think to be rich is what it means to be successful. It is also very understandable in the context of "the American dream", which is all about this. But now that the author reached the place of being more than rich enough, this overarching purpose and goal is gone.

What I think is much better though, is to instead just have curiosity as a driving force. And I think many people here on Hacker News do have curiosity as a bigger driving force than becoming rich. It is curiosity that drives one to tinker around, make random projects, hack around. Making money in the process of this has just been a convenient side effect in our industry. The truth is, if you have insatiable curiosity you will never not have purpose because there will always be a "next day" that you do not know about yet. It isn't just something intrinsic either, you can self-identify as being insatiably curious and try to live that way.

Having that said, there is a certain amount of privilege required to even be in a position where you can claim this without having to worry too much about your survival.

cucubeleza• 2 years ago

Some time ago I have watched an interwiew from Shia Labeouf on why he became catholic, for more that I think a good advice for everyone is getting closer to God, He said something that may help you:

"Purpose in life is when you get something you're good at or have a natual inclination to that and help people with that, that's porpose"

I'm very very far from getting rich but that's what I think that maybe help you

begueradj2• 2 years ago

Pay me to tell you what to do with your life.

m0d0nne11• 2 years ago

Dear ChatGPT: please help me construct a HN posting that's purportedly about a rich guy at loose ends trying to figure out what to do since that's guaranteed to tickle most peoples' fancy, but ensure that the payload paints a favorable picture of the DOGE since that's actually the motivation for the posting.

arkensaw3• 2 years ago

To all those people speaking about this guy in the third person, I would just point out he is also the OP.

Hello Vinay.

I'm sorry you don't know what to do with your life, but I promise you it's nothing to do with being rich and successful. Lots of people who are not rich also reach a point in their life where they just don't know what to do next. I suspect a lot of the people we meet or read about who find their "life's purpose" have actually just latched onto one thing and decided it's super important or meaningful, deluding themselves into happiness. This is also why people find religion.

I don't have any great advice to dish out. I'm older than you but not by much. I'm not a rich founder of some company. I haven't travelled as much as you have. I would say, from reading your post, that it sounds like you're trapped in a few echo-chambers that influence your learning patterns.

If learning physics in Hawaii doesn't fill the void for you, maybe try some things that don't have an end goal of starting a company. Do some simpler, less extreme things. Read some fiction. Buy an old VW camper and drive it across Europe. Build a log cabin. Learn a new (spoken) language. Knit. Get out and meet some real people who do not know you are rich and don't expect great things from you.

What is wrong with being insignificant?

We are all insignificant. Nothing we do matters. We're specks of dust that exist for a microsecond on a warm rock that will eventually be eaten by our star. And there is nothing wrong with that.

You don't need to find a purpose. Life doesn't have to "matter".

spprashant• 2 years ago

I had the same thoughts, as some other people in the comments - there are so many problems to solve, so many people to help. It is hard to match the fulfillment that comes from helping someone less fortunate that you.

This essay has not-so-subtle shades of individualism and meritocracy which can warp ones views about self-worth. I do applaud his self-awareness regarding his own vanity.

As a side note, this is the first I am hearing of interviews for DOGE. Curious what that process looks like.

bookofjoe• 2 years ago

'I Have No Mouth, and I Must Scream' (1967)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_Have_No_Mouth,_and_I_Must_Sc...

https://openlab.citytech.cuny.edu/?get_group_doc=22694/15401...

Voultapher2• 2 years ago

Within 2 minutes of talking to the final interviewer for DOGE, he asked me if I wanted to join. I said “yes”. Then he said “cool” and I was in multiple Signal groups. [...] So I reached out to some people and got in. After 8 calls with people who all talked fast and sounded very autistic smart, I was added to a number of Signal groups and immediately put to work. [...] The next 4 weeks of my life consisted of 100s of calls recruiting the smartest people I’ve ever talked to, working on various projects I’m definitely not able to talk about, and learning how completely dysfunctional the government was. It was a blast.

While I can attest that current day governments in general - some more, some less and I assume past governments as well - can be quite inefficient. I sometimes fantasize about making parts of it more lean and efficient because how hard could it be, right? And with the "right" kind of result evaluation it will not be that hard to score better than it does right now. But having silicon valley techbros apply their move fast and break stuff attitude to things that aren't tech startups has repeatedly resulted in awful results [1]. So I must say reading this passage is quite revealing in ways I think the author did not intend it to be.

[1] https://youtu.be/0wtvQZijPzg

jebarker3• 2 years ago

He should put his money where his mouth is. Give it all away. That'll really change the world for the better and then he'll get to prove his entrepreneurial greatness by doing it all again without that gnawing sense of security.

svara2• 2 years ago

This post is ultimately a scathing indictment of capitalism.

Money represents power. Our society let you have much more power than most individuals will ever have.

But you don't know what to do with it? Why should you have it then?

Capitalism at its best would allocate power to those who know how to use it effectively.

Look around you. Isn't there anything in the world - commercially, socially, culturally - you think should be better? And aren't any of those things in a domain in which you can be effective?

The legitimate capitalist would know the answer to those questions.

rhubarbtree2• 2 years ago

My instinctive reply is - go back to work and fix Loom because it sucks. OTOH, it's super impressive that they managed to make such a success from a pretty bad realisation of a reasonable product idea. The founders clearly did a great job in terms of marketing/sales and selling the company. That is no mean feat.

My next suggestion would be to go give some of the money away to individuals who need it. There are many many homeless people in the US if you need somewhere to start.

Beyond that, where are your friends and family? Might need to address that. Therapy will help. The NPC comment is disturbing, no well-adjusted person would write that.

everfrustrated2• 2 years ago

it's super impressive that they managed to make such a success from a pretty bad realisation of a reasonable product idea.

Lolz have you never used Atlassian products?

rhubarbtree2• 2 years ago

That's a good comparison.

thepuppet33r2• 2 years ago

Putting aside the whole "I'm rich and aimless, what should I do" thing the author's got going on, I found the product they got rich for (Loom) to be fascinating as a statement on where we are right now.

It's essentially just a program that allows you to record a video of yourself while iterating through a presentation or screen share and then share it for feedback.

Powerpoint has this as a native feature with OneDrive. There are other screenshare programs that do the same thing.

The whole incentive for using it (according to the video) is to "avoid another all hands meeting." And AI is involved somehow?

I find it so fascinating how companies seem to be aware that the way many big companies work (usually in office, in meetings, sometimes on video calls) is flawed, but rather than revisit the model, we just try to map the existing structure onto new expensive shiny tools.

The only benefit I see to having someone send me a video of them reading their presentation or narrating their screen share is that I can watch it on 2x speed asynchronously. At that point, why not just send me a set of bullet points and the presentation or screenshots?

I look at these products and I get the same feeling I do when I watch a road worker paint a tiny bike lane on an existing 4 lane megaroad with no barrier. You're not fixing the problem - you're just causing new ones. The whole system has to shift somehow.

RGamma2• 2 years ago

Sounds like a proverbial multibillion dollar todo list SaaS.

Kinda wish big money would have left the CS-related space right about ~10 years ago, when things weren't quite as nonsensical (and culturally decrepit), so all the serial careerists would have chased something more viscerally useful, like maybe bracing us for the impacts of global warming.

Rational markets and all.

purple_ferret2• 2 years ago

Loom is not for teams who use Microsoft 365.

It's for teams that exclusively use Slack, Notion, Miro, Vercel, Mux etc

thepuppet33r2• 2 years ago

Fair point.

4gotunameagain• 2 years ago

The shift would take a massive culture shift.

Everything and everyone seem to only be concerned about money. In music, in art, in popular culture, in the contemporary "thought leaders"..

It was the inevitable but hard to predict outcome of capitalism, the utter dissolution of everything that cannot be converted to capital, and the monetisation of everything else that could.

The zeitgeist is a thin, inconsistent and ever changing set of ethics (which of course are also swayed wildly by capital) and everything else is about money.

All the previous values are not only waining, they are also mocked.

A lack of greed is considered a lack of ambition, piety is disregarded as antiquated and evil, honour and shame are non existent.

We are living through tremendous sociopolitical changes, the most substantial and the most high paced humanity has ever faced.

I just hope it goes the right way eventually, although it is almost certain that none of us will be here to witness it. The only thing we can do is surf the wave and do our best to make things better.

tdiff• 2 years ago

It was the inevitable but hard to predict outcome of capitalism

I think it was not hard to predict, and in fact it was actually predicted in countless pieces, criticising capitalism.

Destiner• 2 years ago

At that point, why not just send me a set of bullet points and the presentation or screenshots?

Because video works better for product demos.

Show, don't tell.

tqi2• 2 years ago

Loom is one of my least favorite products because it enables lazy creators to offload the work of organizing and editing their thoughts onto the viewers. So instead of one person spending 30 minutes distilling their thoughts into a coherent narrative once, each member of their audience is forced to do that work separately.

boringg4• 2 years ago

Its helpful in certain cases for sure but you hit the nail on the head. Totally enables a lazy approach where everyone now needs to waste time watching a video so collectively the cost is much higher in terms of time spent.

torginus3• 2 years ago

Sound like a billion-dollar idea to me (and Atlassian)!

herval2• 2 years ago

Loom is pretty great. It does one thing and does it well. It’s obvious and easy to use. It’s fairly priced. It’s a great tool for remote work!

downrightmike• 2 years ago

Its a screen recorder system. Rather than looking at a dedicated program that costs money, Loom comes up in Google first and works.

jmuguy• 2 years ago

Our company is currently six people. We have a software-updates channel in Slack where I post our changelog for the team to read. I am very meticulous about these posts because I know very frequently we'll get asked "when did such and such change" and I can go back and reference these posts. And also its frequently the only way sales and our executive will know about changes, having not been directly involved. So yeah - I take a lot of time to make these posts concise, easy to understand etc.

I constantly get asked to make a Loom demonstrating the changes. Which makes sense... but is also frustrating. And I always make the point that these videos aren't searchable (sure they have AI summaries or whatever but those are in Loom, not Slack).

abustamam• 2 years ago

I used to work for a company that used Loom. It was always used for internal demos, ie "I made a new feature" or "I encountered a bug." It was perfect for that. That being said, we probably weren't the target market because we didn't pay for it.

JoshTko• 2 years ago

TLDR, I've let how I think and what I value to be entirely determined by capitalism. I then (essentially) won capitalism. Hence I don't know what to do since capitalism has no meaning beyond achieving extreme relative wealth accumulation.

aga98mtl4• 2 years ago

Humans are meant to have kids and form families. This is the life meaning that is escaping childless strivers.

FL33TW00D• 2 years ago

Everyone calling Loom a glorified screen recorder... there was a $975M dollar bill on the floor and no one else picked it up.

The technology was simple, but it solved a real problem for people. Solving well defined engineering tasks is vastly easier than solving a real problem.

brap5• 2 years ago

Nobody said he wasn’t talented or hardworking, surely he is, extremely. It’s almost always a prerequisite for this sort of success.

But for every successful founder, there are thousands of founders who are more talented and more hardworking and ended up failing. There are so many factors at play and most of them are unknown or beyond your control.

What I’m saying is that this guy needs to learn humility and gratitude. This article reeks of Main Character Syndrome. Once he learns that his path to find happiness is going to be much easier (and I genuinely wish that for him).

erellsworth• 2 years ago

I can't remember the last time I read something this tone deaf and obnoxious. It reads like a 13 year old's journal. And a selfish 13 year old at that. Guy is so devoted to capitalism that he can't conceive of any way to do good in the world if it doesn't involve starting a business (or trying to make the government run like one).

Maybe try helping people without expecting or even wanting any financial return.

smallpipe• 2 years ago

Most NPC thing I’ve ever read.

You’ve built a screen recording software and you’re calling employees of Atlassian NPC.

Whilst being an Elon Musk fan.

Paying to be brought up a mountain and being shit at even that.

Find a shrink

neom• 2 years ago

8/10 people I'm friends with who have been through an exit could write this post. It's a very, very, very, very common. The questions at the end too, two hands to count the times I've been asked those questions. I think the answer is, because: because those are what got you to the point of where you are right now, they are in fact just you, there is no why, they are not questions they're statements, that's who you are. Why are you that way? does it matter? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ (oh, and letting people down is hard because you're not just letting people down, you are letting yourself down too)

sesm• 2 years ago

I would recommend reading "The Status Game" by Will Storr.

In short: try to join as many communities as possible, you will get emotionally rewarded just for being accepted. Eventually you will find ones where you really want to fight for status, and this will re-ignite your life.

torginus3• 2 years ago

This post brings to mind people like Andrew Kelley, the guy who created Zig, who basically has foregone a lucrative career in software development, to work on his passion project (which is probably much more useful to the world than what he could've done otherwise). He lives off donations, and probably isn't lacking for a purpose.

astrodude• 2 years ago

Another instance of money doesn't bring you happiness or peace. Congrats on your exit.

krohling• 2 years ago

Do something to help everyone else stuck in the system. Hire lobbyists to improve healthcare in the US. All the other rich people are just trying to make things worse and extract as much as possible.

advael3• 2 years ago

I mean if you wanna angel invest I have some backburner projects I can't get done without some funding for hardware and time spent not earning an income, which I could probably spin into startups

scudsworth• 2 years ago

go climb everest a few more times op.

kelnos• 2 years ago

I have enough money that I probably won't need to work again, though I'm certainly not anywhere near as wealthy as this guy (I assume he has one or two more zeroes at the end of his bank balance than I do).

The first half of it just felt so... weak... to me. But I decided I'd give the author the benefit of the doubt. Findig purpose can be a really hard thing, and I suppose even people with a Scrooge McDuck vault deserve sympathy when they're trying to figure that out. (Spoiler alert: there is no Big Purpose; life is what you make of it, and nothing more.)

But then he talks about joining DOGE. Great, now you're a part of the problem. Part of the Silicon Valley know-it-all techno-dystopia crowd who thinks government can and should be run like a for-profit company. Disgusting. What a huge waste of an opportunity to use his wealth to help make the world a better place, as much as the wealthy philanthropist/savior concept makes me uncomfortable.

It also says a lot -- and nothing good -- that he was able to get hired by DOGE with his only qualification being "sold a tech company for a truckload of money". These people are clowns. The US is screwed for a generation or three if they're successful.

exabrial• 2 years ago

It's very interesting to see these same patterns at the micro level. Often, people start doing what other people are doing: book some massively expensive trip to go climb mount Everest, travel the world to snap a selfie at tourist traps, etc. You wont find happiness following the herd.

As I've become more successful, I've had similar problems. It's tempting to think "yeah just more money and I'd be happy". Instead, what has made me happy is much cheaper: general learning, and developing new physical skills. As my coworker put it, "I don't collect things or experiences, I collect hobbies".

If I had to pick a celebrity that seems to do this well, I'd pick Jay Leno (granted there's a lot of criticize him elsewhere, so maybe don't nitpick here). Watching him talk about his cars: restoring them, working on them, preserving them, trading, while ignoring a lot of other celebrity pleasures.

Finally, the other thing that has been extraordinarily gratifying is old fashioned advice: Live below your means. This by gives me more satisfaction than anything else and I'm not really sure why.

everfrustrated2• 2 years ago

Also how many mouths his passion of cars must feed. I can't see how it could make money; clearly a passion project to drop $ for so much labour on restoring cars just for the pleasure of it and not the economics.

brutuscat• 2 years ago

Just help others achieve that freedom, maybe they can do more than you: https://www.givedirectly.org/

Invest some (eg. 10-20 million) and use that as a giving fund, giving 1 million per year you could free several thousand of people each year.

maplant• 2 years ago

I do not have anything to add to this beyond pointing out that it is an incredibly ironic first post for someone who loudly states how much they love capitalism on their about page

protonbob• 2 years ago

I didn’t feel like I could work on them with her. So I broke things off after almost 2 years of unconditional love.

So really there were conditions as well as no commitment. The hidden condition was "If I don't feel like I can work on myself I will break it off". This is why I don't take people seriously who refuse to enter into a marriage covenant that actually means unconditional love regardless of sickness or health.

0xcafefood• 2 years ago

I read that as "unconditional love [from her]."

UncleOxidant• 2 years ago

Ok, I did not see nearly ending up at DOGE coming.

I should work for Elon and Vivek at DOGE and help America get off its current crash to defaulting on its own debt

Thinking that DOGE will somehow accomplish something important seems very naive. DOGE's purpose is to try to cut government spending so that Billionaires can get more tax cuts.

rehevkor5• 2 years ago

Yeah, DOGE is going to fix the government? Um, wut...

ahakanbaba• 2 years ago

Consider having children. That will help with the “problems” of having too much money and time.

highspeedbus• 2 years ago

Go read a book, contribute to linux kernel, eat a cheeseburger, get in a nice hotel, watch movies, learn to cook, drive though the country, befriend locals, start a wine collection, earn a master's degree, publish papers..

The author seems to put great value on doing grandiose things, so those suggestions may seem frivolous.

It's a respectable goal to pursue huge achievements in professional life, but please be aware that it involves lots of: (a) talk to other people and (b) doing mundane stuff most of the time. It all depends on how hard you want it.

yellow_lead• 2 years ago

earn a master's degree

Nah, better to self-study Physics on YouTube in Hawaii

tntxtnt• 2 years ago

Another lucky idiot who thinks he's a genius.

idorube2• 2 years ago

I was going to comment on his insta photo's of wads (this morning, EU time) of cash and now there's none (evening) <thinking face.gif>

idorube2• 2 years ago

forgot one > https://www.instagram.com/p/YbXbN6IMOs/

ThrowawayTestr• 2 years ago

This is why "new money" is an insult.

TimesOldRoman• 2 years ago

You are lost and thought DOGE was a good idea? The entire org is ketamine-fueled techbro Elon wannabes; not the best life-valuing gurus.

Maybe take a Buddhist retreat for a year and see if doing quiet charity work feels better than trying to consolidate electrons.

Or just be lost while building affordable housing? Try focusing on others rather than you.

jamieplex7• 2 years ago

I am new here, but can I ask a serious question? How does a question like this even get listed?? Or responded to? I really would like to know the system here.

chardgor• 2 years ago

Yeah it’s a problem. Jimmy Carter had the same type of problem 45 years ago. He seemed to deal with it pretty well.

idiot-savant• 2 years ago

You should try having someone fucking you in the ass for half an hour.

hackingforfun• 2 years ago

Give away your money and build a new company if that's the purpose you need to fulfill in life.

Being altruistic can be immensely rewarding.

You have tremendous privilege. Go help some people with that money.

Don't just think of yourself.

Try taking up meditation. Balance your mind. Try to stop your thoughts.

You are super lucky.

Also, consider your death. No matter how much money you have, you can't take any of it with you. One day you're going to die. It's all going away. Enjoy what you have now and ideally help some others. That will bring you purpose.

wizzwizz44• 2 years ago

  We are the hollow men
  We are the stuffed men
  Leaning together
  Headpiece filled with straw. Alas!
  Our dried voices, when
  We whisper together
  Are quiet and meaningless
  As wind in dry grass
  Or rats' feet over broken glass
  In our dry cellar
  Shape without form, shade without colour,
  Paralysed force, gesture without motion;
  Those who have crossed
  With direct eyes, to death's other Kingdom
  Remember us - if at all - not as lost
  Violent souls, but only
  As the hollow men
  The stuffed men.

— T. S. Eliot, The Hollow Men, first stanza (1925)

nelblu• 2 years ago

A lot of comments talking about having kids for purpose, so I thought I'd add mine. I don't have kids and when I compare myself to other friends that have kids I can see how having kids can add purpose (to some extent).

That said, personally I have found immense purpose in life by having a dog. My dog not only makes me happy he teaches me that it is okay to do mundane things in life everyday and still feel extremely happy and satisfied. Each day I look at him and I thank him for being there, for teaching me how to live life, how to love unconditionally and how to live in the moment. I know it's silly but I'm having tears of joy as I'm typing because he is sleeping right next to me at my work desk. Love you my best friend ever !

prashp2• 2 years ago

You can have both (and a cat while you're at it).

abss• 2 years ago

Seek meaning by helping others, or strive to conquer and shape the world through your will.

neycoda• 2 years ago

Please sell off extra real estate. We're paying too much to live. Please stop figuring out ways to make more money. Enjoy your wealth. You don't need any more from our blood sweat and tears. We're already suffering enough at the whims of the idle rich.

freeduhm• 2 years ago

I have 500$ in my bank account and just got laid off. You can send me some money and get a sense of fulfillment you helped someone. Dont ever say you never had an opportunity to help anyone.

Anyway. As some people have touched on, service to others and evaluating unjust power structures can be a good place to look for fulfillment. Good luck

poncho_romero2• 2 years ago

The antidote to despair is action. I recommend volunteering to anyone who wants for meaning in their life.

Bluescreenbuddy• 2 years ago

With that amount of money I'd just go to school. Volunteer here and there. Otherwise I'd lose my mind,

bawana• 2 years ago

That kind of blog post never happened in the 1950 to 1980 era. It is so naive and selfish. But It might have been written in another era by Marie Antoinette. Avarice and decadence like this need to be taxed into oblivion

julianvargkim• 2 years ago

I find that there are limitations of satisfaction from grand accomplishments or capitalistic success.

At the end of the day, we are born naked, die naked and decompose.

Doing what you want to do without some grand goals, interacting with others, helping others, joking around with friends and family with no other “grand” purpose, or just reconnecting with someone you haven’t for a while, all these things shouldn’t be tucked away completely in the name of “achieving more”.

lawrenceyan• 2 years ago

If you’re wondering why you still feel unsatisfied even after having gotten everything you’ve ever wanted and achieved everything you set out to do, consider reading about the story of Siddartha Gautama and his journey of discovery.

The answers you’ve been looking for are there.

blueprint• 2 years ago

I struggle to understand stuff like this (to be honest, it makes me feel a little angry):

We started getting into regular arguments, and I knew it wasn’t on her. It was me. I was starting to come to terms with all the mounting insecurities I had stuffed down over the past several years. I didn’t feel like I could work on them with her. So I broke things off after almost 2 years of unconditional love. It was extremely painful, but it was the right call. I needed to fully face myself.

Relational experiences are why and how you're encountering your repressed shadow or confronting the false self in the first place. Don't you face yourself by staying and accomplishing your promise of truthfulness and learn how to practice real love through e.g. honesty, courage,….

I found this lecture once on a webpage that has since disappeared....

"Enlightenment isn't a thing that you can get abandoning family and undertaking mountaineering asceticism. Enlightenment can be attained having family, and is a thing that cannot be attained through mountaineering asceticism. Enlightenment starts from accepting Truth and process of understanding Truth." https://web.archive.org/web/20090805085956/http://www.ircsc....

petre• 2 years ago

If I did not have to work I'd probably get a dog and start a kayak and paddle board rental center near some scenic lake, along with a small fishing tackle shop. Screw Elon, robots, DOGE, AI, Mars and other stupid tech bro ideas.

In fact I already did the dog part, but I'd probably get an Aussie instead if I did not have to work, had more space and more time on my hands to keep a more active dog engaged.

bumby5• 2 years ago

What is your most scarce resource if not time?

I would argue attention is more valuable than time. After all, if all your time is spent paying attention to the wrong things, how valuable can time be? I would urge the author to look at what is commanding his attention and that might give some insight into his malaise.

DonnyV• 2 years ago

To bad he didn't meet someone he wanted to stay with before the money. I would say have a family. The next best thing he could of done. Its going to be hard to find someone that can't see past the money.

scotty795• 2 years ago

This person is obviously mentally disturbed. Freedom awarded by recent lucky windfall resulted in detriment to him. It already costed him his only deep relationship with a peer and almost costed him his life.

I'm really happy that he ended up learning physics. It's probably safes activity of all mentioned given his specific brain.

throttlebody• 2 years ago

Start by doing a long walk, like the PCT or Te Araroa trail. 3+ months of hiking. You are busy every day, get up, eat and start walking. Finish the day physically tired. Sleep rinse and repeat. Have a break from news etc You come out fit, mentally reset and have a good perspective. Just my 2c

Arete3141592• 2 years ago

For the vast majority of people, becoming rich is a means to an end. More time to make art, freedom from stress, ability to travel more, or just the fun of buying lots of toys.

He keeps talking about wanting to do something "important." But I think he is conflating the "prestigious / expected" meaning of important with another interpretation: "meaningful."

Plenty of next steps for a founder are prestigious. But few are meaningful. Most new companies make money by finding efficiencies and disintermediating people from processes in various ways. This usually means pushing an entire sector (like travel agents) out of gainful employment. For whatever reason, Silicon Valley startups rarely punch up - they don't find efficiencies in health insurance or healthcare billing, they don't do "Moneyball" for CEO's and figure out how to run a company for less, they don't find efficiencies that cause us to pay less money to the rich (except Cost Plus Drugs).

No, they punch down, and make increasing numbers of the middle class into the new precariat. For that, the founders are praised and told that they are important. But the work, being morally questionable, is not meaningful.

  By contrast, many meaningful endeavors are about charity - giving access, opportunity, dignity, and money to those on the bottom rungs of society. 

  The emptiness he feels is a lack of meaning, but he's trying to fill it with more prestige, and that's why it's not working.

sgammon• 2 years ago

Damn, that's crazy. I'm poor and know exactly what to do.

mjcat• 2 years ago

I've always felt these stories can be summarized as happiness or fulfillment is derived from the (positive) rate of change in circumstances rather than the achievements a person has in a point in time, money or otherwise. Even if you have millions in your pocket but that amount is not changing or you don't have a way to make it go up, you won't be happy for long. Same goes for a less wealthy person who is moving up in their career or their life-goals, they would be happy from experiencing positive change.

klad_majoor• 2 years ago

Your capital has made you lonely, moreover, redundant as you have no needs. You cannot be coerced into a job, medical bills are no bankruptcy inducing issues for you (which is rather boring too), no need to work for the man.

And like a chipmunk sitting on a mountain of nuts anyone you meet wants one so nobody acts normal. Again how sad and lonely.

me i live in a blue collar neighborhood with people getting by and we look after each others kids and pets and gossip and share tools - trying not to sound too romantic but that's how it is. Sometimes I sweep the streets because I like it. Please enjoy your capital. I’m not jealous at all, why should I? Don’t want to be a Midas, everything golden and hungry. I have community purpose and people to look after. For me, that’s wealth.

lashull• 2 years ago

Read your blog post backwards. Paragraph by paragraph and you get the answer to your intrinsic question. And btw it would be a much better read at the same time

wagnerpatriota• 2 years ago

I am poor and have no idea what to do. So you are good! ;-)

samweb3• 2 years ago

One idea. Just a thought. You could find ways to help OTHER people succeed?

light_triad2• 2 years ago

What the author is missing is noblesse oblige.

Some peasants become nobles, but will never stop being peasants. Some peasants were nobles all along.

kussenverboten• 2 years ago

not rich and not lonely and I would learn something new every day if I could. Learn to be rich in ideas. If you already are, write them down and share them with the world. Or study an ancient civilization. Or learn to fly a plane. learn something that is difficult for you to learn. There are so many things to study and learn and teach.

benreesman2• 2 years ago

Do I understand that this person envies Elon Musk on physical appearance?

The world is full of beautiful people and they arguably command way too much attention.

Better looking than Elon Musk? Most people I know are better looking than Elon Musk.

If I woke up and saw Elon Musk in the mirror I’d yearn for the badly aging nerd I saw yesterday.

benreesman2• 2 years ago

Before I get banned, kicked off Twitter, I’d like to imagine a better world waking up to Talulah Riley and and Grimes like white collar crimes and a savage diss like I got Wiley in your harem while you missed it and you raise what I’m baking.

gabrieledarrigo• 2 years ago

What a problem, eh dude? Damn, this rich guys are incredible.

ryukoposting3• 2 years ago

I forget what show my wife and I were watching, but the running gag was that you turn into a psycho when you become a billionaire.

At one point, one of the characters is on a date with a very kind, modestly wealthy guy. Then, the guy has to take a call where he finds out his company just sold. In the very next shot, his head is suddenly shaved and he's raving about climbing mountains or something.

bsaul• 2 years ago

the critics in this section about doge are absolutely dumbfounding. it seems to be hiring the smartest people from the industry, and yet people complain it didn’t recruit people with education or exp in state administration / bureaucracy ? which is precisely the field which in fact needs a cultural shakedown ?

Are you people out of your mind ? this is the passage that in fact made me the most impressed about this DOGE project. They seem 100% focused on agility and velocity, that’s just crazy when you think about how those kind of projects usually work in other countries (like france, which would have a commission created with long pompous ceremonies of hearings of pseudo-experts)

edfletcher_t137• 2 years ago

Adults of all stripes - and of all socioeconomic backgrounds - manage to pull themselves out of funks all the time without needing to write woe-is-me blog posts about it.

That our wealth-worship culture has gone so far and gotten so bad that we're supposed to give any fucks about this "zeroth-world struggle" is absolutely asinine.

We are truly on The Worst Timeline, without doubt.

(It shouldn't surprise anyone that OP "larped as Elon" and "had a brief stint at DOGE"...)

BriggyDwiggs424• 2 years ago

I don’t think anyone has to care, it’s just interesting.

federalauth• 2 years ago

If OP is reading the comments, I’d highly recommend developing a meditation practice. As you’ve already experienced, the quality of one’s experience of life is determined by one’s mind, regardless of possessions, achievements, etc. And meditation is the best way to “train” the mind.

svilen_dobrev• 2 years ago

You don't have to lose everything, in order to find yourself, but it may help. Although.., don't lose the people of your life. They aren't "stuff".

p.s. Tove Jansson, in one of her stories, has some guy who was collecting stamps whole life, and collected them all. And was feeling very lost..

mythrwy• 2 years ago

I can't believe there is nothing a person would be interested in building/exploring with that much resources. I simply can't grasp it.

The expensive prostitutes and yachts and cocaine and butt kissing hangers on would get old very quickly. So you need something to do, a reason to get up in the morning. A project.

Understandably everyone doesn't want 12 kids and not everyone is altruistic. That's fine, the world might be better with less rich "altruists" pushing society around anyway in my opinion. But you have no curiosities? Nothing you have always dreamed of achieving? Nothing you can think of to achieve that would bring you joy?

Go to India, buy some property and have a giant pyramid built with a statue of yourself on top. You can employee thousands of people and act like a king and push local officials around with your money. People will remember you hundreds of years from now (if that is your thing). Work on bringing back the extinct Mastodon. Create an island quasi kingdom on a Pacific Island and build a little world how you always wanted it to be.

Honestly, this is one of the differences with the new immigrant rich people. They aren't the rich American immigrants of old. Look at what Andrew Carnegie did. Or even (for all his faults) Musk. Or Kellogg (of cereal fame, not an immigrant). He did all kinds of wacky stuff even developing his own religious texts. But point is, he did something he thought would change the world. These new rich are vapid uninteresting shadows compared to those guys.

bdangubic4• 2 years ago

The expensive prostitutes and yachts and cocaine and butt kissing hangers on would get old very quickly.

you’d think… :)

tuxninja• 2 years ago

Focus on your mental and physical health. Your relationships especially family. And work on things that challenge your mind, if nothing does currently that’s ok something will peak your interest again, no pressure, in the mean time work on being the healthiest you can physically, that has a way of making sure other things fall into place.

silexia2• 2 years ago

Been there, done that. Become a farmer and am now quite satisfied.

silexia2• 2 years ago

Children. They are the purpose in life. Literally every biology textbook says every life form from amoeba to whales to people seek to reproduce.

Having a family is by fat the best thing I have ever done. I have been independently wealthy now 10 years from my business I founded.

arscynic• 2 years ago

"I don't fucking care what people say.

Go America. Go capitalism. Go free markets. Go hard work."

So if everyone works as hard as him, then everyone can become rich and retire early?

Instead of studying physics in the "jungle" he should be studying logic, ethics, and history. Pay your goddamn taxes, elect uncorruptable politicians, and support free open source software.

"billionaires want you to know they could have done physics." —Angela Collier, physicist; https://youtu.be/GmJI6qIqURA

kashyapc• 2 years ago

How about studying some philosophy? If you dedicate yourself to it for a couple of years, it'll hammer in a sense of what truly matters. (While at it, it'll wean you off the Silicon Valley's empty humblespeak.)

Particulary, ancient Greek and Roman philosophy. Grapple with the originals, and not some weak "modern" versions. Don't try to "hack" philosophy, give the time it deserves.

As a more concrete pointer, in the past I wrote a list of high-quality English translations by scholars who have immersed themselves in these works here[1].

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=22990579

lobito25• 2 years ago

You're a very poor person.

kinderjaje• 2 years ago

Enjoyed reading your story. Hoe you find your purpose in life, but not searching it.

Like other commenters mentioned here, lifting people around you, not just your friends and family, but random ones, might give you some joy.

nuthinking• 2 years ago

Why not doing what many people do? Helping/funding the next generation of startuppers? That might bring some purpose to your life, and hopefully some good humans too.

vadiapoorva1232• 2 years ago

IMO:

Why did I need to do the absolute most to reach this point? Ego

Why couldn’t I just leave Loom and say “I don’t know what I want to do next”? Ego

Why do I feel the need to only be on a journey if it’s grand? Ego

What is wrong with being insignificant? Ego

Why is letting people down so hard? Ego

Fix the unhealthy Ego and master self worth. You are a gift to humanity, hope you find a path to help humanity.

vadiapoorva1232• 2 years ago

IMO:

Why did I need to do the absolute most to reach this point? Ego

Why couldn’t I just leave Loom and say “I don’t know what I want to do next”? Ego

Why do I feel the need to only be on a journey if it’s grand? Ego

What is wrong with being insignificant? Ego

Why is letting people down so hard? Ego

IMO fix your ego issues and master selfworth. You are a gift to humanity, hope you find your purpose and path.

onetruthseeker• 2 years ago

What you are experiencing is the fundamental human predicament. All humans ignore it because they keep focusing on the outside - chasing money, power, fame, things. However, nothing from the outside can fix our deepest desire, the deepest restlessness. There is no way to know what you want without understanding who you are. Since you like hard things, I’ll say this - the outer journey can be hard but the inner journey is the hardest. No one can be satisfied with themselves unless they see themself clearly. The one who is looking at the world is the one who suffers. The answers lie in the observer.

c0ndu17• 2 years ago

I can’t add much to this topic, but I did come across a word yesterday which may fit how OP is feeling.

Ennui: A feeling of listlessness and dissatisfaction arising from a lack of occupation or excitement.

ycombinator_acc• 2 years ago

Boo hoo. Give it all away to children in Africa. I assure you they'll know what to do with it.

nachox999• 2 years ago

Isn't blowing out all your money on fun/cool things/experiencies & helping a lot of people (friends, family) an option?

991166• 2 years ago

991166

I am rich and have no idea what to do

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