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I will say a few things. When things like giving up alchohol happen your brain will do a lot of things to trick back into the drug. Like, for example, making the things you previously enjoyed seem not fun or fulfilling like they used to, all a ploy to get you back on the drink. I'm not an expert.

Speaking from experience the number one thing that gave me purpose in life is kids. There is nothing more purposeful that having something that you love more than yourself. I tell everyone this and I understand that you may not agree. Having kids is the greatest thing you will ever do. When you're 60 sitting at home you're going to wish you would have had them.

Non-kid suggestions would be start a project, that you can feel ownership over. You own it and make something of it. You are responsible for its success or failure. Again, I'm no expert.

Semi relatable. Marshawn Lynch "Beast Mode" of the seattle seahawks said that he would take a shot or two before the games to calm his nerves and things just flow.

Here is what I will say. If you always leave when you feel this way you'll never get better. I used to be you, I was always awkward and felt awkward around my co-workers. For me this wasn't just at work this was in every aspect of my life, I was very anxious all the time. It was an underlying insecurity that I hadn't dealt with yet.

It took me years to overcome the anxiety and feeling of awkwardness but it's because I didn't understand why I was feeling that way.

Here is what I'll say as some closing advice. No one else thinks you're weird, or awkward or an outcast. You do. They think you're the new guy and it's just going to take some time to break that barrier. Running away is not going to fix it.

This is part of working and improving yourself, your company benefits from this. Have you ever heard the quote: "What if we train them and they leave? What if we don’t and they stay?". As long as it is relevant to your job and you're getting your work done, I wouldn't worry too much about it.

All I can say is I went through the exact same thing. I used to love sitting down at the keyboard and churning out code on a project I was excited about. Slowly but surely I started programming less and was not as excited about jumping into projects as I used to be.

For me, the problem was Alcohol. I was drinking more alcohol than I ever had in the past and it, for some reason I do not know, was causing me to not find the some enjoyment in things especially programming.

So, I realized this and stopped drinking alcohol and I have now been working on projects non stop in my free time and am enjoying programming as much as I ever had.

In all, I would say don't be too hard on yourself. You are still the same person that loved programming. I think you need to take a step back and see what else in your life has changed.

Motivation is like excitement or eagerness, when you have it it's amazing, but when you don't it's hard to do anything.

So stop relying on something so unreliable. Depend on your self discipline.

Write down what you need to accomplish and make yourself do it, every day, even if it's for 5-10 minutes. Eventually it will become second nature.