Ask HN: How Do I Start Over?

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by bluu00 • 6 years ago

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How Do I Start Over?

leff_f2• 6 years ago

Very intrigued by the question. Feel like some context is missing.

bluu006• 6 years ago

On purpose. Let it be general.

However, only for you, I messed up learning a lot of things this year. A lot. But not mastered any of it. Learn some of them for fun, some for getting employed as an undergrad, some from peer pressure. Now I can't move back to start those things from where I left.

leff_f2• 6 years ago

Appreciate the personal response! Imagine you are walking through the woods, not 100% sure where you are going, but you turn left, then somebody told you always turn right in the woods (for some reason) and you did, then you got a new idea that you need to go backwards that will help you for some reason... at the end of the day you end up lost without a clue where to go. so you are sitting there in the dark asking how do I restart this level....well... there is no restart button, you are where you are... in the woods... probably alone. What is also true at the same time - the sun will rise tomorrow, and it will be a new day to try out an find your own way. And it will help a lot to use the experience of the previous day - remembering what you saw, where you took the turn, who you met .... always learning , always moving forward. With this mindset we are never lost in our journey.

In other words, to start over we just need to learn and keep going. Have a great journey!

lioeters• 6 years ago

Starting over is in your mind. Every moment is a chance to start over. The first thing to do is start.

bluu006• 6 years ago

Every moment is a chance to start over. I'll take this one too, for motivation atleast.

logicslave• 6 years ago

If only this was true. Its a fallacy and most people are stuck in habits for life.The human brain is not biologically wired to be able to change on a dime, and the ability to do so would be disastrous. Real change is always brought about by external forces, internally its nearly impossible

giantg2• 6 years ago

You don't. Accept the suck and move forward.

bluu006• 6 years ago

I couldn't start from where I left. So starting over seems to be righteous. Yep, maybe I'll have to.

probinso• 6 years ago

It's that button that looks like a circle with a line on it. Press and hold that down, and then when it is no longer illuminated, press it again

TheMblabla• 6 years ago

Turn yourself on, then off again

verdverm• 6 years ago

With reframing, watch some Dali Llama, he's good at making it simple.

I personally like moving to facilitate as well, changing the environment makes it easier to reframe, but does not on its own.

keiferski2• 6 years ago

Try to mentally "restart" yourself. By this, I mean try to reset, at least temporarily, all of your thoughts: your problems, your future goals, your conceptions of your Self. If successful, you'll feel lighter, as if you were at the beginning of a journey and not midway. I think this feeling is universal and you probably know what I'm talking about. That rare moment when the world seems fresh and new. It's elusive but powerful.

Some methods that seem to work, for me at least, are: meditation, immersing yourself in a particular work of fiction (especially a sci-fi movie at the cinema), turning off your phone and Internet connection, and getting lost in a new city.

bluu006• 6 years ago

turning off I'll consider this one, maybe i am trying too hard. Maybe all of us try too hard. Maybe not always neccessary.

throw51319• 6 years ago

All of those are great for me too.

Also, a hard run where you let it all go.

What's your experience with shrooms?

keiferski2• 6 years ago

Running is great too! No personal experience with shrooms.

ivars• 6 years ago

There is a thing called "rapid personality change". Some people have done it.

Look up "Academy of ideas" channel on YouTube, it has a video on this topic. I found it very interesting.

bluu006• 6 years ago

Everybody messes up at a certain point of time. I did, maybe you did too or eventually you'll. But question is , how to leave it there and start over.

Its difficult to learn anything after a large gap. As you are not a beginner yourself now. Your Baggage adds up to your fatigue.

patatino• 6 years ago

When I started running after a couple of weeks it hit me, I‘m a runner now. I was never a runner and now I can say that.

Sounds stupid but it felt powerful, all the possibilities what I could become.

pryelluw• 6 years ago

There is only now. Be here. Be present.

croh• 6 years ago

In zen context - Don't force yourself to start over. You will start over when you have to. Until then just try to be aware and have guilty pleasure. Some people call it meditation while some call it acceptance. Same thing with different names. Follow your heart, it will never let you down !

throwaway413• 6 years ago

You wake up.

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