5 Reasons Founders Hate the Question “So What Do You Do?”

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by jordancooper • 16 years ago

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I hate having this conversation with family members and normal people. It's just excruciating and everyone likes to play devil's advocate. The best is the: "oh yeah but isn't that like [insert well known company here]".

They'd rather hear something like: "yeah, im a junior analyst at Goldman Sachs." or "yeah, im in law school". They can comprehend that stuff a lot easier.

It's great practice, but it just gets really annoying. It's caused me to be a very defensive person at times.

idiopathic• 16 years ago

I agree, the devil's advocates irritate me the most. It's not just the combative nature of the questioning (does no one know about the other five hats of de Bono!?), it's the underlying assumption by the "advocate" that they are doing me a favour by bringing this new point of view to my attention.

In fact, they are saying the first superficial thing that comes into their head, which is pretty much the same thing every other person before them had said. If I am trying to close a sale, then great, I love a challenge. But when I am trying to relax, it is just tiring to have to run the gauntlet again without any benefits.

randombit• 16 years ago

This is why when asked I just tell people I'm a hobo. Usually shuts down any followup questions.

jasonlbaptiste2• 16 years ago

sometimes i go with "magician". same thing sorta.

mmt• 16 years ago

Although I'm not (yet) a founder, explaining the breadth of all possible things a sysadmin does is comparably tedious.

I'll say "I do computers," and, in the Bay Area, I'll add "I'm a system administrator."

Thankfully, this has the same effect as claiming to be a hobo, except in those who are truly interested.

jordancooper7• 16 years ago

right...i think this is super common...very strange dynamic...

ErrantX2• 16 years ago

My cousin asked my friend what he did, and the response was as follows: “I have a startup in the advertising market.” Obviously this response told my cousin absolutely nothing, and so my cousin began to “pry” a bit… “can you tell me what the model is, how does it work?” Again, said entrepreneur sort of deflected the question: “I help take an offline process in the advertising market online.”

Well as the final response told the questioner nothing I'm not surprised..

I love talking about my projects - you just have to talk about it in a clear way!

There is no such thing as "founders" and "normals". The same scenario's would develop if the founder pressured the PHD Biologist about his research work! It's just social dynamics.

jordancooper7• 16 years ago

I agree with the concept of same thing happening in other direction...but at least "PhD" is a known vocation...easier for non PhD to classify him as "scientist, academic, Brown University, Smart, etc..."

ErrantX2• 16 years ago

Well... "I run a company" then. That is an understandable concept.

Or "I am a programmer, I have my own company working in X field"

The key is in the communication.

rue• 16 years ago

Hm, this is an interesting peek into your world view for me.

To me, it does not make sense to describe yourself as a "founder", "startup builder" or even "entrepeneur." That is not what you do. You are a founder of something, and that is what I am interested in if I ask that question.

I have no idea whether people actually say something like that, but I can certainly understand someone asking for more information if the answer to "what do you do?" is "I am a founder" or "I work at a startup" instead of "I work for Goldman Sachs." I would!

So, anyway, perhaps part of why you seem to get into the types of conversations described is the way you initially respond.

jordancooper7• 16 years ago

totally agree...it's just there aren't any crystal clear one line answers...

charlesju• 16 years ago

I can understand this sentiment.

But I actually love to talk about what I do. The problem is that most "normals" just ask about the tip of the iceberg without really having a genuine interest. That always offends me because of how passionate I am about what I do.

I am usually teased into excitement to talk about something I love only to have the conversation changed.

pavel_lishin• 16 years ago

As someone who isn't likely to be an enterpreneur, I only want to know about the tip of the iceberg at first because I don't know if the rest of the iceberg is interesting or not.

If you're designing a series of games for the iPhone, that's kind of cool, and I can relate to that. If your startup is writing accounting software to analyze discrepancies in employee lunch spending when away from the office, my eyes might start glazing over after 45 seconds.

Super_Jambo• 16 years ago

TLDR: When asked your options are a 30 min conversation describing it to the 'normal' (yawn) or shrugging it off (looks aloof). Answer: Do both! shrug it off and extend an offer to talk about it later.

Comment: Thats a really useful article, I was expecting basically a bitch fest for the problems he describes. But it's actually quite sensitive to both the asker and asked AND solves the problem.

A+++ would buy from again!

F_J_H• 16 years ago

Interesting. Although not the point of the article, it led me to think that if the "normals" don't understand your business, maybe that should tell you something...

jordancooper7• 16 years ago

i think that depends on whether you're building a consumer application or an enterprise application...

platshaw• 16 years ago

Nice post, so true. I'm going to leave a comment over on your blog too. I was just thinking about this last night and wrote a post about it:

http://www.petelatshaw.com/post/392030379/your-startup-idea-...

I think maybe the "normals", who don't read Hacker News every day and aren't immersed in startup culture, just aren't used to visualizing products. It's not second nature for them to consider the usefulness of a product to a market they are not personally a part of.

That said-- I agree with your conclusion... you never know when someone can share an insight or help, so don't hold back!

Pete

brlewis• 16 years ago

This excludes founders interested in learning what aspects of their startup pique the interest of normal people. Even if the other person changes the subject, you've learned something.

sumeetjain• 16 years ago

Two things that have helped me answer this question:

1. Smile. It's amazing how many people have a half or full frown when they answer this question. Keeping a positive expression on your face helps send the message that 1) you're interested in your work, 2) you don't begrudge the asker for her question. The result will be less pressure on both you and the asker, because you eliminate the assumption that an inconvenient conversation is about to happen.

2. Be direct. If you're smiling, it comes across as charming. I might ask, "How much time have you got?" or "How much would you like to know?" Neither question is a masterstroke (and some of you might even be thinking the questions are lame), but with the right attitude, you'll be entering a warm conversation where neither party is unprepared. I usually begin my explanation with a brief summary of my product's most interesting user story.

One additional note: If you work at a company with a good deal of access/transparency, ask your CEO or Founder how they answer when people ask them what their company is about. They get asked this question more than anyone, and they'll have several good options to share with you. It will help you model your own response.

psycandrew• 16 years ago

I get what Jordan is trying to say. It's similar to when someone asks a band "what's your music like." The description is often far from adequate. I've found that it works really well if you give them a "demo" or say "ever see XYZ? It's similar to that." People just need to find a connection to something they are already familiar with. You can solidify your presence within their mind that way.

mseebach• 16 years ago

we’re faced with this choice of the elevator pitch which tends to draw a bunch of shoulder shrugs and “sounds cool(s).” Or a half an hour explanation of the supply chain in our market and where we fit into it.

BS. If you can make an elevator pitch for investors, you can make one for friends and family. If you can't explain to mortals what you do in 30 seconds, I'd say that's a bit of a red flag.

"I run/work for a small company. We're developing software that helps people in business XX do YY smarter. It's a really exciting project, next month we're going to unveil a new feature we think is going to change the way people in business XX think about their work."

.. there is no brand equity attached to our companies. (...) all you have to say is “I work at Goldman Sachs” and you have satisfied this human desire to be perceived as successful ...

I've met someone who works at Goldman Sachs. I know that to be a sign of successfulness, but I have no idea what he does there. He told me, and I still don't know. If his goal is to be an interesting conversation partner, he'd need as much of a pitch as the guy working for "Blippy".

Sometimes at the end of a long day, the last thing we want to do in our “socializing time” is run through another pitch.

Bleh. Socializing is about who you are. If you spend 10 hours a day working on a start-up, that work is part of who you are. Otherwise, you're just a guy with a 10-hours black hole in his day.

jordancooper7• 16 years ago

i like the sentiment of all your comments...i just tried to articulate challenges, not at all justifying them...

wheels• 16 years ago

I think the point of said question has been missed. Very rarely do people actually care about the answer being given; it's just so that you provide enough context for (a) small-talk and (b) so that you can be pigeon-holed.

In non-business settings (i.e. not including startup mixers and the like) I give as simple an answer as possible: "internet stuff", usually. If people care, they'll ask.

The worst is when someone starts into a 10 minute monolog, oblivious to the fact that the other person is looking for an excuse to walk away.

HeyLaughingBoy• 16 years ago

Am I the only person who hates this imagined dichotomy between "founders" and "normals?" It assumes that non-founders are somehow lesser beings. And perhaps that's where the reluctance to talk about your business comes from: why discuss it with someone you've already assumed won't care or understand?

Look, if you're starting a business, discusss it with everyone who asks. If nothing else, it gives you practice explaining it and just maybe, that bored guy may turn out to be an expert in the field or a valuable contact. If you can't explain it, the problem is most likely you not them. Find a way to simplify the explanation without being condescending.

Honestly, I don't see how this is any harder than explaining what you do to a non-programmer.

tom_ilsinszki• 16 years ago

There might be no single word for what you do, so you have to explain, which might sound like you're explaining yourself (and trying to convince others, that you are successful).

I think there _is_ a valid argument in this post.

mhartl• 16 years ago

I agree that entrepreneurs tend to be a bit self- (or at least startup-) absorbed, but I'd bet most normal people don't mind being called "normal".

In any case, the dichotomy is real, though the "non-normal" side is not restricted to startup founders. I've heard the term "real person" used as a near-synonym for "normal"; a "real person" has a job, probably has a mortgage, and is either married with children or well on the way. In other words, a "real person" is conventional. Unconventional people tend to think of "conventional" as an insult, but it's simply not the case; by definition, most people are conventional, and most of them are perfectly happy that way.

junklight• 16 years ago

The main reason I hate this question when I'm away from work and work related contexts is that my company is all I talk about and think about for 99% of my time. And sometimes its really nice to have a small break from it. Also I know that once I start enthusing about it peoples eyes will be glazing over.

I certainly hate the idea of "normals" too - and I can easily explain what we do and am more than happy to if you are really interested. Just be sure you are because you might get quite a detailed and passionate answer.

jazzychad• 16 years ago

Watching that interaction, I realized something that I have found to be true in my entrepreneurial endeavors: founders don’t like talking about their companies with ... "normals."

If that is the case for you, then you know what? Too bad for you! You should take advantage of every opportunity where somebody shows an interest in learning about what you are doing, if only at the introductory level. I have learned this lesson over the last 9 months after venturing out on my own.

When friends or family would ask what I was doing, initially I would get annoyed because I didn't think they would understand or care, so I would try to side-step the question and move on. This backfires because later on when you are ready to launch or announce something, they have no idea what it is and they are less inclined to be excited about it.

Then, when asked the question, I started to give long-winded speeches trying to explain everything. This turns out to be overkill for most people and they glaze over. After quickly realizing this, I started giving a paired-down version (I even did some verbal A/B testing to see which explanations got the most reaction/understanding).

After being asked this question by dozens of people and having lots of experience explaining it, when it finally came time to give my pitches in front of "people that actually matter" I was very comfortable and adept at it. Practice makes perfect.

Also, as pointed out by HeyLaugingBoy, you never know who the other people know ("oh, my uncle works in the blah blah industry. you should talk!"). The other big lesson I have learned: it really is a small world.

abalashov• 16 years ago

I's the "elevator pitch" issue above all else.

There aren't too many things out there sophisticated and ambitious enough to actually be worth doing (or describing) that can also be summed up in a pithy 10-second haiku to appease a frat boy making smalltalk.

For obvious reasons, the laboriousness of such an exercise relative to the level of genuine interest in the details from the audience makes it unappealing.

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