sojourner

Do I have to be that rude? I mean, I'll do it if I absolutely have to. But do I really have to do that?

Sigh. She mentioned his daughter and wife not to engage and escalate, but to remind him he was a human being. Fail.

Personally, this guy deserves filming and posting, but a lot of women like being nice. Even with people being utter and complete sociopaths. She gave him some consideration, like a lot of women would. He was drunk, and she kept nicely attempting to redirect his attention away from her. Even now, she is not outing him. She has kept the details vague enough so that few probably could guess who this was.

Not everyone enjoys being obnoxious. Even with determined assholes, even with dangerous sociopaths (not saying he was one, just saying in general).

That wasn't a tease or a challenge she was throwing out to him. That was a "I said no. And by the way, you're married, so even if I was attracted to assholes, it would still be a no. And by the way, you're married with children, so even if I was attracted to assholes, it would still be a no. Oh, and by the way, have I mentioned, no? No? Then, let me say it again no."

I think it's interesting that you see her actions as engaging and escalating. I'm sure there are a significant number of males who would agree with you on that. I'm curious, because I've encountered a fair number of guys who don't seem to hear the word "no" or follow-up phrases that indicate "no": say I'm having a great time in a bar after the conference, and here comes the father with a slut for a daughter looking for some action. Are my only options to get the bartender to throw the guy out, or to leave the bar in order to have this guy -- if not to hear and respond to my "no" -- act as if he did? Or is there something magical phrase that a woman can tell a guy where he will hear "no" and actually respond as if he respected that?

Except that others have done so?

Not even Al Bundy called Kelly Bundy that.

Listen, I know it seems far-fetched to you, and I’m not saying that this guy is a rapist, or a potential rapist, but why on earth would anyone take that chance?

Let’s go back to the videotape: he gets a ‘no’, he keeps chasing, he gets the subject changed, he keeps chasing. He gets the subject changed to a couple of the females in his life which matter to most guys — his wife and his daughter, and he refers to them in some of the most vile ways possible and keeps chasing. His quarry keeps physically removing herself from his presence, he keeps chasing. And he’s completely comfortable doing all of this in a public setting. What's he capable of in private?

I’m not saying he’s a potential rapist, but I wouldn't be taking any chances. If I got a bartender to throw him out of the bar, I’d be paying some burly dude to escort me to a friend’s house for the night, because I don’t know when this guy gets the message.

Let me ask you a question. Where would your head have to be for you to refer to your daughter as a slut? And that you would choose that line on your intended prey, instead of the usual sweet nothings and empty compliments in the arsenal of most other guys? Now, that you’ve mapped that mindset, how would you want any of the women in your life that you care about to handle dealing with anyone with that kind of mindset?

Personally, I not only want this guy’s name, I want pictures, interviews with his wife, daughter, and parents, and I want it on Oprah with experts present to give me a full psychological profile. I wasn’t even there and I want someone to hold my hand and tell me it’s going to be alright.

Actors don't get paid just for performances, or for only the performances in which they deliver the lines perfectly. They get paid for rehearsals, costume time, makeup time, etc., and for the performances in which they missed their cue, came on stage early, left l

Creating software is a creative process, and there is rarely an end point where the software is completely bug-free, or where there is absolutely no further improvement which can be made.

Bugs are like flubbed lines. They happen. They always happen. And coders get paid for fixing them.

If your doctor makes a mistake, does he give you a refund? Or does he charge both for the mistake and the new fix? Your lawyer?

What I hear in the story is that Tom is feeling incredibly frustrated at having to not only plan for the company's long-term growth, but that he's repeatedly brought up the fact that you and Jerry's reactive strategies work to help increase everyone's workload. And this particular latest straw, in which Jerry not only agrees to extra work, but then tries to reassign it to Tom, is viewed by Tom as something only a dedicated crazymaker would do.

If I were in your shoes, I would hire a facilitator for the next meeting. An earlier response mentioned being on the same page as being very important and I have to agree. I think having a professional facilitator will help you, Tom and Jerry (wait -- Tom and Jerry like the cat and the mouse?) hear each other.

Good luck.

Word v Open Office.

I think it's been 2 or 3 times that I didn't have Word installed. And it's been the same dance each time: Look up prices for Word. Run to download Open Office. Spend about an hour doing something that would take 15 minutes in Word, despite the fact that each has the same menu and supposedly most of the same features. Go back to looking up prices on Word. Spend about an hour and a half playing other open-source word processors. Going back to looking up prices on Word. Getting Word and uninstalling Open Office and all the other useless time leeches I've downloaded, thinking that I'll never, ever do that to myself again.

I love green smoothies. I use other fruit in addition to bananas, also use collards, kale, dandelion and other dark leafy greens, and I don't skip the dairy. They are delicious and very filling.

I love quinoa tabouli. Tabouli is a Middle Eastern salad. You'll find various recipes on the web. I like to use cilantro in place of the usual parsley & mint, scallions, cucumbers, tomatoes, salt, pepper, and a dressing of fresh lemon juice, garlic, salt and extra virgin olive oil. I make a huge batch of that and snack on it for a couple of days.

Yeah, I have to third the couscous option. It's great for tight schedules.

Yes. I was amazed at how different mushrooms taste when steamed. Totally different animals. Same goes with a lot of veggies. You can add flavor if you want, but many times, it's unnecessary.

My concern with asking "How can ads not suck?" is the limitation of the answer. If I take one step back from the question, my view of the problem shifts and the potential solutions grow. Your concern isn't about ads and ad-blockers, it's about generating revenue from a site. You think that ad-blockers are affecting your revenue. They aren't. How you're advertising is affecting your revenue.

I'd start with the question "How can I generate revenue without using ads?" Others may have better questions.