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There's not gonna be some neat little checklist for you, you have to just develop the ability to reason about social dynamics.

Is it acceptable to contact them and tell them you are driving to the conference and would like to find someone to come along to make the ride more social, and asking if they would like to be that person?

Based on exactly how your question is worded, no. I think most people would feel uncomfortable with a relative stranger reaching out to them specifically and asking to carpool.

You have to consider the dynamics of the situation too: What are the ages of the people involved? What are the genders? What are their roles in the community, etc. These factors can make it anything from a friendly, but still not terribly appropriate request to downright creepy and possibly exploitative.

You brought up time, which is another dynamic to consider as well. I'm sure if we thought hard, we could come up with some nice rule of thumb like "if you're going to do this at all, it should be at least X weeks/months/etc later" - but really it's more about whether everyone can actually move on and what the new social dynamics are. If by this point the other party is well established in another company, not looking for a job, etc - it's much easier to put the whole interview behind everyone involved.

If you're both contributors to a project, why have you not interacted already? Have you been reading their social cues?

Some people are very open to meeting new people. If you interview someone and you genuinely find them interesting - see if they have a blog or twitter or something. See how they interact with people there. After considering the other factors, IF you decide to engage them, do it some place they are obviously comfortable and giving off cues that they want to interact.

Presumably there is some mailing list or discussion area for the project, see if they are open to interacting there.

You also need to be really honest and examine your own motivations and make sure you act accordingly and are not deceptive about it either to yourself or others.

If you're really interested in just making the trip less lonely, why not put out a general call? "Hey I'm headed to X conference, anyone want to carpool?" You might get some replies from people you're not interested in riding with for whatever reason, in which case you'll just have to deal with it in an appropriate way. Either tolerate them, or come up with some excuse to exclude that person politely ("oh, I think all the spots are accounted for, but I'll keep you in mind").

You'll have to accept that in a lot of cases, the fact that you had a failed business relationship with a person will preclude you having a personal relationship with them.

Is it really a choice though? I imagine most people would feel a fairly strong obligation to watch the video if they were told it was recorded as, say, a birthday present for them. The temptation would be very strong at least, and difficult for many to resist. I suppose after a few miserable experiences with it, some might be able to put the box of tapes away forever - but then they'd probably always carry some guilt.

I think it's better to do what one of my best friends (inadvertently) did when they died young - leave a good legacy of mementos for their loved ones. I, for my part, have a collection of musical recordings we made together that I can pull out when I feel like it. It's incredibly emotionally difficult to listen to (especially the parts where the tape was running between songs) but it helps at times. His girlfriend of the time has a lot of his writings/journals she can read to remember his thoughts on life or incidents that happened.

If you know ahead of time, record some memoirs and thoughts. Perhaps build something for them. Give a general message to your loved ones that you had a happy life, etc - whatever seems suitable for the situation and people involved.

...but the idea of recording "A message for my daughter on her 6th birthday from beyond the grave" is incredibly macabre to me and I personally would not want that.

There's much risk involved as well for the tiny little "cuteness" of the fact that the videos were recorded for specific life events. I for one wouldn't want to listen to a deceased parent go on about how proud they were I found a husband on my wedding day to my new wife for example. Or have to spend my whole life staring at a tape marked "for your wedding" and never watching it.

Coming Soon in HHVM 11 years ago

Multi-stage JITs are indeed fascinating and give some nice wins, but as a "user" (that is, a developer) I find them frustrating at times because they make it more difficult to reason about the performance and behaviour of my code.

Not only a priori, but in terms of testing actual code and designing benchmarks as well - you have to make sure the right sections of code are hot, hitting the right levels, etc. It's extra mental load and work. (and if you're a JS developer, you may have to do this across multiple platforms). And oh, regressions and updates.

I'm not entirely convinced it's all worth it, but so far I'm begrudgingly accepting it.

I found that the Reach79 increased my download speeds some of the time, especially in weaker locations

Over what?

The same phone in the same location yesterday? A different phone held next to it? A different phone in a "similar location"? What the author remembered from the day before, or carefully logged?

The review is practically useless without this information....

"targeted" seems to be exactly the wrong word to use here, and "going after" decidedly not what is happening which is precisely the problem here - porn companies (or their representatives) are just indiscriminately firing off DMCA take-down requests any time they get spooked about infringers, without regard for where their "bullets" are going.

Je Suis Charlie 12 years ago

"Holy shit, @deeznutz420 is right. My religion IS a total crock of shit!

Actually that happens all the time - the reverse happens too of course.

Looks cool, but it's not clear to me how it's better than just browsing Netflix. I clicked on "comedies" and Black Mirror came up, which is not quite what I had in mind...along with Postcards from Buster, which is a children's show.

I'm convinced there is a real productivity loss due to OSX's limited notifications system.

On OSX you get a tiny little bubble in the upper right from your chat program and if you miss it, too bad. I've seen people resorting to shouting or tapping on shoulders because of this. Trying to do something as simple as change the font size was difficult or impossible.

On linux I get nice big notifications. If I miss or choose to ignore them, my WM highlights windows that need my attention and they stay that way till I get to it.

There are fixes no doubt, but this lack of "customizability" permeates OSX and seems to be getting worse.

Study the history of other cults, such as Mormonism.

Not how the "witnesses" changed their beliefs and how they talked about what happened over time. Even though some of them came to distrust Joseph Smith or consider him on a wrong path, once they had convinced themselves they had seen something miraculous happen they had a hard time letting go.

They later made comments that suggested they had seen the things "in a vision" (yet most people assume an actual witnessing), the important consideration is to them it was real, and just as valid as actually seeing it. In their mind there was no difference - so they had no problem claiming they saw it first hand.

Faith is a type of insanity, so naturally you can't use the assumption of faithful people acting rationally (no motivation to die for a lie) to find truth.

As to how they came to believe it, again look at other religions, spiritual practices etc. It's quite common for followers/believers to come to believe something the leader is not saying - it has to be so, that's HOW IT WORKS.

It's similar to snake oil salespeople today like Deepak Chopra - you just make a lot of hand wavy claims about energy and quantum physics and people inject their own meaning.

Put these in a time period when education and access to information was low and et voila.

As a Philly native whenever I head up to NYC one of the things that always strikes me is how much better the cab experience is - which should tell you something.

The setup we have now is just bad all around. It's not good for the drivers, and it's not good for the passenger. One of the last times I took a cab here, the driver spent the whole time on the phone talking to another driver about how to cheat at inspections, disable the CC machine, etc.

I remember there was a time period not too long ago when the calendar lined up* with the one from like 1989 or 1992 something like that and 2600 started releasing a bunch of their editors old radio shows from that year as a weekly podcast - as if on a ~decade "delay".

I usually only pop on one of their podcasts when I'm really bored, but I followed most of that while it was happening because of an interesting effect. For some reason hearing about stuff from the past on the same calendar day and day of week just really made you connect to it more.

I saw this the other day too, and bookmarked it because it brought that cool feeling back. It's a really neat idea imo.

* lined up in terms of days of the week - so if the 3rd of March was a Monday the one year, it was the other too

It's a research project so it produces experience and, well, research that can be useful to commercial enterprises. Lots of companies have an interest in making dynamic languages faster.

The project does have a secondary goal be a useful hobbyist platform and is making progress on that front.

(disclaimer: I'm a minor contributor.)

While the "white devil" philosophy can be supported with case studies of deplorable acts against blacks

To be clear, the NOI teaches that "white" people are literal devils - they were created by a scientist named Yakub ~6,000 years ago for the express purpose of fighting the "original" (i.e. "black") people.

I can sympathize with mistrust, and even hostility, towards a culture which historically and presently supports systems which oppress those of ones own culture but I find such teachings undesirable and dangerous. I only bring it up because I don't think most people are aware that the NOI teaches such things (or that they have ties to Dianetics/Scientology, but I digress).

It should also be noted the NOI didn't invent this play. The Israelites used a story of a curse upon Canaan to justify their conquest of it, and later various "white" religions like some Protestant sects, Mormonism, some Baptist groups, etc used the same story or "the mark of cain" to justify their treatment of the people of African origin - another set of disturbing/dangerous teachings that I'm sure many people today are unaware of.

At any rate, I agree that someone subscribing to any of these religions, or advocating actions I don't approve of wouldn't preclude me from being able to admire certain aspects of their personality/life or learn from them.

Emacs and Vim 12 years ago

Another option for "modal" editing in emacs is god-mode(1). It lets you use emacs commands without modifier keys. I have it set to change my mode-line color when it's activated, it's great if you want a little taste of vim but not the problem of trying to shoehorn vim key-bindings into emacs.

1. https://github.com/chrisdone/god-mode

Wouldn't something like a Sweet.js macro be better for this? Just have it output a string with '\n\' at the end of lines, or using Array.join() or whatever you like.

Employment law only covers so much. For one, people are still discriminated against on the basis of their belonging to a protected class - it just can't be done overtly. For another the laws don't cover everything.

I appreciate that you feel the phrasing is antagonistic; but I hope you can appreciate that to me it is deeply reassuring and gives me much needed hope.

Searching for employment for me is very stressful (as it is for most people I imagine). I'm non-typical in a few ways, and some of them are rather visible. I have to worry about and have experienced judgment/reluctance to hire me based on those differences. It is nice for me to know ahead of time that an employer is not just looking for people who fit a certain mold.

It's not just about women, LGBTQ, people of color, etc either. One of the ways I am somewhat non-typical as a developer is I'm a high school dropout. It's relatively common for developers not to have a college/university education, but overall it's still not the norm and there are places that will discount you on that basis (especially outside the major tech hubs). Sure, a lot of postings will add that nice qualifier "or equivalent experience"; and that's great. This goes a little farther though, and lets me know that not only will they not hold my lack of a piece of paper against me, they won't hold my alternate path in life against me either.

I can appreciate that it might seem like it goes without saying to you, or might ring hollow... but honestly I've found there are places that don't care about diversity/inclusiveness, or are even hostile to it. Also, I do actually appreciate just the effort of hanging that little sign that says "this is a welcoming place".