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by GengYang • 14 years ago

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Is it a good idea to consider separating from one's parents if there is no more love in the relationship ?

farmerliao• 14 years ago

No. People change. Find some way to give yourself some distance. But don't do anything that would lead to a permanent, unrepairable break. No promises that things will get better, but at least leave yourself some options over the very long-term. I don't know your particulars, and it sounds like things are bad, but people change. In particular, I found my relationship with my father changed dramatically when I had kids of my own. I'm sure your situation is very different, but you never know how things will play out ten or twenty years from now.

GengYang2• 14 years ago

Hi FarmerLiao,

Dropped out of college 3 times due to family reasons and disagreements - just find it hard to talk to them or look at them in the face. Also worried for my future because i have no degree and no particularly strong skill set / car / not a lot of money. Am thinking of looking for a telesales job in a startup while picking up programming to work with a friend on a project. But not sure how promising the startup industry is where I am from (Singapore)

GengYang2• 14 years ago

thinking of terminating the relationship, so i'll lose my inheritance and be forced to work, otherwise feel very lazy

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