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Well, it comes a lot of from the good stuff that involved parenting does.

In other words, even taking kids to school in a car instead them walking (or at least on the bike, but their own feet still involved, therefore they are themselves 100% in control in going to school) is the support that is not the in the list of "support" but will be in the long run. I should mention, I do recognize the time constraints of current society.

Your comment reminded me saying:

Hard times create strong men, Strong men create good times, Good times create weak men, Weak men create hard times.

Anxiety makes you consider consequences of your choices and take action based on it. Aggression helps you fight for what you think is important.

Domestic violence was so absolute norm that there was a saying "Бьёт – значит любит", "he beats, means he loves". Rapes, domestic and not. So many of them. Corruption related crimes. Everywhere. Education, Health, Finance, you name it. There was not a single sector in the country that was not affected by corruption.

Also, don't forget that USSR is not only Moscow, St. Petersburg, Kiev and few other big cities. Rural USSR was very poor, and full of all sorts of crimes. Life in SU was not rosy as they might have tried to describe.

Edit: Formatting.

Try to go to https://www.irs.gov/

Probably not the best way, but earlier this year I spent about an hour on the phone with CC of IRS telling them that irs.gov should be behind HTTPS with proper certs. They mentioned that all the pages with sensitive information are behind HTTPS. Simple documents and forms are not that important I guess. As you can see it's still an issue.

I wonder what kind of supervision, you, me, my parents, your parents had in our/their toddler days?

I doubt any of this is true, and I worry for the safety of your child.

:)

When my daughter was a toddler, she didn't want to be alone, she wanted to be, and she still always wants to be with someone. I have never heard of a toddler that wants free time. More like parents want free time and don't get any. Children at that young age need a lot of attention, caring and love, they should not be alone, like ever.

I have same experience with my older one. That does not make me happy not because of I need free time. I can sleep less and have free time. It worries me because of him being afraid of being by himself. BTW, me and my wife did supervise him 24/7 till 3 years.

All in all, I understand being obsessive with supervision in parenting is trend these days and anybody with other view will be considered as dangerous parent. At the end of day, one can create safe environment for kid, hence won't need to be worried every second. But I guess, this is part of evolution in parenting and we have to ride it out.

Not every toddler needs 24/7 supervision. At age of 15-18 months they understand consequences of basic behavior, and once they identify harming things, they avoid them by themselves. My 2 year child does not touch cup with hot tea for 6 months now, and warns us that it is hot. She recognizes spicy and avoids it. And much more similar behavior. I strongly believe that toddlers need not so much supervision and more free time/will. It will help them to become more self-sufficient person in future.

Edit: I'm not saying parent should not spend time with toddler teaching him/her. I'm saying toddler does not need 24/7 supervision. You don't want to grow a person who can't live without supervision.