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https://spokengoods.com/ - a podcast summary site that also pulls out product mentions. I kept forgetting which books were mentioned while I was out doing stuff.

Feeling Good and/or Feeling Great by David Burns. It should be on everyone's bookshelf, imho. It has the exact step by step process that you're looking for.

Continuing hacking on my podcast summarizer, https://spokengoods.com/

I would focus on the games first, and then spin up the LLC if one of them takes off. Otherwise you just have the maintenance and fees of the LLC which is a distraction.

Be an organ donor. Donate blood on a regular basis. Skeptoid had a podcast today that talks about blood donation with some interesting tidbits about shelf life of platelets and whole blood. (5 days vs 42 days)

(Disclaimer: the site I hacked for myself to help me consume podcasts) https://spokengoods.com/podcasts/385078-skeptoid/mic-d-up-br...

https://spokengoods.com - Podcast summarization and organic product mention extraction.

Some time ago, I wrote a few stories along these lines mostly for fun. https://www.hardmode.app/

I'm quite aware of survivorship bias, and it is a theme I had thought about but wasn't sure how to frame in terms of individual stories.

Consider activities that broaden your perspective, e.g. reading a biography or travel somewhere.

Consider journaling deeply about areas that trouble you, whether recent or distant past. Also consider journaling in detail about the best possible outcome for yourself. Forcing yourself to organize thoughts in writing can help understand confusing situations.

If therapist isn't working, find another one. It's totally normal to try several.

Best of luck and good on you asking for help.

When and how long was your last vacation?

Next time try 8 hours on an Amtrak Northeast Corridor train in business class over Thanksgiving :)

During this period of tech layoffs I just wanted to highlight some research done 30 years ago which is part of a larger body of research around expressive writing. My apologies for re-wording the title, but the original paper and the linked-to summary have vague / convoluted titles.

Original paper: Expressive writing and coping with job loss https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1994-39375-001

Sample size of 1, but my blog still isn't showing up in Google after launching almost a month ago. Bing and DuckDuckGo do have it.

Pretty much everyone in a developed country. Just zoom out your time perspective. I'll go ahead and say paramedics, but there are examples all over the place.

Language is not precise, and companies define their roles differently for a variety of reasons, including the nature of the business each company is in. I'll take a stab though.

In general, "salesperson" implies a single transaction. You go to the Apple Store, you talk to a salesperson, you walk out with a big iPhone and a light wallet. Note that Apple calls them "specialist" or something, see point above.

"Account" implies an ongoing relationship with a steady stream of transactions, such as an advertiser with a large account on an ad platform. The account manager's role would be a) make sure to keep the account and b) find ways for the account to spend more money in a way that's beneficial to both.

Account executives typically sign new accounts, so they are overall selling the value of the ongoing stream of transactions.

Further muddying the waters is that all these roles are under the "Sales" org, so you could arguably say an account manager is in sales even if they're not a salesperson you meet at a retail store.

I wrote a simple stopwatch menu bar app called Mini Time Tracker [1] for Mac. I use it to track how much time I do a single thing, e.g. coding. It's like pomodoro in reverse and only stops when you tell it to stop.

[1] https://apps.apple.com/us/app/mini-time-tracker/id1633674659...

You might find the concept of Ikigai interesting. Also, Arthur C. Brooks recently wrote a book, From Strength to Strength. I think his audience skews slightly older than you, but it's about how people find meaningful second careers by leveraging the wisdom they have gained in their first career.

Just my opinion, but there are tons of ways to find meaning, e.g. advising startups, angel investing, teaching, giving talks at your alma mater, generally helping people in different ways. It's not for everyone, but lots of people have kids and find meaning through them. You can also do stuff for your parents. Looking back on it, I wish I had just paid for a home improvement project at my parents' house rather than simply suggesting it to them and hoping they'd do it.

What if you turned it from a solitary activity to a pair activity. e.g. ask a trusted peer to take notes as you explain the design of your system with whiteboard. Then clean up the notes and drawings. The peer could also point out issues or common questions in real time allowing your doc to address them proactively.

Just an idea.

A journaling app based on the body of research around personal writing and a newsletter to go along with it.

The Body Keeps the Score lists a variety of therapies, and trigger warning, contains details about traumas of people the author has interviewed. Good luck.

`weather` into google works fine for basic stuff.

wunderground.com for hourly rain forecasts, for when I want to keep an eye on potential flooding around my house.

I actually enjoy the process of re-reading and editing. It takes me days as well and I am a native speaker!

Maybe just shoot for good and not perfect. Limit yourself to one re-read and edit cycle and then publish it. You will get better over time and grow to tolerate it better.

Try timing how much actual work you do each day. Track it. Also time procrastination and track.

Then increase first number while decreasing second number. Just try to beat the previous day by a bit.

If you finish all your work, ask boss for more.

Yes, I was a PM.

That's good! Maybe I was an imposter after all :)

I would count everything including meetings, email, required trainings, team events, etc. People would attend low priority meetings and just work through them, it was nuts. Perhaps you have less of this in your company / role.

When I worked at a FAANG company I estimated that I needed to work around 60 hours a week to meet expectations. Nobody ever really talked about baselines like this because it makes the company look bad. Doesn't really help with imposter syndrome either. One of the founders mentioned a similar baseline during a fireside chat and I didn't feel so bad after that.

So, you could see what your baseline is, talk to peers (not HR), and see how the math falls out with whatever you want to spend your remaining time on.

It would be a meaningless data point without the necessary calibration, so that's why I left it at x. Some kids can be left alone to play nicely, others require constant supervision, discipline, redirecting of their energy, etc. The folks I talked to already knew my son and had similar kids / challenges of their own.

I started with a physical diary because I'm obsessed with Muji pens and enjoyed the ritual of putting pen to paper without distractions. Later on I transcribed all the old entries to a journaling app because I filled the notebook and wanted to throw it away. I still use pen and paper sometimes. It feels more "intentional" somehow.

I had a rough 2020-2022 and one thing that made a difference was starting a personal writing habit with two main components:

1. Daily writing which summarizes the day and gets off my chest any minor things that are bothering me.

2. Deep dive writing focused on a particular issue that I struggled with before and is inexplicably still on my mind. (Implying that I haven't fully processed the issue)

I also started collecting stories of people who confronted difficult periods in their life. It was helpful to know that I wasn't alone and also to see that others faced much more difficult challenges than I have. I actually started a newsletter about it, shameless plug: https://hardmode.substack.com/

I'm not sure if it's mental health, but in support of mental health is proper sleep with Huberman's favorite tip: get outside early in the morning and in the evening. Getting fresh air and light in the morning just feels great.

One last key thing was paying attention to my limits. It sounds terrible but I found that I went nuts when I was spending more than x hours with my son each day (on average). So the solution was to find babysitting help so I could stay at x hours per day or less. I felt guilty because I thought x was low, but after asking a few close friends they understood and actually thought my tolerance was pretty high. So also staying anchored in the real world rather than trying to meet an imaginary expectation that only I have.

Yes! This is the exact analogy that I use. Writing in a diary, even if it's a one liner, helps me to "floss away" the things that are on my mind.

I like it but the spring animations on the demo page feel a little jarring to me.