Ask HN: Getting harassed at work for my sexuality, what should i do? 10 years ago
It's better to talk to people than about them: you know how that feels, right? These are people you work with, and will continue to work with, if you resolve the situation, so I think you should just call one of them on what they are saying. Talk one-on-one with frankness and humor and a willingness to forgive. If you approach it as adult-to-adult, they may not react like a stupid kid.