The Necessity of Self-Help Lit

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by diodorus • 10 years ago

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ranko• 10 years ago

Browsing the "self-help" shelf at my local charity shop, I came across Tarzan of the Apes and Breakfast at Tiffany's. I like to think that this is a clever deconstruction of the genre.

marcosdumay• 10 years ago

I brought my copy of 1984 from the non-fiction section of the bookstore.

InitialLastName• 10 years ago

I sometimes leave copies of the Bible in the fiction section.

sharkweek2• 10 years ago

An anecdote, that I at least find kind of funny in my own life:

I deal with diagnosed anxiety and OCD, and thus have read dozens of self-help books on working with these issues. A funny thing happened when I started reading the genre, in that I found myself somewhat addicted to it after the first 3-4 books.

I brought this up to my therapist after about the 10th book in two months, and he joked but also seriously said, ok, time to take a break, pick a few unrelated and fun fiction books and go to town on those instead.

Not offering medical advice here as everyone is different, but I've noticed a gradual decline in symptoms when I'm able to focus less on the issues themselves.

blatherard• 10 years ago

Thanks for sharing that. I am a moderator of an addiction-related subreddit, and recently a commenter made a short list of things they had struggled with which included (unsurprisingly) alcohol, tobacco and drugs. But they also included an unhealthy dependence on 'self-help' which was my first encounter with this idea. So you're not alone!

sharkweek2• 10 years ago

I'm pretty sure people with addictive personalities can also get extremely addicted to their own thinking (stealing this idea from DFW's Infinite Jest, but I agree with it)

mistermann• 10 years ago

I'm not advocating this approach, simply asking: have you investigated nootropics? I am just starting to experiment myself and it seems some if it may be helping with anxiety, but will take more experimentation to say something more confidently.

edgarvaldes• 10 years ago

My problem with self-help books is: The key ideas they contain can be expressed in a single page.

grzm• 10 years ago

That may be the case. Many people don't automatically see all of the implications that follow from reading a set of principles on a single page. Reading how they apply in different circumstances can be very helpful. Different people have different learning styles. And the repetition in a single book—or even after reading multiple books—can be very useful as well. What works for you may not work for someone else.

sAuronas2• 10 years ago

The key idea, if there is only one to be had, still has to be "owned" by the reader and that requires knowing the why.

I took more issue with the notion that having an MD behind your name makes what you say more valid (Deepak Chopra) versus just being some dude who teaches "neural linguistic programming" (Anthony Robbins). Having read (3 books each) both Dr Chopra and Mr Robbins I can tell you that the former writes books that are so unscientific as to make you wonder if he forgot everything he learned in med school or is just making so much money that he doesn't care how much he metaphysically babbles about nothingness [sic]. (Pretty sure I know the answer.) No matter what you think about Tony Robbins, you have to admit some of his ideas have traction.

If you read enough of these books you'll find yourself making some improvements to your life. Malcolm Gladwell's "Blink", etc, were hugely impressive to me if only for his ability to tell the story of achievement and to make you believe genius-level ability is attainable, notwithstanding the allegations of plagiarism and the recycling of ideas.

The real issue today is that there are so many motivational speakers/writers that it's become impossible not to waste a lot of time trying to discern the steak from the bullshit.

theonething• 10 years ago

The real issue today is that there are so many motivational speakers/writers that it's become impossible not to waste a lot of time trying to discern the steak from the bullshit.

This sounds "ripe for disruption." Any startups trying to solve this?

spraak3• 10 years ago

On the other hand, the self-sufficiency and self-mastery promoted in much self-help are, as critics suggest, illusions. We do not make ourselves, and we cannot validate ourselves. Imagining that we can will bring not independence or confidence or trust, but, ironically, a lot of anxious searching for the approval of others—or a return to the self-help literature for the key to that elusive autonomy.

What?! How then can we validate and make ourselves? Is the author a proponent of submission to a god? I don't understand how there is any other way to be validated, because one can never truly be validated from the outside anyways - there will always be external critics.

Edit: formatting

pjmorris2• 10 years ago

There's a step short of submission to a deity: peer-review.

I suspect the author meant something more like 'We do not solely make ourselves, and we cannot solely validate ourselves.'

spraak3• 10 years ago

That's still validation from the outside, from which one will never receive the clearest, most honest review, though I admit it can be helpful on the journey. The highest clarity comes from within, which is what all paths of truth teach (and in fact, what self-help books are often based on, inspired by, or try -- and sometimes succeed at -- teaching)

agentgt2• 10 years ago

Many people do not realize that one can get professional help that does have academic rigor and will be somewhat paid for (depending on insurance coverage).

If you can get over the still present social taboo of going to a therapist I highly recommend it both for relationships and personal growth (there is not just CBT but some newer forms that I have forgotten the names of). If you don't like a therapist you can easily switch and most are happy to refer and connect you with others (if they don't they are not a professional).

If you are willing to be slightly experimental (and if you are buying a book I would imagine you are) there are also Universities and other Institutions that are always looking for participants in studies.

Another extremely pro to a professional therapist is that they keep longitudinal records. Many people have a hard time tracking their progress and if they do it still might not be accurate compared to a third party observer.

eduren2• 10 years ago

How might someone approach/shop therapists (CBT or otherwise) with the goal being personal growth? I've given thought to how useful a professional opinion may be (most of my barriers are self-inflicted), but I'm unsure about how much I'd get out of it and how to present my needs to the therapist at first. Any advice?

PS: If you have any reading/links on the subject handy I'd appreciate it. My searchings have found little.

agentgt2• 10 years ago

Unfortunately for insurance reasons you need some sort of medical reason other than GBAT [+]... luckily there seems to be no end of classifications of ailments and diseases (for better and worse).

That is you really can't go to a doctor for not being as successful as you would like to be but you can go if you have some ailment holding you back which is usually the case... ADD, ADHD, Depression, OCD, Anxiety, or Addiction.

Addiction these days is pretty rampant and it doesn't just have to be drugs (e.g. it could be Hackernews :) ).

As for resources I think I saw Cengage have some info available. I can't find the original content but after googling I found this slideshow: http://www.slideshare.net/eaelliott/chapter-6-action-oriente...

[+] "Getting Better All the Time"

veritas3241• 10 years ago

I can't say that I have any links, just personal experience.

I've seen the same therapist for 5+ years. He helped me get through my divorce and grow into a much better person. Recently, I've started trying to use him as an accountability mechanism for improving the still remaining ~5% of my life that I wish to continue improving. I've found it to be less effective that I had hoped b/c he's not really serving a function he's trained at nor are our meetings frequent enough to be just-in-time useful (~once/mo.).

I suspect a mastermind group of like-minded strangers that meet on a weekly basis would be more effective (and cheaper!).

gwbas1c• 10 years ago

All I can think about is "Little Miss Sunshine" where one of the characters wants to be a self-help star on the self-help circuit, but really needs the most help of them all.

sosuke• 10 years ago

The content was great but I wanted to mention the narrated recording at the top by curio.io was excellent. Really a pleasure to listen to while working and I'd never heard of the site before.

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