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So what is the social contract in this instance? That men are entitled to women? That strikes me as... trying to run a society through coercion, just with the target being a group that people here seem fine with coercing.

Sometimes unpleasant times are necessary in the fight for human rights. Otherwise we would still have things like slavery. Additionally, women wouldn't have the right to vote, and they also wouldn't be able to make independent financial decisions like have their own bank accounts or mortgages. These things aren't that historic, and taking the side of trying to restrict women's relationship choices strikes me as being on the wrong side of history again.

There is a recurring theme on this topic, and the article alluded to it via these men potentially stirring "political trouble", that the freedom of women needs to be clamped down on because these men won't otherwise find partners, and thus will cause social instability.

To me it strikes me as the entirely wrong approach. Women should in fact continue to push for their autonomy and freedom, and a functioning society should be keeping these men in check rather than yielding to them in any capacity.

Calm app's Daily Calm with Tamara Levitt. She's a great teacher.

Overall, it's learned through practice. My style is something I like to call, Calm Zen.

I start with a daily calm session (~10min) and follow it with 20min zazen, which is a pretty basic sitting meditation style. I count breaths mentally on the exhale to 10, then start back at 1.

I find tangible results from practicing daily for at least 20min per day. Some have measured results from less, but it doesn't seem to be the case for me.

Maybe something that I’ve learned in therapy COULD be entertained as a possibility. It’s a technique that I don’t even know HOW it’s called but it boils down to dedicating 45mins to grievance. As in – you dedicate 45mins per day when you can focus on grieving (e.g. over a failed relationship) and at any other time of the day you have to delay doing it until your 45-mins-of-grief time comes.

45min-1hr of mindfulness training would be more effective, I would think

Vite 3.0 4 years ago

Webpack hasn't been dethroned, but it certainly has a competitor.

They are easily one of the most harmful classes of medications. Sure, they combat anxiety acutely, but wreck ones cognitive abilities in the process. This has been readily observable for a long time.

Plus, the anxiolytic effect quickly turns into a dependency, as when the withdrawal starts kicking in you're inclined to start having anxiety attacks.

Suppose you want to get off them. Now you have a significant problem. Can't quit cold turkey -- you're likely to have a seizure.