violetgarden

Yeah! I have a very soft voice. I’ve practiced to make it bigger, but even my loudest voice is not terribly loud. Ordering things behind the counter can be tough for me especially if there’s background noise of people chattering or machines whirring like in a coffee shop. Kind of an odd situation, and I’ve been able to get through life fine without self order kiosks, but I’m glad when they’re there because I just feel like I’m easier to deal with as a customer.

I love watching shows like this! The Great Pottery Throw Down was good too on HBO Max. I love watching creative people work. I find they have a lot more freedom to their process than I do. I’d probably logic myself out of 10 ways to do something, but creatives seem to have an easier time of “I’m gonna try it and see what happens.” Even when they don’t get a result they expect, they might find it lovely anyways and just go with it.

It’s crazy to think about the child Malala to this!

Thanks for the details! I know what I’m gonna try when I row later.

This gives me hope. I thought I just couldn’t breathe through my nose while exercising. I find it super uncomfortable to unbearable when I feel like I’m not getting enough air. I didn’t realize you could just practice more.

This is so sad. Reminds me of the Challenger where the concerns from engineering were ignored due to pressure from management.

I went to SF two years ago. I was just shocked by the amount of drugs around. Walked out of my hotel at 8 AM and was offered crack. Waiting at the walk signal, there would be people in the throes of a high hallucinating and screaming at no one in particular. I brought sandals with me on the trip but had to stick to close toed shoes because of the needles/human waste on the streets. I used to just love SF when I was younger, but my recent trip really put me off.

The sad thing is, I think it’s good that SF is trying to treat addicts differently. However, I don't know if they’re attracting more addicts because they are lax or maybe you just see more because they aren’t thrown in jail? I’m not from Cali so I don’t know the situation too well. Sadly, it just seems like it’s spiraled out of control whatever they’re doing.

That’s really cool! I’m in the US, and the farms I have seen are so large, I don’t think a normal person could pop in and ask questions. I’ve never seen a building near one of these farms because the rows of vegetation goes on for miles it seems like.

That said, smaller farms and dining experiences are popping up all over. I feel like the local, craft experience has been really popular and is trending us back to seasonal, organic ingredients. I was just saying to a friend the other day that I feel like I don’t know what season anything is in because we can get so much produce all year round. We’ve started little veggie gardens in our yards and were trying to sus out what we could plant.

I’m American, and I don’t know anyone who eats this much hamburger. A lot of us find them to be pretty heavy, so it’s more like a meal that you have once in a blue moon. However, someone commented below that it might just be the income bracket we’re in. Poorer people might be consuming more of them because they’re cheap and fast to get.

Where I live, there is extreme weather like hurricanes or tornadoes. Even if you opt for a more expensive roof, the wind might come along and wreck it. Most people I know have shingles, and they wear down in the elements after 20 years or so. You might start getting leaks or you might not, but once your roof reaches a certain age you can expect to start seeing problems. Kinda like a car.

I’ve heard this too. They have a term for dying due to being overworked called Karoshi. People who specifically commit suicide due to overwork are called Karojisatsu.

This site has some stats on suicide due to overwork, but it doesn’t have a comparison to suicide due to other reasons. It’s definitely a thing though!

https://www.statista.com/statistics/622325/japan-work-relate...

Shoot, I’m so grateful to be in a state that was loose with the lockdowns. A friend in another state was frustrated that even the large parks where he lived were locked down. Even in our strictest phase, you could still go to the park and get a little relief from the confines of your home. I cannot imagine how other states are coping where things are much stricter. I am just shocked at the mental component of all this. It’s hard to articulate the way it makes you feel living through all this.

Exactly! There’s a totally different bar to entry. Look at North Korea. I don’t think they rank highly as a concern with traditional kinetic warfare, but they have made themselves a major security concern even with scant resources because the bar to entry with cyber warfare is just that much lower.

I’m surprised by the backlash regarding this tool. Well, I guess surprised is the wrong word. I get that it is creepy. There are lots of websites that do this very thing like whatsmyname.app.

I personally like running my username through tools like this and aggregating my digital presence. When I was younger, I signed up for lots of sites that were the cool, new thing. Checking myself years later, I am shocked by the wide berth I left. Fitness accounts. Accounts from that time I was getting into studying chess. I’m the type of person who is always on to the next hobby. I go 100% in on something, then pop to the next thing. It was a big wake up call to me looking back seeing how much presence I left. Many accounts are so old I can’t even get into them anymore to clean up what’s out there. Tools like this can be used for good.

That said, I totally understand the cyber stalking/bullying concerns. I am also astounded by the cyber sleuth types. In the documentary, Don’t F* with Cats, people spent 100s of hours carefully walking through streets in Google Maps to match a location to a photo they had of a guy who killed a cat on YouTube. It seems to me where there’s a will, there’s a way. It’s scary, and unfortunately a lot of tools we can use to protect ourselves are the same tools that can be used against us. Look at cyber security in general. A black hat and a white hat are people with the same skills, but ethics draw a line between them.

When I was younger, I thought homeschooling was almost exclusively because parents were weird and controlling - maybe even in a cult like situation. Or I thought homeschooling was for socially hopeless kids that couldn’t cut it in “real” school. I have no idea why my perception was so negative. Now that I’m older, my opinion has completely flipped. I am grateful to have had access to public education, but it was probably bronze standard at best. If I had children, I’d probably homeschool them.

I moved my television out of the living room and into a spare room. I felt like I was binging too much and wanted a jolt to my routine. Since doing so, I’ve read a backlog of books and even stated practicing tech skills I wanted to develop after work. I can vouch for it not seeming as difficult to do after toning down my stimulation. In fact, I can’t wait to get off work to start doing my stuff. Losing tv felt really weird at first. I ate in front of it. I’d turn on one quick show (that always turned in to several episodes!) after work to relax. I’ll probably go watch some shows I’m looking forward to once they’re out, but it’ll be more of a decision than a default. Tv isn’t the devil. I just needed more balance in my life, and the results are making me feel a lot more fulfilled than I was.

The marketing/sales talk like, “Am I to understand you’d like to cancel even though our product could be saving you $xx in time and money?” repulses me to no end. I understand they’re trying to keep a customer. I just hate the leading questions. I hate that I feel like they’re trying to outwit me, or trick me into realizing I’m so silly for wanting to cancel something.

Even though I might cancel products, the cancellation isn’t always forever. I’ll gladly go back to companies that treated me well. However, companies that pressure me to stay I typically write off as scummy and won’t go back if the need arises.

Unfortunately, unless you have someone to vouch for you, it kind of can be a popularity contest. This is from a corporate point of view, where lower managers have to appeal up the chain to fight for promotions for their people. It’s much easier for the higher ups to grant promotions to the people they’ve heard of.

I agree with you!

I also find that team building can be stressful depending on how your work is fluctuating. If it’s under a heavy load, then it feels frustratingly like a waste of time when you could be getting things done. While I think team building is important, I think it’s so hard to get right. Frankly, the best teams I’ve worked in are ones where everyone had a similar work ethic.

I even like the commercials! You don’t realize how slick everything is nowadays. It’s kinda nice to see something simpler.

I actually went to some high end furniture stores and was surprised that a lot of stuff on the floor was still IKEA quality. Maybe a slight step up, but a lot of it wasn’t solid wood. Additionally, a lot of it was a bit too fussy or looked like something my grandparents would like. When I went to IKEA, I was glad to see some simple furniture, as it suits my tastes.

I’m not successful in a side hustle, but I do study or practice skills after work, and it took me a long time to escape from being too tired to do anything. These things helped me: - Stay dressed for “work.” Basically, I don’t change into my pajamas until I’m done studying. Even in covid times, I usually have work clothes I wear during the day. Maybe not a button down, but definitely not something as comfy as my lounge clothes. - Have a ridiculously low bar for getting started. For me, something like “I will watch 2 minutes of lecture,” is low enough that it feels trivial. 90% of the time, I finish up what I’d normally plan. There are some days where just making that low bar feels exhausting, but the fact I did it helps me keep momentum for the next day. Forgive yourself if the low bar is all you achieve some days. Other days, you’ll be on top of the world. - Being exhausted a lot is touted as normal in our culture. This is how you know you’re “adulting good.” Don’t buy in to it and figure out if there may be an underlying cause. Maybe you drink caffeine too late. Maybe you need to go to bed earlier. I personally found out I was iron deficient and getting some more iron in my diet was like getting a new lease on life. I had assumed I was okay because being tired and needing coffee is so prevalent. I bet a lot of people are like me and not realize something is off, so I just want to mention it.

If it was me, I’d have probably gone straight to Twitter too. My thought would be that they’re hosting the content, so they’d probably be able to get it removed the fastest. It also wouldn’t occur to me that an agent wouldn’t find CP to violate their terms. I’m surprised that Twitter didn’t take it down as a CYA precaution while they verified it to be CP or not.

Same!! I cannot do things like “while x is boiling, chop the vegetables.” I have to get everything prepped before I cook because I’m not skilled enough yet to be able to multitask.

Oh good idea! Bootable Linux would be so handy.

I hadn’t heard of Zettelkasten until today. I want to give it a go, but I’ll be honest, I feel a bit overwhelmed after reading about it. I’ve never catalogued my notes before or given each one a unique id.

I agree. It makes me sick. Everyone in the comments is so giddy, and there’s a sickening, “look how smart we are” vibe.

Yup! I have a notebook for thoughts that pop up when I’m not working where I can jot down ideas or things I need to do. Otherwise, I find I feel like “I better do this real quick before I forget.”

Yeah! I got a 13” mbp because I thought it would travel better, but after getting a 16” for work, I ended up getting the 16” for myself. The bigger screen is just so much more comfortable if I’m out and about.

You’re telling me! I got my mom an Oculus since she wouldn’t need a beefy computer to run VR. A few weeks after getting it, they want the Oculus account switched over to Facebook. Luckily, she can use the Oculus account for a few more years, but it was still so annoying.