Ask HN: I love a girl and i cant help it

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=8283377

by mobman • 12 years ago

5 11 12 years ago

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There is a girl sitting next to me. i am actually in love with her. i feel so helpless. what to do ...i wish for a lot of things. i know she has a boyfriend but i love her like anything.

YuriNiyazov2• 12 years ago

Read "The Game"

thrwawayaftruse• 12 years ago

Don't read "The Game". Also, you don't love her.

As someone who's batted above and below his league, trust me when I say that being yourself is the only way to lasting commitment/happiness.

On the other hand, if you want to get laid, play the game.

I've tried both paths. The key has always been to be seem genuine.

kjs3• 12 years ago

You don't really know what love is. Posting on HN isn't going to fix this.

mobman3• 12 years ago

i rather have a geek's image....who could better understand me than you all

anigbrowl• 12 years ago

Love is caring for someone else without requiring anything else in return. It's OK to signal your affection as long as you are willing to do without reciprocity - put your feelings on the table and let events proceed at their own pace.

mobman3• 12 years ago

i am so shy...its really difficult for me to even look into her eyes.....i sincerely like her...i m being so restless.

YuriNiyazov2• 12 years ago

Seriously. http://www.amazon.com/Game-Penetrating-Secret-Society-Artist...

mobman3• 12 years ago

amazing link...jst read the plot...seems its me.

CyberFonic• 12 years ago

You don't know what "love" is - you are infatuated with her, it's your hormones calling upon you to man up!

How come she is sitting next to you? Is this work? class? If she has a choice and chooses to sit next to you, then maybe she fancies you too. Just talk to her about something in common, anything - break the ice. Take it from there. Don't try to rush first base, if it's meant to be you'll waltz together.

lazylizard• 12 years ago

whats the difference between infatuation and love? is it timeline? do you ask yourself what will you be doing with this person when you're both 75yo? do you want to make a family(of whatever kind;maybe with kids?) with this person? would you still 'love' this person if it looked like the person 2 seats away to the right? and a minor thing..do you have the budget and time to go through the 'dating' thing?

goodwill_hunter• 12 years ago

You are going good as of now. Try that Ice cream plate technique once again.

Ask HN: I love a girl and i cant help it

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