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Jesus christ you must have SERIOUS emotional issues.

You know how this situation should have been actually handled?

"Hey [groper], get your hands off me, I don't appreciate being touched by someone I don't know and I don't appreciate your remarks either."

10 seconds, situation over. But instead, OP decided to write a novel on this "experience", and generalized to: meetups, women, and tech. Now if other women read this, they will have fear and hostility instilled in them because scumbags like OP don't know how to deal with real life and just want e-attention.

Yeah I'm doing OK, are you?

The fact that this article even exists means she didn't do anything about it. It's not a helpless matter at all, but she's acting as if this is such a big event it warranted a whole essay on the matter. Like she just couldn't WAIT to leave the male stronghold of this meetup to seek emotional counselling online.

I am very open minded to problems that matter. There is no problem here. She ran into a super duper asshole, didn't outline her boundaries immediately, and instead is further polluting the tech industry with this gender nonsense. Next time some random grabs me by the shoulder that I don't know, I'm going to write an essay on it as well.

Did she get fired from a company because the CEO hates women? No.

Did she get physically assaulted or raped because she's a woman? No.

Is her pay significantly lowered simply due to the fact that she is a woman? No.

Did any significant change occur in her life from this encounter with this ONE douchebag? No.

Those are real problems which beg real discussion. This is an emotionally unstable girl who feels the world revolves around her and her gender. I know the type.

So why do I care? Why is it only women who blog about this emotional hot air?

It creates a false view of the field for other women, and when they go into it after reading crap like this, they assume this is what it's like.

Yeah actually I do. I have a huge problem with it. I have a huge problem with: some douchebag acted less than human towards me -> this is how it is like to be a woman in the tech industry.

Next time somebody gives me an off handed remark about something, I'm going to generalize as well and cry wolf online.

It's blowing up a problem that isn't a problem at all, way out of proportion.

I get groped at bars all the time by women, I don't make a whiny blog post about it. Kind of funny she made the post and claimed to "have a thick skin".

She clearly suffered a fair amount of emotional trauma from this rather mild leg grabbing. Did she do something about it? Of course she didn't.

Women in the tech industry is the next phase of Shakespearean drama.

Every time some retarded bullshit gender article meanders across my front page on HN, I'll shit post it. Why? Because HN is not your personal feminist platform. Flood twitter with your personal garbage.

Funny how far removed real problems are from our society.

"The intimidation, the mental abuse aspect of it is enough."

versus

Collecting wood in a forest 40km away so you can stoke a fire and your family can eat.

Tell the guy to get his hands off you, grab a seat, introduce yourself. Everyone needs an emotional baby sitter and therapist nowadays.

So you didn't immediately tell him to stop and continue on with your life and fled to the internet just so you can get HN karma? Yeah I stopped reading right there. This is why "women in tech" are a problem, because they constantly put themselves on a pedestal.

Yeah because chess is an INCREDIBLY hard game to get good at regardless of how smart you are. I've been playing for years and going to my local chess club and I'm still trash ahaha.

Magnus Carlsen didn't start a billion dollar company, and Bill Gates isn't a chess god.

Why is this article on HN? Who cares?

Oh I thought it said 20 HOURS per week.

Do not come to Toronto. Barcelona for me was the friendliest city. I sat down near the beach district (don't remember what it was called) and played guitar with a bunch of randoms and smoked joints while police strolled by and asked us how we were doing. It was surreal. Warm, beautiful, safe, the women in Barcelona are out of this world.

Uhhhh http://cl.ly/image/3l1h251S060B

Vanilla JS is easier for me. I don't have time to learn the workings of coffeescript just to read a library casually.

If you failed at using Illustrator or Gimp effectively, then you didn't try hard enough. Follow video tutorials and try to recreate graphics, in time you'll get better.

Ugh, this entire thing is in coffeescript too, now I have to learn coffeescript to make sense of this library.

I don't get what angle your comment is coming from. Define what exercise addiction is to you and the negative effects.

You're absolutely right. I'm demanding a 500k bonus from my boss tomorrow or I'm GONE!

How do I properly quantify exactly how much value I'm adding to the company I work for and the world to possibly determine how much I'm precisely worth?

The fact that I'm a 21 year old drop out making nearly 100k because I sat in my mom's basement for a few years and studied software that interested me is pretty crazy.

Smart way to make money by whoever posted this. Loving all the affiliate links.

I LOVE Sketch. It's so good. What's lacking are proper video tutorials for complex things and different subjects. I'd love to see an hour long video of someone vectoring something or designing a mobile app from start to finish.

Started using Sketch a few weeks back, never went back to Photoshop.

When I design, I usually just have livereload running with my website on my right monitor and code in my left. Ctrl+S = refreshes the site = very easy to develop with just html/css.

Not at all. Why must there be a label associated with everything?

I supposed girls nights out are now sexist as well, or just chilling with the guys and no girls.

How far will it go?

Why can't people just have their own events for their own people where they feel more comfortable? Maybe that's what it takes for some women, a friendly environment of just women.

Let it be.

You have clearly never lived a remotely shit life to make such claims. Do you understand what absolute poverty is?

I don't get it?

Really? Why Safari in particular?

Interesting. Does something exist where I can visually trace through how my javascript code is being executed? It would be wonderful to have a visual representation.

This would be an absolute godsend.

Recently started thinking about everything I use, say, and do in my life in the context of the past.

A Jamaican bobsled team raised $25,000 via Dogecoin, a crypto-currency, based on a combination of bitcoin, the popular digital money, and Doge, the internet meme that superimposes broken English written in Comic Sans onto pictures of Shiba Inu dogs.

This is the future.

I don't have time right now, I'll respond later.

"I'm a woman in tech. Something inconvenient or unpleasant happened to me. Therefore all women in tech suffer from this institutionally and men are privileged not to experience it."

Could not have said it better myself.

Yeah, that's entitlement, not privilege. Look at the world we currently live in. Everything we do has already been done for us.

Look at it from my point of view. I now live in a world where:

- I don't ever have to think about money, or food, or basic necessities - Everything I do is simply making use of all the shit that has been delivered right to my doorstep

Define "harder", because if you are struggling in the first world with such intangibles like race, skin color, and sexuality, then you really need to check yourself and realize how good you have it.

Because some random manager or someone formed an initial bias about you based on your outward appearance is not privilege, it's personal bias and we all have it.

The fact that I work at arguably the whitest place to work (largest investment bank in a first world country) that employs over 50% females of all varieties already wrecks your "privilege" assumption.

Do you know why? All those different people were hired solely based on their work and experience, nothing else.

I see all these articles and postings about what white privilege affords me, but none of it is concrete. I can't find anything tangible, where someone was explicitly discriminated against in the tech industry for their skin color or sexual preference.

I'm also gay as it fucking gets, yet I don't go around flaunting it and start making it a problem, to the point where my life revolves around my sexuality.