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What exactly is the point of writing and publishing this as an article?
Mainly for my own healing and to see what others think about the situation, as I’ve had a difficult time parsing things on my end. I don’t expect people to “rise up” over this. It would be silly to think so.
For clarity, we did not date. It was a "one-off" instance where she invited me out and then changed her mind shortly after. The events that had me get my manager / HR involved were months after the fact.
OP can't even articulate what exactly justified his original complaint in the first place, even if he didn't voluntarily delete the evidence.
I made it pretty clear in my post that she was consistently disrespectful towards me, even going so far as to say in front of coworkers at a team event that she was "surprised that I read." Reverse the gender roles and see if your opinion changes.
He didn't document in any way to the company that he was legitimately disabled (if he had a pre-existing diagnosis he wouldn't have needed to go to the company tele-therapy service).
I provided evidence to HR/ER that I had been previously in-patient hospitalized for OCD and severe major depressive disorder, and that I had been seeing a therapist outside of Uber for the last four years. I only transitioned to the Uber therapist around the time HR got involved because it made more sense financially.
The company even accommodated his HR complaint by moving him away from the person he filed a complaint about to a different office...and of course that's when he starts complaining about the commute.
This was because of her HR complaint, not mine. I did not want to commute two and a half hours round trip to Sunnyvale. That's absurd.
If you are a male, you sadly have little recourse. Just have to suck it up I guess.
I am hesitant to share company DMs for obvious reasons.
I wasn't asking if I could file a lawsuit. I sent Uber Legal a pro se demand letter indicating that I would be following up with further legal action unless a settlement could be agreed upon.
I was the one who let HR know that I sent her the message.