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Really nice work on the keyboard there...

Any chance you can google up the disparity in funding between the "women in tech" vs. the "men in x" campaigns for me too?

Hooray another discriminatory organization that gives preference to individuals based on attributes they are born with!

I'm sure the funders are also dumping money into "13 Amazing Places Where Men and Boys can learn to be Nurses / Teachers / Homemakers"

This should be especially exciting to tech feminists who are striving for gender equality and are surely outraged about the crime sentencing gap which jails men for 63% longer than women who commit the same crimes.

"Boo-hoo people with social skills and non-computer interests are invading my profession and making more money than me!"

Muh 486DX66 running Windows for Workgroups 3.11 with QBasic.

Muh Nibbles! Muh Gorillas!

I thought Growl was kind of dead since Apple introduced Notification Center?

I like Cinch for this... It doesn't give you the grid option, but side-by-side is all I need... And it's only $7.

http://www.irradiatedsoftware.com/cinch/

Again - is it your assertion that our drastically changed social environment has had no effect on the stability of relationships?

I whole-heartedly agree with you that there are many factors that can help predict the success of a marriage. This is somewhat besides the point.

It's shortsighted and a case of "ignoring the elephant in the room" to pretend that a dramatic shift in our social environment is having no effect on the stability marriage or that factors which contributed to past-generation's successful marriages have been unaffected by this shift.

Do you earnestly believe that 9/10 fathers don't want custody of their children?

Do you also earnestly believe that the custody process is affordable and accessible to poor and middle-class men?

Are you arguing that our social environment hasn't changed since the 1970's or that our obviously dramatically changed social environment has had no effect on male-female relationships?

Either way, your advice is more of the same feel-good nonsense that we feed our young men, hand-waving away the outcomes of divorce and custody law, and pushing them towards a statistically likely devastating outcome.

It may feel good to preach the traditional loving family of your grandparents, but the data shows that they are the outlier. A much more likely outcome is a split family and emotional and financial devastation for the husband.

You should educate yourself about how the Tender Years Doctrine works as well as how custody is awarded to unwed parents if you think custody is not automatically awarded to the mother.

The difference is that your grandmother didn't have a guaranteed payday and a "strong independent single-mother's movement" awaiting her if she decided she was tired of your grandfather.

The quickly disappearing stigma against single-motherhood combined with the demonization of men as deadbeats and child molesters, when paired with massive amounts of state handouts to single mothers (wic, welfare, child support, alimony, state medical insurance, housing subsidy, single-mother scholarships, affirmative action jobs, etc.) has made divorce as inconsequential as possible for women while dramatically raising the consequences for men.

Marriage is broken and men who go into it without understanding the disparity of legal, psychological, and economic outcomes between the genders are in for a rude awakening.

What a sexist load of garbage. Women /want/ custody and men don't give a shit about their children, right?

The statistic touting men's success rate in seeking custody ignores the price of entry. Men /want/ to be in their children's lives, but must be wealthy to fund a custody battle (while also paying child support and alimony if he was married) in order to do so.

Women are the automatic receivers of custody, it is then the father's "privilege" to hire a family practice lawyer and sue for custody to the tune of thousands of dollars and invasion of his privacy via drug and psychological testing.

Exactly. Modern marriage is like a game of Russian Roulette for men. The difference is that your odds are worse, and the gun has financial incentive to destroy you.

Divorce rates are over 50%, divorce is initiated by women over 70% of the time, women get custody of children 90% of the time.

Laws like VAWA and the Duluth Model give women a surefire way to have you arrested and charged with zero evidence. Now you have a criminal record and no access to your children - 100% legal! Guess what happens to the suicide and addiction rates of men in these situations?

Enjoy your archaic life-long alimony payments, 'supervised visitation' with your children, drug testing, mandatory psychological evaluations, dumping thousands into a custody battle to end up with 4 days/month with your kids, and a child support system that rewards the payee for alienating your children from you.

Hey, your lawyer's kids will have no problem paying college tuition! Don't worry about yours.

Do you like the things you've earned over your life? Hold on to them by avoiding marriage like the plague its become.

What a load of crap. Shanley spews rude, toxic, curse-laden streams of hatred at people in the tech industry with her every waking-hour.

When someone returns the favor she has them stripped of their livelihood, tries to ensure he can't ever return to the industry, and then tweets her delight over the situation.

You want to talk privilege? How about Shanley is the founder and owner of a successful media company vs. this guy was a lowly contracting programmer at a startup nobody's heard of? How is Shanley at all oppressed in comparison to this dude?

Is this 3rd grade? "I use put-downs on other people to build myself up!" How about you don't reduce _anyone's_ agency and instead work to lift everyone up to the same level. Your zero-sum approach to gender equality solves nothing while increasing resentment, mistrust, and hatred.

Please. If his tweet with a naughty word constitutes a "harassment campaign" that contributes to an environment where someone is terrorized then what are we calling the streams of hatred Shanley and her group spew towards Ryan Block, Marc Andreesen, Paul Graham, etc.?

Another analogy: if you oppose violence, is it hypocrisy to only teach self-defense to people born with blue eyes?

Aaron Patterson continues to make Rails awesome (check his RailsConf 2014 keynote). To me (and a lot of folks I know) he is the most inspiring programmer today.

His positive attitude, dedication to making software better, and continuous stream of hilarious tweets are unparalleled.

"Since gittip's main beneficiaries are women I disagree with, gittip should be shut down"

You're conflating /women/ with a small group of toxic feminists. There are many women in tech who have distanced themselves from these people.

The fact that what you are doing today has been deemed acceptable to the overseers is no guarantee that it will be tomorrow.

My web applications run 150% faster now that I know how evil I am for being a white male!

Ahh it must have been straw-feminists who lobbied successfully for the Tender Years Doctrine, the Duluth Model, and VAWA? http://www.rdo-olr.uottawa.ca/index2.php?option=com_sobi2&so...

Straw-feminists that routinely lobby against equal parenting legislation? https://nationalparentsorganization.org/blog/20980-as-it-was...

Straw-feminists that suppress gender symmetry in domestic violence? http://pubpages.unh.edu/~mas2/V71-Straus_Thirty-Years-Denyin...

Straw-feminists that compare the life of the western woman to life in a nazi concentration camp? http://muse.jhu.edu/login?auth=0&type=summary&url=/journals/...

Straw-feminists that claim "otherwise decent guys will rape and not even think that it’s wrong." https://web.archive.org/web/20060421031452/http://feministin...

Please point us to all the feminist action for equal _human_ rights, not just self-serving political and social policy.

Tell us all about the feminist outrage over men's suicide rates or the gender disparity in federal medical research funding?

Feminist picketing outside of family courts in protest of men's lack of custody rights?

Feminist sponsored legislation that gives men equal reproductive rights?

We'll wait... In the mean time, how about if feminists could at least let those of us actually interested in _human_ rights have a discussion without pulling the fire alarm?

This has nothing to do with nazism, this is observing a common political strategy. The naming of "The Patriot Act" is another example.

We should judge ideologies by their rhetoric, actions, and outcomes, not their marketing slogans.

s/men/any other group/g

s/oppressing/any other negative behavior/g

"Having to point out that not every black steals allows for robbery to continue because having to say “some blacks are thieves” gives blacks peace of mind. "

Ahh, so all of those racist Aryan Nation members are just parodies, since the marketing slogan of the Aryan Nation claims their ideology to be one of "love and pride".

Unfortunately it is feminism that tells us this through their rhetoric that demonizes men and their actions of lobbying for legislation that subjugates men.

Feminism is the radical notion that women are people, and that we want to be treated as equals. Don’t let someone else pretend otherwise out of their own misguided notions.

So what do we call the feminists who work to suppress research that shows gender symmetry in domestic violence?

What do we call the feminists who demonize men as rapists, deadbeats, child molesters, and abusers?

What do we call the feminists who lobby against equal parenting rights for fathers and for stripping the right to due process of those accused of domestic or sexual violence?

Feminism is not about equality - that would be called humanism or egalitarianism and would not focus on one specific identity group.

Feminism is the dying ideology of demonizing and subjugating men. Feminism is Marxist ideology maladroitly applied to the genders in order to paint the male gender as sub-human, innately heartless, and evil oppressors, while painting women as perpetually innocent victims.

A movement truly concerned with equality would address areas where human rights are actually unequal such as the outcomes of family courts or no-fault divorce law. Instead we see feminism focusing on non-issues to further their political agenda (#banbossy) or in warping every situation in which a woman gets slighted by an asshole male into proof of "patriarchy".