I need help moving forward

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by rolledover • 13 years ago

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I've wasted enough time trying to figure out things on my own. I'm willing to pay for a coach or try to find some help to get me out of being stuck.

I am completely changing careers from a non-CS based engineering job into creating or owning some sort of business or income. It is do or die for me, I won't go back to doing what I did before.

I do not know what I want to do, but I want to figure it out and get started so I stop wasting all this time.

Willing to do anything at this point. Someone please help me. I am 31, no debt or commitments, I have saved up a lot of money, and I currently make enough to live on just from my investments, but I want to continue to grow money instead of just coasting.

I dream to be very wealthy, and I think some of that is preventing me from getting started on anything without being completely overwhelmed.

beat• 13 years ago

Your goals are a mess. You know what you don't want to do (whatever it is you're doing), and you want to be "very wealthy".

That's probably not what you really want.

Wealth, by itself, doesn't mean much. Wealth can buy other, meaningful things, and it can serve as proof of accomplishment, but it's not an end in itself - only a means to an end.

Why do you dream of being very wealthy? Have you ever been very poor? Have you felt trapped?

Why do you want to leave engineering? What don't you like about it? Is it the work that makes you unhappy?

As Mr Morden asked in Babylon 5, "What do you want?" Figure out what you really want. You have some money. Quit working on anything for a while. Go sit on a beach and stare at the sunset for a few months. Walk to Peru. Read War and Peace. Get your mind in order, and figure out what you want, rather than just what you don't want, and means-to-undefined end fantasies.

rolledover• 13 years ago

This is the type of advice I have encountered so far, and it isn't helpful to me, no offense. I have been doing these things for the past 13 months, and I don't know what I want to do. My parents told me they are taking me out of their will, and all I get is threatening messages from them when I talk to them. They want me to go back to what I was doing before and be miserable. I left because I felt I wasn't good at it, the work bored me to fucking death, and I didn't admire anyone I worked with. I looked at the CEO, president, and VP's, and I was terrified of ever ending up as that type of person. I would be miserable.

I have dreams of being wealthy because I do. I want to have things, I want to have complete freedom and control of everything around me. I don't like flying on commercial airlines, I don't like having to live in places I don't want to live in, or locales that I don't want to live in.

I know that if I could start a business, I could make it successful. Hell, I've already managed to live a hell of a life, do things most people will never get to do, and still have over a million dollars in my accounts with no debt or obligations. But now I want more, a lot more. I made all this and did all this while working at my old job. I don't want to do work that I don't enjoy anymore. I don't HAVE to. I want to find something amazing that will make money and be fun. I'm just not sure how. I've been searching, and maybe I'm doing it wrong. I know there is someone out there who can give me a little guidance while I get my feet under me. I am trying to find him/her.

lsiebert• 13 years ago

You need to go meet people and interact with them. Find a meetup and go. Take a class. Something like that.

You have a big goal, but not a road map. You need to build knowledge in your problem Domain.

ada1981• 13 years ago

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I need help moving forward

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