jd75

Women's domestic enslavement was a wonderful thing.

Did I miss something, or does this article say that, for example, if one parent lost 5 children, that means that on average 5 parents lost 1 child each?

It's an interesting topic and the recent bumps on the graph have me wondering what caused young child deaths to rise in the '80s and '00s.

But unless I missed different numbers than averaging all child deaths across all parents, it doesn't answer the question in the title at all.

My grandma had cancer. A doctor had ignored her complaining of throat pain for too long, and it didn't look good. The doctor who told us chemo was an option was pushing my grandma really hard to just go ahead and die instead of trying chemo. It was horrible, and I hate the attitude that people shouldn't try so hard to stay alive.

My grandma tried the chemo. She did die anyway, which I'm sure some folks will see as a reason that she never should have tried.

No, I mean I don't get promoted for trying to hear what other people say, while managers can't say enough nice things about the hipster-ass who breaks everything he touches trying to turn it into GraphQL no matter what.

But I didn't write that very clearly the first time.

People love to work with me, but managers love all of those flaws.

it was probably mostly because "everyone's doing it", but i'm glad we did. a little harder to bail when the going gets tough when the in-laws' friends have given you a cuisinart. ;)

I didn't want kids until I was 14 and my mom had an oopsie-baby. The intense love I felt for my baby sister changed my mind. And I wasn't wrong -- despite many, many, many drawbacks to having children, I love them just the way I'd hoped.

But I think people are so different that I definitely would not try to up-sell kids. At least so far, it's like having a 24/7 job, while I have a full-time job.

(Or as the rest of the comments say, women all want all the kids and all your money that's just science...)

Everyone's goals vary, but I got married because I wanted kids and I wanted help raising them from someone with a vested interest in doing so.

I'm not sure I could identify my "core values" in a crowd -- where I feel lucky is in the "healthy discussions". My husband and I don't hit each other with too many of the Four Horsemen: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-c...

I personally love me some alone time, but yeah, as a lady, tech is a little too lonely even for me. Something that I think would help is if the social types in the engineering department (often men!) would post interesting tech events in Slack.

Maybe I don't enjoy sports or poker; maybe you don't enjoy sci-fi book readings or craft nights, but chances are we both want learn some new tricks (with free beer and snacks). I suppose the risk there is that it can feel like an obligation -- and I actually had a boss accuse me of networking for my next job by going to tech events.

Given that another comment says she "suddenly" crossed three lanes of traffic and was on the far side of the car when she was hit, my suspicion is that the car thought she was riding the bike. Of course all of us computers know that bikes always go over 5 mph so surely she'd make it across. Why brake?

I want safe self-driving cars, when they are safe. But Uber's clearly-established cavalier attitude toward human beings apparently can't be trusted with self-driving cars. I'm disappointed that politicians thought they could.

This could have been any of us.

Not me! I know I'm not biologically ill-suited to geek out.

Or any woman, apparently, since the author never met one who has a pile of electronic components stored away for some day.

Why would Ajit Pai care what we think? How much money have we given the GOP? What kushy job do we have lined up for him if he does what we want?

I enjoy making things with code. I like earning a check. Why do you stay in your job?

It makes me sad to think my kids will think I didn't do enough for them one day, but dads have been working full-time for ages. You're not the first person who has pressured me to go part-time, either.

The policies are better than nothing, because you meet people facing the same biases you do and realize you aren't a lunatic weirdo.

But in my utopia, everyone takes the implicit associations tests, has the courage to take in the parts that make them feel bad about themselves, and starts working on those things.

https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/selectatest.html

Of course your sister should make her own choices, but the pressure on a mom in tech to leave is still absolutely immense. The more of us who tough it out, the better for our daughters.

Where "fun" is defined by people who got funding. http://fortune.com/2017/03/13/female-founders-venture-capita...

it's like there's an army of internet people waiting for you to mess up and will punish you with controversy and/or honestly try and get you fired.

It sounds like you can relate to existing as a person who is different in tech, then.

I like having events where women can get together without getting hit on or talked down to and where you've often encountered the same kinds of problems.

However. At my last job, there was just constant pressure from HR to go to these "Women in Tech" things that had nothing to do with writing code. I have three kids and a full-time job -- if I'm missing time with my kids and making my husband do more than his share, I need to be learning something both new and awesome.

One day, I may have time to mentor or help recruit or just mingle for free hummus (it's always goddamn hummus at the women's things). That day is so not now.

It's been said already, but these products were destroyed by support-forum-as-documentation. You can get a light blinking on an Arduino in five minutes. On the Edison, it took all my free time for a couple days to even figure out what pins were what. During that time, the excitement of building something more complicated on it evaporated. We are programmers, not documentation detectives on a scavenger hunt. I hope anyone who threw a bureaucratic monkey wrench into a proper documentation hub uses their unemployment to reflect.

The fact that I'm seeing your comment at all suggests they've improved in the last few years. This is the first time I've bothered to comment on HN, as a woman interested in the topic of "Women in Tech" in ages, because it was such a barren hellscape here not long ago.

As always, comments on stories about feminism prove the need for feminism.

Alternately, also as a woman in tech, we could expect employers not to lump us all together and to judge men who resort to using slurs more harshly than women who don't like having slurs used against them.

I know someone who works at the IRS. It is seriously being defunded, by people like Darrell Issa. If Issa wants forever records of all emails, that costs.

Republicans cherry-picked the data. The IRS targeted liberal groups more, based on the information we have. http://thinkprogress.org/politics/2014/04/23/3429722/irs-rec...

They targeted progressive groups to a greater extent, based on the information we have. http://thinkprogress.org/politics/2014/04/23/3429722/irs-rec...

I didn't link my ID's, then one day I clicked the wrong button and ended up using YouTube with my real, full name (gross!). I looked for my playlist containing all the private videos I'd uploaded of my small children and it was gone!

I found the playlist later under my other, weird shadow YouTube account, but in the moment when I thought all the videos of my son's first years were gone (I do have backups... somewhere), I can easily imagine crying my eyes out.

Which is a lot of pressure. ~A mom