Dating for nerds (part 1): problem diagnosis

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by stared • 9 years ago

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Vanit2• 9 years ago

I think this skips out probably what is the biggest hurdle for "nerds"; you can't trick your crushes into liking you back by being a nice friend to them.

thisisit• 9 years ago

This. One of my biggest takeaways from the book by Mark Manson - Models.

david38• 9 years ago

There are many books on the subject, Models is a good one. I don't see why anyone would waste time trying to write some web page about why nerds in particular have a hard time dating.

Social awkwardness is a well covered subject in this and many other books. Even better, it's covered by people who have more than theory to back their ideas.

stared2• 9 years ago

Things related to friendzone will go in part 3. In short: no, just being nice is not enough (cf: no one will hire you just because haven't stolen anything).

Though, the most common thing that is missing is not taking risks - most of the time nerd fail to ask question (and of course, rejection is possible - but still better to be stuck in a limbo).

Vanit2• 9 years ago

Its not even that, its disingenuous because you're being their friend in the hopes you'll get a payout.

Dude2018• 9 years ago

Just for god's sake don't date washed up 30+ year old ones unless you are 40. No, they are not attracted to you but rather you IT salary.

nhylated• 9 years ago

Story time?

Dating for nerds (part 1): problem diagnosis

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