siamtheman

http://catless.ncl.ac.uk/Risks/ is a old favorite of mine.

It sounds like you know the life codes pretty good, Maybe the girl will move with you to work at Famous Corp in 2019? It might take a ring to persuade her. I lived in Taiwan 3 years as a teenager, I loved the country, so I know a little about living there. At 27 there is still plenty of time to get everything ready for what will be your future. So as long as there is a plan it will work out for you. I think that maybe Famous Corp doesn't want you to tell the Boss because it is actually their way of saving face for "poaching" you or they don't wish to get entangled with your present employer. It is actually pretty standard procedure, whats different is that you are actual friends with your boss.

The main problem seems to be ,should I tell my boss now... because he is your friend the only answer is yes. anything less will likely haunt you for years. Famous Company does not need to know who you told about their offer, so do not tell them. Tell the boss now, then go get the offer, with a solid offer in hand ask the girl what "we" should do, then ask boss what he thinks. I'm sure that whatever advice they give will be better than anything else you will find.

Ah.. you left out a lot of important parameters on the initial query. You nailed me - I do enjoy all the privileges, home, wife, pay checks. My son is two years younger than you are, working on a masters computer engineer. So now the real important things appear, citizenship - girlfriend, Both are very important to you so these are now the determining factors for your decisions. 1. Forget Famous company, you can't live without the girl. 2. 2019 go to New Zealand and get your citizenship.(w/girl) This is what you want, right? so now this is the plan, every small and large decision you make should move you toward this outcome. Everything else is noise, twist it and turn it over if it can't be converted to your goal then discard it.

Well don't I look foolish, Now that you put it that way I think your boss won't mind that you are talking to Famous Company. Go to the meeting get a firm offer, then tell your friend/boss all about the offer and ask him what he thinks you should do. My guess is that he will be happy for you. I would be...

I think that maybe you have talked to much already. Meet with Famous Company and get a firm offer. Tell them of whatever notification period will be necessary to terminate your 2018 contract. The contract you signed will have the required amount (days) of notification needed before you quit. Your boss is not your friend, he may be friendly and a great guy, but unless you are married (almost in your case) to his daughter, this is work, a job. I know this because I was a Boss for many years, if I liked you then I would have said exactly the same thing as he did, you need to move on, because I can't pay you what you are worth. If you have been there seven years it's time to move up in the world anyway. Tell Boss how great it was working there with him and how you will miss working at the company. I say it this way because you seem to be young. It is difficult to tell when loyalty is due or when self-interest is the best move. Perhaps a better way of looking at this would be to think of this as more of a overdue promotion. So now is the time to go for the glory (and money). Also you will learn many new things, things that will help you later when you move even further up the latter. I read that most people have 3 - 7 jobs (full-time) in their lifetime, so you are right on course.

You have already talked too much, tell current boss goodbye, ask famous company when do you want me to start work . This is how life works, a real friend will tell you now is time to move up in the world. Siam