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I am sorry that this is your experience. A newborn brings in so much responsibility and unknowns and there is no rest - as with anything with a lot of responsibility, unknowns and no rest, it can cause tremendous amount of stress.

For centuries we lived in large families and those within communities where everyone witnessed birth at home with multiple siblings and responsibilities around raising children from a small age. The current atomic families with two adult both completely inexperienced in raising a child is unprecedented in history.

I agree that reliving memories is not a large part, though it is impactful. But it's not dreary ... large part is also having fun and good time with your kids.

Related easter egg in Android Chrome: after 100 (or 1000?) tabs it just prints ":D" instead of a number.

I never know what is lesser known but my faviourite is: * searches for the word under the cursor, # searches backwards. You can also use n for next and N for previous hit.

Never considered. It's a search engine where I need to phrase my questions differently.

Nice! Feature request : conditional expressions should start with the "else" branch.

In 1973 Clifford Cock solved the problem of public keys first time in history that no one in GCHQ managed to solve in the past 3 years. He jolted down the solution in half hour after hearing about it then wondered why is it such a big thing for everyone else. A fresh view unclouded by prejudice can make all the difference.

Right? People forget history faster than ever.

Or they know how to advertise to their target audience well.

Baraka movie is a colorful vivid beautiful impactful movie without any narrative.

Babies movie (1 hour documentary) is about 4 newborns in different locations of the world, again colored, beautiful shots and without any narrative.

Haha, yeah, personal experiences.

Tha answer to the first is "to the floor" because they cannot fall from there.

The answer to the second is to praise them every time they successfully close it. Positive reinforcement seems to work much better.

I strongly disagree with this comment.

For centuries we lived in large families and those within communities where everyone witnessed birth at home with multiple siblings and responsibilities around raising children from a small age. The current atomic families with two adult both completely inexperienced in raising a child is unprecedented in history.

For a newborn you can sail on your heart but later on it is insufficient unless you had a good upbringing where you naturally learned patterns - but in that case this question would not be here.

In my personal experience having a good overview on what to realistically expect from a child of a specific age gives a great boost to empathy and patience. You also need a good understanding on what do you want to change in yourself and start working on that because your child will copy you a lot.

OP - you don't find resources because your search it too broad. Try searching for specifics for the first year and start from that.

/rant on, sorry, this topic just gets to me

There is no consensus on how to rise a child because there are so many different paths to take.

You can simply not care that much as your heart could dictate that kids are annoying and not for you in the end - there is a system in place to do that for you that is either a babysitter, a child-care or a school where professionals can do it much better than you anyway. Your heart may dictate that you did not have time for your old hobbies and friends and you really deserve it now that the kid reached school age.

You can decide that you care and spend a lot of time with them so the child will be balanced, feel safe and feel loved with the hope of not having that much emotional shit to figure out in their 30s. Maybe you want to search for the best tutors and send your child to excel in sport or music or sciences so they get the pressure they need to grow and the knowledge to excel in adult life. Maybe you give them as much freedom as possible to do what they want so they can learn the world as it is at their own pace. Maybe you are just lonely and they make you less lonely so you are now best friends forever with them. Your heart would love that, no?

Anyway, there are some questions that cannot be answered by "follow your heart":

- Where should you put your baby when he shat himself to the neck and you try to change the diaper and someone is at the door?

- What guidelines to follow when you want them to learn to close the FUCKING door?

- How involved should you be in his school/homework?

- There is a general consensus on what a newborn needs (mother, milk, sleep and clean diaper) but what does a kid _really_ need at year 1, 2-3, 3-6, 7-11 or more? What to realistically expect from a kid of that age and what should we not?

- Why do they sleep so much and what how much sleep should a kid of age 0,1,2,....18 get?

- What's up with movies and phones and TV? Are they really harmful? How do they measure that?

- Okay, kids needs boundaries but how to set those up? From what year? Why is that one boundary works for one kid and not for the other? Why do they need boundaries btw?

- Why is the first kid and the second kid so different in personality brings the questions of what kind of personalities there are and if they are related to birth order?

- Today's culture says "hitting the child is bad m'kay" but why is that and what is the recommended alternative to getting to a healthy and respected relationship with your kid?

- Should you try to be friends with your child? Why or why not?

- There are disturbing people that can make connection and build trust with your child within one minute - how do they do that?

/rant off

"From this study we can see the paradox: the Java compiler is blazing fast, while Java build tools are dreadfully slow."

Hi, nice article! I wholeheartedly agree with the conclusion after 10 years of fighting with maven for performance gains (that I always measured in minutes not seconds).

Slow feedback cycle is the root of all evil.

Huh, so for anyone interested but did not have the time to do the comparison of the two links of OP and parent post:

* java (on a cold jvm): 18.000-32.000 line per second on a single core

* java (on a hot jvm): 102.000-115.000 line per second on a single core

* golang: 28.000 line per second on 12 core

Python. I want to focus on having fun with the puzzles instead of decrypting unfamiliar syntax errors.

Singh Simon - Code book is an excellent and fantastic read about the history of cryptography and provide insights of what really drove technical improvements in ww1 and 2.

Think about what annoys you at your current workplace, what really pisses you off. That is a great indicator that you give a fuck about it and you can use that passion as a force to drive a change no one asked for but you.

That game was made out of 3.5 tonns of clay.

I had the same line of thought as I am not following the topic and media hype can make an elephant out of a mouse.

But based on this 2022 statistics USA really has a thing going on with school shootings... more than a hundred per year is way too much. I would definitely consider it "regularly" even if it seems a low number statistically (50 million students === 1 shooter / 500000 student ~?~ 1 shooting / 1000 school).

https://cdn.statcdn.com/Infographic/images/normal/19982.jpeg

For anyone who actually tried it :

Does it respects/builds some kind of game map in the process or is it just a bizarre psychedelic dream walk experience where you cannot go back the same place twice and space dimensions are just funny? Is a game map finite?

One of my friends old office had speakers and every time Jenkins failed with a build it made a short sound. It was different for each project so everyone familiar with the sound would instantly know which project pipeline failed. He liked it and had fun choosing a sound effect fitting for his own project :)

I went from zero to hero with phind.com from last year September because my role change required it.

It was a great experience as I usually knew what I wanted to do but did not know how to do it. So I just asked for solutions as I would from a junior then reviewed the responses and learned a ton.

There were more complicated things where a long blog post helped much more when learning about multiprocessing eg. "what is GIL and what is the historical background of it" is simply not a question one asks about python while in learning phase :) Another board topic where I guess I failed to ask the right questions was setting up the dev environment with venv and requirements.txt and whatnot. I needed multiple blog posts and other humans for that.

It was also quite bad at deciding if a language feature is available or not in a given python version, I always needed to rtfm for that.

I agree with the person you are responding to and your snarky remark bothers me to no end. No one will care more about your house and problems than you do so they will often do a more sloppy job and the only thing that saves their face is their experience of doing their job more often than you do.

There's always more things that needs to be done than time you have.

In practice you always need to prioritize between

1. what will you spend your time to learn and do it good

2.what will you spend your money to make others do it worse(coin flip, it may be good)

3. or not do it at all.

The choice is not trivial.

decision was entirely down to cost

Whole family uses Apple products

I cannot prove it but I feel a contradiction

It is almost as if humans are not made for sitting 8-10 hours learning abstract stuff and thinking really hard about imagined logic puzzles in constant stress.

Dark mode

Okay, anecdotal data point: I have a friend who works as a part time translator for books and other documents. She said she heard about it's existence from news but never tried to use it.

We have a Jura machine at my workplace since the beginning of time. It brews coffee as good as good the bean you use. After a month it asks for a cleaning cycle which is arcane magic, but other than that it just works and creates its daily 50-100 coffee as usual. I can recommend it, it just works.

I agreecand I would add that waterfall too has its place as you OP luckily experienced. It forces you to design and plan the whole thing before execution and it also works better on projects that have a rigid unmoveable deadline.

If your parents are working in tech and your friends are programmers why apply to random unknown jobs? Can't you just use their network to get recommended to somewhere? Why fight the firewall when you can avoid it?

Good read and I simpathise. Dealing with publicity can be horrible. You need such a thick skin and self confidence not to be moved by insults and demands coming with people actually start using what you created.