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dufusheart

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I read some of this stuff a while ago after an HN suggestion. I half-think it gave me the wrong idea in some ways. As the girl started pulling away from me, I tried to amp up my game and it just made things worse. Lol. I think the smarter play would have been to size things up, see that she was a ballbuster, and move on if there was no response.

Yeah, I guess it's good to remember that everyone's imperfect and some people just hate certain kinds of other people. In this case, she and I started off great, then the more I got to know her, the closer I felt to her and the more interested I was. The more she got to know me, the less interested she was. But she kept trying to connect as friends because she enjoyed my non-romantic company. Meanwhile, the time we spent together was crossing my wires and confusing me.

We got to know eachother very quickly during a time when I raised money for our company and was on top of the world. I wrongly assumed that because everything else in life was going well, that this relationship was just good karma coming out of nowhere, so I was extremely open and "googly-eyed" toward her. This came across as me being "a 14-year-old boy in man's body" and "a fool who doesn't know a thing about women and relationships."

This is true. And I understand that if you suck at something, the only way to get better is to confront the fact that you suck at it and work on it.

I guess it's just hard to process that there's someone out there who knows a ton about me and based on that, wants nothing to do with me. I feel like my startup could get a buyout offer tomorrow and that fact would still be ringing in my ears.