Isn’t everything deceptive? Isn’t every thing that produces a dopaminergic burst addictive? Should we dismantle and ban fast food? Social media? Fried food? Everything is coercive. You want a cure; force feed people mindfulness and psychology. All commercials are potentially coercive and deceptive. I’m watching a Walgreens commercial; there is no line in the commercial, the person behind the pharmacy is smiling and happy, no one else is in the store, the “paid for” actor leaves the pharmacy happy. This just seem like the reality of any Walgreens I’ve visited. But I digress; my argument for addiction markets as a recovering alcoholic… I grew more as a human from the experience of addiction and recovery than any other day to day mundane dopamine driven activity. Sometimes we need to fall to get back up. It makes us stronger, we learn to ask for help.
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Right. This was just too on point. Thank you for making my night!
Aww shit open in the app and I don’t have to pay
Way to for profit news cnn make the number one story paid only. Just woke up just want to read this article, can any help?
/me goes back in the trans closet
Why isn’t Perl anywhere on that chart when mentioning regex?
Just waiting for UBI and time to seek out my own adventures. Or the class warfare and society collapse.
Reminds me of the first android game I played on my G1 alchemy
Man people don’t use shadow anymore and expose creds through /etc/passwd; craziness
I’ve found after years of trying to escape all that I’ve lost. Talking about it helps the most.
You can see the PTSD and anxiety still has me up at 4:16am, I still don’t sleep well. I’m still healing and I imagine I may never fully heal but I do have hope that one day I will be better and have grown immensely through the experience but even today I have survivors guilt for being at work instead of home.
Coming up on the 6th anniversary of his death; my wife and I are separated and going through a divorce. I’d like to say it is all my fault because I am still emotionally unavailable but it takes two.
As for advice I think as we all relationships, communication is key. I dropped the ball here because honestly the first year I only got out of bed to go to the liquor store.
Year two, I drained my retirement to live while staying 24/7 obliterated and not dealing with what can only be called a complete loss of one’s identity and self.
I don’t think it is healthy for us to stay together because she took the loss much easier than I at least from all outward appearance.
Years 3-5 was a very introspective and healing time where I went through periods of depression and hopelessness.
I’m now in the rediscovering who I am phase because I kind of lost that along the way.
So in conclusion, a combination of LSD and therapy(CBT) allowed me to start moving forward with life and slowly getting out of a never ending cycle of grief.
That probably doesn’t answer your question but I think every one who has to go through this kind of event is going to handle it differently.
My son passed May 10 2018; I was drunk from May 11 2018 until sometime in 2022 with struggles off and on. I’d love to chat about the insane level of grief I experienced and maybe help or just listen. Come find me if you’d like.
I think according to the law and related suits based on accessing publically available URLs without authorization is still technically prosecutable - I’m not a CFAA expert but I’d double check there
This is how I work in general as well.
I feel like this post just got some dude murdered in Russia
Absolutely.
I mean as a man who identifies as a man I prefer women’s jeans to men’s jeans because the fabric is lighter and less restricting. So I just buy women’s jeans the pocket size does not effect my purchase decision the comfort factor does. I imagine women could do the reverse if their purchase decision is based on pocket size.
I blog without ads but then again I haven’t blogged in years lol mattharris dot org
Wouldn’t all the companies then just conspire to pay everyone lower wages?
And here I thought us nerds ruled the world.
Adam? Why don’t you have ketchup in your fridge like a human being? Are you a cyborg?
Right? Windows should never even come into your mind. Always think Linux.
That requires motivation to find vs forced to figure out.
I don’t think the web peasants will ever learn as much as you would growing up with and building servers at home. I wish you could still do stage 1 installs and things still didn’t work so nicely. That’s how I got my chops; you want a multi monitor setup on Linux better RTFM for X and figure out how to manually configure it and deal with the configuration randomly breaking until you chattr it. Learning I feel was easier when things weren’t as good as they are now. You get less time just troubleshooting in general which I think is really what I do, at the end of the day I describe what I do as “I solve problems”. Random rant for nostalgia over.
Vim is all you need.
Wow I never see Perl on HN; are we finally gonna see a Perl revival?
Well at least I learned something new today!
Adderal
Well then I guess you should offer me a 400k salary bc I can run circles around your junior engineers, and get paid less than 200k
I mean maybe I have work ethic or am lucky. But I don’t struggle to pay mortgage, buy cars, or go on vacations and I am the sole breadwinner for my family… but I also started programming in 3rd grade in the 90s, didn’t go to college so have no debt, and live a pretty non materialistic punk rock life.