China's children buckling under the pressure of their parents' deferred dreams

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/index.php?term=pto-20080623-000004&print=1

by crocus • 18 years ago

33 26 18 years ago

Almost exactly the same as in India. That's why people here in US think that everyone in India is smart _and_ hardworking. Well, the truth is that they encounter only those people who have survived all this. There are countless millions who suffer.

azharcs• 18 years ago

Very true. When i see the kids in India today and the parental pressure they have, it is scary. They have schools, tution's(so that they don't forget what they study in Schools)then study time after they come home, this all happens in a day. They take memory pills, so that they don't forget what they read. I don't know, what will happen to this kids but I am sure they won't be creative enough to create anything.

chaostheory• 18 years ago

academic pressure almost the same in Korea and Japan; except for the 1 child policy part

mamama2• 18 years ago

I feel only a small fraction of them are actually smart... the entire K-12 education in India is little more that an exercise in rote memorization. College education isn't that great either, even in the elite universities.

mynameishere• 18 years ago

"They've worked hard for it, and it's what their parents have focused their lives on. But the problem is that the country can't provide the lifestyle they feel they deserve. Only a few will get it."

Ah, such economic ignorance! What is this "country" that "can't provide" if it isn't the people themselves who are to be provided for. People both take and create jobs.

the national college entrance exam—China's magnified version of the SAT

The SAT is (or was) a covert IQ test. If the Chinese test is the same, then these kids are wasting the vast portion of their energies.

At one top Beijing kindergarten, students must know pi to 100 digits by age 3.

Why would you send your kids to a "top" school in order to destroy them intellectually? Who in the world thinks that such insane tasks could be valuable?

arockwell2• 18 years ago

> At one top Beijing kindergarten, students must know pi to 100 digits by age 3.

I really have a hard time believing that's even true to begin with, but if it is what a completely pointless exercise.

wvenable• 18 years ago

Think back to how much of your western education was spent on completely pointless exercises...

ars2• 18 years ago

It wouldn't be that hard - 3 year olds commonly memorize entire songs and rhymes they hear.

You just put the numbers to music or make a rhyme - how much you want to bet there is a little industry making CD's for this?

But it is totally pointless. Learning to memorize stuff is useful, but learning to memorize a single thing isn't.

ars2• 18 years ago

>The SAT is (or was) a covert IQ test.

Is there something wrong with that? What else are you supposed to test?

huherto• 18 years ago

I think his point is that IQ is not increased by killing yourself studying.

abcde2• 18 years ago

It seems to me that what China needs is more entrepreneurial spirit, not more rote memorization.

jessewmc• 18 years ago

I don't know why this is being upmodded. These kids are NOT wasting their energy. In China you can't drop out and move to the valley and start a company with your computer savvy.

The system in China is simple: To even have a CHANCE of successful, professional, middle class (by Chinese standards) life, you MUST get a university degree. To get a university degree, you MUST score in the top Nth percentile of the college entrance exam.

Students get sent to top schools because top schools produce results on this exam, as absurd as the actual exam may be. You have to consider that despite the fact that for the country as a whole these things may not be ideal, for any individual student you would be stupid not to put everything you can towards that test.

And if you don't get a degree, you end up as a laborer of some sort. And in China these people work their asses off and are poorer than a homeless jobless American. It's a different world.

The country has so many people there is far more competition for jobs and resources, and because of the government the current rules are the only way up through the system. Obviously there is a problem with the system, but it should be abundantly clear that it would not be in your best interests to rebel against it before getting through it--you would only hurt yourself turning down the best schools and the entrance exam, and you would not be in any position to effect any changes.

netcan4• 18 years ago

Ironically, I have heard quite a lot of people say that many Chinese tertiary courses are not actually very difficult.

bootload• 18 years ago

"... in China you can't drop out and move to the valley and start a company with your computer savvy. The system in China is simple: To even have a CHANCE of successful, professional, middle class (by Chinese standards) life, you MUST get a university degree. To get a university degree, you MUST score in the top Nth percentile of the college entrance exam. ..."

Of course the system can be hacked, bent, manipulated by family connections within the party. The sad thing is by manipulating the "system" China is widening the gap between those who have the theory but pitifully short of application knowledge (University graduates) and those who do things but lack the requisite knowledge (everyone else).

netcan4• 18 years ago

   'Ah, such economic ignorance! What is this "country" that "can't provide" if it isn't the people themselves who are to be provided for. People both take and create jobs.'

There are constraints. For one, economies cannot grow faster then a certain rate (they're pushing it already) without fallout.

For another, this is a largely controlled economy.

mrdorian• 18 years ago

Some stats are ridiculous! A monthly salary of RMB45 ?That might be true 30 years ago.

netcan4• 18 years ago

I think they might be talking about 20 - 30 years ago. Wang (the child) is 29.

abcde2• 18 years ago

"These kids have the same dreams as all middle-class kids: to go to college, to get white-collar jobs, to own their own home, to have Nikes and name brands,"

Wanting white-collar jobs and their own homes, I understand, but name brands? Well, that's the problem. The whole purpose of name brands are to create artificial scarcity. if the goal is to have a good life, that is definitely achievable, but if the goal is to be better than everyone else, only some will meet that goal.

13ren• 18 years ago

You know how only children have a reputation for being a little... ah... selfish? (I am one).

Now, imagine a nation of only children.

China's children buckling under the pressure of their parents' deferred dreams

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