RemingtonLak

I'm the market for a replacement for a 5yr sony bravia 3D replacement which I love. Your question is answered like any other question about which electronics; your budget. As I'm gleaning the market, few things I'm keeping in mind:

1. dumb as possible, no OEM OS like webos/roku etc. use ext. smart box

2. HDMI w CEC to be controllable w/ ext receiver

3. LCD/OLED have burn-in like your phone. just fyi. Particularly OLED.

4. want local dimming

5. want HDR's as many as it supports

6. you want class A screens likes of which manuf are; sharp, sony etc.. but now includes lowend like Vizio

7. look at reviews for screen edge bleeding.. I hate that.

IMHO every brand at every model level has diff screen/tech so one can't definitively say one brand is better. Your budget should dictate what you end up buying. I think what one sees is subjective. Only reviews showing things like contrast levels, bleeding and color reproduction are you only objective parameters to steer you.

[EDIT] forgot to mention that if you like so many others use ext. box to stream. Remember that all your TV settings for color, Hz etc can be over written by your ext box. So the quality of your ext. streamer will also dictate the quality of your videos.

This is basically the Quantify Self movement. I have a picture of every meal since 2005. Currently past 15K images. All taken under similar lighting and angle in the hopes I can analyze later. Not knowing ML was coming. i may still do that but what I wish I did more/better job of is health. If in a spreadsheet let's say noted things like mood, energy, times of most production, life happiness etc. Now in my 40's with aliments. I wish I had the data to see maybe when/where/what about things that are taking place now. Including eccky things like BM info like when, type etc... also including lipid panel info etc when you typically do a full blood workup. Moving job to job diff health care to health care. There is no exportable consistent dataset you can "carry" with you maybe until now but even now it's painful as they don't allow for easy export.

How many times have you gone to your doc and get asked a basic "when did this start?" question and/or what were you doing 2 mons when it started.

There is a evolution in health care monitoring going on which can lead to incredible insights into your health both mental and physical, but then so does the world where it may judge you based on what you have now that you can't keep anything a secret.

Hit me up. I feel the same and actually did roughly the same. Are you in the bayarea by any chance? email: lakota gmail

What you and I area looking for in essence is a life coach. I'm not one but fatherless all my life, it seems having someone to bounce ideas and finding purpose may help. Not necessarily that i have an answer for either of us but having no one to talk to doesn't help. Wife is not someone whom this topic is either ideal or would go too well.

Again, I'm not selling you anything but to tell you I feel the same. Just looking for a chat bud who is maybe willing to share each other's burden but also maybe the sounding board will shed some light in the end of the tunnel.

In my 40's w a 2yr toddler and wife, I'm about to be jobless after my contract ends. thank god! but not thankful not knowing what to do next....

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A fulltime father of a 2yr old. Few bullet points on what I wish I had from the beginning.

1. <5mons tons of skin to skin, lotsa of low calming talk to your baby, soothing music w/o words like works from Claude Debussy, smile/laugh at every chance.

2. <9mons while baby on their back, move their legs like army crawling, lotsa of stomach time.

3. >10mons 2 individuals who seem to contradict, but same messages: (just a few quick potent sound bites)

    - Jordan Peterson : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5cTyxJWZC7k
   
    - *Gabor Mate\ : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fcPPDbvGr7s, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9B5mYfBPlY

5. Join a dad's group. Even if you don't receive "support" or advice, just by listening to others who will have gone through the same you have helps.

6. Although your child nor mine isn't quite that age yet, Super Nanny shows on youtube are very helpful.

7. They need to be exposed to many diff kinds of people (race, gender etc.) But biggest difference is exposing them to other children their size and age.

8. Mom to join a Mom's group. That's a must for her. She needs an outlet and support only other mothers can give. Not her mothers or mother in-law. That's too close for comfort.

9. Mother's groups vastly by them donating outgrown toys/clothes. We are midincome like yourselves but this donation and also paying it forward is a social thing not necessarily although does help a financial thing.

My child can't tell me what they feel or think because they don't have the words....yet. So they get unresponsive, "disrespectful", misbehaves etc.. It isn't because they want to, its because they don't yet know how to tell you how they feel or think. It's frustration at it's fullest. They can't yet control their emotions either so it seems almost bipolar; mad/happy.

By the age or 7+ they are their own person and if you want them to be a good person, you must show NOT tell them how to now.

I also learned this when I volunteered to be a Big Brother to 3 boys who have now grown. they were 5,6,8. And because they weren't my kids to "discipline." I had to use what I know now by Gabor Mate' way of compassionate talking and acting. I had to "show" them howto not give them pointless endless lectures.

Bottomline, one thing you will need to be are: thick skinned bc you will need to do this in public too, and have patience as if you're literally watching paint dry.

[EDIT] Didn't put down anything pre-baby. Here are some thoughts: 1. you need a play area for the child that is so baby-proofed that it's basically a padded cell. Having a gate to corral them is a must unless you have plenty of rooms and can dedicate an entire room for them.

2. you need to support your wife who pushed out a bowling out of her you know what. Unless you can or did too, you need to baby her as much as you baby you new child. This means endless washing dishes, clothes, entire house. No I'm too tired BS. You have no choice of the matter unless, you're wealthy enough to afford maids. You will be tired... period. Your life as you know it will no longer exist.. period. You will have to change yourself in so many ways, you may not recognize yourself in the end. However, what you becomes is; more compassionate, sensitive, empathetic, patient, caring.

3. babies <6mons loves large black/white images. They can only see shadows of light and dark so get books to show them.

4. Bath times are precious. I did and still do all of the bathing. At my child's age of 2, although nursary rhymes are good, at bath time, I play the Supremes, chantels and at play time I play a lot of Baroque.

5. Take as *many* pictures and video as you can!! Since it's digital, no cost! However, you need to housekeep all that pic/video regularly as it will get out of hand.

6. Apps we use that are a must:

   a) Baby Tracker https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.nighp.babytracker_android&hl=en&gl=US
    
   b) Google Keep (shared with spouse) for the following:
        1. Milestone : keeping track of any differences and milestone achieving
        2. Needs like food/clothing/toys
   c) Wonder Weeks : https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=org.twisevictory.apps&hl=en_US&gl=US

8. Sound machine is a must.

9. Baby needs to be swaddled and temps always around 68-71 sleeping.

I have to stop here.. omg. So much info and I feel I've given only 10% of what I've learned.

Your life as you know will change...period. And you'll have to learn what you may have pushed out like nutrition, psychology for both parents and child.

Learn to LOVE washing milk bottles.

Well back in 2019 there wasn't a model Y but I'm getting one soon! As for long trips, yeah there was some trepidation hearing of all the anti-tesla blocking tactics you hear, but none found so far. The longest has been to LA and back from SF and it's was smooth. The trip maker designs your trip so that you'll never be in danger of out of charge. Also made many trips to Tahoe from SF and no problem there either. Many charge points along the way also making it a nice pit stop for eats and restrooms.

Actually it's much like the old days of road trips where your trip isn't just the destination but the route to the your destination can be fun too.

PS> you can get onto Tesla's site and plan your trip. you can see for yourself depending on the Tesla model where you'll need to divert to charge if even needing to divert. Most Superchargers are along most major thoroughfares including some destination like SF Zoo has SC too. Here's the link: https://www.tesla.com/trips Here's a route from SF to LA based on my Model 3

https://www.tesla.com/trips#/?v=M3_2020_StandardRangePlus&o=...

I 2nd the obvious notion of trying to fix a problem. But this is a loaded question. There is a million answers to this single question all stemming from who/what/where/when you want to find a solution for. Like everyone else, I have a billion ideas but one thing to try and it does work that I learned from Amazon is working backwards from the problem, then do the obvious of cost analysis short term then long depending on if you're trying to make money right away or aggregate a critical mass first before trying to figure out how to make money. Of course the obvious notion is one doesn't need money but the 2nd options needs much up front ie. organic growth or get VC funding for all out blitz.

Also go on reddit, HN commenters don't vent here, but you can find plenty of venting on reddit. You will no doubt find problems to resolve and if that isn't enough. There is even a sub for startup app ideas where people for the most part not capable of developing it themselves come there to "vent" why isn't there an app that does ...... ?

2019 Tesla Model 3. Electric is the way to go and can't say enough goodness about Tesla. After the state/fed rebates I think my Std Plus came in around $27K. Now here's the best part: paid total of $20 in 2yrs for charging in >20K miles. During day, my work pays for charging so it's fully charge all the time and if not work like during the pandemic, target has free charging and other locations, of course most are not free. I've had no other cost to maintain the car at all in the 2yrs. Considering one could pay $4/gal with 25mpg comes to $3,200 in gas I saved not to mention no oil/filter changes either. It's great, while charging for free at Target, I'm streaming Netflix or Youtube onto the car's dashboard while working on my laptop. A complete mobile home office :)

thanks. yeah a lot of angst and resentment here. I was truly naïve when I came to CA/adulthood. I thought.. wow. Kool stuff interesting people, best ideas. To my disappointment, behind the curtains were very manipulative very very small boy's club. If you want to see something realistic, watch the fictionalized docudrama: The Social Network starting at time 9:00mins The ivy league clueless boys have the connections, coders have the idea/product/dedication to their craft however clueless. What zuck got right was the right mentors who also happen to make an accidental killing. Just truly sad how things work. No diff in any industry however.

There was one partnership that did work. Primarily I suspect due to lack of "Ivy league" connections: Steve Jobs/Woz. Two very naïve but smart people lacking the not yet tainted by the ivy leaguers created an empire built on good foundation. Albeit Jobs could have been nicer ;) I worked in his environment and he was scary as you see him on shows dramatized or not. Met him in hallways/cafe.. he never ever smiled but did worship him. He knew what to steal, how to exploit then productize to make people happy. Honestly, 90% of the products he facilitated would never have seen the light of day. Case and point: Xerox's mouse and desktop.

We've talked before. Give my explicit take on getting into the ERP space...blunt and raw.

I think your situation is ALL of our situation. We are ALL kickass eng but no connections, no non-tech ie sales/marketing, no industry specific insight and the lack of key to your success: inside connections.

Startups need VC's not for money but for the connections. VC helps the startups get not only in touch with people who makes decisions for the company but moreover have the ability to convince/convey/"pressure" them to at least give you a try. Another reason for VC's; make other startups use your product to launch theirs. Case and point: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marc_Andreessen He epitomizes that once you have that inside connection, you can make a 1+1 tool for a million dollars and the entire industry will jump on board and pay whatever it takes. It's amazing how people with no clue can quickly build up a company to add 1+1 and turn it into a billion dollar company and you can't even though yours for fraction of the price can do 1+2.

I've been in Silicon Valley and at various FAANG/M to now have a clue to how things work.

My observations:

1. Best products never gets greenlighted....never. Mind boggling.... but true. Decision makers are almost always a non-tech.

2. Company IT's are always looking for sweet deals, kickbacks, no brain implementation/integration and ungodly support

3. Company IT's 90% of work almost always comes from integrating various mismatched platforms

4. enduser's pain is almost never considered. decision process is almost always based on a single usecase for high level's myopic viewpoints.

All above reasons why internals in enterprises absolutely sucks. ABSOLUTELY. You would be blown over by how backwards antique sw is being used by the likes of Apple, Amazon, Cisco, Microsoft and most fortune 500 runs inside because I've worked for most of the top 10 techs. and the worst piece of crap sw: SAP. Every company has this painpoint because it/they integrate all of other barely working junk platforms. So enterprises are basically crippled by an idiot who built their initial foundation. Probably because they lacked the knowledge, took the lowest barrier to entry and big tech junk constantly in their faces and no limit to funds. This is where the big boys like SAP work their evil to get you onto their legacy platform which makes you stuck forever. Once on it, the changes you have to make to your internals are resource impossible. I remember a little while back when I went to HR in a top 10 tech. The sw a HR person was using launched a bunch of DOS window to do some execution. It was unreal.

This brings along another enterprise unicorn: Atlassian. I've been using it for years and there is a reason why they are able to create an eco around their sw.. mainly because their sw platform is so lacking. The most popular extension just to make confluence workable was a tiny little plugin a person was making millions from because confluence simply lacked some key fundamental func. So you have to wonder, how in the world did they get their foot in the door? I (prgm mgr) became a demigod of sorts after I was able to do "magical" basic func using their REST API.

Bottomline, if you're looking to get into enterprise and you have no connections, and no industry standing (your partners in crime and/or an industry leader in a specific field) you will never break in... never. This is why many startups are emphasizing by saying s/he worked at FAANG which for whatever reason makes them god in their field and should be taken seriously regardless of their position.

If you're trying to do cold calling, best to do is at tradeshows which IT people love going to. They get treated like royalties and get "kickbacks."

However now with the advent of social media, if you can make a splash with some specific viral video that spotlights your product. You could get noticed and get your foot in the door.

Another demo you can hit if you're B2B are SMB's. They usually lack the big boy's connections and are willing to take a risk in reducing cost, overhead, personnel and infra costs.

Finally, if you're B2C product, then your best and only bet is social media engagement with an influencer.

I'm sorry for you to think you'll get notice from enterprise procurement here in HN. Personally i don't think it will happen. I think most of us are either bored dev's, retired or bored non-influencers. Those people you so desperately want attention from, treats their work strictly 8-5 and do cocktail parties with visibility to sell themselves. Sorry, they are not scouring the web for best solutions. They are looking for best solutions for themselves which does not mean best for company. Think if you're trying to get T rump's attention, you have a choice: cheap fast food now with diet coke or showcase best in class enterprise sw that will save money, time and people's lives? Which do you think he will pay attention to?

However, having said that, you can make it into the fray by yes, focusing on niche. Case Study: Stripe. They focused on reducing painpoints for webdev's. Once they got traction with an army of webdev's. That got the VC's attention, VC's joined in giving Stripe connections to decision makers and rest is history. If you feel you got what people who build things need to reduce their cost/pain expeditiously. Then you need to be in that dev's viewpoint; Stackoverflow, Medium articles and all other dev landing zones; DZone etc.

Good luck.

thx for the offer.

Thank you for the reply. Yes, question was more rhetorical in nature and exhibiting my anxiety towards idea dissemination. I guess one of the reason why I never got further from capitulating from copycats who will do it faster, and better.

I suspect like most, your teams are overseas ie Romania/Spain etc. Lots good talent, focused so hinders my willingness to try something that isn't out there yet only to be overrun by talents who can crank it out in a day.

Like all indies, I do not have team/business currently to administrate/PR this to public mind's eye. Not to mention that in itself will be more time consuming than coding it.

Let me chew on this and see if there may be a small prj. How are you on pwa/vue? and unity?

Can you tell me more about your team? members, skillsets, knowledge expertise?

hum.. just tried loading your sites and it crashed Brave....never seen anything crash any of my browsers ;)

What is your stance on collaboration based on equity? Some I may pay others, thinking of equity instead. What are your thoughts?

i need a few built bc I don't have the bandwidth.

Only thing holding me back is app/idea stealth and competition. What would hold your group back from implementing same and deploy in countries I can't touch? Of course, inevitable if it's worth while, copycats everywhere. So my main concern is stealth and competition since easier for you to move on it.

What's the clause / non-compete agreement?

What's the ballpark $ a complete E2E from provided wireframe? I also provide the UX/UI/graphics etc. Let's say Instagram equal. as PWA/Vuejs w some sort of auth/db? Another MVP may be Unity3D again, provide all assets. Both to live on say.. GCE vm.

I personally don't think we have a clue as this article clearly states we've just begun to understand by not understanding.

I would be cautious since they are doing nothing but feeding you what they feel are "essential" gut bacterias.

the danger is, there has to be a balance. You can have an overgrowth that you may not be able to reverse.

Again, I think this article exemplifies what we don't yet know so, a company providing a ready made solution seems a little much?

The best thing you can do for your gut isn't yet practical which is to find a bio/genetic/ethnic compatible person and do an FMT and do the rebalancing this company is promising for real. yeah. a bit futuristic but have been done and proven to work if you need helping an aliment such as Crohn's.

I don't think we will ever get to understanding even 10%. I think the cause and effect of what happens in our mouth/throat/stomach/small/large intestines connection will ever ben understood. Unlike the advancements we've made in trying understand the brain which we've only begun.

From all that gather, the cause and effect like one bacteria's waste is another's feed to yet another etc.. I do know yes, we found certain vitamins are made in the gut including many hormones like why is 90% of Serotonin made in colon but bulk of it is used in the brain? It has been found that there are neurons in our gut thus the "2nd brain" Hypothesis.

Not going into specifics, I can tell you without a doubt my fasting has made a huge impact to my health although I'm not doing it long enough >5 days nor often enough. Further that by eating garbage high carb/sugar when back to "normal."

It's been speculated and I believe it's for real that if everyone fasts at least one full day a week and do IM 16:8 the rest. Most of the aliments people are currently dealing with will be almost gone.

I clearly feel going into ketosis after a full day of fasting.

I fast 3-5 days once a qtr and every week I fast Mondays.

If I had the money and motivation. I would start a startup that does the following: At your puberty, you bank/cryofreeze your blood and when you are the pinnacle of your gut/body health in your 20's cryofreeze your stool. Then in your 50-60's, reimplant your stool and your blood. We lose so much along the way, by the time we're in our later age, we need to reconstitute it to reinvigorate your gut and possibly reverse aliments. I truly believe this business model could work.

indeed by far seems like the best job scraper, 2nd be Dice? But I can tell without question. If you're looking for an interview. You need to find someone in the inside who can refer. A typical job could literally have hundreds if not thousands of resumes of course all scanned by machines. The only ones that gets any considering are always the inside referral. I've hired almost 90% from inside referrals, the outside even pre-screened takes days weeks even months to work through. For the hiring mgr, that's too much pain. Also the pressure from inside to hire the "referred" candidate is also another factor. So yeah, if you're trying to come in cold, your chances are slim to none. One way in if no directly referral is through LinkedIn's network of "connections.'

PS> However, now a days, if you're a dev and can show, exhibit, describe your work. In particular one you created, lead, and managed is to have articles/GitHub to showcase them. Depending on the problem and the solution you're showcasing. That could get you the interview if not the job outright since machines can't scan and quantify that so will need to be flagged for human review.

[WARNING: unfiltered and raw] I'm in the valley. Have been here for 20+ yrs. Worked for FAANG+M and startups. I was a hiring mgr eventually turning into prgm mgr due to ceilings I met described below. Here's my 2cents raw.

The valley generally holds ppl with VISA hostage and they prefer cheaper caught in visa trap workers. Unless you bring extraordinary knowledge and skillset, in particular Sr dev/Scientist/PhD in AI/ML/CV. Coming here would be a disappointment.

You are in the "2nd" silicon valley now making good money. I would stay there and if so inclined. Best you find a position there of an American Silicon Valley based Co you could either move laterally or travel/visit. I think that's the far better way to see what's up here before leaping into the dark waters. Silicon isn't what it used to be.

The visa trapped people are generally chinese/indian. Low salary, stuck for years competing in cutthroat environment. Not to sound too racist, if you're 6' white male with ppl mgmt, then silicon valley maybe your calling. An almost guaranteed meal ticket to success if you can make the right connections. PS> I'm not 6' white male. Places you would be good for if you're 6' white male: FAANG+M and startups.

Much disillusionment here.

Your "problem" isn't so much making more. It's simply getting more and that is a typical problem one faces anywhere. Best you boost your skillset, move to another Co for more pay. That's the only way you make more regardless of location.

TL'DR: Again, if you're trying to make more money, best you boost your skillset and move to different company. Countless stories of people jumping co and in few years literally make double coming back to the same Co. One can easily boost 10-20% then move BACK to for another 10-16%. It's incredulous how you can make the earth move while at the company, but companies are unwilling to move your salary instep. However, you can move out increase your skillset a tad, then move back only get 20% more. Why? Because NO company will give you a 20% raise. NO company. However, you coming in from outside with bit more experience in new stuff. Some reason they will pay whatever you want.

PS> Didn't address your age. 35 is pushing it. here in the valley, at 35, your boss may be at least 5yrs if not more younger.

PPS> You must be single, regardless of age. Wife....ok, kids...you won't get hired

Do I sound bitter? Biased? Full of Resentment? yup :) If you're a minority w no EQ but plenty of IQ, there is a glass ceiling made of gorilla glass v99

To the yjftsjthsd-h point about showing all that on phone. I haven't yet looked into your prj, but just my 2cents here. if not please make it zoomable. I cannot tell you how much it bothers me to have a phone with 4k display and having an app that shows 4k amount of information on it that I'm suppose to read that isn't zoomable.

I love the idea of a dashboard for the 50K view then zooming into any "red." or interesting parts.

Just my 2cent. My apology if it already is since its a web interface?

else your prj urges me to get into ML. I may in near future wanting to do localized CV of faces/objects in a picture archive.

thanks for this.

I'm finding our phones are our "main" computing device. Why don't we use it as such? Albeit too small to use as an input although via voice, it can be just as productive but display doesn't match the amount of data that needs to be visible to be productive (I being a dev, although same would go for any discipline I suspect it) I just started using this over a chromebook:

Portable Monitor w/ Keyboard

https://www.ebay.com/itm/313275076315?

Kool thing about this unit is 1. builtin battery to power it and phone

2. the screen is touch screen! so basically it's a 13" interface for your phone! make ur car a tesla! ;-)

3. can be used as an extended monitor to your chromebook/laptop.

You of course need a phone that has a USB 3.1 and desktop although there are apps that can mimic and give you that FULL desktop experiences such as Userland and Leena Launcher.

And finally some apps can't expand to full or resized windows.

nevertheless, $300, very very fun to have with you everywhere.

Why better than chromebook? ..honestly don't know. I suspect I could have worked on making it happen but doing it on/from your phone so far seems fun! and of course it's always connect to the web vs chromebook needs to be tethered.

I just wrote up a novel. Here are the comments to a unrelated post ended up getting comments(s) from me answering ironically your post:

https://news.ycombinator.com/threads?id=RemingtonLak

A brain fart as I too am looking for sounding board to my ideas although not exactly putting them out there but here's one:

Problem Statement: Everyone needs someone. Everyone needs input, mentoring, direction, new ideas, concepts, discoveries else you feel dead inside. Googl promises contextual searching but they all feel like upsells, ulterior motive results and promotions.

IDEA/ExecSum: A.I. based cognitive search that answers to your posts, comments, emails, interests.

HOW: You give a match.com like cerebral notes of your mindset based on what you've written and browsed. then on a daily / weekly basis comes back with recommendation of forums that speaks your tongue and interest. :) Say a very intrusive script that reads your emails (ones in particular you sent to yourself), your docs on locally and cloud, your posts and comments on everywhere. Then let it psychoanalyze and come back with everything from books to posts to podcasts and maybe even real life happening to you locally.

Brain fart I'll never explore. ;)

2nd comment. What I like about HN vs rest.

1. HN posts feel curated, filtered, critical.

2. Regurgitating from my previous comment to OP: HN commenters are a cut above the rest. Redditers may have witty retorts but HN's commenters are very cerebral.

3. My time is precious. HN's "curated" posts and brilliantly observant comments makes my time reading it feel time spent was invaluable vs Reddit's mindless brainless doom scrolling for a single hidden diamond in the rough post/comment with exception to few subs.

I guess art is to the eye's of the beholder. I/we can't tell you if your time here is worth it, it's up to you to interpret that however, you coming here to "ask" that seems somewhat telling, don't you think?

On that vein, I found my wife of 10yrs on craigslist as she was inquiring on my laptop for sale. Everything seems to a degree serendipitous . You should give everything a try once...if not multiple times.

PS. Interesting fun movie on this note: Yes Man https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1068680/? tongue and cheek romcom, worth the life lesson(s) in it.

PPS> On what seems like a sad statement though mainly bc I'm feeling a bit melancholy lately. I wish I could befriend everyone here in HN.

Your post read my mind except #3, I got that nailed w/ a beauty. No complaints. As for #1/2, I think there is more to it than that. My myopic view of the posts/articles from various is as follows:

1. There are posters (regardless of platform) who want to garnish attention either to...

   a) get a job, since visibility is how you attract attention good or bad.
 
   b) Plato stating this the best for #2: “Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something.” ― Plato I personally fall under both categories depending on subject.
 
   c) Bored, depressed, immature commenting as the latter part of quote in #2
 
   d) Genuinely cares and has something to contribute, this now being the "wise men" of Plato's quote.
 
   e) Want/looking to be tribal.  Genuinely lonely, wanting, needing to be a part of a collective.

Now of course speaking only for myself. Here is me: 1. I'm an implant from Midwest to silicon Valley. Been here >20yrs.

2. what I miss dearly are conversations with well read individuals. I love the people I work with, with most having superior intellect to me however, English not being their primary, more sophisticated conversation I cannot have. I love my friends who came from afar and enjoy talking to them but I do not get the "tribal" connection I seek of being more alike. I get this "conversation" here in HN and nowhere else.

3. HN posters and commenter are like none other outside of StackOverflow ;). What I love about HN is the makeup of individuals who sincerely have something wise to say. I like to feel I'm well read and bread (not genetic ;-) but when i read people's comment like on this post, I literally take something away from every single commenter. It's overwhelm and I sometimes swell up because it gives me the connection I currently lack due to Covid lock down. The overwhelmingly well thought out and thought through comments feeds my thirst for knowledge and soul. From what you seek, although i would still encourage for you to checkin HN for such support and topics, but goto somewhere more specialized to your needs like Indiehackers.com

Also look into this post and many others like it that seems to come up periodically as some having the courage to say they are lonely..https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=26293703

PS> It's the worldwideweb with no barriers to entry including negative AI bots which I feel are being strategically inserted by foreign or internal agents. Sun Tzu said it best, "To secure ourselves against defeat lies in our own hands, but the opportunity of defeating the enemy is provided by the enemy himself." Somebody has literally taken this general's advice to task. It's unreal to think that someone can let a bot roam and disseminate seeds of self destruction to break a country down from within. www has become a very very scary place. Topic for a diff post ;-)

PPS> I'm guessing you're in your thirties, single, living in a metro, disheartened by the pandemic and frustrated in not being able to find a clear path to fame, fortune and independence. Although I am a bit older, join the club! :)

PPS> Just had an epiphany that we all need besides a soulmate, is an intellectual mates too? I feel that's what I'm searching for....

https://www.macleans.ca/economy/business/friend-rentals-robo...

I'm currently using NetGuard which is also open src. What do you all opinion this app? So far I like it. I have the paid version and one feature I LOVE is the speed graph that show up/down load bandwidth. Will try out RethinkDNS. So far android really sux at privacy and security. The permissions aspect is too broad and intrusive. I wish I could sandbox specific apps with honeypot contact etc stuff I don't think app needs to have but requires to operate..wtf. So many apps nowadays "require" permissions it has no business in having else it won't launch.

You must nip it before it gets too late.

I worked for a FAANG (Amzn Bayarea) for 5yrs and it was worst 5yrs of my life.

My current situation is I have Vocal Cord Dysfunction and Laryngospasm. In addition to host other problems like GERD, GI, sinus infections, cold sores. NONE of which I had before starting this job. Before this job, I was at the pinnacle of my health.

It wasn't so much the work which I actually loved, but the people and company's methodology for recognition, reviews and promotion.

It basically got down to two things:

1. Bullying.

2. Systematic discrimination.

I created an entire department from scratch, built it to 20+ people when I left and became one of the most talkabout group. I worked multiple days/nights straight, weekends and late nights to make it all work for 3+ yrs. A lot of which was getting down to my hands and knees sweat type even though I am a PM.

So what did I get? My role was replaced by an insider who influenced the hirer to hire all of his friends and replace my role as department head. Then I got relegated to the bottom of the org structure. My name is on everything on this org which eventually all got replaced by my replacements. I simply quit after all doors closed due to notes in HR files I'm sure.

My current situation with VCD/Larynogospasm. You do NOT ever want to get to this point. Laryngospasm basically is when your vocal cord closes while it's spasming and you can't breathe. You feel like you're about to die because no matter how hard you try, you can't get a breathe in. Eventually you can breath but like being water boarded, you won't die but the experience is unforgettable. I get this multiple times a day. I can't drive or even play with my kid. In addition, I also have syncope which is blacking out when you cough. There is no remedy or understanding asto why this happens except mental.

Now back to your situation. When they say stress can kill, they really meant it. I feel like I'm going to die every day because of my problems which includes syncope where I blackout coughing.

1. You need to mitigate your stress inducers

2. You need therapy to help you. Men generally don't talk and keep things in. That will kill you.

3. You must find regularity in daily walks outside with sun in nature, away from people.

4. Your own thoughts will bring you down. you must find peace by eliminating your stressors. Worse case you can't, then stop taking it personally because it isn't you, it's them.

I feel absolutely horrible asto what happened to me and feel helpless. However thinking back, I could have done more to help myself. It's all mind games. You must create strategic alliances and maintain some conduit to which people who are decision makers can see and hear you.

Ultimately I now understand the adage of "it's who you know, not what you know."

I realize now why so many upper mgmt are such morons and idiots.

Be good to yourself, talk to someone, take breaks out in nature. You MUST find release for all the stress you're going through. I cannot live with what I have. Matter of fact, I just had a laryngospasm in writing this. I'm reduced to being on my knees, gasping for air, using my O2, ventolin which none helps since they can't reach my lungs.

Letting stress take over your life will kill you.....

Good luck and take care of yourself because NO ONE will.

Nice guys truly do finish last....

in the middle of a pandemic? Not a likely scenario you can do today. Maybe in a year? However, one must walk their dogs and it's outside. Safest way to converse with someone currently. But even the activities you've mentioned, still hard to approach/interrupt a stranger who's working out or in general busy for a conversation with a complete stranger. In most case, when that happens, they're trying to sell you something or invite you into a cult.

Actually if you think about it, it may not be. He will need to take it for a walk and you never know. He may run into someone else walking their dog. Now they have a common activity. Actually it's a great idea. Take the dog out to different neighborhoods to walk it.

It seems you simply need something in common to start a conversation. You never know where that might lead to. The funny part is, while his dog is sniffing/scoping out the other person's dog. You have nothing better to do except to why not strike up a conversation... "say..does your pooch always sniff like that?"

Hard problem. If someone else out there is in the same boat. How would that person find you?

If you can answer that, then you've found your answer and on your way of solving one of the biggest issue straight men are facing.

I'm in the same boat as you thus scoping out HN right now ;-), but also do Reddit and Indiehackers.com. I'm finding it's harder to find someone to befriend than it was finding my soulmate! Seriously.

Other places due to my interests are arduino/ESP8266/IoT forums. As for late, I'm been active on Hubitat forums since I'm trying to hobble together a worthy home automation and security. Lot of great people but hard to "connect" as a friend in forums. They are there to find solutions, not friends or at least I think they are?

It's almost as if one needs to "invent" match.com for for friends ;-) FriendFinder site start with that mantra where the founder started out looking for golf buddies only to find out most men that are looking are looking for one thing....

Incidentally, great podcast on this subject: https://www.npr.org/2018/03/19/594719471/guys-we-have-a-prob...

I've been looking long and hard to try to find a solution to this problem. Women simply do NOT have this problem. Only men and it's becoming an epidemic of sorts. My father died "lonely", while my mother thrived with friends and same as for my in-law's. Men just do not want to talk, approach or converse with other men unless forced to. Stigma men seem to unwilling to let go.

Sorry, rambling since I got tired of coding and was looking for a break by reading HN ;-)

Yeah this was my interest at one point and did have a killer domain name which I let go. I've worked for all FAANG's except FB and I can sincerely tell you that every company struggles with this. There is not a single doubt it is helpful in every single way both personal and company, but maintaining after the initial enthusiasm. They all burn out. I know because I've started several from within. Both inter and intra-departmental.

There are many great biz models around this topic but Corp culture and entrenchment mindset "if it isn't broke, don't' fix it" and high churn makes for difficult acquisition if you want to sell a service from outside. It's also something that doesn't really provide any tangible results outside of feel good, nice to know but won't kill me if I don't know. So because of it, it's a hard sell.

This is still one of my passion to pursue now more so because of the pandemic.

What about the newsletter are you pondering?

Not sure why too many haven't chimed in here but damn this is a awesome platform! Thanks for providing it open src!

I wrote you a separate email .....

Some features that would be great for mediaCMS:

-OpenCV for facial and object recognition for auto identification and categorizing

-Read image/video metadata to auto title generation instead of IMG_12324_433.jpg

-A.I. to group and create a story from pics/vids based on time/location/faces etc...

and/or make it extensiveable so one could create plugins? You could create your own app store for your platform. Great way to monetize.