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In Belgium we have a "career break". 6 months, only condition is to be employed in the company for one year if I recall correctly. Employer can not refuse.
You also get paid basic allocations similar to unemployment, unlike this system.
You only get it once though.
Garbage content in my opinion is mindless, soulless content created by content farms. Which in a way is what YouTube encourages through their advertising business. Same issue with low quality results in search engines due to all the content farms.
Any content that makes me question things is good in my opinion.
I had a period when I was into UFOs and whatnot.. and it led to an interesting realization about what I actually know. So in my view everything has its place. For example a video about flat earth may very well engage the viewer to wonder WHY the earth wouldn't be flat?
You can't force people to ask questions. Some people will get into the deep end and lose themselves. So be it. You can never force someone else to wake up out of their dreams. It's each individual's choice. At best it is only through the heart, and not rationality, that you can help someone see more clearly. Everyone believes n one thing or another, in order to feel safe.
And yes you are right. YouTube is absolutely perfect right now in some funny ways. Through the limitation of their own business model, they allow everyone to express themselves. And this is better for everybody.
I think they're going to stick to moderation politics and whatnot anyway, so who cares.
Manual selection doesn't bode well.
I like to watch spiritual and metaphysical talks, Papaji, Eckhart Tolle, Conscious TV, Rupert Spira and the like.
I don't want someone to tell me what's "true" or what's "real" by refering me to the so called "facts".
Sounds like a slippery slope to me...
There sure is a lot of drivel on YouTube.. much of it like content farms playing search engines, is driven by the ad revenue. I find this empty / mindless content far more distracting than "false claims".
I like that it seems heavily based on the watch history because it gives me some control.
In general I find the selction on the homepage to be useful, however it does take some work as I regularly remove a lot of random things.
I also open random videos in a private window to keep my watch history more focused.
So it works fairly well for me, bringing up videos from channels I like that I haven't seen before... but it takes effort to get it to work for me. So it is arguably not very good for a typical user.
The article also reminded me about Simulacra and Simulation
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Simulacra_and_Simulation
How what we create ends up shaping us. For example, what we think of "reality" today, is the fiction we created in sitcoms and television shows that shaped our view of the world when we grew up. We dress like "cool" people, we dance like "cool" people, we imitate one another.. so in the end we become the fiction.
But to be honest I don't know which way to read the article. Besides the main "emergent / unplanned" idea I'm not sure what his point is. edit: I guess he meant to say that the "digital revolution" promised more control over our lives, and instead it is becoming something completely unplanned.
Note for later, "evidence" for the afternoon slump:
"The so-called “window of circadian low” — the hours when the body is least adapted for wakefulness — typically occurs between 2 a.m. and 6 a.m. There’s another, smaller dip 12 hours later, in the midafternoon."
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/12/24/well/mind/work-schedule-h...
If she can afford it talk therapy is what she would really benefit from. Unfortunately talk therapy is expensive.
You can NOT change her. She will reach out eventually, or she won't. Believing "I'll never be cured" is itself a defense mechanism. That can mean she's just too young to be able to start healing. Particularly if she's still stuck in this environment, and living with those dependencies. Only when she's able to fly out of the nest, and distance herself sufficiently from both her parents, she can begin opening up.
The next best thing to help her cope till someday she find the strength to reach out, is a yoga class. That is not so expensive, even just once a week will do wonders and more effective and soothing than taking antidepressants. I talk from experience from a time when I had insane levels of anxiety. Just once a week made a significant difference.
Bless you both not much else I can say. I wanted to type more but it's too complex of a topic.
My friends dad's never took responsibilites seriously
What kind of dad was this man then? What kind of connection did he build with his daughter?
It's so obvious from what you wrote, yet it's interesting you seemingly didn't draw the connection. edit: it may be also that your friend herself did not draw this connection or is unconsciously avoiding it.
So, so much happens behind closed doors, in every home. So much unwritten history. So much that you'll never know about someone.
We all want to love our parents and feel it is the right thing to do. Yet to heal trauma, to heal depression... you have to acknowledge the anger that has built up. Legitimate anger of being ignored, insulted, ridiculed, abandoned, shamed, and so on. Paradoxically.. it is through gradually allowing oneself to feel this anger, that the heart opens.. and we are able to love again both self and others.
Maybe readers will enjoy this related post from Bernardo Kastrup. It may argue the point better, or not. I can't argue myself as it's too obvious for me. It's a unwinnable argument in my opinion, since it drives right into what it means to know something.
Why dismissing philosophy threatens the integrity of science
https://www.bernardokastrup.com/2018/12/why-dismissing-philo...
Feeling a slump early afternoon after midday meal is not anecdotal evidence, it's biology.
edit: At least, it's a common issue that people have . A simple google search for "afternoon slump" reveals tons of related articles and suggestions to address it.
Besides, those who feel otherwise likely don't give sufficient context. Such as, likely that they work from home. Or that they run their business so they can work afternoons and like to get up at 11 AM everyday. The article is talking about "staff" at "companies".
Monday morning off sounds like an awful idea.
First off, even when I lack sleep, I'll function better in the morning if I force myself out of bed, and I'll have a big slump in the afternoon.
If I sleep in instead to supposedly catch up sleep, I'll do OK.. but I won't feel any better in the afternoon.. I'll be a little off because of getting up late.
Secondly, afternoons are more depressing. I'd rather get out of bed, do a monday morning and then go home. It's really depressing in the winter, to leave work when it's already night outside. :/
But really screw "monday mornings" off, give me a monday off or nothing.
edit: not to mention the most obvious... people with long commutes coming to work for a few hours... really dumb.
The VMSVGA for linux guests sounds awesome, since they previously removed 3D support for "linux guests using Wayland".. ie. Ubuntu 18.10.
Can any linux experts here explain briefly what is required to get this VMSVGA support? (win 10 host, Ubuntu guest)
Do I have to grab additional drivers or "guest additions" from VMware? Or will Ubuntu 18.10 have 3D support out of the box if I run in with VB6 ?
Anyone know if this could solve VirtualBox's drop of support for 3D acceleration for Linux guests using Wayland?
https://www.virtualbox.org/ticket/18116
This is a consequence of our 3D acceleration for Linux guests, which was designed for a GLX only world and interacts badly with non-GLX applications. Since more and more desktop applications are expected to use Wayland rather than X11 I have simply disabled it for guests using Wayland, thereby fixing this issue.
I really want to update my old 14.04 LTS VM... however I need to find a way to keep 3D acceleration on (for front end dev, css animations and the like, plus overall much more responsive).
Though, anyone know what "disabled it for guests using Wayland" actually means? Will 3D acceleration work if I switch to compiz, or do they turn it off just based on the fact that it's a "Ubuntu" VM?
Episode 4 on how we are surrounded by images of "alternate ways of life" is amazing... it's like "taking the red pill" in the Matrix. So much things we take for granted, never even question, taht we take to be the "normal" way of life.
I think for this "intensive" approach to therapy the quality of presence and non-judgemental approach of the therapist is really key for it to be effective.
This is easier said than done. It's quite common to have therapists who have themselves unresolved issues, thus limiting their ability to be truly present with the patient.
People open up only when they feel safe, so the main "danger" underlined by the critics in the article is to cause the patient to close up even more.
I did talk therapy and it was useful, but sometimes I wished it was more "intensive". Unless you are super motivated to open up and bring things to the table, the therapist is perfectly happy to hear you talk , for years if need be.
I think part of the reason for this is that from the therapist and patient's perspective, a talk session will almost always have some effect. Simply to be able to vent relieves a bit of stress (and associated symptoms)... but if the patient keeps his shield up, and the therapist doesn't push buttons... or ask salient questions... then this can just go on and on.
I don't see a problem with the "intensive" apporach described in the article, so long as they are addressing patients with physical symptoms who have been in and out of the medical support for years. Those are typically people who are NOT already open to the idea that they may have unresolved trauma, and even downright averse to it. So they are the ones who would benefit the most I think, for a bit of a button pushing.
I was going to mention those 10 day courses.
While I find the idea of a prison a bit silly, the 10 day courses come with a heavy load of tradition, more or less mandatory 1hour talk everyday, and at least 2-" h of mandatory (in the hall together) meditation practice.
I am grateful for what I felt on those 10 days. But in a sense, I got more than I asked for. So those 10 days are a little bit sneaky in a sense. There is a lot going on those retreats, a lot of energy work. But once you're out of the retreat you're on your own.
While the 10 days have their benefits, I think there is a place for a distraction free environment that lets people think about their life without putting them on the "awakening" bus.
As an aside, I get the idea of the prison. The idea is to be submissive, to lose control. It's a very common theme in sexual fantasies as well, for a reason...
But, at the very least if they're going for the prison theme it should be cheaper than 90 USD a day. :/
Pranayama is typically fast breathing, and sometimes continuous in/out breathing. it's very different from the 4x4 breathing mentioned in this thread.
I am healing trauma and my experience with pranayama is that it doesn't help. Pranayama excitest he nervous system, thus causes more upset. Pranayama is something you should do when you are emotionally stable.
You can see that it excites the nervous system because you get tingly sensations coursing in your arms, or legs, or various places.
What I found from personal experience having done meditation and vipassana before, is that it isn't necessary to deliberately work with the nervous system.
If anything, I'd recommend the opposite to anybody. Try to RELAX as much as possible again and again. The extent to which you can not fully relax and sink into your sofa at the end of the day, AND forget about everything and be fully engaged in the present and what you're watching (if you're watching tv)... THAT is the extent to which there are tensions in the body that are in fact TIGHTENING and constricting the flow of energy. And by energy I mean here, science doesn't have words for that yet. Go figure, I think it's mostly blood flow but some of it can be nervous system related as well.
Put it simply: rather than excite the nervous system to supposedly make it stronger, you relax the bodily tensions so that the VITALITY that is already present and always there can move unimpeded. This is admittedly a view closer to that of bioenergetics, and I find it matches VERY closesly to my experience healing trauma.
That is why anxiety is the way it is. If it was a "charge" in the body, then you'd spend it and be done with it. And yet, it seems endless. It's seemingly endless because it's always created right there in the moment. It is the very vitality of the nervous system that is continually impeded by bodily tensions. The mind is what keeps those tensions in place.
Yoga in a sense also excites the nervous system by opening up the tensions, but it's much softer and safer than pranayama.
I know for fact that it excites the nervous system since I am healing trauma I can feel the agitation in me after each yoga class. First, it feels good but by the time I'm home 1h later... I feel agitated... I have to force myself to settle down and then relax with the tv for 30min to an hour. WHich is a very good practice. I suspect a lot of people don't realize that dimension of yoga because as soon as they're out of the class they keep getting busy. If you however try to be still after yoga, then it can be a good practice to try and relax into it.
So TLDR don't do pranayama (fast breathing) with SIGNIFICANT (ie. many years) anxiety and/or depression. While you may have a few pleasant highs, you'll end up adding more tension and cause more agitation.
My advice is to find a good yoga class, and do the slow breathing throughout the whole class. Typically breathing in and out in sync with slowly opening/closing arms/legs/whatever posture it is.
Whatever pranayama does for you, the signs of coming out of a state of vigilance in the body are:
- vision feels like it opens up, more panoramic - colours sometimes feel more vibrant, blacks look deeper - you notice smells you didn't notice before - you feel areas of the body more than you used to - hands feel very soft - hands are warmer, more often than before, sometimes REALLY warm which is super nice then you can rest a hand on your chest or diaphragm area - the mind calms down - in general due to all of this you feel more "anchored" in present experience for lack of better world
Jaynes recognizes that consciousness itself is only a small part of mental activity and is not necessary for sensation or perception, for concept formation, for learning, thinking or even reasoning. Thus, if major human actions and skills can function automatically and unconsciously, then it is conceivable that there were, at one time, human beings who did most of the things we do – speak, understand, perceive, solve problems – but who were without consciousness.
In the spiritual teachings & traditions the wording would be different. I think they would refer to was Jaynes call "consciousness" as "self awareness"; and then assert that "consciousness" is prior to any of that. For example in the dream state we are typically not in control, nor are we aware it's a dream.. yet when we "wake up" we remember having dreamed and having "been there".
In fact I'd argue that we DO many times of the day every day... speak and act without much self awareness. And yet, we remember afterwards and then claim those moments as something we did.
In short, Jaynes claims that men in the age of the Iliad learned to speak, read, and write, as well as conduct their daily lives, yet remained nonconscious throughout their lives.
Maybe they were indeed much less "self-aware" as we are today, which again is not same as saying not conscious.
edit: it seems to me this is the main contetion in science often times people just conflate mind activity and consciousness , as an (possibly not deliberate) attempt to chuck away the "hard problem of consciousness".
pps: funny enough it is actually an hypothesis, that for human beings to recongize consciousness is also something made possible through self awareness. For example, what is called "awakening" in spiritual teachings is supposed to be the natural state, hence, whatever "spiritual" state it is thought to be, is a self-refetential acknowledhgement of a change of one's perception of self and world. That is, "self awareness" allows for human beings to acknowledge consciousness (since we have to conceive of it).. whereas a dog or cat can be consciouss, and relatively free of worry, yet will never know themselves as "free of worry" (I mean in a rational / self aware way).
Put very curedly, they're getting high.
And, everybody's getting high.
Life is about pleasure.
If you found out that you can feel really, really good by sitting and doing nothing... would you do it? Of course you would. :)
Now the stark reality however, is that to be able to sit and meditate properly requires to be already at home in the body. Any amount of trauma will make that particularly difficult. As soon as you sit, you have to work through restlessness, anxiety, and myriad of other unpleasant states of mind. And they all come up.. it's like a purge of the nervous system.
In fact I was just recently reading an article about the unexpected side effects of meditation. This is not talked about enough.
Meditation Is a Powerful Mental Tool—and For Some People It Goes Terribly Wrong
https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/vbaedd/meditation-is-a-...
edit: forgot this beautiful quote: "First, you chase the truth. Then truth chases you".
I think a lot of people can feel how these apps affect their wellbeing. But how do we clearly state what the issue is, is a more difficult question.
For me this brings a larger topic that has to do with software development... any maybe it underpins the issue behind all those addicitve apps.
The issue is that typically, it is software and hardware that dictates the apps, rather than a human looking at a human, problem, and creating an app to solve a human problem. Of course that's the story we tell ourselves but it isn't the truth.
Most of us who code have stumbled upon those decisions many times: suddenly you realize a pattern in your code, and how convenient it is, that you could also use it for something else. A vary basic example of this is, well since we have profiles, now we can "connect" them. Why don't we add a "suggestion" feature that shows a lot of "interesting" profiles? And let's also allow to "follow" someone, because the software pretty much says : it's easy to do so wtf not?
You see what I mean?
People will deny that and say that eg. YouTube "suggestions" are purely a commercial, ie. completely rational and premeditated decision. But again I'd argue it's not the full truth. The full truth, is it becomes a reality because sofware and hardware made it not just possible , but easy.
Essentially: we let software and hardware tell us what to do, based on "what can be done". Look over the web and you find gazillions of example of that. Gazillions of completely unnecessary apps that exist solely because "we can do it".
And now we have AI... and one can only imagine the gazillions more awful applications of AI that will happen, that already happen today... "just because we can do it".
Thank you. Could you mention a brand that I could look into and compare to what I was taking? And what are they sourced from (those that you took?).
It's winter soon so I guess I could give it another go.
I can't say I noticed a change in mood when taking D3.
However fish oil undeniably reduces dryness in the EYES, with and without contact lenses.
They do sell in pharmacy supplements for eye health, I think targeted at older people, and the dosage of EPA /DHA is very low. I didn't try those so I can't say how much is needed.
I took eg. Life Extension 700/500 epa/dha and for me the effect was 100% reproducible. On a day I took it, my eyes supported the contacts much better in the evening. Without supplements I could feel the difference.
I wish I could say as much about D3. I keep hearing how it's good for winter etc, but even though I am healing TRAUMA and have suffered anxiety for 20+ years before starting therapy.. i never noticed any obvious changes in mood when supplementing with D3 (which was averaging 3000-ish IU per day). I wish! (edit: and, I spend a ton of time indoors, and working on a PC.. so if they did anything I should have noticed?)
I didn't watch the video yet but pt 2 and 3 is 100% correct.
I am in EU. We're supposed to have "amazing healthcare". Yeah, well, maybe if your face is in a ditch or you're dying alcohol poisoning? If you're one of those who managed somehow to function with insane levels of anxiety... you when you finally find the strength to reach out and heal.. you find out that you get a pityful 200 EUR a YEAR for psychotherapy (that's what my healthcare in Belgium pays).
Anyone healing significant trauma is going to do one year of therapy, probably more. At the very minimum twice a month, otherwise you lose the rhythm. Realistically, 5 times a month tapering down to 3-4 times a month, for a year or two or more. It's exhausting too. To heal and make real progress, you go to therapy like a beaten dog, keeping your heart open all the time, accepting to feel vulnerable all the time. You don't get to hold a mask, you have to undress and put it all out, every session... takes a lot of determination and courage. But who gives a shit. Here's 200 EUR for your troubles, good luck.
On top of that, in my case I have a 7 year gap in my career in IT. Doesn't help getting back into employment! Often times with trauma from early life, you don't grow in an environment surrounded by sane people. You're surrounded by dissociated parents / siblings. At school nobody gives a fuck or has the sensibility to ask questions. So in all likelyhood if you managed to function in adult life and hold a decent job, you're starting therapy much later, when it takes longer. So hopefully you got some savings otherwise well eat shit son.
I guess I have to be truly grateful that here in Belgium our "unemployment benefit" system is lax enough, that it allowed me to take the time to heal. But don't you go tell them that! I can only imagine what it was like for my parents, when they didn't have that kind of support.. because even with the unemployment benefits, I've had to fork out THOUSANDS of euros for my therapy.
Anyways just need to rant I guess.
It's funny because it's like science is catching up to Buddhism's "karma" concept, as well as their philosophy on interdependence. Essentially, emphasizing the illusion of "independence" and how we are actually much more connected than we think we are. Or in plain englush the "myth of the self made" people.
The genetic perspective is very limited however. Take soldiers in WWII. They didn't just pass their stress to their offspring. They raised their children differently than other men/women would.
That those studies that were done on children of holocaust survivor. How did holocaust survivors raise their own childreN? How did they related to them emotionally? And so on. I think it's quite easy to guess here that those traumatic experiences must have significantly affected their ability to be fully present as a father or mother. And typically this is the big black box. Nobody speaks about that. And how do you measure that, when the affected parents typically are unable to acknowledge that themselves?
The main view is a canvas. Regardless, my hunch is event delegation would be more performant.
Also Iain Mc Gilchrist's "The Divided Brain and the Making of the Western World".
https://twitter.com/divided_brain
Initially I thought the article would be about that: how our brain shaped our thinking, and then our literature, culture. I think it's a lot more interesting to ask how our brains shaped our thinking, and then everything we created from literature to culture, to society..
From history books and movies we have this idea that humans were much like us.. but I begin to think in fact, it's almost as if humanity was an entirely different species, almost alien to the way we see ourselves today. I think in many ways they must have been much more reactive and automatic in their behaviour, and if you could travel back in time you would feel like you are amongst complete lunatics and it would be very frightening.
The simulation hypothesis is pretty much a materialist's way of postponing the "hard problem of consciousness".
It's like Neo when he escaped the Matrix only to find himself in the subterranean world. What if THAT world was also a simulation? In fact it's hilarious because in the movie he would have far more ground to believe that he still wasn't free, seeing as he just escaped a simulation. Of course it's a movie...
I really think that the simulation hypothesis is a positive development. It shows that people are at least considering the question. It's like dipping toes in the cold water. You can see there is the willingness to go there, but they have their feet still firmly planted in the materialist view. It's an attempt at bridging the gap... but like they say in some teachings... to reach the other side of the river, you have to leave this one first =)
So you have guys like Bernardo Kastrup talking about idealism, or variations on it.
There is an enormous difference between entertaining the idea, and actually grasping what it means.
To truly grasp it, your world crumbles down. Everything you've built your life on, you have to see has never existed. Ultimately it's all from the same source. It's all for show. edit: didn't mean to be dramatic, but you would lose a lot of motivation in life, at least in the current paradigm. Or you have to live counter-current. Now you see your life as sacred and completely unknowable, but your values no longer fit in a society driven by separation and profit. A very uncomfortable position to be in?
In fact now that I think about it it's funny, because that's exactly the same with this "simulation" theory. You can see there has to be a disconnect here. There is the idea, and there is what it actually means. In theory it should in fact be extremely freeing to truly grasp that we are "simulated" since that would mean you no longer need to worry about dying, or striving for anything at all. Because by the mere fact of being simulated, somehow someone deemed it worthwhiole to spend the energy to do so. Your entire life purpose and meaning is self evident.
Yet we don't feel free, we still strive to "become" someone.. to "achieve" something... so that tells us two things: 1) we are merely entertaining ideas and 2) we are biologically wired to believe to we do exist, and that we are not simulated (much has to do with the left brain hemisphere, I am guessing).
Sounds great, but why bother with the added work supporting IE11 if Vue 2.x can be used with IE11? Especially that time continues to fly until 3.x is released, and IE11 is replaced with EDGE already.
edit: I am guessing this has to do with having one codebase for projects that move to vue 3 and still need support for IE1.. makes sense. Hmm.
As usual maybe it is wiser to take the good parts from different approaches, rather than going "all in" with one ideology / methodology.
For my sites I find it useful to have a small collection of very generic classes. One common case that was annoying is how the spacing keeps changing as you move text and components around a page, and you end up fiddling with the rules all the time to adjust for how the top/bottom margins merge. No matter how "logical" it is, from a graphic design pt of view, the spacing is right when it looks right.
So I have a few very generic classes like this:
.mb-0 { margin-bottom:0; }
.mb-1 { margin-bottom:1em; }
.mb-2 { margin-bottom:2em; }
/* text */
.txt-lg { font-size:1.4em; }
.ta-r { text-align:right; }
.ws-nw { white-space:nowrap; }
Further thoughts:
With gitg, I click on any commit and I can quickly see the files changed by that commit, then I can click to dive and see the actual code changes.
In SM by default there is a full spread of the modified lines. That's not as helpful since I have to scroll vertically , potentially a lot in order to see what other files were edited. There does not appear to be a "collapse all" by default option.
Though even in this collapsed view it's not very informative. In gitg there is a really simple red & green bar visual to see at aglance how much changes there are in each files. Thus when you epxlore a git repo, or review what you worked on weeks before;. it's easier to get a sense of how much things go into each commit.
With that said, it's a very slick client that obviously does a lot more than Gitg/gitx... I used SM today to edit an old commit message, which was simple to do.
The merge is probably awesome but I'm not sure how it works.. what if I mess up a rebase from the commaand line, will it let me continue the operation through SM or did I have to start the rebase / misc through SM first? (I ask because typically you had to configure the merge tool in the git config so I'm not sure how SM would catch that)