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How do you tackle narcissism as a problem when virtually everything (internet, social media, celebrities, politics) prolifically promotes a narcissistic way of life as a successful one?

This is what a government and/or society need to figure out. But no one really wants to ask or deal with those hard questions which is why the proverbial can keeps getting kicked down the road.

Where did the parent comment say that? This is about as bad faith of a take as it gets.

I'm asking a question. It's not a bad faith take. How else should I reply to it? Just accept it and move on? I don't agree and want to know more (from the OP, not from you, by the way)

Parent comment talked about having kids. Guess what, I have kids. My opinion matters too.

Poorest of poor and illiterate people happen to have more children than the rest.

Just curious, why do you think this is? Please elaborate.

If men are educated on responsibilities of alimony and child support, with almost no rights, they would neither marry nor have legitimate children.

Here's the corollary. A woman's body is absolutely ravaged by pregnancy. Her career outlooks suffer. There's a historical reasons why men have to pay child support or alimony. Because many men just don't want children, I guess, but they seem perfectly OK with not using contraception. Those men helped create a situation where an entire legal system that was created to prevent such situations. Because all men have to worry about is financial issues. Imagine it being your physical health instead (like a woman) or your career (like a woman). Maybe, just maybe, men should work together to not be absent and show up for the family they help create. Peer pressure should be stronger by men and men's circles to have respect for women. If you are a good father, great. You have nothing to worry about.

Governments, society and individuals all need to understand the effects _on everyone_. I'm not saying men shouldn't have respect or dignity or whatever. But let's be real, women have not _historically_ had that luxury men have had and still have to fight for their rights too (to this day). The mere fact that you seem to totally miss ALL OF THIS indicates to me that the system of alimony/child support is still very much needed. Because men can't seemingly understand anything beyond financial pressure. Gee wiz.

Your comment is entirely "have children as much as possible" and just doesn't seem to have any consideration for the opportunity, physical or emotional costs of that decision. Like, at all.

Government does not have their own money. People pay taxes which are used by government.

Yes, this is what society does. An educated and prosperous society builds safety nets for each other. You seem to only care about birth rates but not .. supporting people after they are born. Terrible. We need better policies for family planning. That's what I'm advocating for. You seem to not want any of that. Am I mistaken?

I want to know, "I feel that informing males beforehand about the responsibilities of fatherhood would decrease the birth rate", why do you feel this way? Increased responsibilities should only fall on the mother? Please explain your rationale. If I misunderstand, please explain.

So, the solution is to... not provide education? The logic doesn't make sense. You say this yourself: "I would still have them if I knew just how hard it would be"

If it reduces birth rates, that's not due to education alone. That's due to a lack of investment by governments to support those families.

You should know this with two kids. Any help is better than no help. Women want to work. Women want to go to school. That's what this topic is about.

Birth rates would also improve when boys and men are educated. Both genders need education and child support programs. Men/Boys need to understand what responsibilities they have, if they choose to have a child. They also need to understand the effects that having a child has on a woman's body.

Governments around the world would benefit their society by investing in family planning, family support (esp. child care) to enable parents to work and provide for their family.

An educated and healthy populace (from infant to old age) benefits everyone.

Grok 4.3 3 months ago

Grok can take clothes off from any picture of a woman. Therefore, I will never use Grok. I don't know how anyone feels comfortable using this product.

It's unfortunate that folks who complain incessantly about "facts not feelings" don't appear to be using their critical thinking skills here. But I guess it's not too surprising.

Sure. A state where housing is dirt cheap and no taxes is great, but if something happens to you, good luck finding a hospital or municipal services. Job prospects are also something to consider.

Just because houses cost more and there's a state tax, doesn't mean it's _bad_.

had the faintest clue about Nazism

Whew lad. This tells me all we need to know. "I don't know nothing but folks gotta listen to my opinion!"

By whose measure is it the 'strongest'? That suggests it's somehow more effective.

Counterpoint: It's intrusive to a worker's life, career prospects and their family if you decide to hire a family member over someone who (and I'm adding this in purposely) - objectively more qualified - than the family member.

That's the thing. "Mainstream" Media in the US are no longer bound to the fairness doctrine. Thus, we have corporate ownership which steers how a story is written or at all. Independent media beholden only to their viewers (not corporate benefactors) are incentivized to do what you want more effectively.

Your experience is typical only for your region, I'll just say that.

The solution is endless growing bureaucracy to implement and enforce fairness at every level and it is happening everywhere I can see.

You are advocating for fairness - but for it to be fair - you need to be allowed special treatment and that treatment (positive mostly, from your stance) to be applied only to family members. E.g., "It's only fair I hire my brother. So I can enrich my family. He may not be qualified, but I'm the founder."

But then in the same breath, you say it is unfair to bolster nepotism and cast aspersions on the vast majority of workers who feel opposite of you.

Your argument is flawed and flimsy, with all due respect.

You may have a business that works but no one outside your family would want to work with you and especially working with inept family members. At least no one I know.

I'll edit to add: I think it's a sad state of affairs you see friends as just a convenience. Nothing more. Sure seems like there's no investment in relationships outside families which seems very exclusionary.

Sometimes, I feel like the whole downwards trend having a single kid loses the family aspect of my previous generation

There are many reasons folks have no kids or only one kid. I don't think opining for a larger family 'for the chance' of having a family member with similar tastes is really... compelling.

Nobody to pull them up and nobody to pull up in term. Not dynasties of tiger children, but simply support in minor ways.

Are you saying friends cannot provide support in minor ways?

In my view, it's more compelling to solution the many downsides of nepotism (esp. in governments not just private entities) rather than endorse or perpetuate it.