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Everything feels hollow now.

I'm slightly younger than you are but I remember how video games and sitting in front of my computer made me feel like this. You asked how to be willing to be alone but I will pivot my answer here that maybe you don't have to be alone? If you don't want to be alone here are the steps I would take nowadays.

I would recommend finding a improv class. This helps you to get used to laugh to yourself and make a fool of yourself. Also the people attending improv classes are more open in general. When you are more comfortable with these feelings then it becomes easier to open up a conversation with strangers. First times it feels awkward but you can frame the narrative that this is just you learning social skills and your body adapting to the new situation. When you do this enough it becomes easier to find new people into your life. You might feel creepy and they might feel that you're creepy but it becomes easier when you practice. Be open about your learning: "Sorry if I'm bothering you. I'm trying to learn how to speak to others. How is your day going?"

If the chit-chat goes well ask them for coffee or a lunch or if they want to join you for a walk with your dog. Strangers often ask if they can pet my dog when walking in the public with her. Put your focus into them rather than your feelings. Ask how their day has been. Ask how do they spend their time. Ask follow up questions: "Oh you like knitting? It reminds me of my Grandma. Are your granparents still alive? How often do you see them?". This way other people feel that you are actually paying attention and it helps you to connect with them.

Read also this one: https://www.experimental-history.com/p/good-conversations-ha...

Learn how to use your calendar and start planning stuff together with the people you meet. Most of the people are just self-centered and want to have someone who would listen to them. If you provide this for them you will find people who are interested in your company. Hopefully eventually you will meet also few people who will listen to you as well.

When you start having more friends/acquaintances the hollow feeling did go away for me. The hollow feeling still comes every now and then but I've somehow accidentally built a routine that when it comes I will reach my phone and suggest something to do for my friends.

YMMV but for me it has been a long journey but definitely worth it and doable for others if they can endure the anxiety during the way. Also remember to sleep/eat/excercise in addition like others said. When you don't everything else falls apart.

I'm not that familiar with CED but the fact that we can see the images with microscopes is because these are analog discs? And that was because computing power back then was non-existent so they didn't use any kind of compression?

Okay, I think some significant self-reflection is in order here.

This feels hurtful even though its hard to disagree. Self-reflection is of course useful and I’ve done it for countless of hours and been in therapy for years.

Your boxes for transactional or non-transactional relationships are too simplistic. You maybe feel like you can compare me to someone you know and try to fit this example to your own experiences. All relationships have at least 1 person who is doing some effort to keep it going. Good ones have 2 persons.

Its of course too early to say if my methods will form long-lasting ones or not but it feels like theres a chance and so far so good. Please link me long-term studies which prove this wrong ;)

I wish you all the best and I hope you can self-reflect on your own assumptions too :)

This is just how people are.

This is just how most people are.

There are counter examples like I mentioned above but they are rare. These are the people I should have prioritised much more and way earlier. It took me way too long to realise that quality >>> quantity regarding relationships.

I hope you will still arrange movie Thursdays sometime in the future even if nobody else will :)!

Also I'm happy that you have the few good friends for 15+ years. Grass might always be greener on the other side but I would trade those immediately for the thousands of acquittances.

I have thousands of connections I’ve hanged out during my twenties.

Ive arranged countless parties. People have met eachother in those and are happily married nowadays or have made friends during those events. Somehow the relationship between me and them formed into one where they were expecting me to arrange and include them everytime without offering help or asking me in return. Ive done all the things both of you mentioned and you’re definitely right that this does filter out plenty of people but I dont mind that nowadays.

The ones that get filtered through are the ones I feel like I should spend my energy and I have strong feeling that some of the effort does echo back to me during the times I dont have energy to be the one who arranges. It feels very nice but again we have different needs and YMMV. This works for me and I should have been more explicit about my background in the initial post as well.

I agree :D. It's my best formulation to be explicit so far. How would you say it in more natural way to still achieve the same end result?

Most people are clueless and will never do anything in return if you're implicitly expecting them to behave in certain manner.

I feel for you. People are flaky and relationships rarely work in both ways.

I felt lonely year ago and I messaged over 160 people and met over 100.

When departing with them I tried to say to all of them that: ”It was nice to meet you. If you liked it as well can you arrange it next time? If you didnt like it and I was annoying you please message me later on how I could have been better.”

Less than 10% of the 100 people did reach back to me but they are very wonderful folks and I’m happy with their company.

Finding great friends needs you to be explicit on what you want and also having enough social stamina to endure through this.

Be willing to let go of the friends who are just passengers in your relationships and rarely show up without doing anything in return. Life is short and theres opportunity cost in each moment.

Would someone know if their eval tests are open source and where I could find them? Seems useful for iterating on Claude Code behaviour.

Slightly off topic but I would really want to see DuckDB based alternative of https://pgrouting.org.

It's so easy to embed duckdb anywhere. Current smartphones already have enough CPU juice to handle almost anything and duckdb can query and cache geoparquet files eg from the Overture maps.

"Go Map!!" was indeed pretty easy to use. Thanks!

Wow, thanks for mentioning https://streetcomplete.app! This looks very intuitive to use for edits on openstreetmaps.

Would someone here know a similiar tool for iOS or MacOS? Or any recommendations to edit roads.

We are currently driving with a 4.5 tonne motorhome in Europe and the road weight and height limits are usually marked properly in osmand+ but when they are not we waste multiple hours rerouting in the alps and I would really want to help the next person in similar situation.

Is there anything like this but for MacOS?

Would someone with more experience be able to explain to me why can't these operations be "safe"? What is blocking rust from producing the same machine code in a "safe" way?

Thanks! Today I learned:

$ git ls-remote "https://github.com/$repo.git" "refs/tags/$tag"

Even though the grep and sed are not very readable this was very useful way to avoid yet another tool!

I wasn't aware of the already existing SHA-1 collision support created by Github. It's very interesting read and AFAIK it seems that using SHA-1 collisions is not possible:

https://github.blog/news-insights/company-news/sha-1-collisi...

Is anyone aware of a git hook I could use to analyse my .github/workflows/*.yml files and replace git tags like "v4" with the current git commit hashes?

I think this would make it much safer to use 3rd party GitHub Actions.

It seems pretty awful that the de-facto way to use GitHub Actions is using git tags which are not immutable. For example to checkout code [1]:

- uses: actions/checkout@v4

Github does advise people to harden their actions by referring to git commit hashes [2] but Github currently only supports SHA-1 as hashing algorithm. Creating collisions with this hashing algo will be more and more affordable and I'm afraid that we will see attacks using the hash collisions during my lifetime.

I wish that they will add support for SHA-256 soon and wrote product feedback regarding it here: https://github.com/orgs/community/discussions/154056

If this resonates with you please go and give it a thumbs up :)

[1] https://github.com/actions/checkout?tab=readme-ov-file#usage

[2] https://docs.github.com/en/actions/security-for-github-actio...

Thanks for creating and sharing this :) Commenters here can be pretty awful so I wanted to say that I really enjoy using the tools you have created.

What I'm really missing still is a cli to iCloud stored passwords. AFAIK 'security' cli can't access the credentials stored in the cloud. This would be helpful to store secrets outside of git but would still allow scriptable access to them similarly as 1password cli 'op' has.

I'm storing a lot of text documents (.html) which contain long similiar sections and are thus not copies but "partial copies".

Would someone know if the fast dedup works also for this? Anything else I could be using instead?

Matt you propably don't remember me but we met briefly on WordCamp Vienna 8 years ago. I was hugely inspired by you for many years and still was until few weeks ago.

It's not too late to stop this madness.

Using a Starlink dish would propably have been cheaper?

Upload speeds are not as good as download but 2 terabytes should be uploaded in 2 weeks and 4 days with Starlink 10Mbps.

If you want to be very cheap you could do this in your 30 day trial period and return the dish afterwards but I'm assuming you have similiar upload needs often so keeping the dish is propably better.

You can look at the https://satellitemap.space/ to see that starlink isn't (yet) too feasible in the northern/arctic areas. Even in the Nordic countries the connections are not that great.

There's an edit button in the linked page. It's better to contribute than to complain.

They both take roughly same amount of time and other option leaves things better than you found them ;)

In Finland where I'm from the Olkiluoto III nuclear plant was delayed multiple times and ended up being 9th most expensive building in the world (excluding military bases which we don't have public records):

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_most_expensive_build...

I'm highly skeptical of the schedules and since it's so old equipment I would be very surprised if it will be in budget and start when scheduled. Anyway I hope it works out.

Damn that sounds like a great visit. It seemed like very interesting piece of history and I wanted to share the link here. I'm driving through Europe right now and wanted to go there but nobody answered my emails and the online reservation form doesn't seem to work. Would you know if they still do it around this time of the year?

They certainly can. I think even people outside of EU can open companies in Estonia.

The problem is that you need to pay taxes in the country where the work was physically done. So if you have Estonian company while living in Germany typically the same taxes need to be filed and paid compared to having a GmbH in Germany. Plus you need to also do the taxes in Estonia as well so you would end up having double bureaucracy instead.

You can read about tax agreements between your country of residence and estonia to find out more. I'm not a lawyer and this is simplification and Can even be wrong but it's the best understanding I have so far.

Thanks for the great blog post.

I'm very happy to be living and building business in Estonia instead. Establishing the company is easy and everything else except KYC meeting in bank can be done online. Also in Estonia companies don't pay any taxes on yearly profits. Almost all of the government officials speak fluent English except in the case where I wanted to have company owned car. Would highly recommend this option for others too if you can relocate easily. They even changed the rules in 2023 and now even 1€ initial capital is enough.

Author here: This link is also mentioned in the sources section of the article and I did personally upvote that answer too in Stack Exchange.

I really appreciate your original comment and it was straight to the point. It's probably good to still reflect about that part since other users might feel offended. Thanks also for the EDIT part too. It makes me feel that HN users won't tolerate bullshit but will nonetheless give great feedback :)

Your comment original comment lead me to ask if HN admins could rephrase the blog article from: "Native macOS fix for applications hiding under the MacBook Pro notch" -> "Built-in MacOS workaround for applications hiding under the MacBook Pro notch"

Which is more accurately representing the contents of the article. I also changed the title in my own blog post to this already.

Author here: @dang other users here helped me to understand that the title is bit misleading. I was just eager to share about this and possibly help others with this knowledge without thinking about this correctly.

I already renamed the article on my end and redirected it to a new url: https://flaky.build/built-in-workaround-for-applications-hid...

Can you change the url and rename the submission title to: "Built-in MacOS workaround for applications hiding under the MacBook Pro notch"

Thanks a lot and sorry for the trouble!