Ask HN: How can one deal with bad management?

I'm working at a big and renowned software company, but I'm not living in the USA, so my experience could be different from people working there. After all, big companies only come in third-world countries for cost-savings. I also read pg's essays, which I liked, so I may be influenced by his thinking.

I am a regular software developer, and I'm really passionate about my work, that's why it hurts me to no end when I see decisions being made that do not benefit the project. Some gripes include, but not limited to:

* changing a good design with one that's not visually appealing, and is really confusing, because we had to make it look like it's part of the company's website

* to change the design, and to accomodate future changes, we are including external server-side files in our HTML, files that gathered a lot of cruft over the years, with bad coding practices (inline CSS/Javascript). We have to load them from external sources, such that when they change, it changes for us too.

* With our old design the main page had 100Kb, with 80Kb being cached static content. Now we have 1 MB of static files that do not have a cache header set, and a ton of inline code that adds an extra 300Kb to one request. And this is after we negotiated with the right department to slim down those files.

* we rewrote the administration interface because it was considered to have business value the usage of a certain technology, sacrificing months with code going down the drain.

* cool features that provided value to real users where pushed in favor of features that provided value to the upper-management. How useful is a statistics dashboard for a product that doesn't have a community yet?

* hacking on cool stuff is not encouraged. After all we have a release coming. No reason to waiste time on unplanned stuff.

* we had to negociate a period dedicated to increasing the quality of our infrastructure / code.

* we have been working for over a year and I would really be ashamed to place it on my resume: I really don't know on what we worked for the whole year.

* my manager has a certain mentality that I don't like: he says he trusts the upper management because they have more experience, he says that we don't know what customers want (where customers mean both real customers and the upper management). This one time, a "UX expert" placed a link totally random and out of place, and my manager agreed with the decision because the expert knew better.

* I have been practically forbidden to talk about these issues with the team members.

So part of the blame is that of our management. I have never seen a "NO" answer given to any request. Not to mention that my manager is in the habit of passing blame ... the milestone release went wront? No problem, we can blame it on John from Sales because he was the one to request a last minute feature.

I also have an annoying passive-aggressive attitude, and because I care about the project more than I care about my job, I think I became the whiner, the bad apple of our project. I hate myself for this, but the morale of the team is really low, and I'm not alone in thinking that every possible bad decision ever was already made, although the others cope with it better.

Of course, I was blamed for affecting the team's morale, since I was so straightforward and sincere about it. I do admit that sometimes my words are not "politicaly correct", but this project is like my child. And since feelings are involved it is really hard to be "politically correct" and say things in a "nice way".

So how can one cope with bad management? Am I wrong to think like this?