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"I’ve dated every profession you can think of from doctors to electricians and unemployed guys."

That's a lot of guys. Can you shed some light on why all those failed?

"My time for having children is running out."

Realistically, time was running out in your early 30s (where female fertility starts to nose dive). After 40 and you are seriously rolling the dice (assuming the ovum even gets fertilized, there Downs, aneuploidy, etc.)

Very eurocentric commentary in this thread.

China, a civilization-state that predates the West by thousands of years, was not going to turn into the West, no matter how much we wished for it.

Very normative patriarchal colonialist judgments on a country that raised more people out of poverty than any other time in human history.

Unless she is a terror, telling your wife that her shirt doesn't look great isn't exactly a profile in courage.

It's only when the stakes get much higher (e.g. life-time earning potential, self-esteem) that you will lie completely and earnestly without a second thought. And because the stakes are real and it is essential that the audience for your lie believes you, you will first have to lie to yourself, to get rid of those subtle tells that the human brain has evolved to detect.

So, when you say that there is no possibility that the disparate social outcomes of various ethnic groups has a genetic basis despite the overwhelming evidence to the contrary, you will be lying, but it won't feel like lying because the first person you fooled was you.

So I wouldn't over-think the lying stuff.

Btw, have you considered that maybe your wife -- in fact, a lot of people -- want to be lied to? So when she asks you if she looks old and tired and your reply, honestly, in the affirmative, perhaps you're improving your life, but are you sure you improved hers?

I wish more people would discover the power of this technique.

But ultimately, this is a fool's errand -- people who say they don't lie are almost always lying. Given how much of our brains have evolved to evince the hidden intentions of others, the result of this cat-and-mouse game requires lying to oneself first so as to more effectively convince others.

Just look at any conversation about "equality." Through their revealed preferences you can see that almost no one really believes in it but for their socioeconomic well-being they managed to convince themselves of it.

People will say "we moved for the schools" because they don't have the intellectual integrity and moral courage to say "we moved to avoid Africans and, to a lesser extent, Hispanics". The proliferation of BLM signage in these same areas is simply a testament to the arising false consciousness, as is the scorn they heap on the poorer members of their own cohort who cannot afford to avoid the Diversity Strenf they claim to cherish.

What an unfortunate way to go through life.

TLDR; how do you plan to not lie to your kids when you can't stop lying to yourself?

If imperialism is lindy, Russians have a massive leg up compared to america, which has a much poorer record of integrating its ethnic minorities