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"Machines, Leaning, and Machine Learning" Whenever there's a new Dylan Beattie video, I make sure to watch it ASAP.

My wife and I adopted a boy when he was just a few months old. He was born addicted to drugs, and I've read that even newborns experience trauma when they are adopted because they can tell they are no longer with their mother. He is now six and we've been having behavioral issues with him pretty much his whole life. He isn't ADHD but exhibits several of the same behaviors. "Trauma-based ADHD symptoms" or something like that. We finally found a good counsellor (yes, for a 6yo) and are scheduled to have some tests done with a neuropsychologist. I'm concerned that medication is prescribed too quickly, without trying other options first, but we are hoping to find something to help calm him down a bit. We don't know if he has some kind of chemical imbalance from the drugs that were in his system when he was developing, or if it is trauma. Most of the time he is a great kid, but he is often very defiant, more so than your typical kid. Anyway, I'm not sure what my point is other than to rant a bit, but your comment about ADHD and trauma caught my attention. Thanks for sharing.

We visited the St Louis Aquarium a couple years ago and they have a similar set up. It's pretty awesome and great for kids. It's simply called "Fish Draw" https://www.stlaquariumfoundation.org/education/conservation...

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Hang in there! And focus on the fun times. I'm assuming you're already tried many things, but if you haven't talked to your pediatrician, he might be able to help. Melatonin helped one of our foster kids fall asleep, but yeah, it didn't help him sleep all the way through the night. Good luck!

Just curious, when you say you do LEGOs, you mean buy a set and follow the instructions (which is fine and what I assume people mean when they talk about LEGOs)? Or do you mean sit with a pile of LEGOs and come up with your own ships/cars/toys? When I was a kid (70's/80's) we would just get boxes of bricks and make our own things, but it seems like pre-built sets are the most popular thing now. And yes we have plenty of pre-build sets in our house, but I feel like kids are missing out on the free-style aspect.

Being 50+ and married for 20 years, I really like that outlook. Thanks for sharing!

Great. After reading that headline my subconsciousness is going to put a whole new weird spin on my nightmares.

Adding my name to the list of people greatly impacted by BBSs in the 80's and forward. I became good friends with some locals that ran a WWIV board. I'm still friends with them, and a few others that used their BBS, to this day. My favorite though was TProBBS that incorporated a D&D style game. I remember there was an option to buy and upgrade a ship, too. Then you could explore the ocean looking for treasure and sea monsters and sometimes battle others. You could upgrade your "bank" for better security, which hardly anyone did. I played a rogue character and was able to steal a lot of money from others before they realized how important it was to upgrade your security systems. Fun times. Good memories.

You're not fooling me, I've seen Ender's Game! Not gonna play it.

Sounds like Elden Ring. I started playing it recently and got annoyed at how often I died. But I realized that's part of the learning process. It's still annoying but at least I can see it for what it is.

I'm so old, the first time I connected to a different computer was through a 300 baud modem. The Internet didn't exist yet, just BBSs. The local BBS scene was a blast. I'm still friends with several people I met back then.

I was really sad when I heard about this. I've enjoyed the Smothers Brothers since I was a kid and found my parents' records of them. "Mom Always Liked You Best," falling into a vat of Chocolate, Streets of Laredo, My Old Man, John Henry, Crabs Walk Sidways, Pretoria, etc, etc. If you have never watched them before, look up a few of these. I was fortunate enough to see them in person when they performed in our city about a decade ago.

Did they ever do just a straight music album? That would have been great. Streets of Laredo starts off so beautifully.

EDIT: Here, I'll help you out:

Streets of Laredo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDmdSPKR73o

My Old Man: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SgD1o9I8hw0

Pretoria: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2P5IIsCFTCo

Crabs Walk Sideways: (be patient through the first minute or so) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=en54Im4qBOA

Chocolate: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kH0IZZRd0bI

Six String Orchestra: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u1MUytzDQog

Boil that Cabbage Down: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pmfILH3JKQg

I was really sad when I heard about this. I've enjoyed the Smothers Brothers since I was a kid and found my parents' records of them. "Mom Always Liked You Best," falling into a vat of Chocolate, Streets of Laredo, My Old Man, John Henry, Crabs Walk Sidways, Pretoria, etc, etc. If you have never watched them before, look up a few of these.

I was fortunate enough to see them in person when they performed in our city about a decade ago.

Did they ever do just a straight music album? That would have been great. Streets of Laredo starts off so beautifully.

EDIT: Here, I'll help you out:

Streets of Laredo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDmdSPKR73o

My Old Man: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SgD1o9I8hw0

Pretoria: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2P5IIsCFTCo

Crabs Walk Sideways: (be patient through the first minute or so) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=en54Im4qBOA

Chocolate: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kH0IZZRd0bI

Six String Orchestra: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u1MUytzDQog

Boil that Cabbage Down: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pmfILH3JKQg

I remember spending a lot of time playing this game. Even my mom liked it, and she never played video games. I wonder if she'll want to play this version. Great to see it again!

Side note, have you seen Magna-Tiles? My 4yo son loves them. They have magnets along the edges so you can easily stick pieces together and build structures. They are bigger than regular LEGOs, more along the lines of Duplo. And they can be pricey, but they are tons of fun for little ones! Especially when their favorite thing is to knock down whatever you build.

Subscribed! I have a stack of books I've been meaning to read. I just need to make time for it.

Keep up the good work! My wife and I have fostered kids and ended up adopting a young boy (we got him when he was 4 months old, adopted him when he turned 2, and he is 4 now). He is very different than our two biological kids and it's been a challenge for us. But it's worth it in the long run. You are doing a good thing. If you need support, there should be a lot of resources in your community, if not online. Don't hesitate to ask for help. But finally, try not to alienate him from his mother. Don't bad-mouth her in front of him. If possible, it would be good for him to a relationship with her.

God's blessings!

Along the lines of "comedians doing well in dramatic roles in good movies" I have to throw in 2006's "Stranger Than Fiction" with Will Ferrell.

Search function on HN? Scroll to the very bottom and there is a search box. It doesn't seem intuitive. It seems like it should be at the top of the page.

We had a lot of fun playing this in our family on the Atari!

I had a mobile version of it on iPhone, but then it was taken out of the store. I stopped playing it for a while and unfortunately my phone decided it was taking up too much space and removed it. Now I can't get it back. I was very disappointed when I found that out.

The correct title is "Finance 101 For Recent College Grads - Updated for 2020!" Did you change it to "Software Engineers" to get HN users' attention? Sus. It doesn't mention anything about SE's in the article.

Don't be sad because your code is old. Smile because you got to write code. -- Me (paraphrasing Dr. Seuss)

Interesting. I wonder if other types of cheese would work in a cup of coffee, since I doubt I can easily get my hands on this kind. Maybe Butterkase, it's soft, mild, and buttery.

I was half expecting to read about coffee-flavored cheese.

I tried chocolate cheese once. We were thinking, chocolate = good, cheese = good. Chocolate Cheese = EVEN BETTER!

We were wrong. It was terrible.

Just don't confuse your vocation with your avocation. You do want to find a job doing something you enjoy, but if it isn't fulfilling you can look at volunteering outside of work or take up a hobby.

Try to narrow it down. Do you want to work in a cubicle/office? Work outside? Do you want to work with people all day long? Work with animals? Tech industry? Humanities? Healthcare? Even then there's a lot of overlap (e.g. IT in the healthcare industry).

And deciding what you don't want to do can narrow it down a lot.

Are you willing to relocate? That will greatly open up your possibilities, especially if you want to work for a big company but grew up in a small town.

Is there a company you want to work for? Tesla? Lockheed Martin? SpaceX? Find out what kind of positions they are hiring for.

As others have mentioned, don't forget trade skills. Mike Rowe (Dirty Jobs) has a lot to say on that matter.

If you can narrow it down, message boards like this can help with more specific suggestions. You left it pretty wide open. And I would always recommend an education.

Agreed! PLEASE don't spend $100k+ on your degree. I think there are very few fields that put a lot of weight on WHERE you went to college (to a certain extent; you don't want to go too low with some fly-by-night school). You can get a good degree from a state or local university and save a lot of student debt. And try to get an internship. Or else volunteer somewhere to get some work experience.

Good luck!

Don't get too worked up about it. The crying and screaming rate goes down as they get older. Bedtime routines get easier as they get more independent. Of course other issues might come up, but I think it gets easier as they get older.

Hang in there! In a few more years you'll remember all the good times and the hardly remember that bad times.

(Speaking from experience as a father of two biological children of 15 and 11, and an adopted son of 3. And I'm 51. I never thought I'd have a 3yo at this age. He'll start driving when I'm 64. I don't have as much patience as I used to, so I have to watch my emotions. But it's worth it!)

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For C# I like Tim Corey. https://www.youtube.com/@IAmTimCorey

Dave Farley has a lot of good topics at Continuous Delivery. https://www.youtube.com/@ContinuousDelivery

Then of course Pluralsight and Udemy are good, especially if your company provides the subscription.

I'll have to check out Colin Murray.

I like "Hybrid Calisthenics" with Hampton: https://www.youtube.com/@HybridCalisthenics