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It is important to listen to the body. I tried to have a spartan level of self discipline and that put me in a express route to burn out. And I burned out.

Burn out is not easy to climb out of, so I would rather be less than ideally productive than be disciplined to an extent that ignores my humanity and that damages me severely.

I wouldn't say that is mistreatment. It is a business transaction where one party has more leverage than the other. 99% of the time the employee in the lower income region gets a far high salary than they expect to get at another employer. So it is not like they are being coerced into a "unable to make ends meet" levels of income.

The employee ends up doing pretty well.

The point of a PIP is to create a paper trail to protect the company from incurring further costs and liability risk, so as a purely post-decision defensive strategy, it makes sense to not disclose it. The laws makes it such that everyone has to sustain the fiction that a PIP is in earnest, which creates that creepy gaslighting feeling. The supreme irony is keeping it secret could mean a more personally honest and less psychologically harmful relationship for all involved.

Are you from the USA?

That culture needs to be implemented with actions, and by the leadership behaving according to that culture, not by sending out a memo.

I think the memo saves a lot of people a lot of time and frustration. By actions you mean "not tolerated" in the sense that someone is fired or reprimanded for a set of behaviours then that would raise a lot of questions about what else doesn't fly when working there. It is better that they published a memo.

I am based out of Europe. I am a developer here. I have worked in a different tech market before coming here - India.

The whole of Europe's tech scene is smaller than India's. I think that is the reason for the pay gap. Even despite that the pay for engineers is significantly above the median wage.

I live in the Netherlands and I make a salary similar to doctors, lawyers and dentists. So the face value of the salary may be lower but it is a lot for here.

9/11 also happened spectacularly in the middle of new york. Does that mean law enforcement tried to do something about Afghanistan? Was it the fault of airports to not do a thorough cavity search of each and every passenger?

Our life is to this day in many small ways runs on a contract that others are not trying to kill us. Security check or not.

I had the same issue. It was because of unresolved stress. I would wake up with slight palpitations and a lot of thoughts and feelings and concerns in my mind.

I resolved it by regularly going out of my home, leaving my phone behind and "doing nothing" at a place where I can sit for a long period of time without being disturbed. Over time a lot of stress builds up in your body that if not unwinded will add up and create a self-feeding cycle of stress-nosleep-stress-even less sleep. Until you are in a burntout situation.

I find that sleeping of its own will not unwind your stress. It is not hte reset on all stress and full rest. You have to take time to let the mind wander. This activity took almost 5-6 hours of doing nothing for it to become complete and for me to come back to normal.

When I say doing nothing. I don't mean not doing something productive. I mean not fiddling with the phone. Not talking to someone. Not taking your kids or partner for a walk. Not taking your dog. Nothing. You literally have to do nothing and resolve to let your entire body and mind rest. Only then will the mind and body allow itself to rest. Ohterwise you will be stuck in this unending barrage of activity which your body is starting to burntout from.