Ask HN: I’m 41 and still unmarried – what should I do?

Since I was a little girl, I’ve dreamed of falling in love and having a family of my own.

By most cultural standards, according to my male friends, I’m smart, beautiful, fit, kind, emotionally mature and doing meaningful work in the world. Not too needy and not a workaholic.

Over the last two years I’ve been on over 120 dates with men I’ve met online - a few I met in person - in 3 different cities .

I’ve deeply invested myself in therapy, support groups, meditation, dating coaching, yoga and hypnotism. I’ve tried bumble, tinder , Eharmony, hinge, coffee meets bagel, Thursday, Match, speed dating as well as a few other random apps.

I’ve asked my friends to set me up . I tried to crowdsource a husband on Facebook.

I’ve read and done the exercises in Calling In the One, Love Addiction, Datonomics, Make Your Move and If the Buddha dated. I’ve listened to every episode of Girls Gotta Eat.

I’ve gone to CrossFit and hung out at steakhouses. I’ve dated every profession you can think of from doctors to electricians and unemployed guys.

I even moved to Austin because I read that’s where there was the highest ratio of educated men to women, thereby improving my odds of meeting a marriageable man.

My time for having children is running out.

This has always been my dream and I’m willing to try almost anything. I was raised by a single mom and I really want to have kids with a man I love, not do it on my own.

So, are there any love hacks I could try?

Please encouragement only, no discouragement. I’m discouraged enough already.