sedna

Sexist. Next question?

I'm not sure why you think this is about feelings, and specifically feelings of offence. It's about the social structure of hacker culture, or about standards for professional and semi-professional programming events. It's about how people involved in this field expect to be treated, or not.

One way to give expression to a particular opinion would be expressing offence. (Another would be applauding.) If you ask me if I think this sort of thing is offensive, I will say "yes" -- after all, you asked me! -- but it's just a way of putting a marker this. It isn't anywhere close to the core of what I think about this topic.