I know that there was no ill intent but it certainly seemed to be conflating things.
I know that I am neurospicy and seen extreme evidence of same in family members. I have my grief, and the ongoing worry of wasting my life and all that fun stuff. That part feels like various forms of therapy would help, but there's other aspects that are just flat out biochemical failures. It's an adventure in how to deal with all the above the best one can within the given constraints.
What would be extra helpful is to not do it alone, but alas, one can't always get what one wants, or needs.