ssnri

10% is within 10x of all percentages, lol.

the fuckin regolith! It’s the worst. It will destroy anything you build. It’s like sand but every grain has been personally sharpened by the devil

Perfect solution: have 10 kids and go to church every day.

Or get a hobby. Up to you

Unpopular opinion: parents get tax breaks, extra paid time off, and plenty of social leeway for blocking sidewalks with strollers / crying babies on planes, etc.

Please don’t ask for more. We who don’t have kids have our own problems.

As George Carlin put it: “speaking as a mother, …”

I just like nice computers and don’t really care about the inter-corporate mudslinging.

Now not paying an equal share of tax, on the other hand, is criticism I can join in on.

this is why i dislike refactoring unless there’s a legitimate change to the functionality and not just a rearrangement.

Leave the history alone for us bug spelunkers

That just takes the argument from bad to worse. “How will I condescend to my users without breaking their browser functionality?”

Zero times have I been saved by this feature

The popular "heart" is rather abstract and does not directly depict anything biological

Just gotta think lower down

I want to be an ally.

You’re edging toward doing the very thing: claiming.

If you want cis-het men to be cool and accepting, just accept the ones who are cool and accepting. Don’t get paranoid about why they’re hanging out.

I just hate bullies.

Ah, seems I was thinking of category 1b. I’ll keep reading. Great find.

the key idea for me was realizing that variables are really 3 things: value, type, and identifier.

A javascript object is like an S-expression if you squint. The subtree nesting is messier.

“filter out baby pictures from my family text threads”

between cat calling, and multiple people who have difficulty with the word no, that’s all I mean.

I got no hate. I would protect the queer community if it ever came down to it.

yeah, I love the community. Way better to seek emotional support from the queer community than other cishet men.

I would even let it have longer processing times for queries to apply against each document in my system, allow it to specialize/train itself on a daily basis…

Use all the resources you want if you save me brainpower

God damn! Threat neutralized. And all without starting a new paragraph.

I agree with all this and yet it’s the sheer force of your prose that I can’t let go of

I guess I’ll have to fall back on my oversized genitals

I go to yoga studios and the instructors hit on me.

Still have a mostly shit time with apps. Not zero dates, but going out and doing things in the real world is a much better strategy.

Being attractive is probably enough for women, not men though.

I enjoyed that book. After I read it I made my bio on dating apps: “Active, creative, hairy; but enough about Portia spiders.”

My question is: how successful do you think that’s been for me as a straight man?

I’m not saying I am confident in my own hypothesis, but regarding your second paragraph, I don’t think that’s valid reasoning.

I think the social dynamics are different between het/hom groups

here’s my simplified but experienced take:

Increased obesity is definitely part of why straight men reject straight women. Mental health is probably the number one reason why straight women reject straight men.

straight women expect straight men to be willing to go to therapy, but also to not need it in the first place

the mental health expectations placed on straight men are unrealistic

meanwhile, gay men see traumatized men and try to claim them. There’s a misunderstanding that men who got picked on in school are ripe for gay conversion.

Not all gay men are predators, but hey I’ve been sexually harassed by both straight women and gay men, and it’s definitely more gay men.

I think it comes down to how the different groups perceive mental health difference, and perhaps that gay men feel safer pushing when they’ve already gotten a “no” versus straight women who have more to worry about regarding their safety.

Is not created by, but certainly is promoted by.

I don’t like being singled out for my appearance.

Another one: I was at a standup performance and the woman on stage directly engaged with me to ask if I’m into buttlicking.

You can do whatever you want with consent. Not okay to proposition your kinks without getting a yes first.

I want the women I’m with to enjoy themselves and will work with that. Going down is no problem.

Some people just like love and sex without the extreme porn kinks.

Oh, I’m huge on doing the opposite of this.

When I write JS (not TS), I prefer as much as possible to use destructuring in every function definition. Named keyword arguments.

Try to change the name of something as little as possible even as it gets passed around. It’s more powerful than a type system in some ways. Not always doable, but just try it sometime; it’s fun.

I call it nominative programming.

I’m a tall man with assets.

My friend, it is just the opposite.

I’ve had a date end because a woman had a hard requirement to be dommed. No thanks.

I had a woman hint at making a pass at me this New Years. I tried to deflect. She still followed up: “maybe you don’t need chemistry if there’s power”. Made my stomach churn and my jaw drop.

I’m a big guy and porn has taught women to want things from men who look like me, which I have no interest in.

Before I get to my main point, ew at bringing church back. We’re talking about improving mental health and sex lives.

Tech causes us to give up on self-work but increases our standards for others.

Not getting enough dates? Statistically speaking, what you need to do is probably obvious: go to the gym, go to therapy, go outside.

A dry spell doesn’t make you bad. Rejecting others doesn’t make you bad. Only sleeping with people you actually want to sleep with is okay.

People will try to shame you for rejecting others. People will try to feed your insecurity about not having enough sex. Bitter people will try to manipulate you into sex.

Work on yourself. Ignore bitter people.